I cry almost everyday because of my mom.

[Guest]

This morning I was kicked out by my mother with my boyfriend can they call me as a runaway

[ccsmod11]

Hi there,
Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes great courage to reach out for help and we are glad that you decided to reach out to us.

It sounds like you are in a really hard situation. It is not ok for your parents to kick you out and this can be considered neglect. Your parents are responsible for you till you turn 18. You can call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 and they can help you file a report. If your safety is at risk you can call 911. We are not legal experts however generally speaking if your parents are to file a police report the police can bring you back home and whoever you are to staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway. While you did not runaway it can be hard to prove that your parents actually kicked you out. Talking to lawyer can be helpful. You can contact www.lawhelp.org for legal aid resources. If you are 16 or older there may be a chance you could get emancipated. If you call us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) we can help look up more information about emancipation for you, listen to you, explore your options and provide any resources.

You are doing great by reaching out for help. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.

Best,
NRS

[Guest]

I am a 13 year old girl. I’ve helped my mom with everything, i’ve helped her with my baby brother and i try to get good grades just for her. If i do something wrong she calls me a sort of names and it hurts me. I think i suffer from anxiety but i am not really sure. She gets mad at me for not getting out of bed and i try but i can’t its the anxiety. There’s not a day that she doesn’t argue with me and makes me cry. When i try to be good there’s always something that ruins it she either in a bad mood or brings up something like saying i’m a mess or making fun of me and saying she’s “just telling me for my good” but it doesn’t help. Whenever i do something she fixes it the wrong way screaming at me or hitting me. This is an everyday thing. Sometimes i feel like a disappointment and i’m trying to change. Please help me asap

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing what’s going on.

It sounds like you are going through a very hard time.It sounds like your being hurt emotionally and physically and that is not ok. You shouldn't be treated like that. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If it might be an option for you, you can call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 and they can help you file an abuse report. You can also reach out to NAMI at 1-800-950-NAMI or text NAMI to 741741 for counseling resources. You are not alone and we are here to support you through this difficult time. You can also call us at our confidential 24x7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); or live chat with us at www.1800runaway.org.


You are acting strong by reaching out for help. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.

Best
NRS

[Guest]

I normally cry because of my dad
he always shouts at me cus I'm not doing something right and my mum doesn't even realise how upset my dad makes me..

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I have a similar problem. So i was watching a youtube video on my laptop right, and i went downstairs to watch it because it was hot up in my room. My mom was sitting next to me. And she said what i was doing around 5 minutes when i started the video. I said im watching a youtube video and then she yells at me saying all you do is do that, you do it 24/7. She says my laptop is ONLY for online homework or projects. Its a macbook air so WHY buy such an expensive laptop if its barely going to be used? Then she said i can’t use my phone because of “talking back”. After that I got so mad i just got my charger, earbuds, phone and a bottle of water and went in my room, and used my phone and am writing this. Why. Just why.

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

Hi
i am 20 years old and still live with my parents because I’m going to a university 15 minutes away. I’ve been dealing with their behavior for years; the beating and emotional abuse. Now it’s just emotional abuse that they frequently do. I’ve been diagnosed with depression, went to therapy, got on meds etc but they still don’t understand depression. The worst thing is I’m a lesbian and brown girl from a Muslim household in California. Most of my anger and sadness comes from this for several reasons. My family will never accept me and they think I’m a failure already. Worst of all I have to lie all the time and can barely leave my house. I have to lie because I’m only allowed to go to school and then come home straight after. So I can barely see my girlfriend who is my only support system. I’m also forbidden to work right now because they want me to focus on school. Every time my parents speak to me I sob for hours and I get so angry. I feel helpless and I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t take it anymore. I don’t want to be here anymore.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

You’re very brave to reach out to us. We are sorry to hear your family is unaccepting of you and does not understand what you are going through. You don’t deserve the emotional abuse whatsoever. It really does hurt, though. You have a right to feel heard for all this hurt you are going through.

