I Don't Feel Safe or Loved at Home Anymore

[Guest]

I feel unsafe I am 19 and I want to run away. My mom threatened to throw me out. To throw glass at me if I didn’t leave. Not caring if I ended up in the hospital. Even in my room I feel unsafe. My older sister at home doesn’t do anything at home i do everything and still get yelled at. They do everything for her and treat me like crap. I need help!

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Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out to NRS. We understand it takes courage to explain what you’re going through, we hope that our services will be helpful.

From what you explained, home life sounds really scary and stressful. You never deserve to be threatened or feel unsafe at home. You shouldn’t be treated any different than your sister. You mentioned that you’re 19, which is a good thing, since you’re considered an adult in the eyes of the law. That being said, if you have any friends or family you’re able to live with, that is your right. We can also look up shelters and Transitional Living Programs in your area, if you’re able to call into our safeline. We are here to brainstorm options with you.

You’re not alone in this, we’re here help in any way we can. You deserve to live in a home where you’re respected and feel safe. Our hotline is open 24/7, we also have a chat service via our website.

Hope to hear from you soon.

Best, NRS

[Guest]

I'm 14 and in need of desperate help. I've been very depressed recently and my parents and "friends" only make all matters worse. I can't take the abuse anymore, after months and months of verbal abuse, with the occasional slap/punch-till-I-bleed, a few hours ago my father slapped the back of my head with something, and I fell the the floor, leaving me winded, to put the cherry on top, he threatened to whip me with a metal cord. I'm now feeling dizzy, nauseous and I'm writing this very slowly, as I cant see the letters well. I want out, I did nothing wrong, I want to run away, but I don't know where to go, and I honestly don't have the balls to. But I need to get out of here.

[ccsmod2]

Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We are very sorry to hear that you are being abused at home. You don't deserve to be treated that way, abuse is never okay. You do have the right to report the abuse. If you would like more information on abuse reporting or how to transfer custody, Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great resource. If you feel as though you are in immediate danger, we encourage you to contact 911. You could try contacting a family member or friend and asking them if they would let you stay with them.

If you decide to runaway, your parents have the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home. If you would like resources or just need to talk, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), or email.

[Guest]

I´m 12 almost 13 year old girl. i dont feal safe or loved at my home i was adopted when i was 2 and been in this house since i was a baby and they always yell at me for something stupid . my parents just love my older brother but when i am, around they ignore me like i dont exist. they make cry and i am told to shut up if i screm for attention and they cant shut it out. I live in my room

[ccsmod5]

Hi,
Thank you for writing in. It sounds like the way your parents treat you is really hurtful and unfair. You deserve to feel safe, supported, and loved at home and it’s not okay that your parents make you feel like you don’t exist. You might consider talking to your parents about how their actions make you feel if you haven’t done that already. It might be helpful to have another adult around who can advocate for you and keep the conversation calm and fair. This person might be a therapist, guidance counselor, or a family friend you trust. We offer a conference call service here, as well, and one of our liners would be happy to help facilitate a conversation with your parents, as well. Thank you again for writing in. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help and you must be a strong person to deal with everything at home. If you ever need to talk or need help figuring out your options, please feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929. Best of luck.

[Guest]

I am not happy in my house or with my family anymore. I already go to counseling and take antidepressants. I am only 15 but the feelings of not being loved and not being enough are overwhelming. My mother yells and takes her anger out on not only me but my 2 siblings as well. My father is verbally abusive towards my mother and us. I feel like I would be happier living with another family member, do you think that is possible? I mean i'm not happy at home and i've been on the brink of selfharming all over again

[ccsmod5]

