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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    We are really sorry to hear you are having trouble at home with your mom. It sounds like you feel you are not being taken seriously by her. You deserve to be heard and have your thoughts and feelings respected. If you feel like your mom's behavior might be considered abuse, you can file a report with your state's local child abuse reporting hotline, or through Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You can also file through us if you give us a call. But that's up to you to decide.

    Maybe one thing you might consider is writing a letter to your mom explaining how you feel and what you would like to see changed between the two of you. Or you might try to talk to your mom when she seems to be in a good mood or when she seems less stressed. You could also talk to a school counselor or another adult you trust about what's going on to get some support or more ideas.

    We would like to help further if we can. The best way for us to do that is if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24/7 and are totally confidential. If you'd like, we can even mediate a conversation between you and your mom to see how the relationship can be improved. Again, you would just need to call us. You can also chat with us online via the portal at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    Good luck! We hope to hear from you soon!

    NRS
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    Hey, I hope you’re doing better now that it’s 2020. My mom can make me cry by slapping me or saying I’m stupid.Then she completely “forgets” about everything and then I cry myself to sleep. Then I just forgive her after she buys me a toy or candy. When I bring it up, she just says I’m sensitive. Like Today she wanted me to change my password back on my laptop. I changed it and didn’t tell her (she never uses it) and when I told her my new one she got mad and I told her I didn’t want to change it. She then snapped back by saying she ruled me because she was my mother. I cried while she was doing my hair then she pretended like she didn’t see anything and tried to make “jokes” to “cheer” me up. When I brang it up in Walmart she said “sorry”. But I knew it wasn’t genuine, it was a “ fake stop fcking crying and looking sad” sorry. But yeah,,I have to go. Race: Black

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello,

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
    Take care,
    NRS

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    Whatever you said is so relatable. I am an Indian girl and I am in my bedroom with the door locked so that my mother won’t yell at me and keep pressurising me about my studies. I am in grade 9, and I have a major drop in my percentage this time. I know I need to work harder, but all my mother does is just saying one day that it’s alright, work harder next time. It makes me feel loved and relieved that my mother isn’t pressurising me. But later she forgets all that and she says that I never study at all and I think of myself as a genius. I can’t help but yell at my mom again because I am working hard to improve my grades and just for once when I decide to take a small break she sees me with my phone or doing something else instead of studying and then she keeps yelling at me all the time
    My mother yells at me for every single thing, even talking to my friends on the phone. When I say politely and be straightforward and tell her that she is being unreasonable or that she needs to calm down and not yell at me, she yells at me even more and hits me with the stick and says “I am your mother. I am elder to you. It’s not your job to say what is wrong and what is right. You are wrong. And I am right “ Then I say that just because she is elder to me doesn’t mean she is always right, but she never accepts it or say sorry for any mistake she has ever made.

    I forgive her later and don’t say anything but she keeps saying that I never work hard and all I do is just time pass and I don’t study. She makes me cry almost everyday and hits me very hard. I seriously don’t know what to do because she never understands me

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. Sadness can be a really tough emotion to manage or cope with on your own so we’re really glad that you reached out. Talking about what’s going on can be the first step towards figuring out a way to make things better, and we are happy to listen to whatever your situation is. If you’re interested in seeing what options might be available to you or if you just want someone to talk to about your life, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

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    im really sad

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at NRS. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you with figuring out your next steps in this difficult situation. Asking for help was really responsible and smart of you. We are sorry to hear things are so unstable at home. You deserve to live somewhere that makes you feel safe and supported.

    If your dad is your legal guardian then he does have the right to report you as a runaway in the event you leave without permission. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that if your dad knows where you are staying then he can possibly have you returned home by the police. Runaway laws and protocol can vary by state, county, and even police department. Some areas do not pursue runaway reports for someone so close to 18. If this is the case then you can leave home without police intervention. You can call the local police department's non-emergency number to ask about their protocol anonymously. It can be helpful to frame questions from a parent's perspective to get more straightforward information, ie. "Can I report my 17 year old child as a runaway?" and "Will a police officer bring them back home?"

