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  • I cry almost everyday because of my mom.

    my mom has always put pressure on me about my grades. i am fifteen and the only child, so sure of course the pressures there. but not this much.
    i would say im a pretty good student, i mean not ALL As but they were fairly good. but my mom doesnt stop there. she screams at me whenever i get lower than 90, and whenever someone gets higher than me. she always ask about my friends' grades. she doesnt get the fact that there will always be someone better than me.
    but not only that, she constantly insult me, hence my self esteem. im pretty insecure because all these years my own mother has been telling me how ugly i am, how dumb i am and how imperfect i am. she constantly compares me to my friends and others too. She would snap at the smalles things, like me not putting the towel neatly. people might say "oh thats such a small thing to cry over" but they dont understand. it hurts so much to hear your own mother tell you that you are so useless that you cant even do a little thing right.
    but after i cry, she goes back to her normal self and pretends like nothing ever happened. she doesnt acknowledge my tears or anything. i hate it so much, that she pretend not to see anything. then she would come talk to me saying it was all for my own good. I hate the fact that i cant bring myself to hate her after countless times of her hurting me. thats one of my many flaws (i know quite a lot because she tends to point them out everyday), not being able to hate someone. after she talks to me, I just go weak and forgive her inside. and the next day, it all happens again. I never learn.
    there was one time that i bought a shirt with my own money and she hated it. she hates me making my own decisions. everything i eat, every single thing i buy, everywhere i go, i need to tell her. anyways when i came back home with that shirt, she immedietly went furious. the shirt didnt even cost that much. she told me to go change and grabbed a bamboo stick and started hitting me. this was when i was in seventh grade. i curled up into the corner and cried and begged her to stop while she kept hitting me. there were scars everywhere for the next five days. and then she tore up the shirt into pieces and threw it away. what hurt more than the stick was her words. i remember the exact words, "if i knew you were going to turn out like this, I would have never given birth to you."
    I dont think i can report for child abuse because i live in an asian country and hitting kids is normal. but i dont know what to do. trust me, ive had self harming thoughts in my head but i never did because i was too much of a coward. and moreover if my mom finds out she would hit me more because i cut myself. she would even blame me, if i were to get into an accident. taking to her wont work, she would say i was talking back and hit me again.
    i just need some advice, i really dont know what to do.

  • #2
    RE: I cry almost everyday because of my mom.

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/
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    • #3
      I have the exact same problem. I’m a Pakistani Muslim girl and the pressure is unreal. Crying is an everyday thing. Locking myself in the bathroom and crying is an everyday thing. I can't explain how much I relate to everything you said. Whenever my mom hurts me, I hate her for a few hours but then I go back to loving her because she acts like it never happened. My mom thinks that whenever I’m on my laptop or my phone I’m watching something inappropriate or bad. This leads to her not trusting me and hating me. I’ve had suicide thoughts go through my head and I’ve tried once. Plus there's the pressure of me being a Muslim. I live in a western country so everything is hard. Of course there are bullies, but my parents also force me to wear full cover clothes. My childhood is gone. They forced me to cover since I was 9. My mom gets mad at me for the tiniest things. She yells at me if my shirt is misplaced or if my room is a little messy. She hits me with a belt and stick. It’s terrible. But now that I know someone has the same problem as me, I can relax just a little. Stay strong love, we'll get through this~
      Last edited by ccsmod4; 07-28-2017, 07:30 AM.

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      • #4
        Reply: I have the exact same problem.

        Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth.
        It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.

        Take care,
        NRS
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        • #5
          I'm an Indian girl, and my life is a minefield right now too: one wrong step and you are dead. I get hit and screamed at for the littlest of things. I can't call child protection services or whatever, because they track everything I do on the landline (they don't trust me enough to get me a phone, and anything I do on my laptop can be tracked too. I'm on an incontigo tab right now.) I am verbally abused, but that doesn't count. I just got hit and screamed at for wanting to knit a hat myself for my grandparents. They made me do it 12 in the night, and started scolding me for not doing it perfectly. I never was good at art, only in music. I get okay grades, and just like you, I get screamed at for not getting perfect grades. I had one crush on this boy, and they hit me and wished I was never born. I do too, Mom.

