emancipation

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My boyfriend is 16 and he lives in an unhealthy environment. he was beat as a kid but it stopped after his dad passes away three years ago, although his back has over 30 scars. he is almost 17 and his mother is very controlling. she makes his life hell, taking everything away from him for calling me, and tells him he is worhtless and she would be better off without him and he was her worst mistake. and it is hurting him mentally. and then there is his uncles, who send him threatening text messages and voice mails, threatening to cause him bodily harm. my boyfriend wants nothing more than to be with me but his mother will not give me a chance. he is in an unhealthy, abusive and unstable environment. and his mom will not let him live alone let alone sign the papers for him to be emancipted. how can i help him become emancipated? my parents have agreed to give him a place to stay and they are willing to help him however they can.

what can i do to help him get emancipated?

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Thanks for contacting us at NRS. We are sorry to hear about the situation your boyfriend is in with his family. You seem to be a really concerned girlfriend and are doing a good things trying to get him some help. It is unfair for his mother to be as controlling as you mention and to prevent him from having a friendship or relationship with you. It is also unfair for anyone to have to endure such emotional and verbal abuse because nobody deserves to be treated this way. You mentioned your boyfriend being threatened by his uncles. Why are they threatening him and what are they saying to him? It seems as though where you are right now, that you are considering emancipation as an option for your boyfriend. You seem to be interesting in how this might work for him considering his mother probably would not agree to it. Well, we would be happy to give you some information on emancipation. Generally, emancipation of minors is a legal mechanism by which a child is freed from control by their parent(s)/guardian(s), and the parent(s)/guardian(s) is/are freed from any and all responsibility toward the child. In some states, free legal aid is available to minors seeking emancipation, through children's law centers. Emancipation is also a very lengthy process and is sometimes seen as hard to attain. In order to give you more information on this, we would need to know the state your boyfriend is living in to give you the specific laws in that state because terms for emancipation varies from state to state. Despite the unfortunate things your boyfriend is going through, it is a good thing that through all this, your boyfriend has you and your parents available to him to lend him some support. We are also her for support if either you or your boyfriend needs to talk to someone. We are available 24 hours and are confidential so if and when you feel like calling, someone is always here. We can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can call in yourself or pass the number along to him to have as a resource. You also have the option of replying back to this message on our bulletin board. Thanks again for contacting us and we wish you and your boyfriend luck in finding some more options.

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my boyfriend is being threatened with bodily harm. many of the boys in his family are expected to go into the military and apparently the men beat their boys so they wont feel pain in the wars. and since his father died three years ago he hasna been beaten and his uncles say they need to take his dads place. its like they kidnap you and take u somwhere you dont know and they beat you and beat you and wont let you go. We live in california.

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Hello,

Sound like this is a very intense situation for you and especially for your boyfriend. Based on the description of his experiences, he might need to call the police department to get some immediate help. It is not okay that these people are hitting and abusing him. Do you think either you or your bf could call someone to get some immediate help? How would that be? If you don't have anyone to call, please reach us at 1800 RUNAWAY 24hrs a day. So if he needs to make a call later in the evening, we'll be here for both of you.

Best of luck with everything,

-NRS

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ive sent an email to the police. but what if they take him away? what if they put him in CPS?? ive alrady lost my best friend 2 that. i cnt lose him 2. if i call...would they let him stay here if this is his safe house?

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Thanks for posting again. As we’ve mentioned in other posts, there are three legal ways for a minor to not have to live at home anymore. 1) Have his parent’s permission to live elsewhere 2) Get emancipated, and as you’ve probably discovered it’s not always an easy or fast option. 3) Be removed from his home by CPS. The police, unfortunately, don’t have the authority to determine if a home is a safe environment or not for a youth. Of course, the police can say that a home isn’t safe and remove a minor immediately, but then they would hand it over to CPS to complete an investigation and find alternative living for the youth if needed. It might be a good idea to see what the police say though. You’re welcome to call us if you have more questions surrounding this. Sometimes it’s easier to have a conversation, so all your questions and fears can be addressed all at once. We’re a completely confidential hotline, so if you get a chance give us a call. You’re boyfriend is welcome to call as well. Someone is always here.

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thank u very much. u have been the most helpful people i have spoken to in the last two days. as soon as my phone is workin i will call in and i will make sure my boyfriend calls as well


we need help asap before he gets hurt

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We'll be here when you're ready and able to call.