I cry almost everyday because of my mom.

[Guest]

Even i face this often . Many teenagers find this common. Remember she still loves you the most.

[ccsmod5]

Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.

Thank you,
NRS

[Guest]

-Please help me. . Ive had been trying to find help about 1-2 years and i could not . I have to hide my stuff and cry everyday. It really hurts me and i just wanna have nice parents, they yell me alot, when i get 89-95 in grades they yell. It really hurted me when they compare me to others, i cant be myself. I wish i could be myself.. They dont let me have my stuff, they have to pick everything. The thing is they dont support um.. Im really scared to say it but, i wish i could dress up as a boy it painful to hear that my parents dont support me. I mean when i was 4 i started to feel like that i was insecure i know i was young but they were mean to me ,so one day i just telled them i wanna be a boy. they started to hate me after that i got grounded and they just.. i cant do anything. Thats one of my problems. The other thing is that they just give me electronic expensive stuff for gifts, i told them already i dont need it, they just ignore me and keep doing it, and then they tell me im lazy because i just play games the thing is that i dont have nothing to do and they just keep saying it i just only draw and play games because i dont have nothing else, i told them yesterday i wanna sell my ipad to her because she wanted one but she ins't accepting . I wanted to sell it to her since i dont like games much and i wanna buy my own stuff. Like clothes etc. I dont have nothing. I have more problems but i dont have much time to explain . I dont want my mom to know im depressed/stressed my mom fights alot with me and i just keep quiet but i want help because i cut myself and, i cry everyday and is so painful. My mom thinks i watch innpropiate stuff because she doesn't trust me. I never did that..my family makes fun of me. Also and last i have suicidal thoughts. I wish i could explain more but thanks for reading ,,!

im spanish so my english is not the best im from puerto rico. Im 12 almost 13.

-mitsu
(not my real name but i like it.)

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Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

Stay Strong,
NRS

[Guest]

my mom always screams at me for not doing homework on the earliest days of school one day i tried asking her for something to finish one of the late ones then she started yelling at me and took away phone privalieges and i am an introvert and i use the phone because i dont wanna find friends offline what do i do do i stand up for myself or do something and this from my computer

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Hello There,

Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.

It is understandable to be upset about this situation, and we are sorry you are going through this. One option may be to figure out why you are unable to finish your homework on the days your mom would like you too. You could also let your mom know that her yelling at you is affecting you negatively. If you are struggling to complete assignments it may be a good idea to talk to a teacher or a school counselor about what is going on.

We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are available 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I’m not sure if my family loves me anymore.They only speak to me if they need something from me most days. Since my brothers where born my responsibility and chores rose while my grades dropped, it seems like they don’t love me like before. I hardly have any time to do my home work but when I tell them what wrong and why can’t I do so many chores they yell at me and say I am just being lazy. It feels like they treat me like kids at school do. I just want my parents back I am not jealous of my baby brothers I love them but why are my parents acting this way.I’ve gotten my grades steady now but it feels like if they could get rid of me they would but that would mean them losing my other siblings and they love them not me. They always blame me for everything even if I wasn’t even in the room or house when it happened or they didn’t tell me ,like “why didn’t you set alarm for your sister field trip”(they never even told me she had a field trip or the time) or “why didn’t you put the ice in the bottles”(even though I didn’t pack the bottle) They usually would hardly yell at me but now they always do, and they have so much pride they won’t even acknowledge when they do do something wrong to me but when they always apologized to my siblings when they do something wrong. And it hurts.
I don’t know what to do
when I say when they are wrong about what they say about me they yell that I am a selfish brat and a liars and “plain dumb” and that I never do anything; even though I do everything . They hardly ever hurt me physically but it has happened. When they expect me to do something without telling me they yell at me and say I should of known and did not need to be told. Why I am I supposed to know something that they never told me.
It also feels like they don’t let me live up to what I am cable of .I am in all honors, very athletic, and am good at art and know how to read music. If they gave me the chance I feel like I can be so much more than I am. At home they always make fun of me or what actives I do school, or that I hardly have any friends, they don’t even do this to anyone in the family but me. And sometimes it just makes me want to cry.
At school I hardly have any friends but I am very involved; I am a orientation leader, I help in the cafeteria and I am in yearbook and I plan to try for science olympiads but I am very shy and people call me mute and other meaner names that I won’t write. This might be because I am so quiet that everyone thinks they can just poke at me.