Hi,
Thank you so much for writing in. It sounds like you’re going through an incredibly difficult situation with your family and it’s not fair for your family to treat you this way. You absolutely deserve to feel loved and please know that you are enough. Your thoughts and feelings matter. You matter.
You mentioned that you’ve been on the brink of self-harming. If you ever feel like you are in immediate danger of harming yourself, you can always call 9-1-1. Another resource you might use is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255. Another resource that you might find helpful is twloha.com, which can be a helpful resource for people who self-harm. Your counselor can also be a resource to you and may be able to help you develop a plan going forward for when you feel the urge to self-harm.
You mentioned that your father is verbally abusive. One option might be filing an abuse report. For more information on what that looks like, you can call Child Help, as they have expertise on abuse reporting and the possible outcomes.
You asked about staying with someone else. It is possible to do this if you’re able to get your parents’ consent. If you are able to get consent, then there should no issue legally (though we’re not legal experts at all). If you leave home without permission, your family would have the right to file a runaway report. If the police are able to locate you, they would return you home. In that case, you can let them know what’s going on at home, though there is the possibility that they would still return you to your parents.
If you’d like to talk about the situation more specifically, please feel free to reach out to us any time at 1-800-786-2929. Best of luck.

[Guest]

I am 13 almost 14 and I don't feel loved anymore. I don't want to go to school anymore because I dont have many clothes. I have 3 pairs of pants that I can wear to school and about 2-4 shirts. I have a cheap dollar store pair of knock off converse. I have a panic attack every morning, because I'm terrified of being judged for wearing the same thing to school more than once a week. My family doesn't have the money to buy many things, but I do. I had a ride and money to go to the mall to buy myself some new clothes with my cousin and friend. My mom told me to figure out the plan, so I did, but then my brother wanted to go, but we only had seats available, so he couldn't. Then he told my mom that I tried bribing him not to go, so I couldn't go. Then, when we got in an argument, and in anger I through me phone on her carpeted bedroom floor, she picked it up and said " you better hope this isn't broken so I can sell it" After she looked at my phone, which wasn't broken, she chased me up the stairs grabbed me by my hair, screamed in my face, hit me multiple times and when I went up to grab her hand with mine so she'd stop hitting me, she got her hand out she punched my in the nose/mouth and gave me a minor bloody nose. She claims that it was in self defense, but she had her hand free, I was laying on my hallway floor, and not hitting back. She then pushed me into my bedroom, which isn't clean at the moment, and told me to clean it spotless. This is just one of the many occasions. I'm currently writing this on my school IPad because I have no other way. She also claims that i don't want to go to school because I'm lazy and don't want to get out of bed. I have about 20-30 absent days because I don't want to go to school because I don't want to be judged. My brother who is 12, goes to school almost everyday, and has F's in every class, and I know because I've looked. I barely go and I have a C+ GPA. She only yells at me about school, while if I bring up the point that my grades are better, she claims that she only cares about grades in the long run, and I made B honor roll last quarter, while he had Ds. She acts like she cares, I have a really bad bone alignment that causes me to have to go to physical therapy and chiropractors appointments a lot. She claims that she pays a lot of money, but the insurances pays most, and recently she hasn't even been bringing me to them. I have an overbite, crowded teeth and a very large snaggle tooth that tears into my lip sometimes. She claims that she's trying to get me into the dentist, but she isn't. She won't get me an orthodontist appointment to get me braces and I'm in 8th grade, just because she doesn't want to pay for it. I have ADHD, ADD, ODD, depression, and anxiety, but she claims that at all of the appointments she scheduled, I'm just faking for attention. I have huge problems sleeping, but she blamed it on electronics, which I don't even use at night. Her only focus is leaving my stepdad. She also always critiques me because I am slightly overweight. She says that I should use her diet plan and eat healthy, which I do, but she always criticizes me if I have a single unhealthy snack. Every time, I clean my room, she always tells me took put all the clothes i don't wear in a basket, but then she tells me to bring them back to my room, so it appears as though I have enough clothes. She criticizes me, my stepdad does and so does my brother. They only care about my 4 year old brother. Me and my 2 brothers have different dads, and my dad happens to smoke weed. During the summer me and 2 friends made the stupid decision to spray paint a building, and ever since then, everything I do, even not going to school, she claims is making me become my father, and she knows I hate when she says that so she says it more and more. She has bought me 1 pair of shoes in 3 years but she buys my brothers them all the time. She always buy them clothes, but when I want to buy myself some, cause she doesn't, she won't allow me too. I have been trying to go to the mall since Christmas. I have scars from where she dug her nails into my arms. I just don't know why she hates me so much.

