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    ccsmod0
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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS
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    Hey, I'm a 13-year-old boy and I don't feel like I'm safe or loved at home. My brother is constantly getting hit and it scares me because he's younger than me. I sometimes feel like I should just kill myself or run away. I only really feel safe with my friends. I am now hiding in my closet writing this... I just want to feel safe and loved again.

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  • ccsmod15
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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. We’re sorry to hear that you’re going through such a tough time at home. No one deserves to be physically or emotionally mistreated. We’re here to listen and help the best way we can.

    You mentioned that your dad has hit you and your mom. One option is filing an abuse report. If you want more information about filing an abuse report, you can either call Child Help at 800-422-4453 or use their chat line at www.childhelp.org. They can walk you through the process and help you file if you want help. If you ever feel like you’re in danger, you can always call 911 or text your location to 44357 to get the nearest safe place.

    If you leave home without your parents’ permission, your parents can file a runaway report with the police. It’s not illegal to run away, but the police may take you back home if they find you unless there is evidence of the abuse. We aren’t legal experts, but that is some basic information. If you decide that running away is your best option, it’s best to have a plan. Where will you stay, will you continue to go to school, and how will you get food might be some of the things to think about when planning.

    There might be other options. If you want to explore what those options are and what you would feel comfortable with, you can chat with us on our chat line at www.1800RUNAWAY.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Your safety is the first priority. Be safe and stay strong. We hope to hear from you soon.

    Good luck,
    NRS
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    I don’t feel safe at him anymore my dad yells at me for nothing and I try to get out of the house but I can’t he has hit me and hit my mom. I want to run away!

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  • ccsmod4
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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re not happy with things in your life right now.
    It sounds like the stress from the situation is making it very hard to figure out what to do.
    We are sorry you are going through a tough emotional time. You deserve to feel wanted by your family. We understand how something like that can be upsetting and frustrating. As a result from this it sounds like you have been thinking about running away.

    Sometimes when things are too stressful it might help to talk with those you are having issues with or someone you feel will be supportive. Going to stay at your father’s house sounds unsafe and you do not deserve to be hurt or put at risk. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    You are welcome to discuss your situation and talk about possible options for help.
    What you did today by reaching out was great. Good job.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    Take care,
    NRS
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    I don’t feel loved and my mom and her boyfriend don’t want me and neither does my real dad and they are trying to make me go live with him and I don’t feel safe over there and I want to run away and still be able to go to my same school because my mom is the one I live with and I like the school that I go to now but my dad lives an hour away and I don’t like that school do you have any idea where I can go my aunt who lives with my dad is always choking and trying to taze me and I really want to get away from my family what should I do.

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  • ccsmod15
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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi,

    Thanks so much for reaching out. It sounds like you’re going through a really hard time with your parents, particularly your mother. It can’t be easy to ask for help, but it’s the first step towards things getting better, so congratulations on taking that step. It sounds like things are hard and painful right now, but you’ve shown a lot of courage reaching out to us today. You must be a very strong person.

    If your mother has been hitting you or hurting you physically in any way, that constitutes abuse and you have the right to report it. We understand completely if that’s something you don’t want to do, but it’s important to know you have the option. If you would like any help with that process, or simply want to talk about it with someone, please don’t hesitate to call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929. To talk more specifically about abuse and abuse reporting, you can call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. If you’d rather not talk on the phone, you can try our chat service at www.1800runaway.org or the Child Help chat at www.childhelp.org.

    Thanks again for reaching out and, please, don’t hesitate to give us a call if you ever want to talk about this stuff further. Someone is always here to listen and to help. We hope to hear from you soon.

    NRS
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    I’m 12, 13 in a little while, and I really can’t stand being at home anymore. I don’t exactly understand what I’m going through personally. Ever since I was 6/7 I have been arguing with my mother, but as I got older they got more and more constant, and more and more upsetting. The fights are over ridiculous things like maybe I won’t log off the laptop in time, but it can be a little slow, or I might have my elbows on the table when eating at a restaurant and other things like when other people around, I get told I’m showing off, and get told off in front of my friends most of the time. When around other people my mum acts like an angel with me, and honestly, I play along as it’s the only time she ever will care. My mum has grabbed me once before by my arm, it was in a car on the way back from a camping trip and she dug her nails into my arm, and where she dragged her nails down my arm, I bled a little bit. A couple months later she hitunched my middle back leaving a large bruise, as I looked in the mirror. Our arguments are viscous and though I never admit what she wants to hear unless she really is right, she blames almost everything on me. Most days in Christmas half term after Christmas Day she didn’t feed me, as time went on, she sometimes says to me, ‘make yourself some cereal for dinner’ as she doesn’t want to Cook for me. My father has now joined in the arguments, and they are even more truly terrifying now, then before. Please give me some advice and maybe you can analyse what the situation is and how I should move forward.

