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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi, thank you for reaching out to us, we are glad that you did. We are sorry that you are going through all of this. It sounds like a very hard situation with the relationship with your mom being so scary and confusing. You do not deserve to be yelled at all the time and kept away from people and relationships that you value. We are glad that your dad is back in your life and that he is supportive of you. And also that your stepsister can understand a little of what is happening to you.
    Thank you for trusting us to tell us that you are severely depressed and suicidal. The way your mother treats you adds to that because the negative things that she says makes the cycle hard to get out of. Our brains have a way of latching on the negative stuff making it hard to see the hope. But there is hope. You found us and we are here to listen and to help. We would like to communicate directly with you to talk this all over and to support you and to help you figure out what your options might be. And maybe we can help you find ways to feel stronger on the inside.
    We are disappointed that CPS didn’t speak with you so that you could tell your story. That wasn’t fair and that wasn’t right. We are here for you to listen and to help. We are here for you 24/7 and we very much want to help. For now https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/ might be something you can look into.
    We do hope that you will contact us either with a phone call or live chat so that we can support you and help you. You can reach us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-runaway) or with live chat through our website, 1800runaway.org Either way, we would be able to talk together to help you discover your options.

    We hope this helps
    NRS

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    I`m 13 and I live with my mother, stepdad and stepsister. Ever since 2 years ago when me and my mother moved away from my "childhood home" (we only lived there for 8 years because of my previous stepdad who lived there), me and my mothers relationship has only deteriorated and deteriorated more and more. It mostly started with the summer we moved. She yelled at me almost every single time I did something wrong, no matter how much I tried to apologize. It just ended with me getting so emotionally overwhelmed that I started crying and screaming back at her. This stopped for a few months only to start again in November later that year. We argued for the stupidest off things and my stepdad always got mad at me after and blamed me for the whole situation.

    Now I`m just scared that my mother will hurt me in more ways than emotionally, and she almost did once. She also tends to keep me away from things/people I love/care about (for example she didn`t let me see or talk for neither my dad or grandmother for almost 7 years) and I honestly don`t understand why she suddenly started to be this way and for 2 years now I`ve been anxious about going home after school in case she has something to scream at me about. And it doesn`t help I`m not mentally well from before and already have a mental illness that my mother refuses to care about and says it`s just behavioral issues and I should just do what I'm supposed to even if my mental illness prevents that for being easy. Because of my relationship with my mother, I`m now severely depressed and suicidal (I`m not just saying that I did get diagnosed by a professional). It doesn`t help either that I don`t have the best school-life either, so I really I don`t have any place where I get support.

    For now, I only get support from my stepsister (who also has bad experiences with my mom, though not at the same level as me) and my dad (who I finally got to see again, I also get a little support from a few of his friends and his girlfriend). I did once contact CPS and I did get her reported but that only ended with me getting yelled at for an hour by my mom and stepdad (they also yelled at me for saying "I can`t if our relationship doesn`t get better" when my mom asked me if I wanted to live with her). But my mom managed to shake off that report, so I never got to talk with them about my home situation.

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are in a really difficult situation being forced to live with your mom who has struggled with alcohol and been abusive towards your sister.

    Unfortunately, the easiest way to leave home at 16 or 17 is with parental permission. If you run to your friend's without permission a guardian can file you as a runaway with local police. If police find you, you could be returned home.

    It's really understandable that you are feeling this way as your mom's sounds like it could be unsafe. You do have the right to report any abuse in the household to Child Protective Services (CPS). If you need assistance reporting please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We also can look for runaway and homeless youth resources in your area if you need to get to a safe place. Please know that we are here for you 24/7.

    Best of luck,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’ll be 17 August 26. My dad is kicking me out for personal reasons but I don’t wanna go live with my mom cause she’s an alcoholic and in the past she’s put her hands on my sister. Is there anyway I could move in with a friend legally without being told I have to live with one of my parents

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thanks for reaching out to us here on our public forum. Hopefully by helping you or giving you the support that you need, there are other’s that are reading this thread and looking for answers can also be helped.

    Now we do offer a service that is basically a Conference Call where the parent/guardian, the youth, and us would be on the phone talking about what has been going on. This way there can be a mediator in between keeping things calm and productive. If you’d feel more comfortable with doing that, just know that it’s always available. It might be a great way to talk about what you are going through and where this feelings might be coming from or talking about where those feelings of being unwanted steam from. Something constructive so that it certainly opens the lines of communication, but that services is completely up to you.

    Only you know yourself when it’s time to leave home due to it being an unsafe situation and it sounds like you might some specific questions that you want to ask us or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. So please reach out to talk if you need some more support.