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          • #6
            Hi there,

            Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear about all that you have been facing and want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and happy in your home. We understand that it takes a great deal of courage to seek help. You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your parents. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at (1-800-422-4453) or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made. You also mentioned physical abuse which would be reportable. Is there someone that can help you make that call to Child Help like a friend, other family member, or counselor at school? We understand that you can't make the call from home, but is there a way to get to a pay phone or is there someone you trust that you can turn to? You can always reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we could also help you make that call. Don't hesitate to reach out to us. We're here to listen, here to help.

            Stay safe,

            NRS

            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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            • #7
              i also have the same prombum my mom yells and cusses at me everyday sometimes she does not.i live in west virginia. im a 12 year old girl almost 13 on june 12th and i also have very high auitum but my mom does not care about my heath alot eather and me and my mom use to have a very close bond but now i fell like we are worst enimys.i almost ranaway yesterday but i did not have the courage to and i was think about cutting my wrist a little last week but again i did not have the courage becouse i known that my mom would most likely notice.so life is over the top hard and stressful right now

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              • ccsmod5
                ccsmod5 commented
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                Hey,
                Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re going through a really difficult time with your mother. You don’t deserve to have someone yell and cuss at you, least of all your parent. It’s concerning to us that you mentioned you thought about cutting your wrist last week. We want you to know that you’re not alone in this and there is help out there. A popular resource for young people engaging in self-harm is To Write Love on Her Arms, which is a blog: twloha.com. If you ever feel like you’re in danger of hurting yourself, you can always call 9-1-1 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.
                It sounds like you and your mom have a tense relationship right now. One option is to have a conversation about how she’s been treating you and what she can do to support you better. If you need help talking to your mom, you might consider asking a guidance counselor or teacher at school to help. Here at NRS, we are also able to mediate conference calls with your mom; we’ll do our best to make sure everyone feels heard and that the conversation stays fair.
                Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:
                https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
                Stay safe!

            • #8
              Hi there ☺️.. while I was reading this article, it felt as if I myself had written the article since I could understand and relate to it that much!!
              I am also a fourteen year old Indian girl, and believe me, I, too, am sick and tired of my mom's words.. she has stopped beating me now, and only occasionally does so, but it's her words that make me the most upset and sad. It brings down my already low self-esteem into a even more lower level. I am pretty good in academics, and always make it to be among the top 3 scorers in the class, so many people are surprised when they see how nervous I get before presenting a simple presentation or project. It is not because I have stage fear or fear of public-speaking, since I am quite a friendly person that can easily mix with people my age, it is because of the countless times my mother had said those horrible words to me which I can never seem to erase from my mind,and still yet end up forgiving her. I guess it's because she always thinks that buying me something new after a fight, would make me okay, like a dress of a t-shirt..

              When I was in middle school, I got bullied by my classmates and even my former friends, as they left me, but I could never even talk to my parents about what was happening at school, due to the fights that occurred at home as well..

              Basically, over the years, I have learnt that, there is no possible way for me to talk about this with my mother, or try to make her understand, as she wouldn't. Instead, I must just try and ignore it, which might not be easy always, and move on with life.
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              I do get sad at times, when I hear my friends talking about how close they are with their mothers, and I never get where I exactly go wrong, I mean I know that I have got my own flaws, and so does everyone, but isn't it your mother's job to accept you just the way you are. I always try everything to impress her, from making handmade birthday cards to the best grades , gifts for her etc. etc. And because of her, I have also become a person that I can hardly recognise now, with trust issues, fake smiles, and sleepless nights, and searching the internet for personal answers and emoyioemo support, since I can't talk about it with my very own mother.. but I'm slowly learning how to cope with it..