[ccsmod5]

Hi,
Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’ve been holding onto a lot of hurt and frustration for a long time. It must be really frustrating to feel like your mother has treated you differently than your siblings and it’s not okay that she doesn’t take your mental health concerns seriously. It’s never okay for your mom to hit you or hurt you, and you never deserve to be treated that way.
One option you might consider is making an abuse report to child protective services. We’re not legal experts, but generally speaking if your mother has harmed you or is not providing you with things that you need, this can be considered abuse. You can report this information to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. Another option would be to confide in your teachers or guidance counselor about what’s going on, as they are mandated reporters and are legally obligated to report any abuse they hear about. You mentioned that you have scars from where your mom has dug her nails into your arms; this may be helpful if you decide to make an abuse report.
It must be really difficult to feel like your mother hates you or isn’t providing you with things you need. An option you might consider is asking a therapist, guidance counselor, or another adult you trust to help you have a conversation about what you need from her and how her words and actions make you feel. You absolutely deserve to feel safe and loved in your own home. Here at NRS, we also offer a conference call service where one of our liners can facilitate a conversation with your mom and advocate on your behalf.
It sounds like you’re nervous that people at school will judge you for your clothes or the way you look, and it sounds like your mother’s comments about your weight are also very hurtful. We want you to know that you are great just as you are. You sound like a strong person to go through what you’ve gone through and we’re sure that strength comes through in your interactions with others. You are worthy of love, friendship, and support.
If you ever need someone to listen or talk, please feel free to reach out to us 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929. We’re always here to listen and to help. Best of luck to you.

[Guest]

Hello, my friend is currently going through a tough time at her house. She says she doesn't feel safe anymore and talks about wanting to harm herself. She just turned 18 but we are in our last year of high school. How can I help her??

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We are very sorry to hear that you friend doesn't feel safe at home. You mentioned that your friend has thought about harming herself, talking to someone could help with how she feels. The National Suicide Hotline (1-800-273-8255) and To Write Love on Her Arms (twloha.com) are great resources that she could contact for help. Since she is 18, she has the right to leave home without her family's permission,if her family tries to stop her from leaving she could contact the police. She could try living with another family member or close friend. We could also look into local resources such as transitional housing or youth shelters. We encourage you to give your friend our contact information. We can be best reached via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

[Guest]

Hi I'm 17 years old and I can't no longer live with my parents anymore I want to leave the house and not come back. I have a job and I'll still go to school and I want to live with my boyfriend because for me he feels like home for me and my parents only care about my siblings more than me. So what can I do can I just leave or can I do something because I don't want to live in there house anymore.

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Hey there,
Thank you so much for reaching out to us today. It sounds like you are not being appreciated enough at home. We are really sorry to hear this, but it is fortunate that you have your boyfriend and a job to support yourself.
It seems as though you have given some major thought to leaving home. Running away can be complicated, and the steps you need to take depend on your unique situation and where you live. It would be an easier process if you could get your parents’ permission to move out by explaining your point of view, although we know this is not always possible. In general, running away without permission is considered a status offense; in most areas, you will not be committing a crime, but your parents can choose to file a runaway report, which means if the police find you, they can bring you home and press charges against the person that took you in (like your boyfriend or his family). Of course, this depends your parent’s response and the local police.
We hope this clears things up a little. You can always give our hotline a call to talk through your situation further and explore your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and we are here 24/7. Thanks again for getting in touch with us through email. We are here to listen and help in any way we can.

