I Don't Feel Safe or Loved at Home Anymore

[Guest]

Hi I’m 17 I’m unhappy with living with my mom and her partner I don’t feel safe here and I don’t know where to go every one think he’s nice but he’s not he byes me think but he shouts and pushes me

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Hello there,

You mentioned that your moms boyfriend shouts and pushes you. You do have the right to report any abuse or neglect in the home. If you would like to know more about what that would look like or how you could possibly report, Child Help may be a helpful resource. Their website is childhelp.org and their hotline is 1800-422-4453.
Regarding you potentially leaving the home, at 17 you are still legally considered a minor. Due to being a minor, your legal guardian(s) or parent(s) are legally responsible for making some decisions for you, including where you live. The way that 17 year old runaways differs by state, even by county in some cases so we would encourage you to reach out to your local law enforcement and just ask hypothetically how they would handle this. If you would like help doing this, you can call us any time and we can either make that call for you or with you.
So, if you choose to leave home without consent and you are filed as a runaway, if you were to encounter authorities and it be discovered you are filed as a runaway you would be at risk of having to go back home if you are still at the age of a minor. However, running away or leaving your home as a minor is not illegal and there may be several resources for you if you decide that is the best option.


Please do not hesitate to call us if you would like to talk more and discuss alternative options of where you can stay. We also have chat available in evening hours. We’re here to support you.

[Guest]

so this is a long story and it has taken a long time to want to actually post this. so in the 4th or 5th grade my mother she was so nice once granted we did argue but not much, then out of nowhere she started saying "you will end up in jail." and another thing she would say " you are going to be nothing when you grow up". that's where this crazy story begins. She continued to do this till my 8th grade year because I switched schools and this is where my dad comes into the fold. my father never was around when I was younger so I didn't really know him and he didn't know me, but he would start to say " you have no friends and never will have them". that was the extent of where it was at before high school but where it is at now is so much worse then tiny insults. now I am in my junior year and my family has started being a lot worse. my parents blame everything that happens on me, they hit me not every day but they do hit me every so often, my father is always yelling about tiny chores that could have been done later or by him like today (11/15/1 he was yelling at me to do the dishes even though at work (11/11/1 I ended up hurting my ankle and I missed a day of school because I couldn't walk. but he today he took my phone and told me that I couldn't use my console to play my games for a week even though he knows I'm injured. but over the summer my mother was a lot worse then ever. during this summer I was trying to eat my first meal of the day ( I would give a date but because I don't have my phone I cant look at the picture of the slap mark that has the date on it) but she told me "give your sisters your food now" when she said that I looked at her and told her " this is my first meal can I please just eat in peace" she then proceeded to yell about me back talking and then slapped my face 4 times while my father watched on and did nothing. then I believe a week later my foster sibling was having one of her episodes (she has severe anxiety, moderate depression, and PTSD) my mother was making herself the victim and because of what all has happened I have gained really bad anxiety so I was froze in my chair stuck listening to all of what was happening. I have thought about running away and one day I had grabbed my phone, charger, a notebook, a pencil, colored pencils, and jacket and left the house. my friend convinced me to stay home but I wish I hadn't.

what should I do I seriously want out of this house and I know if I do get out of here I will do a lot better and my emotions shouldn't be out of whack. thank you for whatever response if any I get. have a good day or night.

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Hi there, thanks for contacting National Runway Safeline. The things you have experiences are terrible and must be so hard to go through. You do not deserve to be being treated so poorly. You are strong to have made it this far. Just to inform you, the things you are talking about here can be considered abuse. There are steps you can take to be protected such as reporting the things that are going on in the home. If you would like more information about what that would potentially look like you are able to use a resource called Child Help. They have a hotline you can call which is 1800-422-4453 as well as a website childhelp.org. If there is a family member or adult you trust, it may be beneficial to talk to them about some of the things going on as well. If you do not feel comfortable doing any of these things by yourself and want to, NRS can assist you with calling out here by doing a conference call with you. You should be supported, safe, and treated fairly. Your wellness and safety is important. If you have any questions or concerns, whether about this matter or in general, we are here to help. Feel free to give us a call at our 24/7 hotline 1800-RUNAWAY at any time. You can also chat with us at any time by visiting 1800runaway.org. Best of luck and hope to hear from you soon.