It sounds like you might be interested in leaving home. Because you are an adult, you have that right. But that still might seem like a daunting task. Fortunately, you do have options. Perhaps there are housing options at your university, for instance. Additionally, your school may have a counseling office that might be able to help.

Another great resource is the LGBT National Hotline. The number is 1-888-843-4564 and the website is www.glbhotline.org. Of course, we are always here for you as well at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are confidential and are here 24/7. We can talk about what you’re going through as well as look for resources that might help, like housing assistance, counseling outside of school, and even stuff like legal aid. Even if you just want to talk, we’re here to listen, here to help. We also have a chat option on the main page of our website.

You’re not alone. So many people have been in a similar position as you. It’s sad that family sometimes completely misunderstands us. But who knows if things might even change with them, one day. It’s great you have a supportive girlfriend. It’s okay to feel sad in the situation you are in. But things can really get better. It just is a matter of time and reaching out for help.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

same thing for me just younger and my mom hurts me so much the only way i can seep is by me crying mysef to sleep

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

im in my moms phone hiding making this writting my mom screams at because i did not clean takes away everything away that i have fun with she is not fair with me my sister gets money for free i have to clean the hole house for a hole all week i cry every day and when i cry my mom doesn't let me cry she yells at me of my grade she says i bad grades but i actually have the best grades also my step dad did this i was watching a video with my sister in the tv she kicked me she started yelling my step slaps and makes fall down i am 11 years old some times i think of killing my self but i don't do it because i now you go to hell if you do that and i want to have my own supercar company when i grow up

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline and sharing some of your story with us. It sounds like you are having a really difficult time right now. One option you could consider is talking to your mother about how you feel in a calm way. We know that can be scary, at NRS we offer conference calling where if you call us we can call out to your mom and have a conference call. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there to mediate the conversation and provide support.
You mentioned crying all the time, sometimes figuring out the reason can help. One option to consider is to talk to your school counselor or a therapist about how you are feeling. They may be able to explore options and help you feel better. You mentioned your dad slapped you and made you fall down. If you feel you are being abused you can make a report by calling Child Help at: 1800-422-4453.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

My mom doesn’t understand that I’m going through really tough times. My grades are not the best, I have divirced parents, and I could go on and on. It really upsets me because I try so hard for her to make her happy and it is never good enough for her. I cry every day because I want to be good but I can only try so hard for what she wants me to be. She takes my phone over the slightest of things and not having it gives me bad anxiety. She cries all the time from my dad and I always comfort her, though when I’m crying over her telling me that sh hates me, she doesn’t do anything about it. I wish I could tell her how much it hurts me and how much she is hurting me. I just got yelled at for not putting a garbage beg in the can. I asked my step dad to do it for me because I was busy and she was in the room as I asked him. He said yes and he never did it. She’s yelling at me for it when she knows I asked someone else. I really wish I can privately talk to her about this but I’ve tried, she a.ways yells at me when I bring stuff like this up, so I don’t know what to do anymore. Even if no one has a solution for me, I’m still a little better to even be able to say all of this without being yelled at. But I guess if you do have something to tell me for this, respond as soon as possible. Thanks.

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Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are going through a lot and it’s really brave of you to be able to express how you feel so openly. It must be tough to be such a good support for your mom and not get that same support back from her when you need it. Since you aren’t getting that support at home you can try and talk to a therapist, friends or other family members about what you are experiencing. If you are not ready to talk to your mom about how you feel yet, talking to other people who won’t judge you can help. You can also text NAMI at 741741 if you ever want to talk over some of those issues with someone.
It seems like you really want to be able to talk to your mom about how she is making you feel. Some ways that you could possibly do that is through therapy, a conference call with us or maybe having a family member who you both respect come in and help you guys have the conversation. If you wanted to do a conference call with us, you would just have to call us at 1800-RUNAWAY and then we would call your mom and try and give you support while you try and explain to your mom your concerns. Therapy could be a good long-term option so that you guys could learn some tools on how to communicate effectively to each other. It’s hard to start these conversations but you reaching out to us now is a start. If you have any other questions or concerns you can always contact us at www.1800runway.org via email, chat or call. We are 24/7 and confidential. Best of luck!

