I want to run away but have no where to go

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Hey there,
Thanks for reaching out to NRS it seems like you really have been through a lot. It seems like your parents are expecting you to care for the house so they don’t have to, which is unfair. Your parents should be more supportive of you and let you stay in a place that is safe for you and lets you be happy if possible. If you do need a safe place to go to we can help find a shelter or brainstorm other ideas with you.
You mentioned self-harm and we wanted you to be aware of https://twloha.com/ which is a resource offering hope and ways to cope in healthy ways. We also can help you find therapy resources in your area as well. Having a therapist to talk to and who is on your side can help you to work through your feelings.
You deserve to be in a place where you are supported and loved. If you want our help finding a shelter or something similar please reach out to our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us online.

Hi, I’m a ten year old wanting to run away cause of my whole family they treat me like i have no worth in life and that I should just die and that I don’t deserve anything. But the thing is I have no where to go near me and I don’t know the perfect time to run.

I want to run away I'm 14 years old and I live in Ohio. I might have a place to go but I don't have any money. My story is different, my big sister ran away because my mom would make her do all the chores and never buy her clothes and stuff like that. since my big sister runaway, I have basically replaced her. My mom yells at me to do chores but my sisters get to watch tv. I get the phone I bought with my own money taken away for no reason. My parents have been fighting lately because my mom cheated again. So right now I'm stressed and I have thought about running away since I was 11 when my parents found out I was cutting and quit eating. My mom was worried at first so she had me sent to Belmont pines and it helped to be away from home. Before I left for the hospital all my dad said was I was cutting for attention and he knew it. Then after I got out they shipped me to a different state to be with my grandparents and I liked it I wasn't bullied and they actually cared. When my mom found out I was happy she made me move back home and now my life sucks. I really am thinking of leaving I have a bag packed and I'm just trying to find somewhere to go.

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out again about your situation. Your safety is very important to us here at NRS. From what you mentioned, it sounds like the way your dad talks down to you and physically abuses you is making home not safe. We are a confidential and non-directive space for you and we are here to listen. While we do not give advice or tell you what to do, we can help you explore your options and decide what might be best for you and your situation. It looks like you have already reached out to us through our other platforms. If you have any more questions or you feel you like you want to talk more your options, you can reach out again anytime by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 to listen and help.

If you feel like you are in immediate danger, we encourage you to call 911 for emergency services.

Stay safe,
NRS

I'm 13 in less than a month
I hate my dad. He's treating me awful. He judges me on both my looks and my body and style. He thinks B's grades are really bad for our family. He wants to make me a doctor so I can have money. He abuses me a lot and hits me for no reason, even though he's a lot bigger than me. He has favoritism over my brother and LOVES him, but when I was my brother's age, he beat me up bad for getting C's and my brother is failing 1st grade, but my dad only beats both of us when he's annoyed with us or if his workload is too much and he takes all his anger from office and puts it on us. Even though I hate my dad, I LOVE my mom and my brother and grandparents from my mom's side. They're awesome and my mom sticks up for me, but he abuses my mom, too. She can't divorce, though, because it would kill my grandparents. So, should I run away or no? If yes, then I have no money, none of my friends would think running is good, so that's down the drain. I have nowhere to go, no family member would be willing to take me in, or friends for that matter. I have no money. No travel food, 1 backpack, and some clothes. Again, I'm turning only 13.

Hi. I'm writing again. I want a straight answer this time. Should I or should I not run away from my home? Again, I have no money and 1 backpack for food and clothes. I don't know anything about the world and don't even own a phone. I'm only 13.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

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I’m 14 and I’m turning 15 in 2 months I want to run away I did it 2 times and im taking my brother with me and he’s 13 my household is chaos I hate it here so much fights and yelling and cus of this coronavirus I don’t know if I can run away right now I have only $11 saved but that’s not enough we have no where to go I’m a freshman and I don’t even know how to drive but i want to steal my moms car or someone can pick me up I don’t care who it is I’m jus so ready to be out of here

I want to runaway again but this coronavirus is out and I have no money and literally no where to go I just want someone to pick me up I don’t care who it is but I can’t stay here anymore I’ve attempted suicide because of the toxic people I’m living with I need help please I’m 14 years old any tips?