[Guest]

Im only 11, I ironically live in a family of 11 too. My aunt HATES me, and I mean HATE. Im like the hated child. More the the hated family member. We serve food from youngest to oldest, me, being the second oldest child, and the 7th oldest person in the family, I should get food the 4th. She HATES me so much, that I always get food LAST. My uncle is like, " Ammara, where is her food?" My aunt, ( Ammara, ) is always like,
" Oh, I didn't know she didn't have any!" EVERY SINGLE TIME she does that, I mutter faker. I live with her, so life is EXTREMELY HARD. Other times are like, she folds and does everybody's laundry, and then, she screams at me to do my own laundry. Other times are like, clean the dishwasher! And clean your room! While my other cousins are playing on their devices. AND I SHARE A ROOM! I've been caught trying to commit suicide.... She starts to scream at me how Im such a bad child, when all I do is listen to her.... I've even said to my mom that I want to move, she said no, then I said I want to die, she said please don't die. THE ONLY REASON I'M ALIVE IS BECAUSE OF MY MOM AND MY ONLY FRIEND. ALL MY OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS ARE BRATTY EXCEPT FOR MY GRANDFATHER AND GRANDMOTHER! THEY ALL HATE ME! My aunt always threatens to call the cops on me because I forgot to do my laundry.... in my mind, I'm wondering that what are you going to to say when you call them? I have a few " flaws " about me, and she hates me for it, shes just making it worse. I honestly want to die so bad! I haven't gone a day, for 4 years without crying. My mom was home worker until I was 7, I don't know why though. I grew up without a dad, he left when I was a few days old at home. He abused me, my mom, my mom got a divorce, but he didn't get arrested. Ever since then, all I did was cry, do HER chores, eat a little bit, and sleep. My cousins get called to the dinner table one by one, and then, when they are done eating, my aunt yells, " DON'T YOU WANT TO EAT BEGGAR?!?!" I end up crying every time, and she calls me a weak, cry baby. She has abused me, left a scar I will always remember from when I was 6. Shes always " nice " when my uncle or mom is around. If she only lived with me, she probably would've murdered me by now. My friends know about this, they are the only thing that keeps me going.... by now, i bawling my eyes out, I love you Lily, Cecilia, Jack, and Shelby. Your the best friends I could wish for. You've stuck with me, been there for me, and all I do is stand there..... not paying attention. I feel bad for you that I'm your friend..... I'm useless, broken.....suicidal. Im sorry if I might die by surprise, if people don't know my cause of death, it's either ALL that stress, or suicide. PLEASE HELP ME! I don't wanna call the cops, because I somehow still love her... I don't know how. My life is harder with 5 other cousins. The 3rd one makes me even angrier. She makes me wanna die even more... she makes me super angry, shes impossible to ignore because of her loud, annoying big mouth. Please, give me help. I can't live much longer with this life. I would like to thank this website for letting me spill my feelings, Thank you. I would like to thank this website for letting me spill my feelings, Thank you.

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Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline! It sounds like you are going through a lot at home and it takes a lot of bravery to talk about what has been going on. We can certainly talk about a few things and you’re always welcome to reach back out to us over our phone lines at 1-800-RUNAWAY or on our online chat system at 1800runaway.org.

We are very glad you reached out to us as it takes a lot of strength to share what has been happening at home with your family and aunt. You do not deserve to be treated as less by your aunt and it is not okay. It sounds like this has been going on for a while and has affected you as you shared you have felt suicidal. We do want to share the National Suicide Pretention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255/nationalsuicidepreventionlifeline.org) as they are always there for you 24/7 as well and are great to talk to when you do feel suicidal, but you do not have to be suicidal to call. Your safety is a top priority and we are also always here for you to talk to. If you do feel like you are unsafe with your aunt or yourself, you can always call 911 too. We truly care about you and you do not have to hesitate to call or chat with us as well if you feel comfortable.
We know you mentioned not wanting to involve the police but if you do want to think about reporting what is going on at home with your aunt, you do have the right to do so. . If you do want to explore filing an abuse report, we can talk about that. We aren’t here to define abuse, but you mentioned what your aunt has said and things have gotten physical before and if you want to explore making an abuse report or talking about Child Protective Services, Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great resource. They can answer any questions you have and help you look into reporting if that is something you want to pursue. We are also here too to talk about what it could mean to report and what it may look like, and since we are mandated reporters if you tell us identifying factors (your name, your brother’s name, your address, etc.) we would have to pass along what you told us to CPS on your behalf, but if those factors aren’t told to us we can talk confidentially as we are right now.
We are glad you have been able to reach out to friends and your mom as you said and they sound like a good support system for you during this. We are always here for you and you do not have to hesitate calling us or chatting us. We do care for you and your well-being and really hope to hear from you soon.

