I want to run away but have no where to go

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Hi,

Thank you for your post. It can be very overwhelming when your significant other may be pregnant. From the way you describe the possibility of there being “even more kids” and “emotional standers,” it sounds like you feel like your situation might be a burden to your family. We want to let you know that you are not a burden! Everyone deserves love and support, especially when they find themselves in challenging situations like your own. You are worthy of support from your family if they are willing to help. That being said, if you and your girlfriend to choose to leave home, there are a few things to consider:

-Interacting with police: While we are not legal experts, we can say that if you leave home without permission from your family, your parents could file a runaway report and if the police are able to locate you they may return you home.

-Safety: Running away is a big decision. You asked where to run away; often, young people choose to go to friends, family members, emergency shelters, or transitional living programs. For more info on shelters or TLPs, feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929. Having a place to stay can be huge in terms of your safety as staying outside can put you both in danger of physical or sexual violence.

-Healthcare: If your girlfriend is indeed pregnant, she may have to make a decision about what to do next—that is, planning for an abortion or planning for the birth of a child. In any case, your girlfriend may want to go to a medical professional. A great resource for prenatal care and other options, you can call Planned Parenthood at 1-800-230-7526.

Thank you again for your message. Feel free to give us a call if you need additional resources or just need help thinking through your options. We are here 24/7 to listen and help in any way we can.

Sincerely,

NRS

I'm 16 and I want run away
i have a girlfriend that might be pregnant and my family tries to help but I'll if they do they would deal with even more kids and emotional standers I don't want to keep them in one place so me and my girlfriend wants to run away but we don't know we're.

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Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your family life has become unbearable for you. It shows strength and resilience to have gotten as far as you have and it is important that you recognize that. Your ambition is clear in your work ethic and efforts in school and you deserve an opportunity to succeed and grow in a supportive environment. Any type of abuse or violence in the home is not okay and if you are interested in reporting or exploring what the reporting process might look like, please contact the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org.

It is wise to consider what you have to lose in running away alongside the potential benefits. While it is difficult for us to tell you what you should do because we do not have all of the information about your situation, we could definitely talk about what options you have and how you could approach them. If you are interested in doing so, please reach out to us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-422-4453 or on chat at 1800runaway.org.

Hey everyone! I am 16 years old, live in Florida and I cannot stand my father anymore. He is both physically and mentally abusive. He has been that way for as long as I can remember but in the past two or three years it has been just the worst. He has put me through so much in life that I can confidently say I hate him with all my heart. I resent him and feel disguisted because of all the stuff he has done to me. In fact, I hate all of my family. It is just so toxic and dysfunctinal. I have a job and do well in school (I am in 11thh grade) and plan to move out and go away for college after high school. But that means I would still have to live with my family for another year and a half, which honestky sucks so much. But then if I run away, it is likely they will find me and I do not know where I would go and what highschool I would attend if I ran away. I am ambitious and feel like if I run away I would kill the future plans, like going away to a good college and stuff. But the thought of having to live with my family for another year and a half is legitimatelly scary because I just hate them so so much and am so unhappy in this home.

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First of all, thanks for reaching out and sharing your situation with us. It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of emotions and you’re doing your best to keep the people around you safe.
You mentioned that you might hurt yourself. Your life and health is valuable and you shouldn't have to feel this way. You are not alone and we are here to support you through this difficult time. If you feel you might hurt yourself, please call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or suicidepreventionlifeline.org. If you feel you might hurt someone else, please call 911.
Although it may be scary, many people struggle with similar repetitive thoughts and you may be able to benefit from talking to a school counselor or a mental health specialist. You can contact SAMHSA, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, at 1-877-726-4727 or samhsa.gov to be connected to a mental health professional. With treatment, you may learn to manage or control your thoughts and behaviors.
If you are thinking about running away, you may want to consider how you would plan to survive, such as where you would stay, how you would eat, how you would earn money, etc. Additionally, please feel free to call us anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at 1800runaway.org. We can help you make a safety plan or just listen if you need to talk. We’re here 24/7 and we are here to help.

Best,
NRS