              I wish you the best of luck, and please do remember that there are many more people like you, and also much more worse off than you. It helps me a lot at times, to keep this in mind and be thankful for whatever I have

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              • ccsmod16
                ccsmod16 commented
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                Hi there,

                Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. It sounds like you have some stuff. You had mentioned what sounded like abuse, nobody deserves to be abused and we are sorry that is going on. Just as a quick disclaimer, we are mandated reporters so if you provide specific information such as identifying information (names, etc), address, and specifics about abuse we are required to report, if you do not want to report yet no worries, we are still more than happy to talk just please be aware of the above information. If you do want to talk more about reporting, we are more than happy to do that as well. Whatever makes you most comfortable, we are here for you and confidential.

                In terms of what is going on, it sounds like you and your mom have a tough relationship. It also sounds like you have really tried to do what you can to impress her. It can be hard when we feel like the people who are close to us do not seem to be providing the support we are looking for. You had mentioned that you don’t feel comfortable talking to your parents about what is going on, it might be helpful to reach out to someone that you do feel close with. Sometimes talking with a family member, a close friend, a school teacher or counselor can help us talk through the situation and see sides or options that we may not have been able to see before. We are also here for you 24/7 whenever you need. We understand that things can get tough and are here to support you either online at our chat or on the phone at 1(800)786-2929.

                We are here for you and more than happy to talk whenever you want.

                Best of luck,
                NRS

            • #9
              Holy ******** this sounds just like me....I'm seventeen years old living in the US with an Iranian-immigrant mother. Because of my mother's pressure and constant micromanaging, I've just been breaking down. When I was in middle school I had persistent suicidal thoughts, until somehow they stopped. My mother's pressure early on drove me to get straight As, admitted into top-tier magnet schools, a near-perfect SAT score, win state competitions, among others. But her pressure didn't stop into the academic. She threatened to take my academic clubs and competitions away from me if I didn't keep a perfectly clean room all year. But when I kept a perfectly clean room, she told me that if I didn't speak Farsi with her she would take those same clubs and competitions away from me. I don't talk to her about my crushes or romantic life anymore because for every guy I used to tell her about, she called them unattractive, she called them assholes, she called them stupid. She berates me for the food I eat, even when I eat only 1200 calories per day, all entirely of fruits, vegetables, and some meats. She tells me I always have to look beautiful in public, with my Michael Kors purse and Chanel makeup, but then tells me that I look slutty, that men are getting attracted to me and it's my fault, that I should be wearing long pants and long shirts even if I look "mechanical" so that guys don't look at me. Might as well wear a burka. But while intelligence, attractiveness, language-learning, and health are all big things that parents must raise their kid to learn, most of her micromanaging goes well beyond these realms, so far beyond that I can safely say that 80% of her micromanaging is contradictory....first telling me that my bras make me look weird and not to wear them to telling me I shouldn't wear bras at all to telling me that my not wearing a bra will make my boobs sag....to telling me that I should eat more meat to telling me I should eat less meat....it goes on.

              I'd like to touch on one particular thing she does, however, apart from constant micromanaging: she does this thing where she elegantly manipulates me into wanting to be separated from loved ones, and then blames me for wanting to be separated from the first place. Let me explain: my mother has married three times. The first father I had, she told me that he punched her, shoved me, was a constant alcoholic and refused to pay child support for me. I ceased to communicate with him. The second father I remember more clearly, and while she had no motive in ceasing my relationship with him, I myself decided to cease communication with him based on his horribly ********ed up abusive personality. When I was in middle school, she spoke badly of my grandmother and motivated me to cease a relationship with her for almost five years. Last year, because of a comment from my paternal grandfather, she told me that we would never speak to him again, that she would divorce my third-father, that my third-father was cheating on her. Several months later she would tell me that during the time she made these accusations, she was being drugged by her employer. Her evidence? Minor heart palpitations. Several months after that, after telling me to separate myself from my best friends of 10 years because I "was better than them" and that they were a "bad influence", she asked me if I would go back with her to visit the same grandfather she refused to meet ever again. When I told her that I thought, due to her sentiments a year prior, that he was a man without a conscience and a real Satan, she yelled "me and your father are always there for you but whenever there is the slightest bit of tension you just bail on us!". Very hypocritical, manipulative, and crazy if you ask me.