[Guest]

I am 16 years old. My mom has severe bipolar. She has always been responsible when it comes to taking her medication. Recently, she came off of it and says that only natural yoga and spiritualness can help her and that she refuses to take any medication. She will not go to a hospital because of her past experiences and she is extremely unstable. i have never seen her like this. It is like I don't even know her anymore. She is full of rage, she pushes our family away when we are only trying to help her, she is hypocritical, rude, arrogant and mistreats anyone who tries to help her. We currently live with my grandmother, who is stressed and has started smoking again because of her. I do not feel safe around her seeing as she constantly talks down to me and pretends nothing ever happened. I cannot lash out at her or around my grandmother because my mom is the main concern. I don't want to worry anyone with what I am going through but, I don't know how much longer I can go without breaking. This is causing me not to sleep, eat and I am loosing focus in school which gives me anxiety because I have always been a conscientious student. This is the most infuriating thing I have ever had to deal with and I just want to leave my house and never come back. It is breaking me because I always need to help others but, the only person who can help my mom is herself and she refuses to do so because she is so thickheaded. I am lost, confused, anxious and alone. I need help. I don't know what to do.

[ccsmod10]

Hello!

Thank you very much for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a very difficult family situation and you are defiantly not the first person we have worked with similar circumstances. Often times the first thing people try in your situation is to talk to the other members of the family to see how they are feeling about the situation and how they are handling it. It is important to remember that your grandmother likely feels the same way about it as you do. Other things people have tried in similar situations is to talk to people that they rely on such, as a faithful friend, friendly family member, trustworthy teacher or school consular. These people can help work through your personal issues and help find alternative ways you can support yourself. Alternatively if none of these things seem appealing to you or if you have tried these already, please feel to reach us anytime at our 24/7 toll free confidential hotline at 1-800-786-2929. We can help brainstorm solutions or provide an outlet to discuss your situation in a non-judgemental and supportive environment.

In times of great stress, it is important that you are taking good care of yourself, which we term “self-care.” People have sometimes found that doing something fun, like seeing your friends, playing video games, working on a creative project or exercising. Basically anything to help you keep your mind off of the stressful situation at home. Alternatively you can try to find someone professional, such as a consular to talk to, however often times these services are not free and may require parental consent. These individuals are helpful because they can help personalize solutions to you and your situation.
Similarly, you might consider bringing up family consoling with your grandmother to see if you want to work out solutions with the various stakeholders, like your mother and grandmother, involved. If you need help discussing this issue or locating services in your area, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-786-2929.

If you do decide to run away from home we think that it might be useful to know that all states have a specific age at which you can be legally considered an adult. Once you are at this age, you can legally run away from home and your parents will not force you to return home. For most states, this age is 18, however it can vary from state to state. Sexetc (https://sexetc.org/action-center/sex-in-the-states/) is an amazing website that contains a lot of helpful information. To see the age that you would legally be considered in adult, find your state, look for the age of minority, then add one to your age. If you are this age or older you are legally considered an adult.

When someone who is legally considered a youth runs away from home one thing that can happen is that your parents or legal guardian can file a runaway report. If a runaway report is filed and you are contacted by the police they might return you back home, though we are not legal experts and each situation is unique. It should be noted that running away is a status offense which means that you will not go to jail and it will not stay on your record. Additionally, if you do leave home and are caught staying with someone, say at your best friend’s house, they can be charged with harpooning a runaway, which is a crime. If you are determined to run away, we encourage you to reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929 before you do so that we ca help you brainstorm a plan that will best benefit you while keeping you safe from harm

Once again, thank you for reaching out to us. We understand that you are in an extremely difficult situation, however you are not alone. Please reach out to us at any time on our confidential toll free, 24/7 hotline if you have any questions. We wish you the best.

[Guest]

My mom threatened me with a gun today and told me that i better be packed and ready to leave i dont feel save in my house. Am i aloud to go to my friends house for a few days without gettig in trouble

[ccsmod0]

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being threatened. While we are not legal experts so we cannot say for certain what would happen if you left home. It is possible that if you do leave without permission that your mother will have the right to report you as a runaway.
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I am 15 years old and I don't feel safe at home and I feel more safe at my friends house. when I told my mom that I don't feel safe or happy she blew up on me. she threatened to kill herself. I am too terrified to go home. I tried to be happy but I can't. my mom scares me. I feel safer at my friends house. what do I do? please help.