Best, NRS

[Guest]

Hi I’m 16 and I don’t feel safe at home not bc of physical issues but bc of the fact that I’m gay and my parents have zero tolerance for that and they emotionally put me down and it hurt I need help and I don’t know wht to do

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Hey there,

Thank you so for reaching out to us. We are sorry for what you are going through. You shouldn’t be treated that way and deserve to be respected for who you are.

There are many organizations out there that can help you. There’s the LGBT Hotline at 1.888/843.4564 (glbthotline.org), LGBT National Youth Talkline at 1.800/246.7743 and The Trevor Project at 1.866/488.7386 (thetrevorproject.org). Any of these are well set up to assist you.

Thanks again for posting in our forum. We realize how hard it is to reach out for help when you are dealing with difficult situations. If you would like to discuss your situation further with us feel free to call or use our chat line. We’re here to listen, here to help.

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Hello there,


Thank you so much for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have been going through a really hard time lately but we are so glad that you contacted us. We’re sorry to hear that your parents are not supportive of you being gay and emotionally putting you down where you don’t feel like you can continue living there. No one deserves to live in a negative environment where you are constantly degraded.

A great resource is The Trevor Project and they can be reached at 1-866-488-7386 or https://www.thetrevorproject.org/#sm...9v0928z8ak4d6l. Another great one is The LGBT National Youth Talkline and they can be reached at 1-800-246-7743. They have trained staff who have experience in dealing with situations such as yours who offer resources and support.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Your feelings matter.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 16 years old. I have 5 younger siblings that live with me. Ever since my older sister moved out my mom has started to act very violent towards me. She throws things at me and smacks me with a paddle everytime she gets mad. I clean up after her, her boyfriend, and all of my siblings. I’m starting to fail all my classes because I’m cleaning and never have enough time to study. I’ve been staying up until almost 3 am doing homework. She comes in my room and throws around everything. But I still have to clean it up. I’ve thought about suicide multiple times but I know I could never bring myself to do it. I’ve thought about if it’s legal for me to move out if I don’t feel safe and I don’t know if it is.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your mom’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 17 I've recently been yelled at threatened and abused my family lied to the cops and got me arrested.. I'm on bond I havw court in February but if I stay home they keep calling and threatening me... I don't feel safe or wanted.. I want to stay with a friend.. I onlt have to survive till januarry 22 with a friend then I leave to a 6 month program can this be made possible in any way please.. I don't think I Can last much longer at home they make me feel very suicidal I can't handle it at home and when I call the cops everyone In my family lies and goes against me and blames it on me.. I can't handle It here anymore.. my mom says she doesn't care and tells me to leave and go out on My own but then when curfew hits she lies and says she never said that and if I don't get home she will call the cops I need help please I just want to stay with my friend... they are willing to help me and let me stay can I do this pleaseplease help me I'm begging

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Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We understand you are having a difficult time at home and we are sorry to hear that. Our hope is to give you the resources to make a decision that is best for you. Please know that if you have been abused you can always contact Child Help (1-800-422-4453) or call out to Child Protective Services. These are organizations that can help you find help and get you to a safe place. As far as going somewhere else though we are not legal experts from what we gather because you are 17 you are technically not an adult and therefore your parents have the right to file a runaway report. What happens from there is if the police or your parents know where you are they come pick you up. The people housing you have a possibility of being charged with Harboring a Minor. Sometimes police don’t report youth who are 6 months away from being 18. However that is up to every station. It might be a good idea to reach out to them and see what they would do.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe

[Guest]

I don’t feel safe anymore I honestly want to die my dad blames me for things or yells at me for not doing something right and he threatened my mom once when they were fighting he told her that he was going to kill her I want to leave this place but I’m 15

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Hi, and thanks for reaching out. We’re sorry to learn about your situation at home, no one should be treated like that, or have their mom threatened like you have.

If you don’t feel safe, please know that at any point you can call 911 or contact Child Protective Services to report the situation. You could call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 and they can help provide you more information to file an abuse report. We are here 24/7 and would be happy to help you contact CPS together. It’s actually good also to have a plan in your mind in case things should get worse: like a place to go quickly if needed, or someone available to pick you up. It’s actually good also to have a plan in your mind in case things should get worse: like a place to go quickly if needed, or someone available to pick you up.


If you ever feel like you want to die you can call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Safeline at 1-800-273-TALK(8255). Your life is important and you are not alone we are here to support you through this hard time.