              I'm just waiting to go to college as soon as possible. I can't decide whether I'm going to be on speaking terms with her when I leave. I've been with her for virtually her entire adult life, and naturally I have developed a loving bond with her, but I also cannot stand her anymore. I cry often because of her, she calls me sensitive, spoiled, and stubborn, and perhaps she's right....I'll have a year to figure it all out.

              Anyway, thanks for telling your experiences! Glad to know I'm not alone.

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              • ccsmod0
                ccsmod0 commented
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                Hello there,
                Thank you for reaching out to NRS and sharing your story. We are sorry to hear about everything you have gone through. It must have taken a lot of strength to talk about your situation and you should be commended for that.
                It is completely understandable that you would feel conflicted about continuing your relationship with your mother once you move out. It sounds like she is the cause to a lot of your unhappiness. We are glad that you can find comfort in others postings. We want you all to know that the bulletin boards are a safe and judgment free zone. If you ever need to talk please know that you can always find support here 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or use our Live Chat.
                Best wishes,
                NRS

            • #10
              I'm going through less than any of you, I'm sure. I feel like the reason I cry is more often because I'm weak. An example? Just 2 days ago, I was watching a YouTube video on my phone while I was finishing up some fruit when my mom came in and took it and said that I needed to complete my homework. My phone is my coping device with everything I go through mainly because it's the only way I can talk to my friends when I'm not in school. I've had my phone taken away from me a lot of times before, so this time I decided to follow her while she walked, repeating the same questions; "when will I get it back? But what if you don't give it back? I just need a confirmation that you'll give it back." To these questions, I got the same answers. After you finish your homework. You'll just have to deal with it. I can't believe you don't trust your own mother. After this, I felt tears coming and locked myself in the bathroom because the image of myself I show HER is a tough girl with a loose tounge. I cried for an hour because I was always holding in my tears for the past few months so I just let it all out.

              I can't trust her because, when I was a few years younger, I told everything to her and she kept using that information against me when she's shouting at me or when we're having an argument (which now is almost daily) and I'm trying to keep up the "tough" look by making my life look awesome. Last year, I was practicing keeping to myself but I was really sad this one day because I wanted to go to see the talent show our school was putting on but I didn't have anyone to go with because some of my friends are too popular for ME to sit with and the others go with their own friends. I ended up skipping school that day by faking an illness but my mom never forgot what I said and to this day, uses it against me.

              A much more current problem that I'm dealing is the fact that I'm LGBTQ+. Im honestly lost because I've heard my mom say "... because everyone's lesbian and gay now" to one of her friends and I took it as a sign to stay quiet with my situation. I thought I could keep this up for 6 more years until I move out but just a few days ago, some bullies from school found out. They also got to know my guy crush. (Side note: I never tell my mom anything about my crushes and stuff cause she says I'm too young. Its probably cause we're brown and the dating age is 19) So I thankfully the bullies aren't in my class, but their class DOES share a P.E. and French lesson. And all throughout my first French lesson this year, the kept saying "BI the river" and some other really disturbing hand demonstrations saying "This is you with your boyfriend" and whenever I talk to my best friend about it, she takes it WAY more lightly than I did. I would ask my mom to complain (its just her cause she and my dad are separated) but I can't cause she can't know in homosexual.

              She always shouts at me out of the blue. Things like "You useless idiot cow" roughly translating from our language. Im typing this in the bath tub because this is the only room where I have privacy. Even in the bathroom where I actually shower, she comes in to take some clothes or wash her hands. I don't know why I'm crying way more often than usual cause I've been dealing With this stuff for months and I haven't ever cried as hard as I did the last few days. I'm not sure if this is a "phase" because a few of my friends hate their parents too.
              Last edited by ccsmod10; 09-05-2018, 07:31 PM.