    We truly want to be a support for you as you navigate this challenging time and as you take your next steps. If you would like to explore your options more in-depth, you can reach out again anytime by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible.

    Good luck and stay safe,
    NRS

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    Hi, I'm 17 and I live with my father. I haven't known him all my life and moved in with him and his wife during my freshman year. I'm a Jr now and I've had enough of him and his wife and a need to get away, if I run away can he legally force me to come back if its a stable environment?

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. What you have been experiencing sounds very sad and very, very unfair. You do not deserve to be treated this way by your parents. It’s not your fault that they behave this way. It sounds emotionally abusive. Your feelings are important and they matter.
    You are deserving as anyone that wants to be happy.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I am a twelve year old Asian girl i am turning 13 in July.

    This happens to me too, except i'm also not allowed to talk to boys hangout with them even if they're gay. My broth er is two years younger and gets all the attention. My parents both love him way more and if he does something bad they nicly talk to him. My mom always exaggerates to my dad if i do something wrong. My mom tells to my face "What sin have I cause to have you for a child?" and "I hate you." My dad just straight up swears to me saying im a stupid dumb idiotic b*tch
    with no future. They every often threaten to put me up for adoption and leave me outside in winter in the snow without a jacket or anyway to get in the house for hours on end. My mom tells all her friends my dads friends family, family friends what a bad person i am. Then she exaggerates how amazing my brother is. I keep tract of how many times I cry and I cry approximately 25 times a day. My mom doesn't let me do anything. She won't let me leave he house EVER, doesn't let me do anything to my body; dye my hair, dress how i want, wear even mascara... CLEAR MASCARA. It took me years to convince my mom to let me pierce my earlobes and I recently JUST got Instagram just to follow my friends. I have also thought of self harm but i'm too scared. I have become depressed too. I have no friend either. I have 6 cousins one is older than me by a couple months (Lets call her Lisa) and she is a perfectionist. She always sticks with her sister (who I will call Tiffany) She is a little less bossy than "Tiffany" But everyone loves her. They live in a mansion and are really entitled. My aunts and uncles adore her because she is the oldest. Let's talk about "Tiffany" now. she is a couple months younger than me and is EXTREMELY entitled she is 11 but acts and dresses 15. She always has the newest Iphones, Ipads, Macbook airs, airpods etc. My youngest cousin ( lets call him Baden) Is also in the spotlight all the time. He is 5 and has a sister (lets call her Quincy) all of my aunts, uncles, grandparents, mom, and dad ADORE him too. "Quincy" Is the second youngest and is loved by my family. My brother (lets call him Presto) Is really annoying and funny at the same time. He is 2 years younger than me and is "The Popular Kid" in school. He never stands up for me even though i always have and always will stand up for him. Im just a shadow of Lisa and tiffany and then Braden, Quicy nad Presto always steal the spotlight. ALL of my family hates me and if they had the chance they would leave me on the streets to die. I did but they just stopped inviting me to things because they know I would be forced to say no by my mom. They said when I get old enough to move out of the house, they never want to see me again. Please help me. I'm actually crying right now.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
    We understand how difficult it must have been to talk about what you have been feeling.
    You are very brave for doing so. Good for you.
    NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.
    You are not to blame for your parent’s or anyone’s behavior. You don’t deserve to be treated so poorly. What you described about being hit, slapped and verbally abused sounds like abuse. We are concerned for your safety. There are laws in place to protect minors against abuse. If you should feel at risk or in danger seek emergency assistance.
    You can report child abuse to Child Help 1-800-422-4453 this is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.