It can be hard to leave your house on your own in many cases. It can be helpful to think where you might stay and how you might pay for food, rent and other living expenses. We are not legal experts however speaking generally if you are to leave home without your parents permission, the police can bring you back home and whoever you are staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway and get in trouble with the law.This can be a lot to think about. You can call us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-786-2929 and we can listen to you, explore your options and provide any resources.

We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.
Stay strong! Best,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey... I’m 17 and I haven’t felt safe at home in a long time. Though now it’s gotten worse. Everyday I basically have a panic attack because I’m so terrified of my mom. I don’t know exactly why but she yells and almost basically says I’ll never be good enough. I’m terrified and I’m too chicken to run away, I’m too scared to just go OUT and I don’t have a car to just get away. I don’t know what to do and I’m scared of calling anyone cuz she keeps tabs on everything I do on my phone. I can call anyone I can’t text. I can’t do anything. I’m so scared and don’t feel safe at all... what do I do?

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Hello, thanks for contacting National Runaway Safeline. It seems that you are going through a very difficult time right now. It must be hard to have to experience panic attacks due to fear of your mother and the current relationship you have with her. It must be such a struggle to be afraid of your own mother and not feel safe at home. If you are feeling at risk of any harm due to all of this, you have all the right to report abuse. If you would like to have information about how to do that or even get some information to consider reporting, Child Help may be a beneficial organization to look into. They have a number 1800-422-4453 as well as a website which is childhelp.org and you are able to contact them about any concerns or the possibility of reporting abuse in your home. Just so you know, you can remain anonymous and do not have to report any identifying information unless you choose to. With all that you are experiencing, we would hope you are taking care of yourself and your wellness somehow. It may also be beneficial to consider communicating to an adult you trust, such as a counselor, family member or even a close friend about what you are feeling and experiencing. A helpful resource you could also use to speak with professionals who are very familiar with speaking with others who may be experiencing situations similar to yours are available at an organization called NAMI. NAMI has a hotline and that number is 1800-950-NAMI. They have a website as well, which is www.nami.org. We would be more than willing to help you with reaching out or answering any general questions. You have every right to do what makes you feel safe and secure. As always, we are here to assist and are available 24/7. Please, feel free to contact us at any time if you have any more questions or concerns by contacting out hotline 180-RUNAWAY or chatting with us live by visiting our website 1800runaway.org.

[Guest]

I just want to run away from my mum she makes me want to kill myself I need help

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are going through so much at home and it is making you want to kill yourself. Those feelings are significant and you deserve to make it through this difficult time alive.

It seems like you might be reaching out from the UK. If so, we don't want to misinform you with USA laws and options that might not apply to your situation. You might reach out to the Samaritans for help that is more local to you and better equipped to help: www.samaritans.org/ 116-123.

If you haven't already, you might try to let people like friends, extended family members, or trusted adults how you are feeling. When you are feeling like this, having contact with your support system can make a big difference.

Please reach out to local authorities if you feel like you are in immediate danger.

If we are mistaken and you are located in the U.S., our sincere apologies, please call or chat us so we can get a better idea of your situation and provide resources. You are never alone.

Best of luck,

NRS

[Guest]

Hi I'm 11 and I don't feel loved by my dad. The other day we were working on my math homework and I got stuck on a problem about fractions (I'm not the best at them yet) and he showed me a trick that was supposed to help me ( keep in mind he is an engineer ) he had to use the bathroom and told me to do it myself. This was more of an do this in your head thing then a pictures and graphs and stuff thing I've been trying to tell him that in your head things don't work for me as well as it does for him and other people. So I got confused my handwriting is not the best and my dad told me that my handwriting needs to get better I do agree with that but he said it like a You should have had this kinda writing in 3rd grade kinda tone when he said it. He also compares me to my younger 8 year old brother he said I need to be more like him by being more responsible. It hurts my feelings because all I've done is drop my phone a couple of times he says he paid $900 for it when he only paid about $500 to $600. He says that I don't deserve friends that I have I have been wanting to tell all of this to my school counselor but she has been really busy lately so I have not been able to. I've reached out to you before and I'm doing it again because I want to know what to do if things get worse.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Going to see your school counselor is a great idea, it’s unfortunate that she’s often unavailable. It might be worthwhile to see if there are any family or individual counseling agencies.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

i dont feel safe also i get all the blame and it wasent me and i also i am adopted and my dad is never home my mom whent to jail and then i had to go live with my dad he leves me all the time to go to his g frinds house to go with his real son and i cant do anything about it so i feel like killing myself he blames all the gross messes on me all the time i dint do it there are no rules for my 3 sis but for me there is every thing and i feel your pain i dont get loved i dont get nothing somtims i dont even have food i have to askl my dad tio bring me food shopping thatg is relly bad i want to run away so bad i cant even put my voice out to my dad or he says shut the f up all the time i am going to call dcf today to get the hell out of here and i told my granma if you could do anything but she said she is tring but i am done i want to kill myself i am going to get out of here today and i have a step mom that always rude they dont live with us thatk god but my dad choses us over them so i am going to get out of there if someone is fleeing this pain also i am so sorry you have to feel it and i am leving today if i where you guys pack your stuff and levee now soory about the spelling

