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My dad is sometimes nice but he threatens to beat me up ALOT. He also threatens me when i dont put a blanket on the bed. He usually punches me on my chest or stomach and choked me twice. He also treats my little brother better than me using the excuse "hes a baby" he doesnt only treat him better but he also never disciplines him. For example. He lets him swear and hit people and does nothing about it. I find this unfair and i have also gotten use to it. And im not even 10
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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It takes great courage to reach out for help, and we are glad that you have decided to reach out to us. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.
What you have described seems abusive and we are sorry that you are having to go through that. You do not deserve to be treated that way, and you do have the right to file a report. One option would be to contact Child Help at: 1-800-422-4453, and they can help you file an abuse report. You can also talk to a teacher or school counselor about what is going on at home and they would be able to help with a report. Lastly, you can always call or chat with us and we would be able to help you make a report.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are available to you 24/7 to listen and to provide support through this challenging time.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Best of luck!
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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It takes great courage to reach out for help, and we are glad that you have decided to reach out to us. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.
What you have described seems abusive and we are sorry that you are having to go through that. You do not deserve to be treated that way, and you do have the right to file a report. One option would be to contact Child Help at: 1-800-422-4453, and they can help you file an abuse report. You can also talk to a teacher or school counselor about what is going on at home and they would be able to help with a report. Lastly, you can always call or chat with us and we would be able to help you make a report.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are available to you 24/7 to listen and to provide support through this challenging time.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Best of luck!
NRS
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I yesterday forgot to do my homework and it wasn't long. My mum came home reminding me that i had homework but my dad over heard this and stormed downstairs and grabbed me by the neck.
He then hit me and i staggered by before my dad hurt me some more my mum pulled me away. Another time is was 9 and i failed a really hard exam and my dad came at me with his arms raised up
i try to run but my dad pushed the table so i would be trapped, he then pulled it away and hit me on the head and gave me a concussion and i couldn't hear. The next thing i know is that he is on top of me holding something and threatening to hit me. After that he left me(not literately) and i wasn't able to walk with my right foot for a while and i couldn't hear. And even my sister has some fair share of experiences. I had a zoom lesson and my sister was being loud so my dad got her and covered her mouth with his hands and hurting her. My dad even describes that i am useless with no skill. I was
even in so much distress i made a suicide note because i couldn't take it anymore I even thought about running away but i couldn't bear to imagine my sister and my mother with him. He even in the past
slapped my mum across the face when she make simple mistakes. So what should i do?Comment
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[9:51 PM] Doug Edwards
Hi, We are glad you reached out to us for help. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help especially in the kind of situations you described. First and most importantly, we want to remind you that if you are feeling unsafe or physically hurt you can always call 911 for immediate help. Don’t worry about getting anyone in trouble; the police will sort that out after they are certain you are safe.You deserve to be in a safe home environment and not being physically hurt like you described. The emotional/verbal abuse you described is also not acceptable and you should not have to be exposed to that. There are options for you and possibly some programs in your local community to provide support and help. www.childhelp.org might be a helpful place to start, you have described physical abuse from your father, and possibly Domestic Violence towards your mother. Non of you deserve to be treated like that. After we get some more details and specifics from you, we can talk more about which options and programs might be right for you. We are a non-directional agency that means we won’t tell you what to do. We help you come up with a plan that feels right to you (and that is safe as possible) and help you enact that plan. You can take the next step by reaching out to us on a call on our crisis hotline at (800) RUNAWAY or through a chat on our website. Both are available anytime 24/7 and both are completely confidential. We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.NRS
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hey im 14 and my dad threatens me and he even goes out of his way to make sure his threats are legit like today he was arguing with me about something small and then i said i have work so i need to study so i walked away from him during it and i said im going to let you have it and a little bit about me i dont easily back down because i feel like im defending and saying facts but back to the story he came after me and said i will kick you in your ********ing back and i put my hand on the door to my room and didnt close it and he kicked it so i drop my stuff and said my done i took my phone and head phone and he said gimme your key because you wont be able to get back in so i did and i went for and walk and i forgot to mention apart of me walking away he got up in my face and was spiting and he's bigger than so im thinking to myself i need to grab something before he kills me and not only that this isnt the first time he has threanten me and has mention breaking my bones and breaking my jaw or punching me in my face and half of the stop i dont think my mom really cares and brother was asking my mom what happen and he said she was talking like all ways my heart broke a lot because now i know that the one sibling that lives in the house with me wont defend me is really sadComment
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Thank you for reaching out to NRS. We are here to help support during these extremely tough moments. No one deserves to be treated that way; especially by your parents who should always love and protective you. It sounds like you are doing your absolute best to remain calm and non-reactive in these situations. However, you safety is most important to us, so here are some ideas to think about:
It sounds like life at home continually to gets worse. Your safety is most important. Some things to consider would be to have an escape plan in the event that you feel your life or physical safety is in harm. This could include having a friend with whom you trust that would allow you to stay at their place for a night and who you could text immediately to come get you. Perhaps have a bag ready with all your essential valuables and store it away in a safe place if you need to leave immediately. Also, there’s a national resource called National Safe Place where you can text the word “safe” and your current location (address, city, state) to 4HELP (44357) and they will guide you to designated areas in your town/city where you could go that are safe (fire station, a library, local store). And of course, there is always your locale police force with whom you call at 911 if you felt immediate danger and no one was there to defend you.