[ccsmod8]

Hello there –

Thank you for getting into contact with us here at the National Runaway Safeline on our public forum, we are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. Hopefully by supporting you there are other that are reading through this thread that can relate can feel helped as well.

Since you stated that your mother has threated hurting herself because you told her that you were unhappy being there. That is a very serious thing to be thinking or manipulate someone with. If she is ever close to hurting herself like you said you can call out to the police for some direct services, they can come by and check up on you and make sure that everything is okay. You shouldn't be afraid to tell other people what you are thinking about doing especially if you know someone that might hurting themselves. You are certainly not alone in this and there are many many people that are here to help you. A good resource might be to call the ‘National Suicide Hotline’ for someone to talk about what your mother has been telling you. Their number is 800.273.TALK. They also have an online chat service that might be of help to you especially if you don’t feel like calling in (https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/).

Because we do get a large number of emails and forum post, we do have to limit email replies to three individual responses to answer any questions that you have or to provide you with a number of means of support. So it’s certainly not a means to communicate to get the full support that you can get if you called in. According to our records you have found other means of reaching out to us via both public forum and online chat services. So at this point we can no longer reply to your messages and the best way to tell us everything would be to just call into our 24 hour hotline and talk to one of our trained liners.

Best of luck and we hope to hear from you soon!

[Guest]

with my dad in 3 weeks hopefully... I am 13 and I don't feel safe at home anymore...I'm scared to be there. My stepdad abuses me and my brothers... and this morning my mom grabbed my arm and pinned me against the wall... she popped a few blood vessels in my arm... She has called me a hoe and a b****. She has told me i'm not good enough and that I need to be more like this person and that person when, i'm trying so hard to be me and to do my best but, she's making it hard. She tells me my real dad is worthless and he doesn't do anything for me and that he is a bad father.but he isn't because he supports me and understands me and he does give me food and everything... I went to the police already and idk if they are gonna do anything or not since, i'm moving to my dad's in hopefully 3 weeks. I just feel like i'm wothless and not good enough and idk what to do because i just want it all to stop... I just want to be away from that house... I have runaway once but, my mom has me on lockdown now because i want to move with my dad and because I ran away... Idk what to do

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Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We sincerely hope that you are staying safe in this very difficult time in your life. You should know that no one ever deserves to be hurt by people that they love! If you are ever in any immediate danger or such incidents become worse, please dial 911 immediately. If you ever feel the need to chat with someone about the way you feel, please feel free to reach out to us at our 24/7 toll free confidential hotline at 1-800-786-2929.

It sounds like you have made a good first step by contacting the police. Sadly, the police can often be slow to investigation because they often delegate the responsibilities of investigating such claims to agencies like child protective services. One thing others have tried is to contact child protective services (CPS) directly. The number can be found by either looking up your states CPS online or you can call us directly at 1-800-786-2929 and we can help facilitate a call for you. If you have any marks, bruises, or scars these can be used as evidence to help prove anything you claim. As hard as it might be, take pictures, if possible to help prove your case.

Other things people have tried in similar situations is to talk to people that they rely on such, as a faithful friend, friendly family member, trustworthy teacher, priest or school consular. These people can help work through your personal issues and help find alternative ways you can support yourself. Alternatively if none of these things seem appealing to you or if you have tried these already, please feel to reach us anytime at our 24/7 toll free confidential hotline at 1-800-786-2929. We can help brainstorm solutions or provide an outlet to discuss your situation in a non-judgmental and supportive environment.

Since you are moving home so soon, it is important to realize that unless you runaway you might be forced to make the hard choice to put up with what is going on at home. Though this is incredibly difficult, people have often found that they can limit their exposure by staying away from home. This can mean staying extra after school, spending extra time at friends, or sleeping over whenever you can.

We know you are in a difficult situation. We wish you the best in resolving your family problems. Once again please feel free to contact us at 1-800-786-2929.