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
It sounds like you are already aware of the rights to have to contact CPS. So on top of making a report with CPS you can try getting a hold of a youth shelter to see if they have space for you and would they have to tell your parents where you are. If not you are more than welcome to give us a call and we can help you come up with a safety plan.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I’m 15 years old and I don't feel wanted or safe at home. I've been through the foster care system for 5 years and still was place in a messed up home afterwards. I just recently left my mom house to stay with my dad but now that I stay with him he constantly yells at me and pretends like he’s going to hit me. Today he yelled and threw my things when I asked for a math tutor. He told me that I’m just stupid and that it'll be a waste of money to get a tutor for me. He told me that my opinion was invalid and that he doesn't care about me at all. When I was in the hospital for a kidney problem he made a bet with my mom saying that he would be the better parent of the two when in reality they're both terrible. I was already depressed before staying with my dad but now it just gotten worse and so has my anxiety so now I can’t fully commit to committing suicide. And yes I have considered running away but grown men literally follow me around for 5 minutes at a time and will sometimes approach me so if I do run away I would get picked up by sex traffickers or by rapists.

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Reply: Hi I’m 15 years old and I don't feel...


Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. We understand that you are feeling depressed and frustrated by the situation you are in. Living with parent’s that are not very supportive is unfair to you. You are not to blame for their behavior.

It sounds like because of what has been going on you have had some thoughts of suicide. It might not feel like it now but with the strength you have demonstrated through all of this says something about your will to live. You have the right to want a better life.

Remember to exercise self- care. Talking with someone like a counselor or even a friend might be a way of venting your frustrations. You made a good choice by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. NRS is here to listen and here to help.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are feeling depressed or having thoughts of suicide we encourage you to reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline- 1-800-273-8255
You are your best advocate and you are doing a great job of looking out for your wellbeing.

Stay safe and take care,
NRS

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[Guest]

my mom always screams at me and i cry daily. she constantly makes me feel like i’m not worth anything. she buys me stuff just so she can be the good guy through money. she ripped apart my entire room and through it on my floor just so i would have to clean it up. she’s toxic and mentally abusive and i just want to get out of here. i don’t see my dad but i want to move in with my grandma. please just help me i can’t stand this anymore

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and we are glad that you decided to contact us.

We are sorry to hear that you are going through so much stress. You don't deserve to treated like that or hurt in any way. You can call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 and they can help provide you more info on filing an abuse report. Family counseling can be helpful in many situations. You can contact the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) for help locating local resources by calling 1-877-726-4727 or going to their website at www.samhsa.gov.

Leaving home can be hard and it can be helpful to think about where you might stay, pay for rent, food and other living expenses. We are not legal experts however if you are to leave home without your parents permission the police can bring you back home and whoever you are staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway.

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All the best,
NRS

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My mom and I have never gotten along. She yells at me and hits me if I forget to do the dishes or clean the house or cook dinner. I almost feel like I've had to practically raise my sister myself because all my mom does is watch Netflix, busy herself with her sorority, sit on her phone or just complain. When I'm swamped with homework and I tell her that she gives me a list of chores that need to be finished before 7 pm (even if I get home from tutoring well after 6.) She calls me a spoiled brat if I ask to finish my homework first; then turns around the next day- when I'm stressed out about schoolwork- and says that I'll never get to college with my work ethic. I've asked to go live with my dad before so she throws my mattress out on the lawn (rain or shine) and throws a bunch of my stuff out there too. She puts them in her car and drives me all the way across town only for my dad to tell us to work it out. She's gone through my diary and my phone like they belong to her; I ask for her to please respect my privacy and she calls me entitled. She's dug her nails into my chest before as well. I've contemplated suicide and I've told her; she never believes me. She's very up and down: one moment we'll be having a fun day at Disneyland and then the next day she'd be calling me an ungrateful slut. I'm 17, I have a half sister who's 3 and I worry that my mom will treat her the same way. I'm afraid to run away, but I'm also afraid to stay. I don't know what to do and I'm afraid to call CPS. Other options?