Another idea that you could implement into your daily routine is consider getting more involved with an afterschool program (sports, theater, debate club) that interests you. That way, you can limit the amount of time you spend at home and reduce your exposure around your father. If you still have classes online at home, then consider looking for a YMCA or Boys & Girls’ Club which are places you could spend time with teens your age, study, play sports, and decompress after a long school day. Also, a school guidance counselor is usually a service offered at every school. This could be someone you confide in about your home life and help provide you with ways to deal with what sounds like an extremely unsupportive home life.
It takes bravery to reach out and ask for help. We are a 24/7 service readily available to help you with further questions that you may have through online chat, forum, and email. Do not hesitate to reach back out.
We wish you the very best,
NRS
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So I am 14 and today my dad threw my stuff across myroom because he was mad that my room wasn't clean,and he called me disgusting after he threw my stuff across my room,I cleaned the mess he made.t throwing my stuff across the room,he makes me feel like I am never good enough,what do I doComment
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Hi, thank you for reaching out to NRS!
It sounds like your dad is hard on you. His angry outbursts must be scary, but his anger has nothing to do with you. It is a reflection of him. Being told negative things can weigh on someone’s mental health and negatively impact a person’s self image. Know you are good enough and that you deserve to be told positive things. His threats of abuse also sound scary. Any kind of abuse is never ok. Verbal abuse, like his threats are hard to prove. Physical abuse is a bit easier to prove. If his abuse ever causes marks, taking a picture can document the abuse and serve as proof. Filing an abuse report through Child Protective Services can be made by you or someone else on your behalf. Abuse reporting is anonymous and is an option should you wish to go that route. Speaking with a school counselor, a family member, a trusted adult, or a mental health professional (therapist) are options too. They could provide you with a safe space to talk to about things at home and how your dad’s anger is affecting you. www.childhelp.org is a great resource as well. If you feel you are in immediate danger law enforcement is another option. Your safety is so important. It takes bravery and strength to reach out and ask for help. Remember how brave and strong you are. Feel free to reach out to NRS anytime via our online chat service or phone hotline. We are available 24/7! Stay safe, stay strong, and remember - you are not the bad things your dad says you are.
NRS
1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)
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Hello I am a 14 year old girl,and today my da got madethat my room was dirty and threw all my stuff across the room and right after he called dme disgusting when he was the one that threw the stuff all over my room,he makes me feel like I can do anything,oh and he calls me lazy and selfish,a few years ago he threatened to ring my neck in front of my friend,but he never did,half has smacked my butt really hard.whay do I doComment
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Hi, thank you for reaching out to NRS!
It sounds like your dad is hard on you. His angry outbursts must be scary, but his anger has nothing to do with you. It is a reflection of him. Being told negative things can weigh on someone’s mental health and negatively impact a person’s self image. Know you are good enough and that you deserve to be told positive things. His threats of abuse also sound scary. Any kind of abuse is never ok. Verbal abuse, like his threats are hard to prove. Physical abuse can a bit easier to prove. If his abuse ever causes marks, taking a picture can document the abuse and serve as proof. Filing an abuse report through Child Protective Services can be made by you or someone else on your behalf. Abuse reporting is anonymous and is an option should you wish to go that route. Speaking with a school counselor, a family member, a trusted adult, or a mental health professional (therapist) are options too. They could provide you with a safe space to talk to about things at home and how your dad’s anger is affecting you. www.childhelp.org is a great resource as well. If you feel you are in immediate danger law enforcement is another option. Your safety is so important. It takes bravery and strength to reach out and ask for help. Remember how brave and strong you are. Feel free to reach out to NRS anytime via our online chat service or phone hotline. We are available 24/7! Stay safe, stay strong, and remember - you are not the bad things your dad says you are.
NRS
1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929)
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my dad threatens to beat me and even said he’d beat the ******** out of me to go to prison to get a break from me. what do i doComment
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Hi there,
Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We are terribly sorry that you had that experience with your dad and we applaud you for recognizing that this type of treatment is not normal and is not okay. You absolutely do not deserve to be threatened by anybody, under any circumstance. We empower you to keep your safety as your number one priority. With that being said, your immediate point of contact should be 911 if at any point you feel in danger. Please know that you do not need to wait for your dad to hit you in order to contact the police. We recognize that it can be intimidating and maybe even scary to call the police, but we must stress again that your safety is the most important thing.