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              • ccsmod10
                ccsmod10 commented
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                Hi there,

                Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you are going through a lot right now and it is very brave of you to reach out. Know that your experiences are valid no matter how they compare to other people's. Someone "having it worse" is no reason to disregard your struggles and emotions. You are not weak for feeling sad or frustrated and expressing that emotion. Especially when it sounds like you've been holding in your emotions for quite a while.

                It seems like you have difficulty trusting your mother because she has betrayed your trust in the past. You have a right to feel distrustful. You are not irrational or unreasonable for not trusting your mother. It sounds like she uses things you told her in confidence against you, and that isn't fair or right. You deserve to feel like you can trust the people you live with.

                All of this is not just a "phase". It is apparent you are really struggling. You have a lot to deal with right now. You've been outed, you are stressed at home and are having difficulties socially. These are hard enough to deal with one at a time, and you're dealing with everything at once! Building yourself a support network to help cope with these stresses is super important. Finding people that you can reach out to that you can trust is an option. And since confidentiality has been a problem in the past, confidential resources could always be an option. Therapists, counselors, and mental health professionals all have standards of confidentiality and could be a great resource of support. We are also 100% confidential and anonymous and available 24/7 at 1800RUNAWAY. We're here to listen to you and help you in the best way we can.

            • #11
              I really wish something could be done about all this ****. I live with my mother and my stepdad, and most of the time, its hell. They get mad at me if i do something wrong, and they always take out their anger on me. They scream at me, cry and say how rebellious and evil i am, but they never harm me physically. I have really bad depression that i hide from them, and only talk about to my counselor, my best friend, my sister, and my boyfriend. They are hard core christians and homophobs, and i'm bi, and they hate that. They also hate how my best friend used to be in the occult, and constantly shame me and her because of our choices. two years ago, i tried commiting suicide, and my friend and sister where the ones who helped me, not my parents. I love them, but I cry a lot because of them, and my school (Columbine HS) is my escape.

              My parents think they are helping, but they are not. I try explaining things to them, but they interrupt me and tell me about how wrong i am. I'm a pretty good student, and I try to do my best, but nothing pleases them.

              I'm told this is a phase, and it will all pass, but im 15. I'm a semi-professional fanfiction writer, and I'm growing up. I really don;t want to live with being depressed forever.

              What should I do?

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              • #12
                Hi...
                I was just reading this article and I can relate to all of this like right now. I kinda need help right now.

                I am a 16 year old girl, being the oldest out of five siblings, so my parents, especially my mom, expect me the most for my academic studies, like grades. I just moved into a new school and it's kind of rough being a new student. Back in my old school, I tried to be a good student, but my grades didn't show that I was. So my parents decided to move me and my siblings into a new school. I do my homework everyday when I get home. But when it comes to tests and exams, I do very bad that my grades and my GPA goes down.I become very stressed about school. I obviously become very upset about it. When I come home, I get very scared. I say this because my mom always asks about my grades, but I say they're okay, even though they're not. She then asks me to show my grades, and I become even more scared. Every time I show her my grades, I sometimes have a 'C, for example, in Math, or a 'D' in a business class. Sometimes those classes are difficult to take, because my mom forced me to take those classes, so I had no choice. Anyways, when I show her my grades, and she sees that they are not good, she yells at me so loud that my everyone in my family looks at me. She then starts calling me bad names, like dumb and stupid, and ugly, and she also starts hitting me. I get very offended by that, that I start to cry, and I start to think that my life is useless. Then she turns around and starts talking normal toward my siblings, all sweet and kind. I go to my room and I start doing my homework, but she comes up the stairs, purposely stomping, and starts yelling in my face again, calling me names. She tells me that I'm not a good daughter and that I'm going to become homeless and that I'm never going to get a job. I literally cry everyday, because I'm no use anymore. I literally try so hard at school, like taking notes, studying, doing homework, like a regular good student, but I just can't seem to do it. And here I am typing this because I have stress and I'm crying because my mom just hates me and she's so rude to me that I sometimes think about hurting myself, but I don't do it because I'm scared. I seriously don't know what to do.. Please help. I am never happy at home, NEVER! I always wish that my dad would come home, but he only comes home on the weekend, because he travels around the states for his job. But sometimes my mom will be mad at my dad, and she'll say bad things about him on the phone, and she'll say bad stuff to me. I just feel like I don't deserve living anymore.
                Thanks...

