I want to run away but have no where to go

[ccsmod15]

Thanks for reaching out to us. We're very sorry to hear that your parents yell at you so much. That must be very distressing. It sounds like you'd like to escape the situation for a bit. We'd like to help out further but need a little more information from you to see how to assist. The best way to do that would be if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via the portal at www.1800runaway.org. Please be safe. We hope to hear from you soon!

my parents just yell at me all the time and i know they love me but i just need some where to go you know

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at NRS. It can certainly be stressful at home when the adults in the household are not supportive. Emotional abuse does get overwhelming and it can be tough to cope with on your own. Abuse of any kind is never okay and not your fault.

If you feel like leaving is the right decision for you, we can connect you with youth shelters in your area if you call our hotline or use our live chat services. You can also contact the National Safe Place for somewhere safe to go. All you have to do is text "safe" and your current location to 44357 or go to nationalsafeplace.org for the nearest safe place. From there you can be brought to a youth shelter which generally have caseworkers that can help you come up with a short term and long term plan.

Having a support system is really important during difficult situations. We are a non-directive and confidential space for you. Meaning we do not tell young people what to do or what not to do, but we are a safe place for you to receive a listening ear and support. You can also contact the The Trevor Project 1-866-488-7386 which is crisis line specifically for LGBTQ youth. You can talk with someone who may also share some of your experiences as someone who is a part of the LGBTQ community and connect with your peers.

We are available 24/7 to support you and connect you with resources. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail so that we can help you discover your options, please reach out soon at 1-800-786-2929 or via our live chat at 1800runaway.org.

Stay safe,
NRS

I'm 14 female and I'm bi, no one supports me and I need someone. My mum doesn't like me at all. She slams her door in my face every time and my dad never pays attention. I want to run away tonight but I don't have anywhere to go. My life is only getting worse. If you care at all, you won't give me the "don't do this' crap. you will give me a destination where I am safe to go now.

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at NRS. It can certainly be stressful at home when the adults in the household are not supportive. Emotional abuse does get overwhelming and it can be tough to cope with on your own. Abuse of any kind is never okay and not your fault.

If you feel like leaving is the right decision for you, we can connect you with youth shelters in your area if you call our hotline or use our live chat services. You can also contact the National Safe Place for somewhere safe to go. All you have to do is text "safe" and your current location to 44357 or go to nationalsafeplace.org for the nearest safe place. From there you can be brought to a youth shelter which generally have caseworkers that can help you come up with a short term and long term plan.

Having a support system is really important during difficult situations. We are a non-directive and confidential space for you. Meaning we do not tell young people what to do or what not to do, but we are a safe place for you to receive a listening ear and support. You can also contact the The Trevor Project which is crisis line specifically for LGBTQ youth. You can talk with someone who may also share some of your experiences as someone who is a part of the LGBTQ community and connect with your peers.

We are available 24/7 to support you and connect you with resources. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail so that we can help you discover your options, please reach out soon at 1-800-786-2929 or via our live chat at 1800runaway.org.

Stay safe,
NRS

I'm 14 and I want to runaway. My dad is always away at work and my mom takes care of us. Except, she mentally abuses me. She has threatened to physically harm me and I have no where else to go. I'm bi and so ow she hates me even more. My friends don't believe in doing this and so they would rat me out. The only thing holding me back is the dangers out there that I will encounter if I'm not alone. I need a place to go but I have nowhere. Please give me a place near me. I can't wait any longer and I don't want to hear the "Let's talk about it." ********. I just need a place to go where there are people I can trust.

[ccsmod15]

Thanks for reaching out to NRS,
It seems like you are going through a lot and experiencing a lot of emotional pain because of how your dad treats you. Your dad should never slap and abuse you like that, and it makes sense that you want to talk to others about the situation.
Since you are a Jehovahs Witness and want to keep that as part of your daily life it makes sense to be worried about foster parents not helping with that. Is there a pastor or member of the church that you could tell about what is going on and they might be able to help?
School counselors are mandated reporters so they would need to report abuse if they feel it is happening. But they may have ideas for coping with social problems that you mentioned at school. Its ok to be alone during lunch, but feeling lonely sucks and getting help with that might help you to deal with the situation as a whole.
You mentioned suicide before and we want you to know that there is help out there if you ever feel those thoughts worsen. There is the suicide prevention lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Another option for getting help might be trying to see a therapist not related to your school. You could also do some research on your own about child abuse at childhelp.org, or about mental health at nami.org as well.
Hopefully this information is helpful for you. In answer to your last question the safety of children is still a priority for everyone through the COVID crisis, and is an essential service. CPS or DCFS may be slow right now but they are responding as they can or sometimes conducting some work over the phone.
If you have more questions please don’t hesitate to reach out to our online chat, or call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929.

