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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    Last edited by ccsmod0; 02-16-2020, 01:19 AM.

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    Guest replied
    Hi
    I dont feel safe in my home I'm living in,
    im 11 years old my stepdad and mom constantly argue and fight my mom drinks occasional and my stepdad drinks every day and gets drunk and abuses me my little sister and mom...at this point my mom is giving up and we have no money..my medical Bill's are crazy high and my real dad helps to pay but i dont see him much hes always working and lives in a apartment..I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety its okay to show you are scared and worried but I'm also bipolar..we cant afford medications to help me I've missed 43 days of school..its so hard for me to get caught up I hate every night I walk in my house worried one day my mom will be dead or my stepdad will be crazy drunk and abuse me I hate living my life this way I hope it gets better as I get older and have more freedom...its the weekend most people have a nice time I'm trying to get school work done and I pass my grade but I all couldn't I got left home alone for 4 hours I had no clue where everybody went I was worried sick...my mom,sister, stepdad decided to celebrate valentine's day by going go the cinemas I wasnt even invited..then I was very upset and started yelling and getting very annoyed on why they didnt invite me..late on around 6 pm my stepdad leaves to go to the bar...come completely trashed and his cousin came over and assumed mom was cheating on him which she wasnt...he comes over to see how where doing and gives us some money for food or brings us food from the store If my moms out of gas...anyways my stepdad was drunk and saying I was a mistake and I'm the boss of the house and I'm a stupied kid...that's when it hit me most I laughed and said some pretty mean stuff to him..this is every night I'm used to this by now it's still makes me feel uncomfortable living my life in this household.. I understand life is hard and theres karma but I get abused and i need help getting my work done but my stepdad controls my actions it makes me sick that I get suicidal and sad I've never told anybody but I think I should..

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS


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    Guest replied
    Ok long story shortened, I just turned 13 a few days ago and I live with my mom and brother. My family isn’t the wealthiest but like I’m decent at the moment I guess. My mom doesn’t have a job and she rarely ever did. My dad and grandma (most grandma) gets me everything. We stayed with my grandma a lot cause my dad would kick us out and change the lock on the door. He would also hit us sometimes and break things. Once he got really mad for I don’t reminder why (few years ago)and then we had to leave and we just stayed at my grandmas house for like a year or ate last a bit of a while till my mom could get a place. I’ve always not been good at sleeping and my dad would hit me when I didn’t sleep. We moved and I thought things would get better but they didn’t. Me and my mom would fight a lot before we moved. Like I mentioned I’m not good at sleeping, resulting in me being bad at waking up. My mom would get my and threaten to kick me out.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member (like your grand parents) or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My parents verbally abuse me and call me worthless, piece of s**t, dumb, etc. My mom also turns to physical agression like hitting, choking, and kicking me when I do something she doesn't like. Both my parents always tell me that they don't want or need me at our house. My mom has kicked me out before and also has tried to kick me out by making me call my grandparents to come get me so I can go with them, but then threatened to report me as a runaway to the police even though she told me to leave. Can she even do that? I don't feel wanted or loved at my house and my parents always tell me I'm the outcast of the family and make it clear that they care more about my little sister because she is a better daughter than me (something my mom always conveys or directly tells me to my face). I honestly want to go live with my grandparents but my mom keeps threatening to report me to the police if I go with them and I don't want to go to juvie. I honestly don't know what to do and I feel so lost.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services). You do not deserve to be abused by your parent’s and it is not your fault that they are doing this to you. NRS is here to listen and here to help.

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/.

    We want you to know that we are here to support you during this most difficult time. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. If you feel at risk or in any danger, please seek emergency assistance by dialing 9-1-1.

    Please be safe and take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi I’m 13 about to be 14 and my parents can't stand me anymore (feeling is mutual) and I'm done with my dad hitting me, threatening me and my mom telling me how much I am a piece of crap and worthless and telling me she’s trying to get rid of me.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 01-15-2020, 08:47 AM.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello –

    Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. We are sorry to hear about the way you have been treated at home.

    It is totally understandable that you would feel helpless at home given how your parents and step-parents treat you. However, life is worth living, and your reaching out to us shows you have a great deal of courage and are willing to fight. A great resource to reach out to if you are having suicidal thoughts is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

    Another option is to call the National Child Abuse Hotline. You can reach them at 1-800-422-4453. You can call them anonymously to learn about the abuse reporting process, or directly report abuse to this line. They are a good resource for talking through your options if there is verbal/mental abuse going on at home. If you no longer feel safe at home it may be a good idea to reach out to Child Protective Services in your area to discuss alternative living situations.