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Hi, we are glad you reached out to us for help. There are certainly a lot of stressful things going on for you right now with your parents and in the house. It sounds very discouraging and relentlessly overwhelming to only be spoken to about chores, and what they think you have done wrong AND not being recognized for your achievements at school.

You mentioned that there has been hardly been any physical abuse but it has happened. You deserve to be in an environment that is totally safe and with zero physical (or mental) abuse. It is not ok for you to be hurt physically by your parents ever for any reason. It is not ok that you are singled out and made fun of by your parents for your school interests and activities. It is really amazing you have maintained being very involved at school with the negative attitude from your parents and the added chores and sibling responsibilities.

There are some resources available to help you and some options for you to consider that might make your situation better. We would like to get more specific details from you so we can help you engage those resources and come up with a plan and some strategies for improving your home life. We are a non-directive agency, that means we will help you see and understand all your options and develop a plan that works and feels right for you. We can also help you along the way to make sure things are working out the way you want and need.

We would like to talk with you more and get you the help you need and deserve. You can reach out to us for a chat through our website or call us on our crisis hotline at (800) RUNAWAY. Both are available 24/7 and both are completely confidential.

We hope to hear from you soon and that you get some relief knowing that we are here for you anytime. Good luck.

[Guest]

Same. My mom always hate me except my little brother. When I couldn’t solve math problems, she punch me so hardly. I’m crying like whole days. My mom doesn’t make food for me. My mom never make food for me so, Im eating snacks from school. I know how you feel!! . If you really really really need someone. Help, why don’t you talk to your BFF? If you don’t have any friends that can trust you, tell to your dad or grandparents? It okay to cry everyday! I’m crying every every day!! If you feel sad, you can hug with your stuffed animals too! That work very good! Stuffed animals makes me happy

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

My mom starves me and my dads hits me. I just really wanna die I’m 12 to and live in Oregon

[ccsmod15]

Hi,

We are glad you reached out to us for help. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help. It is totally understandable that you feel helpless in your house being mistreated the way you describe. It makes sense that you feel like you want to die. There are options for you and support in your community to help you. It is totally wrong for your Mom to starve you and there is never an acceptable reason for your Dad to hit you. You deserve to be living in a safe and stable home. We may have resources available to help and to get you connected with those resources we need you to contact us so we can get some more details, help you develop a plan that is right for you and if appropriate conference call with you to those resources to get you the help you need. We are completely confidential and available 24/7 on a chat through our website or on a call to our crises hotline at 1 (800) RUNAWAY. We want to get you the help and support you deserve and we hope to hear from you soon.

Best of luck,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi i have divorced parents and my dad, he is my star, but my mother, once i stepped into her house, life was hell. I had so much suicide thoughts and to the point where if i gave her the wrong look i would get hit and yelled at. So soon i got used to it and when mom went yelling at me i would just think of all the funny things that has happened to me but i am only 11 and life is a living hell when im at my moms. She yells at me all night about grades and how shes so stressed. I cant even bring my phone to school or to her house. I once got injured and was bleeding but i coouldnt call my mom or dad because i didnt have my phone. And when i do have it im monitered. Im sending this on my school laptop can someone tell me how to calm down my mom it would help me out

[ccsmod2]

Hi there, thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It is awesome that you are asking for advice. You do not deserve to be hit, we are really sorry to hear what a hard time you are having right now. You are managing a lot.



Would you consider talking to your dad about what it is like for you at your mother’s house? He may be able to help you determine how to make it a little easier or how to help your mom calm down. Another option you could consider is filing an abuse report. I know that may sound scary, but that could help get you some protection from the abuse. Another idea is that you could reach out to another trusted adult, maybe someone at school or a friend of your parents? They may be able to help you navigate all the things that you are managing at home. Lastly, because the abuse is making you feel bad, you could consider counseling to give you a safe place to talk about what is going on in your life and how you are feeling.