    Many thanks.

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  • ccsmod0
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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    ccsmod0
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    Last edited by ccsmod0; 02-16-2020, 01:19 AM.
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    Hi
    I dont feel safe in my home I'm living in,
    im 11 years old my stepdad and mom constantly argue and fight my mom drinks occasional and my stepdad drinks every day and gets drunk and abuses me my little sister and mom...at this point my mom is giving up and we have no money..my medical Bill's are crazy high and my real dad helps to pay but i dont see him much hes always working and lives in a apartment..I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety its okay to show you are scared and worried but I'm also bipolar..we cant afford medications to help me I've missed 43 days of school..its so hard for me to get caught up I hate every night I walk in my house worried one day my mom will be dead or my stepdad will be crazy drunk and abuse me I hate living my life this way I hope it gets better as I get older and have more freedom...its the weekend most people have a nice time I'm trying to get school work done and I pass my grade but I all couldn't I got left home alone for 4 hours I had no clue where everybody went I was worried sick...my mom,sister, stepdad decided to celebrate valentine's day by going go the cinemas I wasnt even invited..then I was very upset and started yelling and getting very annoyed on why they didnt invite me..late on around 6 pm my stepdad leaves to go to the bar...come completely trashed and his cousin came over and assumed mom was cheating on him which she wasnt...he comes over to see how where doing and gives us some money for food or brings us food from the store If my moms out of gas...anyways my stepdad was drunk and saying I was a mistake and I'm the boss of the house and I'm a stupied kid...that's when it hit me most I laughed and said some pretty mean stuff to him..this is every night I'm used to this by now it's still makes me feel uncomfortable living my life in this household.. I understand life is hard and theres karma but I get abused and i need help getting my work done but my stepdad controls my actions it makes me sick that I get suicidal and sad I've never told anybody but I think I should..

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  • ccsmod0
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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS


    Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
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    Ok long story shortened, I just turned 13 a few days ago and I live with my mom and brother. My family isn’t the wealthiest but like I’m decent at the moment I guess. My mom doesn’t have a job and she rarely ever did. My dad and grandma (most grandma) gets me everything. We stayed with my grandma a lot cause my dad would kick us out and change the lock on the door. He would also hit us sometimes and break things. Once he got really mad for I don’t reminder why (few years ago)and then we had to leave and we just stayed at my grandmas house for like a year or ate last a bit of a while till my mom could get a place. I’ve always not been good at sleeping and my dad would hit me when I didn’t sleep. We moved and I thought things would get better but they didn’t. Me and my mom would fight a lot before we moved. Like I mentioned I’m not good at sleeping, resulting in me being bad at waking up. My mom would get my and threaten to kick me out.

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  • ccsmod4
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  • ccsmod4
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member (like your grand parents) or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My parents verbally abuse me and call me worthless, piece of s**t, dumb, etc. My mom also turns to physical agression like hitting, choking, and kicking me when I do something she doesn't like. Both my parents always tell me that they don't want or need me at our house. My mom has kicked me out before and also has tried to kick me out by making me call my grandparents to come get me so I can go with them, but then threatened to report me as a runaway to the police even though she told me to leave. Can she even do that? I don't feel wanted or loved at my house and my parents always tell me I'm the outcast of the family and make it clear that they care more about my little sister because she is a better daughter than me (something my mom always conveys or directly tells me to my face). I honestly want to go live with my grandparents but my mom keeps threatening to report me to the police if I go with them and I don't want to go to juvie. I honestly don't know what to do and I feel so lost.

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  • ccsmod4
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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services). You do not deserve to be abused by your parent’s and it is not your fault that they are doing this to you. NRS is here to listen and here to help.

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/.

    We want you to know that we are here to support you during this most difficult time. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. If you feel at risk or in any danger, please seek emergency assistance by dialing 9-1-1.

    Please be safe and take care,
    NRS
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