16 and wanting to runaway

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my boyfriend is 16 and he wants to be emanciapted but we dont think we hav the time. hes not on a stable or healthy home and he wants to runaway. he doesnt feel safe at home and his mom verbally abuses him whil his uncles threaten him bodily harm. if he were 2 run to my house, and the police showed up and he explained why he didnt wish to return home, would they take him anyways and make him return to a place where he may end up getting hurt again? would they allow him to stay with me and my parents since this is his safe home?

im worried about him. what do i do?

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Re: 16 and wanting to runaway

Thanks for contacting us again about your boyfriend. It seems as if you are truly concerned about his well being. You mentioned previously that your boyfriend wanted to be emancipated, and now you are saying that him running away is an option. Does he have a specific plan on where he would go and how he would survive? Is it just an automatic that he would be coming to your family's home? If he did runaway to your home and the police showed up, if he explained to them what was going on, he may be required to go ahead and return back home unless he was ready to go ahead and report the abuse that he is enduring. He does indeed have the option of getting social services involved to report the abuse by his mom. In this case, an investigation would be done and during this time he may be staying a shelter or another center where he would be safe until it is determined whether he should be returned to or taken out of his home. As fas as him staying with you, his mother may be able to file charges against your parents for harboring a runaway youth. Anytime a youth leaves home without parent's permission, they are considered a runaway. It is the responsibility and duty of your mother as an adult to get him to a place for runaways that he would be safe at and not house him in her home without informing his mother. Is your boyfriend up to discussing this with someone here? We do understand your fear and sense of concern for your boyfriend and think that once again it is very supportive of you to be trying to get some help for him. Again, we can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY 24 hours a day when you are ready to talk.

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Re: 16 and wanting to runaway

he wants to be emancipated, and i have researching emancipation, runaways,abuse, CPS, and alot more for about 15 hours now and i see how hard and almost impossible. i have talked to ova 15 people and have been to over 100 wesites. CPS is not an option with him. he refuses to be put in foster care. he is already kept from me enough as it is. ive seen him twice and havent seen him in ova a month. Running away has become an option for him becuase he thinks emancipation is imposible since his mother woud not agree to it even though she said she never wanted him. and my mother would call his mom if he showed up, but she said she cant turn him away becuase he is abused and she jus cant do that to him.
cant the police let him stay here if this is his safe house?

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Re: 16 and wanting to runaway

Hey,

If your bf is being abused, has he had a chance to call social services and inform them about the abuse? Because right now, the people that can help him get a different home do no know about the abuse. If what you are saying is correct, he can call the statewide abuse hotline and talk to them about what is going on.

If he is filed as a runaway, the police have the right to get him out of whatever house he is staying at-they don't really have a say in how "appropriate" a home is or not...social services does.

Does that help? If he needs these details to be cleared up, have him give us confidential call t 1800-RUNAWAY 24hrs a day.

Best of luck,
-NRS

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Re: 16 and wanting to runaway

only problem is he refuses to let me call CPS.

my best friend is in foster care and she was taken away last week cuz she was working on a project final and couldnt help with her fister moms baby at that moment so she 7 dayed my friend. my boyfriend doesnt wana be moved aroud like she was. he just wants to be able to get away from his family and live his life.

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Re: 16 and wanting to runaway

We completely understand your fears and your boyfriend’s fears. There’s really only three legal ways for him not to have to live at home anymore, most of which have been mentioned already. 1) Have his parent’s permission to live elsewhere 2) Get emancipated, and as you’ve probably discovered it’s not always an easy or fast option. 3) Be removed from his home by CPS. Those are the only options for him to not have to go home and not worry that the police will make him go home. We’d be happy to talk to you more in depth about all of this, including the above options. In the end, we can’t tell you what to do or what not to do, we can just help you and your boyfriend make the most informed decision you can to keep him safe. Give us a call anytime, 24/7.

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Re: 16 and wanting to runaway

how do i help him get emancipated? ive talke to over 20 people, but reasearching it fer ova 15 hours n visited ova 100 websites and no one will help me with emancipation...cuz his mom willna give him consent to b emancipated...at least we think she wont cuz she wont even let him spend ta nyt at a friends house. CPS will take him away though...unless my mom gets her foster lisence renewed b4 thn cuz shes trying 2 get my friend who is in foster care and was taken away last week...

can you PLEASE HELP ME!

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Re: 16 and wanting to runaway

Emancipation isn’t usually an easy route to go, which is likely why you’re running into barriers. Every state and even county has different criteria for how a minor can become emancipation. Not all states even allow emancipation. It generally is a long court process in the states that do allow it. The best place to start is to contact the local courthouse. That’s who emancipation is generally done through. Almost every state, in order to be emancipated, a youth has to prove that they’re able to financially take care of themselves (this doesn’t include receiving help from others). In many states a minor does need parental permission to get emancipated, which it sounds like might be the case in your state. To the best of our knowledge there isn’t a way to get around this if it’s a requirement, but we aren’t a legal authority so we can’t say that for sure. It may be best at this point if your boyfriend or you call us so we can have a conversation in order to better answer your questions and address some of your concerns. We can also conference a call to the local courthouse in your area to find out more information about how emancipation works in your state if it’s something you don’t feel comfortable doing alone. We’d be happy to try and assist you in any way we can. Someone’s here 24/7.