I Don't Feel Safe or Loved at Home Anymore

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Hello,

Thank you so much for sharing, we know that it takes a great deal of courage. Unfortunately, we cannot continue to communicate more than twice via our email or forums. Please call us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY or use our online chat feature so we can better assist you.

Stay safe,
NRS

i did go to the cops about it and they said they can’t do anything right now and i had to go back home but i told them it would be worse and they didn’t believe me and when i got back in the car she was throwing stuff again and hitting stuff and we almost got into 2 accidents. she said i have no right to be scared and “she’ll show me what being scared is” i’m home now and she’s still throwing stuff and hitting everything

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Your parents' reaction to your pregnancy certainly sounds scary and intimidating and it makes sense that you wouldn't want to be around them. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You mentioned hitting and throwing things as part of your parents' response and it raises concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member (like your grandma) or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

Pregnancy can often be overwhelming and creating a prenatal care plan can be a confusing process. If you plan on going to term with the pregnancy and do not already have an obstetrician, you can contact Planned Parenthood by going to plannedparenthood.org or by calling 800-230-7526 for some assistance. Your local Planned Parenthood should be able to provide pregnancy planning services, prenatal services, childbirth classes, and postpartum exams for after the baby comes. If you do not plan on carrying to term we can also help you explore options and services near you.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

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i’m 16 almost 17 and last night i told my parents i’m pregnant and they started hitting everything and throwing stuff and screaming at the top of their lungs. they were telling me how stupid i am and how everything is always my fault and how i mess everything up. i don’t feel safe or welcomed and i’m scared to even go downstairs this morning and i texted my grandma to get me last night and she wouldn’t and i called 911 but they just came and turned back around. i’ve run away before and i’m thinking about doing it again.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You said that home feels like a prison and makes you want to kill yourself. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

It seems like your mom is having some trouble understanding how uncomfortable you are at home. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

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I just turned 16 about a month ago and I feel so unwanted in my home to the point where it feels like a prison . I live in what feels like a prison and the people in it make me wanna kill myself . no one ever asks if im okay because im so good at hiding it or fake smiling . I told my mother that her husband makes me feel unwanted and she told me to get over it . my friend says I can stay with him but the only way that can even begin to be a possibility is if i run away . I already know that if i talk to my mom about staying with anyone other than her or my biological dad that she'd shut it down almost immediately . I get picked but then get yelled at when I raise my voice about it. I have absolutely no idea what to do , please help .

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Hi there, thank you so much for reaching out today.

It sounds like you have been thinking about wanting to die, and have been self harming as a result of the emotional abuse you are going through. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your parents. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.

We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.

Be safe,

NRS

Hi I am a 15 year old girl in Indiana and I don't feel safe in my house its just me and my mom and dad and they emotionally abuse me everyday and are always yelling at me for no reason and they have hurt me before and I have cut myself and just want to die to just get away from my parents

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Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have been suffering through a lot and it makes sense that you do not feel safe at home given the way that your dad is treating you. It is inappropriate for him to hurt you like that and it must be incredibly difficult for you not to be able to talk to anyone about it. We want you to know that we are here to help in any way that we can. If you need someone to talk to you can always reach out to us over the phone at 1-800-786-2929 or over chat at 1800runaway.org. We can also talk about what options you have to make things more bearable for you. Struggling with depression and self harm is incredibly tiresome and hard work. Many people find counseling or therapy to be helpful with mental health issues. It might be wise to reach out to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) to try and find local mental health specialists in your area. They can be reached at 1-800-950-NAMI and they also have a crisis text line available by texting “NAMI” to 741741. Again, please don’t hesitate to give us a call or a chat any time that you need someone to talk to. We are here 24/7.

Take care,
NRS

I'm 12 almost 13 and I have had depression for almost two years now and I started cutting myself but I stopped recently. But I dont feel safe at home and my dad calls me fat and I dont have any real friends so I have no one to talk to about this and I wish I was in foster care because of dad

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern.You mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

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I’m 17 years old I haven’t felt safe at home for a year now. My parents bully and psychologically torment me. They make me feel worthless and that I’m an awful person. My mother twists everything I say to have things her way and there’s nothing I can do about it because “She’s ALWAY right” my father has always given off threatening vibes and I’ve never felt comfortable or safe around him. My parents threaten to take everything away from me for trying to stand up for myself. They say I’m just being a disrespectful little self entitled brat. I don’t know what to do anymore I don’t even know if I’m justified in saying this. I don’t know about myself anymore. I can’t open up to my parents I can’t talk about anything with them. I try my best to please them so they don’t come at me but It’s never enough or good enough. This night my mom started yelling at me because she asked me to clean the dishes and I went to my room to put my stuff away first. She then proceeded to accuse me of acting unreasonable for doing that and Threatened to take away as she says it “Her stuff” I tried standing up for myself but she wouldn’t listen and doesn’t listen to what I have to say because “I’m just a kid it doesn’t matter what I say” I then went back upstairs and started to do the dishes and she continued to call me selfish and entitled and that I’m a horrible person and threatening to take everything away(That means everything... devices clothes meals shelter etc...) I finally had enough and told her to stop being a ********** about everything.(yes I could’ve handled it better) then my dad proceeded to tell me I can’t talk to her that way and he had me cornered in the kitchen and laid a finger on me. I told him not to touch me and acted quick to move his arm away. He then grabbed me but I was able to push him away from getting a good grip. He kept trying to i don’t even know I was so scared and fighting him off hard. I had a clearing to kick him in the balls and I went for it and he evaded it and stepped away. He then started accusing me of attacking him and my mom agreed with him. While that was happening my sister came running downstairs to try and help me but my mom stepped in and prevented her from helping me. I was scared for my life I was cornered and being assaulted and I could only do one thing and that was fight. As my dad backed off and mom backed off they told me they wanted to talk to me after I finished the dishes. When I finished the dishes they told me to move into the living room. I said no I’m fine where I am. I was scared and moved towards the knives and repeated I’m not moving. They then complied and came to the kitchen. They then started to tell me I’m rude disrespectful mean and self centered and incorrect about everything. I didn’t know what I could say I didn’t know what I said. I was to focused on making sure they did not move from where they were. Soon I calmed down a bit and felt a little safer. Our conversation ended and all I got from it is that I suck and I’m always wrong. I’m currently in my room door locked chair barricades to the door with a suitcase packed and everything ready to run if needed. I don’t know what to do now I need help

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 for help. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but we are here for you and want to help as best as we can. If you would like to talk more in detail please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. Please be safe and reach out for the support you deserve. We'd like to help you decide what your best options are, including the possibility of living with your grandma. We hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,
NRS

I am 11 years old and I live with my dad and mom with an older sister. I dont feel safe with none of them, My mom is rude and my dad is abusive , my older sister gives me disgusted faces. The only ones that make me feel safe are my brothers but they are sometimes with their biolagical mother (sorry if spelled wrong). My parent's abuse gets worse everyday and its stressful for me. I am in a deep stage of depression that I can't even smile anymore.I would cut myself to make me feel "happy".I would rather live with my grandma rather then with my parents.I am actually planting suicide today so I can escape this nightmare.

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Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are going through a tough situation at home.
You deserve to be treated fairly by your parent’s and not put down. It’s not yours or your sister’s fault that they say things that feel hurtful to you.

We understand how upsetting this must be for you.
You are very brave for reaching out to NRS. Good for you.
NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.
Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).
NRS is here to listen and here to help.
Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

Take care,
NRS