Hi, I'm a 6th grader who is 11.


I would really love to either run away or tell someone, for example my school therapist or teacher. I don't trust anyone as much as everyone else in the comments does, since I've been slapped and abused by my dad, mostly. This caused emotional pain to me since I used to cry myself to sleep every night. It's been hard for me to deal with my parents.
My story is very different from all the people posting their thoughts because my family is Jehovahs Witnesses, and I am one too. This makes it not easy for me to tell a school social worker, considering that I would be put into foster care. I absolutely wouldn't want to be put into foster care because I appreciate my religion and respect it. I don't think it would be easy for me to join a family who aren't Jehovah's Witnesses.
My health issues include a slight amount of asthma, year-round allergies, and genital itching.
As much as I would LOVE to commit suicide, I can't because my fears of dying are under-rated. And, I wouldn't be able to put a knife on my wrist and make several slices.
I used to have social issues in Elementary school and I would usually end up eating lunch on the empty side of the table.
I can't rely on using a friend's house for harboring a runaway cause my friends in school would chicken out, which makes it so that I couldn't go anywhere to run away. If I ran away though, I would probably not survive, with little money and not much packing supplies. Should I blame my abuse on myself and stay in my house? Or should I just rat out on my parents and get a stable family in foster care? Help!
Help!


I've already written a whole few paragraphs on my situation and I have one more question to ask. How would I get out of the house to go to foster care if we people in the U.S.A are trapped inside our homes quarantining ourselves from the Coronavirus?

[ccsmod0]

Hey there,

Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

Be safe,
NRS

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Hi, I am 20 and im trapped in my parent's house, im a disappointment, and im more of a burden. I am trying to get out of here and leave by the end of the week, I have a note written for my family and a few ideas. but I want a sure thing, are there any places I can go to? I live in Washington a bit above Seattle, I want to be safe but I can't be here anymore.

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,

Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
It is understandable to want to take a break, everyone gets frustrated sometimes. You could consider trying to talk with your parents about how you do not always want to share. Maybe they would be understanding if you tried having a calm conversation with them. Also one option to consider is to speak with a school counselor about how you are feeling, Even though many schools are closed right now, school counselors are still meeting with people virtually.
We know you mentioned wanting to run away, we are not legal experts but we do have some information. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you home.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

My parents dont abuse me or anything, its just that i want to take a break from all this madness! When i have my food or snacks my parents would tell me to sharewith me siblings when i say no they take away my ipad my food and dont come or care to cheer me up i hate my siblings i wish they were dead if anyone can help me find a way to run away plz help me btw im 11yo

[ccsmod8]

Hello there –

Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline on our public forum. Hopefully by helping you and giving you support in your crisis, there are many other youth in your situation that can also be helped. No one deserves to be treated that way at all. It’s great and really brave of you that you were able to reach out for help and get removed from that situation. It can be really hard to reach out to report abuse or even talk about what has been going on at home because of what could happen.

Unfortunately, we can’t tell you want to do because you know your situation better than anyone else. We are just hear to provide you with support and possible resources to reach out to in your area. If you are interested in finding what types of resources we have in our database to offer you during this crisis you are more than welcome to reach out to us via out hotline or online chat. That way you can talk to us more about what is going on that is making you want to leave the foster care and see what other options you might have.

Hope to hear from you soon!

I’m 16 I’m in foster care and I was removed from my adoptive home in August 2019 I’ve been in 7 Holmes in the past 8 months and I can’t take the foster system or state care anymore my family hates me because my dad molested me for years and I finally told cps my family thinks I’m lying and both my mom and dad were arrested where do I go please help me somebody has to know where I can go or what to do

[ccsmod15]

Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to NRS, it seems like you have a lot going on at home and your family isn’t treating you how you deserve. You should have a family that is supportive of you and helps you grow as a person instead of putting you down.
If you need a safe place to go NRS can help find shelters near you and work with you to help you get into one. Although if you were to leave home before 18 your parents could file a runaway report and have police bring you back home. This doesn’t mean running away is a crime though so you wouldn’t be brought to jail or charged with something.
Hopefully this information helps. Again you deserve support and we want to be here to help you as best we can. If you want help finding a shelter please chat online or call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929.