If you would like any further assistance in exploring these options or looking for resources you can call us or chat in with us. You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or you can chat us here https://na0messaging.icarol.com/Cons...d=254&cc=en-US.

[Guest]

i cant fill out somthing like that though... im always monitered and there would be no way for me to get it filled out and make it out without a nice new scar to add to the others and my parents would just fight if i told my dad and then they would forget about it. AND my mom is great at making people beleive her and my brothers hate me and would lie and say i am not being abused if i ever get questioned <

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Hey,
We definitely understand that completing something like that or reaching out to do something like that could potentially have its obstacles! The way that the hotline is set up, anyone can make that call including us if that person has all the necessary information to make the report. Again, we can only imagine what it is like to be dealing with these problems in general but especially without support. If you find your family is not going to be helpful when you communicate tor believe you, there are others resources that we encourage you reach out to us in order to assist.

[Guest]

Hi there My name is Riley ***** ******** my mom really hates me and I'm scared of her she always covers me to clean and if I don't she will hit me with a spoon. She always drinks and hits me and my brother I ran away because of this what should I do

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Feel so bad for you! But I understand because I go through this every single day. My mom doesn't physically abuse me (sometimes if she's really mad), she just makes me cry with her words. When I ask her for help with my homework, she just comes and sits in my room. But doesn't do any help.

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Hi there,

We are proud of you for posting on our forum – that takes a lot of courage! You mentioned that your mom physically abuses you if she’s really mad and makes you cry with her words. Please know that you deserve to be treated kindly by your mom and it’s not okay for her to physically or verbally abuse you.

We care about your safety! If you are in immediate danger, an option is to call 911. Another resource that might help you is the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline. Their website is: https://childhelphotline.org/.

If you would like to talk about your specific situation with somebody from the National Runaway Safeline, we are here and ready to help 24 hours/day, 7 days/week. You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or instant message with us at www.1800runaway.org/. We care about you and want to do our best to help you!

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi,i have read all post and i would just like to say that stay strong no matter what I’m struggling more but only that person understands who have been through,i hate my mom but she’s all i had because she’s a single mother, it all started when i had my boyfriend being a muslim girl it’s strictly not allowed to have any kind of male friends nor boyfriends,when she found out about him and everything she hit me alot and it’s okay maybe yea it’s understandable in their mindset but leaving bruises that hurts me every day grabbing me from hair and hit me while I’m watching my hair falling i would cry myself to sleep ,and still i do she always slut shame me at small things for example,i recently developed a intense headache for least 3 weeks but since covid because i live in Hong Kong all hospitals are very very busy and i told my mom i want to go and she start screaming at me and she hit me with belt on my elbow at first I thought she broke my arm but it was swollen which left dark purple bruises I couldn’t sleep couldn’t eat couldn’t climb up my bed honestly I’m so tired of everything and want to die because all she say is ,i wish you were never alive i was finding a reason to go hospital so i can have a proper treatment away from house but no,i was cleaning my room and found a appointment letter and it is on coming friday,i talked to it at dinner because that’s the only time we can talk almost all time i sleep and cry because of how she treats me she would accuse me for smallest thing she will keep calling me slut for smallest things which made my self image more worst ,my confidence level drop to 0 ,every teenager have acnes she would keep calling me ugly until i tell her how i feel n shes like okay okay but ends up saying it again which make me feel even more ********, i really need a peace having headaches for almost 3 weeks is not okay i have never felt this way I’m so alone even if i tell my friends they all just say everything will be okay but i know nothing will be okay I’m so broken ,it hurts a lot she treats elder sister very differently she lives away from house because she’s in university and mom knows she can handle everything by herself but literally just going down for some mind refreshment she keeps calling and yelling that come back home,i hate her alot I’m helpless all i do is cry and cry

[ccsmod6]

Thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It certainly appears that you are living in a very toxic situation with your mother. So sorry that you are going through this as it is not how any child should be treated.