[Guest]

My mother is an alcoholic and my father is hopelessly in love with the person she use to be that he misses who she has become. She is aggressive and tries to attack my sister and I physically and emotionally. It had come to the point that I am to afraid to leave for college and start my life until my sister graduates high school. I just turned 19 and went away for the weekend to celebrate. While I was out of town i got several calls from the house phone with my sister balling her eyes out begging me to come home. I knew my mom was crazy but i didn't realize how much until i got home and my sister told me what had happened. My mother got mad at my sister for making plans to go to the beach with some friends, who I know and are safe smart kids. My mom was so mad she took my sisters phone away and forced my sister to get in the car. She drove my sister to my grandmothers house without telling my dad. When they went inside my sister tried to grab the house phone to call my dad and tell him where she was but my mother grabbed the phone out of her hand and slapped my sister across the face. After my grandma came out of her room and took her shoe off and continued to threaten my sister that she would beat her to death and that she didn't care if she went to jail for it, after she flicked my sister off and walked to her room. My sister was freaking out and tried to make a run for it, when she reached the door my mother grabbed her by her bra strap and dragged her across the floor then sat her at the kitchen table. My mother and grandma then pursued to belittle my sister. My dad eventually showed up after knowing a missed call from my grandmothers house wasn't a good sign. He put my sister in his car and then fought with my mother for a few minutes. When he got in the car he attacked my sister on how she is a bad kid and never does anything right. My sister is so depressed she doesn't leave the house except for school, she has lost her motivation to complete homework as well. My sister has given up and pretending at this point, she doesn't care and confessed to every lie she has told my parents in the past couple months. When they all get home my parents are fighting and don't stop. One day later i come home and everything seems fine but it usually does after a big fight. My dad is still convinced they can fix their problems but If he stays with her i can not leave knowing my sister is in this house. This occurrence is nothing special a similar event happened to me on Christmas day. I need to leave but there is no way i will without my sister.

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Hello,
Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your home has become a toxic environment for you and your sister. It must be difficult to have to hear about the way she is being treated and not being able to stop it. You mentioned that your mother often has times where her behavior is erratic and she becomes a danger to your sister. We want you to know that your sister does not deserve to be treated that way and if she feels like her safety is in danger she has every right to remove herself from harm. We want you to know that you do have the right to make a report with Child Protective Services. Child Help USA is an information and referral line that can connect you with your local CPS abuse hotline. That number is 1-800-422-4453. If you ever felt like making a report or needed help, we are here to assist with that. We understand that making an abuse report can be intimidating so if you like we can call together to provide support.
Additionally, since you mentioned that your mother is an alcoholic it might be helpful to have some support living with her. We know that you cannot change the way your mother behaves but we can help you get skills that can make life more comfortable. https://al-anon.org/ is a site that can help you navigate what you are experiencing. Al-Anon Family Groups have one focus: to help families and friends of alcoholics. The discussion at meetings and our literature support members’ recovery from the effects of someone else’s drinking. Individuals concerned about a relative or friend’s drinking and use of drugs can attend Al-Anon meeting for problems related to the alcoholic’s drinking.
It is understandable that you would not want to leave your sister there without you. Is there somewhere that you two can go where you will feel safe like a friend or family member? If you ever need a safe place to go, we also can provide you with various resources for agencies in whatever area you are in, to best help during this difficult time. We do not want to leave you without options because your safety is our number one priority. You can always call us to talk about what you are going through and receive some support. We provide free, confidential, and nonjudgmental services. Everyone deserves to be respected and loved. If you would like to give us, a call and we can further discuss your options you are more than welcome to give us a call anytime. 1-800-786-2929 we want you to know that you are not alone. There are people that care and want to help you.
Best wishes,
NRS

[Guest]