Another point of contact that may be handy is the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline https://childhelphotline.org/ On their website, you will find a phone number, text number, and a Live Chat option. Please do not hesitate to contact them in whichever way is most convenient. They specialize in helping young people figure out what steps to take when experiencing abuse in any form. Like us, they also operate on a 24/7 basis, so you may contact them at any time.
If you would like to talk with us more in-depth about your situation and would like any further resources, we are happy to talk at any time, as mentioned above, we operate 24/7. We have an online chat option found on our website at www.1800runaway.org or you are welcome to give us a phone call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We look forward to hearing from you if you decide to reach out further and we wish you our warmest wishes in moving forward and into a healthier and safer situation.
Sincerely,
NRS
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I'm 11 and my dad just threatened to shoot me(his exact words "I'm going to f#cking shoot you") because i dropped a bag of breadsticks walking out of olive garden today. I'm extremely scared and I really don't know what to do.Comment
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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned your father threatening to harm you. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS
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Hi, Im thirteen and I dont really have a good relationship wih my father. I lied to him about my test mark and he threatened to hang me if he got a call from school. I do get beaten when I do something bad or something minor and my dad over reacts, this was the main reason I lied to him about my test. I usually get scared when he gets home if he ever gets moody and justs shouts at us. I want to move away from this home but i cant because I dont have a support system at all.Comment
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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re under a lot of pressure at home right now and you mentioned being harmed and threatened. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at immediate risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance as soon as possible. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to Child Protective Services (CPS). Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) or call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS
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I found out a few days ago my dad cheated on my mom, but after that argument they had, they acted as if nothing happened for a couple of days. Now, they're having an argument and my dad threatened to kill us and kill himself after he found out that my mom is cheating on him as well, should I call 911? I'm genuinely scared to call 911 because I don't know what's gonna happen after that since he supports our family with money.Comment
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I recently got mad at my younger brother for a multitude of different things and grabbed his arm really hard. alot is going through my head right now and i know that im ultimately in the wrong im 14 hes 8 I appologized to him but my grandma told my mom about the incident who then told my dad who threatens to beat me up. I let my emotions and ego get the better of me but my dad has a pretty violent past and even put his hands on my mom in the past if not worse than i did to my brother. i love my brother and i never punch him or hurt him out of sheer aggresion mostly its for his own good i try to teach him the slighest of respect i grabbed his arm thats it but i did have an extremly angry face. how ever i dont feel safe at home and as soon as i turn 18 im getting as far away as i can from my family but thats 4 years down the road what should i do nowComment
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Hi there, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like there was an incident with your younger brother where you may have grabbed his arm too tight and now your dad is threatening to beat you up. You do not deserve to be threatened by your dad like this, not even for what you did to your brother. It seems like you made a mistake and recognized that and apologized. That’s all you can do and then move on from it and if you notice yourself getting mad again, maybe walking away to take a breath. It sounds like you are not feeling safe at home, it can be helpful to talk to other adults about this if there is someone you trust. We can also discuss more if you are interested in doing so. To do that, either call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS
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my dad threatened to throw me on the ground and kick me and break my ribs, what should i do?Comment
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Hi there, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like your dad has been threatening you and you do not deserve to be treated this way. One option is to call Child Protective Services and make a report so that they can help you. Otherwise, if you would like to contact us to try and come up with more options or to talk about this more, please call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. If you feel you are in immediate danger, we recommend calling 911. We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS
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I'm 14 currently and my dad threatens to hit me if i ever talk back or say my own opinion. He gets aggressive VERY quick and doesn't want anyone else to be right. Just a few minutes ago it happened again.
He came storming into my room because I closed the door very loud. He told me basically in croatian: "shut the ******** up before i take your goddamn door away." In which I replied "well that's illegal" literally not giving a damn about what's gonna happen next. His reply was "******** your damn 'illegal' ********". I replied "wonder whats the police gonna think about that." He just threatened to hit me afterwards. I just said "hit me but don't be surprised if everyone hates you".
He used to hit me when I was little,which was just forgotten and normalized (the excuse: "that's normal for balkan/slavic/eastern european dads). He hasn't in ages , yet I know that he would if my mum wouldn't always be there.
I hate him, yet he's my dad and I forced myself to forget everything and tell myself it's normal.
I can't hate him, but sometimes I do.Comment
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Hello ,
Thank you for reaching out to us and willing to share your personal experience. It's very admirable to know that you're able to recognize that something is wrong and looking for support. It sounds like you're going through challenging times at home . It must be very difficult to live at home with a parent that continues to threaten you and hurt you . No one deserves to be treated this way. If you feel that living with your dad is unbearable , you have options . If you don't feel safe at home , filing a report is a option. If you need guidance on how to do so or feel the need to talk to someone you can contact us at 1800runaway.org for text chat or call us at at 1-800-786-2929 . Another option would be to talk to an adult that you trust , it can be a family member or a school counselor .School counselors are trained professionals that can help you as well. You're not alone and we are here to help.
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