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
You mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

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Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are going through some intense stuff and we want to support you. Whether or not you feel like you need to run away is up to you and whether or not you feel safe where you are. We would be happy to help you in whatever way we can. We can provide referrals to mental health resources, shelters, legal advocacy, among other things. We can also just talk you through whatever your situation is and help you figure out what your options are. We aim to empower youths and we prioritize their safety and their well-being. If you are interested in anything that we have to offer, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

Take care,
NRS

I'm 13 in less than a month
I hate my dad. He's treating me awful. He judges me on both my looks and my body and style. He thinks B's grades are really bad for our family. He wants to make me a doctor so I can have money. He abuses me a lot and hits me for no reason, even though he's a lot bigger than me. He has favoritism over my brother and LOVES him, but when I was my brother's age, he beat me up bad for getting C's and my brother is failing 1st grade, but my dad only beats both of us when he's annoyed with us or if his workload is too much and he takes all his anger from office and puts it on us. Even though I hate my dad, I LOVE my mom and my brother and grandparents from my mom's side. They're awesome and my mom sticks up for me, but he abuses my mom, too. She can't divorce, though, because it would kill my grandparents. So, should I run away or no? If yes, then I have no money, none of my friends would think running is good, so that's down the drain. I have nowhere to go, no family member would be willing to take me in, or friends for that matter. I have no money. No travel food, 1 backpack, and some clothes. Again, I'm turning only 13.

I want to runaway but i have nowhere to go im 3 hrs away from my family and friends im in a foster home theres things that are good here but im not happy i havent been happy ever since ive been here im tyring so hard but i dont know what to do no more

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Hello there –

Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline on our public forum. Hopefully by helping you and giving you support in your crisis, there are many other youth in your situation that can also be helped. No one deserves to be treated that way at all. Just know that you always have the right to report any abuse (physical, mental, sexual, or neglect/abandonment) to child protective service in your state. You have rights too. It can be really hard to reach out to report abuse or even talk about what has been going on at home. If you have any questions about the process or want to talk more about what the abuse might be, you can always reach out to us here to talk or chat.

Unfortunately, we can’t tell you want to do because you know your sitatuation better than anyone else. We are just hear to provide you with support and possible resources to reach out to in your area. One thing that may be helpful for you is to possibly note when the fighting/yelling is happening or any triggers of the fighting/yelling (some examples would be like after your abuser comes from work or after dinner and/or right when you get home) and to try to find things that can keep yourself away from home during those times (after school programs, sports program, study group at a friend’s house, getting involved in your volunteering, etc).

If you need us, please reach out via phone or online chat for more one on one support.

I just want a break

My family just has so many problems, I dont think that my parents even love each other, but recently my dad had gambled all our savings away, and he had done this before, while my sister and I were still very young. He got into trouble with banks then and had to run away, and we were dragged all over the place, and had to sleep in cars and stay with friends on the floor. But as we grew older my mum kept hitting us, I just thought it was a normal disciplenary action, but the verbal abuse and the physical abuse of my sister, when she threatened to cut my sisters fingers off with a kitchen knife really scared me, becasue she took the knife and dragged my sister over to the chopping board. And now I’m at school hiding my feelings and pretending to be all happy and nice. And now my dad has returned to his habits and has been gambling again. And my mum took the blame on us again. Calling us useless and we are selfish, and telling us that she will divorce. I am 13 and my sister is only 11. When I was 11 and we were in the car listening to our parents threaten to kill each other and when we got home, they would throw things at each other and throw dishes really loudly. MY mum now drinks at least 3 beers everyday and gets angry easily, and now I flinch whenever she moves. HEr personality just changes every 2 seconds, going from nice to evil. So I think that se actually cares about me, but now she says she doesn’t care about us and we are useless ungrateful children. But what am I supposed to do, I’m only 13, how do you expect me to support my self. I ve been exposed to a lot of violence and its affected my personality and my life. She also just makes me play my violin all the time, and has such high expectations, and everytime I mess up she threatens to hit me. Shouts swear words and slaps. I just want a break from everything and go free. I dont want to have this pressure, I wish I was never born life is so unlovable. Now IM having thoughts about my sexuality and I think I’m lesbian now, but my dads family had always wanted a boy, and when we were born, they abandoned us, being very strict and traditional, Im just so scared, what do I do?!