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    Guest replied
    Please help me, my parents are driving me crazy and I have a feeling that I’m not wanted or loved, like they don’t want me and it hurts badly I just want to leave

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im a 15 year old girl I have 2 sisters an older one and a twin sister and my mom they usually call me names like the town whore or something I suffer from a lot of stuff mental health issues and everything and I recently just got out of somewhere that I have trauma from I been off my meds and everything my mom usually when she has a bf always hits on me I know she sees it she just never says anything about it or she says I’m coming on to them which I’m not and my older sisters always beats on me and everything I had to go to the hospital and everything but my mom told them it was just a little fight but it wasn’t I had cuts and everything on me really bad that I called the police she didn’t my twin sister doesn’t talk much but she makes me feel bad about myself when we get into it by calling me names I just been trying to leave I don’t feel like this situation is getting any better it’s just getting worse as I get older I try to call cos and everything but they don’t see it in my eyes because it’s a nice house and everything and we look like we get along but we don’t and I don’t know what to do I can’t go anywhere she moved us somewhere because she hated the attention I was getting and she lets me know that I can’t be happy not while she’s unhappy and she verbally says it to me I don’t know what to do or who to call

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out! It takes a lot of strength to share your story and ask for the support you are not getting at home. Home is supposed to be somewhere you feel safe and taken care of and your dad is not doing that for you. It sounds like you have been trying your best in very difficult circumstances. We are glad to hear you have a friend you can stay with and you feel safe with them.
    Since you are still 17, your dad is still your legal guardian. This means that if you left without permission then he does have the right to file a runaway report. Running away is not illegal, but it means police might try to return you home if they know where you are. In some cases police will not pursue a runaway report for a 17 year old or try to force you back home. You can call your local police department’s non-emergency number to ask questions anonymously. If you call or chat us we can call out for you.

    It is totally understandable you would want to go somewhere you feel supported and take care since you are not able to feel safe at home. We are available 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929 and 1800runaway.org if you want to talk more about your situation.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    i’m 17 and i’m tired of staying with my dad. he’s a single parent but he’s also a substance abuser and he has been verbally and sometimes physically aggressive. random people come through our house often usually under the influence and in certain circumstances i have things stolen from my room and bathroom. he’s made me sign fraudulent checks before and is hardly ever home. i have no other family outside of him but i have a really close friend and he family is willing to let me stay with them even if it requires legal documentation. but at this point i don’t know what to do because i’ve called cps and they sent a wellness check and didn’t find anything.he hides all his stuff most of the time so they would probably need a warrant if they wanted to find any evidence of his drug abuse. i just really don’t feel safe at home and i’m fed up with the way i’m treated on a daily basis but i just don’t know what to do anymore. living there has cause me serious mental issues and when i’m there i’m a totally different person from when i’m out and free

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi, thank you for reaching out to us. We are glad that you did. Your situation sounds really stressful and hard. With your mom suffering from bipolar and ocd but being non-medicated, it is understandable that you feel unsafe and scared to be at home. You don’t deserve to live in an unsafe home, and having to walk on eggshells is a really hard way to grow up. We are very glad that you found us. You are and have been very brave and we are here to listen and to help you.

    One resource we can give based on the limited information we have is www.nationalsafeplace.org You’d need a cell phone (yours or maybe a friend’s) to see if there’s a Safe Place near you or to use their TXT 4 Help option. Either way, you would be connected with a local youth worker to talk with you about your options and situation.

    You can also reach out to us 24/7 either by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929), or by using our live chat platform through 1800runaway.org By talking together either of these ways we can help you find the options that you do have.
    We hope this helps and that we will hear from you soon.

    Sincerely, NRS

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    Guest replied
    im 16. my mom is mentally and verbally abusive and has been my whole life. im an only child. my mom has bipolar disorder and ocd and doesnt take any meds. its getting to the point i feel unsafe and scared to be at my own home. its like im walking on eggshells. i am desperate for help, but i dont want to have to live with her while achieving my help. but theres no way she would let me stay with anyone else if she had control over it . i have a phone hidden in my room for when she takes mine, and im using it now. i just want out of this mess without having to live under her roof while i get help, thats my only fear of reaching out.

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out.

    Sounds like you have really rough time at home with your mom, brother, and dad and you have been through so much. It's not okay that you have been through all of those incredibly hurtful acts. You so deserve to be treated with respect and basic human dignity.

    We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. If you haven't already, you might try to take pictures of your injuries and collect proof that home is extremely unsafe for you so that you have a strong case if CPS does investigate. If you call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we can be on the line with you while reporting the abuse to CPS if you want any assistance.

    It sounds like all that is going on at home has got you thinking about wanting to die. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 again for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk. You mentioned that you have been cutting to cope with everything at home, and it is clear that this is taking a huge toll on you. You can reach out to the suicide hotline or us if you would like to talk to someone about how you are feeling and what you are going through. These feelings you are having are significant and you so deserve to be supported during this difficult time.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe and stay strong,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    you ant help us not even i can help myself once my mo threw me ina dog cadge and sprayed me with cimials i just feel like no one is there no on cares but everyone watches an i just cut myself i told her and guess what she told me she told me to cut the crap no can help me she kicks me out of the house so i run but she has my brother c ase me and beat me and drag me back to the house and beat me more kick me punch me yell at me all me a whore slut ********** an im only 13 my brothers can hit me kick me punch me bite me and when i do it back guess who gets yelled at me i get yelled at an hit im tired one day i just hope to go to sleep and never wake up again i wanna die whats the difference with my father he calls me fat and you wanna know where hes at somewhere in a tent drunk im done im solution is to cut myself and bleed the pain out

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that things have deteriorated in your new home. What you’re going through sounds awful and incredibly stressful on top of being dangerous. It may be a good idea to consider the option of abuse reporting. Drugs in the home and armed robbery are not suitable conditions for a child or anyone to live in and could be considered neglect or abuse in some cases. If you are interested in the option of reporting or would like to learn more about it, please reach out to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org. We can also help you try to find youth shelters in your area that you may be able to stay at or talk to you about other options in terms of leaving. If you are interested in having that conversation, please call us on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Best,
    NRS
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