Unfortunately NRS is not able to accommodate at risk kids out of the United States at this time. As you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

Again, thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. Our hope is that you are able to find the assistance with the organization above. Good Luck!

Sincerely,

National Runaway Safeline

[Guest]

idk how to respond but to whoever wrote about how she doesn't think taht her problem is as serious as everyone elses and how shes crying in the bathtub same. idk y i cry this much at all it doesn't seem right like all she did was tell me to do the dishes or something idk but the tone of the voice has me crippled with tears idek. and then i'll go months without crying, and then a week straight i cry every single day. its so weird and scary idk but anyway basically i feel like i wrote your paragraphs

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Hi there,

We appreciate your communication with us by continuing to share parts of the situation with us. It sounds like you have plenty of built up emotions that may be releasing through tears. Please know that crying is a healthy coping mechanism and it seems to be catching your attention that something is not right and you are looking to find a solution. You are already taking great steps toward healing!

We are sorry to hear about the stress you are under and though we have our bulletin as an available resource, we will be able to help in much greater detail and more personally via phone or chat. You can contact us by dialing 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) on the phone, or you can reach us on our chat line through our website at www.1800runaway.org and click on the "chat" button to receive immediate assistance. Both lines operate 24/7, so you may contact us at any time of day.

Another available resource is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), if you feel this may be an appropriate point of contact, given your mental health symptoms. Their line also operates 24/7 and can be reached at 1-800-487-4889.

We look forward to hearing from you if you feel you would like to talk with someone more in depth about your situation, so we can direct you toward the resources you need. Please note that if you find yourself in any immediate danger, 911 is your best emergency contact.

Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

honestly i don’t know how to feel about my mum. i love her but she makes me cry almost every day now. she shouts at me for no reason, she makes me insecure if my body, she calls me names such as a swine, dumb, a pig etc. she sometimes shoves me or pulls my hair when she’s angry at me, or pulls my ear and sometimes slaps me. yesterday she had given me a lecture of how i need to wear makeup for school because of my acne, then after school when i put on makeup because she wouldn’t stop complaining about it, she shouted at me for wearing makeup “for no reason” and said it’ll make it even worse. i love her, i really do. we do have those good days where we spend time with each other but those are rare days now.

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Thanks so much for reaching out to us. The situation with your mom sounds extremely challenging and very hard on you. Her behavior towards you is erratic and abusive. No one should be treated that way, especially the horrible name calling and physical treatment. Of course we love our parents, but that never excuses them for this type of abuse.

Having support from an adult who is trustworthy may make sense. Here are a couple of suggestions: if you haven’t talked to your school counselor or school social worker about what you’re facing, this may be a good first step. Secondly, speaking to a therapist/counselor so you can address what you’re having to endure emotionally may also be important. It’s so hard to handle this alone. You can contact the NAMI helpline - which is a free, nationwide peer-support service providing information, resource referrals and support to people at nami.org or 1-800-950-6262 to see about finding a counselor to talk to as well. Finally, you can reach out to www.childhelp.org at 1-800-422-4453, a support service for guidance on abuse for youth.

Again, we’re sorry you face this with your mom and know that we are here 24/7 and you can call us at 1-800786-2929 or contact our site to chat at 1800runaway.org.

Good luck.

[Guest]

I face something similar. My teachers know I'm unsafe and have done nothing, which is frustrating.

[ccsmod16]

Hi,
Thank you for reaching out to us at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We are happy to help you and provide you with support during this time. It sounds like you’re in a difficult situation right now too. You are very brave for reaching out to us, and you are extremely strong for being able to survive under these circumstances.
We’re very sorry that your teachers aren’t recognizing how unsafe you are at home. We will always listen to you and believe you, and if you would like to have a conversation with us, we can work out together what options you may have.   Don’t hesitate to reach out to NRS through our website (www.1800runaway.org) or over the phone through our 24 hour hotline (1-800-RUNAWAY). Thank you again for reaching out to us. We are here 24/7 and have someone available to talk.

Best, NRS