    You can also call into our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you would like to explore your other options. It may help to discuss more about your specific situation and help us be able to determine some ways to help your living situation.

    One of the services we offer as an organization is our conference call service. This conference call service is a moderated conversation between you, a member of the NRS, and your parents. In this conversation you set the guidelines and goals in order to have a productive conversation that can improve your conditions at home.

    We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at the number listed above. We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct. We can also be reached via live chat.

    Best Wishes
    ~NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi, I’m 12 years old. My parents are divorced and I don’t ever feel safe in either one. When I’m with my mother she always threatens me and puts her hands up like she wants to hurt me. She always tells me I’m lucky she doesn’t hate me even though she says she hates me more than she says she loves me. My stepdad threatens to hurt me all the time. In my dads house, my step mom doesn’t treat anyone right and is constantly mean to me. Her boys do a lot of drugs. Sometimes they call the police because they physically beat each other up. I just don’t feel safe. I have thought about self harm constantly. And, I always find myself looking out my window thinking if it would kill me or not. I want to die so much, but I’m scared to jump. I have many other family to talk/live with but my parents would never let me leave. Does anyone have suggestions on how I can leave the soonest? I’m desperate!
    ( I forgot to add that my mom and stepdad have a really bad drinking problem and their always fighting, and keep in mind they never physically abused me )

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. We aren't legal experts here at NRS but if your mom does kick you out it can be considered neglect and you have the right to report it is you so choose. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    If you are in need of transportation you may want to look into public transit options, uber or cab or ask a family member or friend. You can also try calling out to your local United Way by dialing 211 to see if there are any agencies near you that offer transportation assistance.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Well I'm 17 years old going to turn 18 in two more months and graduating in 4 more months my mom wants to leave before I turn 18 I don't have a ride back to the place I feel safe can I call the cops and tell them that I don't feel safe could they removed me to where I feel safe

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  • ccsmod7
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

    Sounds like things at home with your mom are taking a toll on you. That has to be frustrating to feel like everything you are doing is wrong and to be yelled at so much. Here at NRS, we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.

    If you haven't already, you might try to let your mom know about how the yelling is affecting you, and what type of communication you would prefer. You mentioned that your scared of your mom, you might try to include a supportive adult in on the conversation if it is too difficult to talk to her alone. If your dad is in the picture, or any supportive family members or if you have a counselor you might include them in on the conversation as well. If it is possible for you or an adult to advocate to your mom for family therapy, it could help you all stop the toxic communication going on at home. We have those resources here if you would like to call or chat us. We also have a conference call service if you would like to have a mediated conversation with your mom to hash out issues at home.

    Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk in more detail or if you need any resources. 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.

    Good Luck,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm 13 years old and I live with my single mother, she's extremely controlling and micromanages me a lot. I'm also scared of her, she yells at me if I say something dumb and I don't like having conversations with her because they usually end up with her being angry at me. Even though I tell her that I can do things myself she always says that I'm wrong or that she does everything better anyway but she also yells at me for not doing anything to help her even though she's never taught me how to, which makes me really confused and annoyed. (It's to the point where she picks out my clothes for me and even washes my hair and brushes my teeth herself!) I couldn't imagine what my mother would do if she knew how I felt about her though. I heard her telling one of her friends over the phone that she thinks yelling is a good way to teach children and that if their scared then they listen.But I have no idea what to do about my situation.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for contacting NRS and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you with figuring out your next steps in this difficult situation. Asking for help was really responsible and smart of you. We are sorry to hear things are so unstable at home. You deserve to live somewhere that makes you feel safe and supported.

    There is an organization called Child Help which advocates for young people and helps find ways to have trusted adults intervene. Perhaps reaching out to talk more about the abuse at home and explore options such as making a child abuse report will provide you with support. You can contact them at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelphotline.org. Having a support system as you navigate this challenging time is really important. We encourage you to reach out to family members, friends, and a counselor at school to have a safe place to talk about the situation at home and build your support network.

    If you do decide that leaving is your best option, running away is not illegal and you would not face any legal consequences. In the event you leave home without permission your parents can report you as a runaway. Running away is a status offense which means your parents can have the police return you home if they know where you are staying. Runaway laws can vary by state and county. Some counties do not take runaway reports for someone who is close to turning 18. You can call the non-emergency line for your local police department to ask about their protocol and find out if you would be returned home.

    We are here 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again (1-800-786-2929; live chat at 1800runaway.org) if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation. We truly want to be a support for you while you decide on your next steps.

    We wish you the best and stay safe,
    NRS
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