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  • Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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    • Hi I’m 11 years old and I feel so scared, worried, and not safe in my own home. My mom fights a lot with my dad, yet I feel my mom is the issue as she always starts the fights. It is usually linked to my middle sibling, as he is a hassle. And any anger or aggression my mom has is usually taken out on me. Not physically, yet mentally and emotionally, and it really crippled my mentality. And when I do something wrong or make a mistake like spilling water I get screamed at. And my dad doesn’t really do anything around the house so I get why my mom is mad a lot but it is out of hand at this point and has been since 2018. I need some help here before I get out of hand and do something really stupid. Please respond as I’m writing this as a huge fight just ended.

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      • ccsmod2
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        Hello There,

        Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes great courage to reach out and we are so glad that you decided to reach out. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.


        It is understandable to feel afraid and not safe in your home while these fights are going on, it sounds pretty scary. One option to consider would be to talk with both your parents about how this is affecting your mental health and how this is making you afraid. Another option could be to talk with your school counselor about what is going on at home, they may be able to provide you with resources and support.

        We would like to help you explore this situation further and talk about more options. We may need more information to best help you, you can contact us by phone or by chat 24/7. We hope this information was helpful to you! Best of luck!
        NRS

    • Hi um idk what im supposed to write but i just came here because i dont feel safe here at all my parents dont like make me feel loved im transgender and they dont support me at all my dad has made me suicidal before i want to find a way out of here but my dad said he'll just call the cops and i just want to be happy and feel loved and supported im always getting yelled at and getting my things taken now im just more emotional and i cry more

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      • ccsmod3
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        Hey there!

        Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. It sounds like there is a lot going on right now, and we're sorry to hear that your parents don't make you feel loved or support. That must be really difficult, and it makes sense that you want those things.

        As you continue to think things through, it might be helpful for you to consider looking into therapy. Having a support system in place to help when things are feeling really heavy and overwhelming can really be beneficial in repairing relationships, but also in working on and healing ourselves individually. A therapist can also help you develop some of the tools needed to address some of the issues you're having with your parents, or even help facilitate those conversations so that you feel comfortable and supported throughout. If this is something you're open to, a good starting point in finding a therapist is to reach out to your school counselor or social worker. Sometimes you can see them for a few sessions before looping your parents in, and they can also help advocate for you to maintain ongoing services if your parents are hesitant about letting you see a mental health professional. Since school is starting to let out for the summer, if connecting with your school counselor isn't an option, we might be able to help find local therapists in our database as well.

        The Trevor Project is another good resource that you can utilize if you need some additional support while you work through things, or if you are having any suicidal thoughts. They have trained counselors available 24/7 and offer a safe and judgement free-zone for LGBTQ+ youth. You can connect with them by calling 866-488-7386, or through their live chat: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/.

        If you'd like to discuss your situation in more detail with us, please feel free to reach out directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

        Take care.

        NRS

    • Hi so this is hard to say. Over the last couple of years I have struggled with eating. There would be times were I didn’t eat a breakfast but then I would eat a buck of snacks in my room secretly. And I live in a foster home we’re the people are rude and judgemental. I tried explaining my eating problems to the fat foster parents but they didn’t listen. They think every time I eat in my room I want to but they don’t understand that’s it’s the fear of being judged for eating, my worker has even said that the foster parent has said some nasty stuff about my eating that is offensive. One time I ate a salad and she got all mad and sensitive another time they said if I lose weight I would be grounded and so when I lost weight about a year ago, they got mad and were rude without knowing the whole story. I hate living here they are racist they call me the n word. Please report my parents.

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        Thank you for reaching out, it takes a lot of courage to seek help and to talk about what you've been going through. It sounds like you're in a stressful situation and that your foster parents are judgmental of your eating habits. It's important that you know that you are so much more than your weight and, no matter your size, what matters most is to be healthy. It also sounds like your foster parents are calling you racial slurs and are not accepting of who you are. You deserve to be treated with respect and them calling you that is absolutely not okay. You also deserve to live somewhere where people support you, and you deserve the freedom to choose what foods to eat without facing criticism or backlash.

        If you would like help filing a report, we would need some more information about what's been going on and more details about your specific situation. If you decide against filing a report, but would like more help with what you've been dealing with at home, we can also provide resources specific to you and what you're going through. The best way to either file a report or seek out additional resources is to talk with us in real-time through our online chat service at 1800runaway.org or by calling in to our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY. That way, we can learn more about your situation in order to best help you.

    • hi i’m 14 i live at home with my mom and younger sister my dad just passed away a couple months ago and i’ve suffered from deep depression for a while now i was raped in 6th grade and my parents got divorced when i was 4 then my dad had kids with another woman and left but we kept in touch and my mom would always blame me and my dad for making her life miserable my mom hits me yells at me and doesn’t let me out of the house. she ONLY comes at me and gives my sister a luxury life. i’m a all A student i am on a high level soccer team and volleyball team and i find myself crying every night wanting to escape my house i use to be able to have a little time alone when my dad was alive and go to his house but he’s dead now so i have no where to go. my mom constantly yells and makes fun of me for no apparent reason and never my sister.i miss my dad and i don’t want to be around my mom anymore i want to run away but i don’t know where to. please help me.

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      • ccsmod2
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        Hello There,

        Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.

        It is understandable to have suffered from deep depression, given the circumstances you have had to face. We are sorry to hear about the passing of your father, that is a tough situation to have to deal with. A resource that you may find helpful is called NAMI (national alliance for mental illnesses). They can be reached at 1800-950-NAMI.

        We know you mentioned your mom yelling at you and hitting you, you do not deserve to be treated that way. If you feel like this could be abusive you do have the right to file an abuse report. You can do that by calling Child Help at 1800-422-4453. You can also call us or chat with us and we can help you file an abuse report.

        We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you would like to explore more options or just need someone to talk to you can always call or chat with us. We are available 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
        NRS
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