[Guest]

I’m honestly just done. First off, already there’s that Asians get good grades and score sky high. Well I don’t. I get a B in math and another in Science. What happens when the school grades app flashes on my mom’s phone? The hand comes out and several huge red marks appear on my face and my back. I don’t know why my mom wants me to get straight A’s. If it’s not an A she doesn’t take it at all. A single B appears and she’s already blown her ********ing head off and she’s out to kill me. One late assignment? Blame the phone. One mediocre grade? Blame the games. One question wrong on a test? Here comes the belt. It’s not like I don’t try in school either. I try my hardest and I put out work that is to the best of my own abilities. But she doesn’t recognize that. She just says I didn’t try and spanks me and shames me for “not trying”. Wish she would think that if I actually didn’t try then I would’ve ditched school and hit her back. I’m even stronger than her but she can’t accept the fact that someone has some strength over her so she just destroys me with words and crushes my self-esteem. (I’m SLIGHTLY (5 pounds) overweight) and she calls me a fat and lazy guy that will never ever find a significant other and never succeed unless I get good grades. It’s not ********ing Asia and I don’t want to go to a fancy ass school up north. I don’t. Obviously my dreams don’t matter I guess so I’m a puppet to her. Suicidal thoughts are more common than smiles in my life and I’m just done with having my friends feel bad for me. They shouldn’t have to change their mood because of me and my MOM.

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to NRS. Sharing your story takes a lot of courage and strength. From what you mentioned, your mom has been putting a lot of unnecessary pressure and stress on you to get high grades in school. You deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel safe and supported. The way she hits you and talks down to you is not okay.

It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is always available if you need someone to talk to about how you have been feeling. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Reaching out to a school counselor or another adult that you trust could also be a good outlet for you as well. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

One option that you do have is to report the issues at home. A child abuse report can get a caseworker involved. After making a report, a caseworker will likely come to your home to talk to you and your parents to decide if it is safe for you there. This can be a scary decision to make and you do not need to make it alone. If you want to know more about the reporting process or you would like to start the report, you can call the national child abuse hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or go to https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/. Additionally we are here by phone and chat 24/7 to listen and help.

We are here to listen if you feel like you need someone to talk to about all of this. You do not have to go through this alone, and we care about your safety and well-being.
Do not hesitate to reach out if you want to talk more about what is going (800-786-2929 ; 1800runaway.org).

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

My family has a toxic abuse cycle

my parents had arranged marriage. They fight a lot and my mom ends up crying by herself. I want to help but my mom is harsh towards me as well. She loves me than yells hurtful toxic words at me, that’s why in this continues cycle. My parents are also very strict. I want to love my family but at the same time they don’t feel right. I also have anitety issues within my family. I am comfortable near a starnager than I am to my own family. I really don’t know what to do. Please help me

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like you have been going through a lot at home and you have been dealing with a very difficult situation. It is really insightful and mature of you to recognize that the situation at home is toxic. Home is supposed to be somewhere safe and you deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel supported and cared for. The way you feel is completely valid. It can be hard to want to love your family when you are under so much stress at home.

Having a safe space to talk about how you have been feeling at home can help you think more clearly about what you would like to do and brainstorm options you did not previously think of. Talking to someone at school you trust like a counselor or teacher can help you find the support that you need.

We are not quite sure what the situation at home is, but if you feel like it is abusive you can contact the National Child Abuse Hotline at 800-422-4453 or go to www.childhelphotline.org.

We are here 24/7 to listen and help. You do not have to go through this alone and we are here to support you. Do not hesitate to reach out anytime (800-786-2929 ; 1800runaway.org) if you want to talk more in detail about your situation and explore your options.

We hope to hear from you soon,
NRS

[Guest]

My mom always puts me down and makes me cry so much. She always insults me and makes me feel bad. My mom makes me feel sucidal.