So i was watching porn with no intent to masturbate but to make a meme. Yeah I know that was stupid, but my mom got a glimpse at my phone and asked what i was watching. I locked my phone and she told me to open it so i showed her, warning her it was probably something she didn't want to see. She saw and got extremely angry. Yelling at me, saying she couldn't even look at me, she hit me and sent me to my room. She said I wasn't going to have a phone anymore, I couldn't close my door anymore, I was going to sleep early, she was going to cut the internet, she wasn't going to drive me to school anymore, and that she was going to take me to church and personally speak with a priest with me because I needed to stop and leave that bad stuff to bad people. That wasn't even the end of it. She also asked if my friends did the same and showed that stuff to me, and I said that I didn't know. Obviously it's normal for people my age to do so, but I didn't want to argue or have her keep me from talking to my friends or something. She also said she was going to cut my bank account off to prevent me from buying more, even though I told her I have never done that and would never do that. She said that that sort of thing is a sin(which I actually looked into, it's not) and she expected more from me. She said I had to look up to my older siblings(as if they don't do that either), and that I came from a good family. She asked if her and my dad set a bad example, and even though I hear them have sex through the wall every night, which scars the hell out of me, I said no. I want to talk with my siblings and maybe they can have some input with my parents, but none of them live with my parents and I anymore, and of course I have no way to contact them now. When my mom and I had our episode, my sister was visiting, and when I was in my room she brought me food and said next time I have to be careful with my "crap" in a disappointing tone. I just don't feel wanted or loved anymore. My mom avoids me and I avoid her. If she simply talked about it with me, it would be a different story, but the consequences seem very harsh. I know I didn't do anything wrong really, but I feel like a disappointment. There’s a lot of things my parents don’t know about me, which I am afraid to tell them and never plan to in order for them to avoid being mad. By the way, I am a 15 year old boy with 2 older brothers and 2 older sisters, with a Hispanic ethnic background. I live alone with my mom who's home all day, and my dad who comes home from work at night. My parents are fairly religious. I attend catholic confirmation every week. Even though I am personally atheist and have been for several years. Nobody in my family knows except for my older sister.

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Hey,
Thanks for writing in. It sounds like you’re in an unfortunate situation with your mom and it makes sense that you would be upset about how your mom is treating you. You sound like you’re pretty self-aware and so you know that you didn’t really do anything wrong, which is great. It sounds like your mom’s reaction is disproportionate for the situation, so please do know that you’re not a disappointment and that generally speaking you’re doing things that are pretty normal for someone your age. Even though it seems like your mom is avoiding you, it might be an option to just have a conversation with her to clear the air. You might consider asking someone else to be there while you have that conversation, like a guidance counselor or one of your older siblings. You mentioned that you’re having a hard time getting in contact with them—you might consider asking to borrow a friend’s phone to call one of your siblings or message them on social media while you’re in school. Here at NRS, we also offer a conference call service and can help you have that conversation, as well. Another option might be to just write your mom a letter letting her know what you’ve been thinking. Even if she doesn’t respond, it may help to just clear the air. In the meantime, it can be helpful to talk to someone about how you’ve been feeling. You deserve to be supported, even if that support doesn’t end up coming from your family. If you ever wanna talk, feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929. Best of luck.

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I don't feel safe at home. My mom is too sick to protect me from my abusive father. She is also too blinded by loving him that she can't leave him to protect me. I'm 17 years old and stuck in an abusive home. I need help.

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been going through such a tough time, but we are here to support you and help you in any way we can. We want you to know that no one deserves to be abused, and you should not have to go through that.

If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you’ve been experiencing. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or you could call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

If you haven’t already, you could consider reaching out to a trusted adult, relative, worker/teacher/counselor at your school for help and support. If you haven’t, you could also consider talking to your parents about how you’ve been feeling or have someone else help you talk with them.

There are also many resources that could help you find a safe place if you’re in need, talk about what you’ve been going through, or get help you with anything else you may need. If you want to talk more about what’s been going on, or if you would like more information about resources, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.

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I'm 13 and I wanna runaway to my grandma house! My parents attack me every chance they get. My mom abuses me and threatens me and make me feel worthless and I HATE HER. And my dad makes it worse by being a hype man. And my mom spit on me and I just really hate her. I wanna runaway sooooo bad please help!