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                • ccsmod10
                  ccsmod10 commented
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                  Hi there!

                  Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline! It was very courageous of you to contact us. It seems like you are in a rough position. School can be hard and you are definitely not alone with feeling like that. You deserve to feel comfortable and at peace about school and your homework. No one should be making you feel like your life is worthless. You are valuable and have purpose! You also deserve to feel loved and appreciated. If you are ever contemplating self-harm you can reach out to TWLOHA. They have a crisis texting line which could be very helpful in a time of need. You would text TWLOHA to 741741. You do deserve to live and be happy. Another service we offer is conference calls. We would be able to mediate a call between you and your mom. We would set ground rules before the call and make sure the call went smoothly. You would call our hotline and we could set that up for you.

                  Again, we are really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options which is really good to see. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at www.1800runaway.org. We’re here to listen, here to help.

              • #13
                Every time my mom tells me to do something I start to cry. Every time she speaks to me she is yelling with so much anger something in my breaks and I cry so much and am filled with so much anger I want to destroy everything in my room. She will yell at me if I get below a 90 on a test, too and calls me names sometimes. I used to not cry every time but now I cry almost every time. She makes me feel like I’m useless it really hurts because I wanna focus on school so much and be perfect at everything I do like what she wants me to, but I can’t be perfect and it hurts so much coming from my own mother. She also won’t shut up when she’s talking she just keeps on talking and it drives me insane because she will re-iterate herself so many times. I wish I did not have to listen to her. Sometimes she can go on for 30 minutes about how useless I am no I don’t clean things properly or how I don’t focus on school as much as I should. It seems silly typing it out now but she drives me insane and I can’t stop crying when she talks to me. Why does she make me feel this way all the time. I want to run away and just live peacefully somewhere else

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                • #14
                  Reply: Every time my mom tells me to do something I....

                  Hello,
                  Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

                  It takes courage to reach out and talk about something that has been weighing on you so heavily.
                  It is unfortunate that you are being yelled at and treated unfairly by your mother. You don’t deserve to be treated this way. This is not your fault. Contacting NRS to express your feelings is not silly at all. We want you to know that we are here to support you during this time.
                  Sometimes when things are tense it can become stressful and frustrating. It sounds like the more this happens you are starting to feel anger. There may be some coping mechanisms you can try to help deal with the anger and frustration. For instance: writing, reading or other positive activities may serve as an escapism. Sometimes a positive distraction can help in easing the tension and frustration one might be feeling.

                  Your feelings are real. Your feelings matter. Sometimes people forget to take that into account. This does not excuse anyone for bad behavior. So maybe figuring out a way to change the dialogue becomes the question. Talking to someone- feeling support from others through talking (or them just listening) sometimes can help to relieve stress. It may also be a way to come up with some ideas on the best way to communicate to mom that you are hurting. Perhaps there is a family member, friend or a counselor at school you might turn to for support. It’s difficult to resolve an ongoing issue in this type of setting. NRS is here to listen and here to help.
                  If you would like to speak more to your situation and explore some options to help figure out a plan to change the communication between you and mom, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org

                  You did great by reaching out today.

                  Take care,
                  NRS

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                  • #15
                    i cry for my parents that i hope they dont die and almost cry everyday for my mom and dad and i have problems with frustation everytime

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                      Hey there,

                      Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It sounds like there’s quite a bit of tension going on with your parents. It must be exhausting to feel so frustrated. At NRS we’re here to listen and support you.

                      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore resources that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and we want to help you in any way we can.

                      All the best,
                      NRS
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