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. We are sorry you are going through such a difficult time with your mom right now.
We want you to know that your life is valuable and there is always someone willing to listen and provide support. You can always call The National Suicide Prevention Line at: 1800-273-8255. Also you could consider talking with your school counselor about what has been going on.
We wish you the best of luck. We are always here to provide you support and to listen. We want you to know that you are not alone in this and please stay strong!
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 12 and nearly every day I cry. Here in Brazil, it's very common for parents, especially moms to beat their kids to educate them so usually abuse cases don't get many repercussions. My mom doesn't beat me but she makes me feel terrible. A few days ago she yelled at me for 15 minutes straight cause I broke a cup and she said that lazy women are disgusting and that if I didn't changed my ways she'd disown me. Once she threatened to send me to my dad's house that's in another state and said all I do is dumb things. Every time there's exams at school I get so so nervous because I know if I get more than one B she'll break my neck. Another time I planned on running away because I was really afraid of showing her my grades because I thought I got like 3 Bs. She's always very stressed and always ends up lashing out on me. She wants me to be a doctor but I'm not sure that's what I want to be anymore. We live in my grandma's house (shes great, but doesn't stop my mom but she makes me feel better) and my mom once got angry and lashed out on me and said that we would be moving to another town. If this happens I don't know what I'd do because all the reasons I have to keep going are here and if I moved to another town I'd be all alone with my mom (noone would see if she tried to murder me or beat me up really bad) with no friends and I'm really introverted. I think she was only overreacting but if it happens I don't know what I'll do. Another problem is that I'm probably bi and that freaks me out so badly because the whole family is either really hardcore christian or just ignorant. There's my cousin but he still lives with his mom so there's nowhere to run. Just now she yelled at me because i wanted to wear clothing she didn't like and said nothing is ever good to me. I try really hard at school but im losing interest. Anyway I'm sorry this was long I just needed to put it all out

[ccsmod15]

Hello! Thank you for contacting the national runaway Safeline, we appreciate you reaching out for help.
To begin with, you stated that your mom is not psychically abusive, but that she is always making you feel terrible for the words she says to you. At a point in time, she said she would send you away to another state, or that you guys would possibly move out of your grandma’s house. We want you to know that you’re really brave for having to bear all the verbal abuse your mom is inflicting upon you, but no one should have to go through it. An option to consider would be to reach out to your school counselor, and advise them of the verbal altercations occurring in your home. You guys may work together on figuring out a plan to talk to your mom, and may also include your grandmother for moral support. In the same way, you expressed that you have a lot of reasons to keep going, and they were motivating you to keep trying your best in school until you lost interest. If you feel that your safety is ever threatened, you may text the word safe and your location to 44357. The national safe place would text you a safe location to go, and provide you with additional resources from there afterwards.
Lastly, you also mentioned that you think that you might be bi-sexual, but are afraid to mention it to anyone for the fear of being judged. You’re really brave for talking about your sexuality so openly, and encourage you to be true to yourself. You’re amazing! If you’re uncomfortable telling anyone else about this, you can contact the LGBT National Hotline at 1800) 246-7743. It’s a peer hotline where people talk to each other about their coming out process, or what is like to not have family or friend support. You may also reach out to the LGBT National hotline at 188 843-4564, they can provide you with additional resources if you feel that you can’t open up to another hotline, or anyone in your inner circle.
Again, you thank you for contacting the national runaway Safeline, we appreciate you reaching out for help. Feel free to chat with us anytime at 1800) 786-2929. Best of luck!

[Guest]

i feel like I'm worthless...

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about how you feel, we know that it takes a lot of courage. You have a lot of worth and it must be really hard to feel opposite.
If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Why do I cry every time my mom tries to talk to me?
she can just say that I need to be out of my room more and I would have the urge to cry
then she gets annoyed since she didn’t do anything to me

[ccsmod6]

Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that you are having issues with your emotions and your mom. It sounds like you’re going through a lot and we want you to know that we are here to listen. It might be a good idea to think about seeing a counselor or a therapist. They can oftentimes help people figure out what exactly and why exactly they are struggling with their feelings. If you want to talk more about what that would look like or how to go about finding one, we would be happy to help. If you want to talk more about your situation and what other options there might be, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

Take care,
NRS