    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


    Take care,
    NRS

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    I’m a 15 almost 16 year old girl. The oldest of 6 kids. I’m homeschooled so I’m with my family all day pretty much. And I can obviously tell I’m the least favorite of the family. My opinions never matter, what I want to do comes last. And I feel like life is completely unfair, especially in relation to my siblings. If I wait till I’m 12 to finally do something I’ve been asking for a long time, next thing I know my little brother is doing it at 9! When I bring up how I feel my mom yells at me for a LONG time. She’s the “parent” blah blah blah. I’m at the point where I can rarely have a normal conversation with my mom. She somehow always turns it into an argument, before calling me names, cursing at me, and telling me everything I fail at. Even if I mess up on something she takes revenge on me. One time I was planning to do an activity with a friend that meet once a week Wednesday nights for six weeks. We had been planning it for 2 months. She already agreed to drive me. Then the night before it started I forgot to fold some laundry and she told me she wasn’t going to drive me. She told me to tell my friend I wasn’t going to make it because I was a “disrespectful selfish b*tch.” I cried for hours after that. She slaps me sometimes, or kicks me outside in the middle of winter or in the rain. I once had a blister on my cheek where she hit me. She always expects the most out of me. She only ever uses my age against me. If I say I’m 15 now, can’t I do this? It’s always no. But if it’s you’re 15 you better get good grades. Then all of a sudden I’m old. She always expects the most out of me from school. One time I got a bad grade and she said I was a failure and that she didn’t care about my future. She always has patience with my siblings, but not with me. My siblings always get first pick on everything, I ALWAYS get the leftovers. Now for my dad sometimes if my room is messy he’ll call me a pig, or refer to me as a dog. If I haven’t brushed my hair or put on makeup he’ll say a look like a dirty hag. He’s also called me disgusting or repulsive. He has also hit me and strangled me. If I asked for something they always yell at me, it’s 99% chance it will be no anyway. They often send me to bed without dinner. I also had this crush on a boy which they mocked me for, and allowed my siblings to as well. They often tolerate my siblings being mean to me, but dare I do anything to them. Recently I’ve had more feelings of sadness and depression or even thoughts of self-harm. I don’t want to think these thoughts. I just feel useless numb, like an object or robot that’s just programmed to do what their told. I don’t know what I keep doing wrong in my parent’s eyes. I don’t understand. I cry almost every day. I know my situation might not be that bad compare to some people, but to me it is.

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  • ccsmod7
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    Thanks for reaching out to NRS, it sounds like you’re really going through a lot right now. No one deserves to be treated like that. Asking for help is a huge step, and we’re here for you. Additionally, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) is 24/7 – please, don’t hesitate to give them a call next time you feel like you may harm yourself.

    If you don’t feel safe at home, you definitely have reason to call CPS – it sounds like you may being going through a case of neglect. You mentioned that you have better conversations with your dad. A good idea might be to try talking to your dad about how you feel, and see if he will help you talk to your mom about it.

    You also mentioned that school can make you happy – that’s so good to hear! School can be a great time to take a “break” from home. A trusted adult at school (such as a school counselor, coach, or teacher) could be a great person to talk to about what is going on at home.

    Here at NRS we’re 24/7 and completely confidential. If you give us a call, we’d be more than happy to help you brainstorm any ideas that may work. We also offer a mediation conference call as part of our services – so you could call us, and we would be on the phone facilitating a conversation between you and your mom. This might be a good option if you need to have a difficult conversation with your mom and you’re not sure where to start. We can also help you find family counseling services in your area.

    Just know, that we care and we’re here to help. Best of luck!

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    I feel terrible. At home I’m never happy, and sometimes I feel like killing myself or calling child protective services but I would feel like a selfish brat. I never get to say what I want, even in normal conversations. School and online make me a little happy, but home is terrible. My mom hits me and demands that my room door is open, or I have to sit in the living room crouch so that she can see me. I have tried making myself faint, and cut a flap out of my window screen so I can escape. I’ve also cut myself 3 times before I stopped. I even told my mom I wanted to die but she laughed it off. My dad is nicer too me though. He listen and we can have a normal conversation about things we disagree about. He’s gone on Monday’s through Wensdays though. Everyone else is mean to me in a way. I feel trapped.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you're really struggling with how your mum is treating you. You aren't being overly sensitive, and your feelings do matter. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Regarding running away, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS
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