I want to run away but have no where to go

[Guest]

I'm 14 and I want to runaway. My dad is always away at work and my mom takes care of us. Except, she mentally abuses me. She has threatened to physically harm me and I have no where else to go. I'm bi and so ow she hates me even more. My friends don't believe in doing this and so they would rat me out. The only thing holding me back is the dangers out there that I will encounter if I'm not alone. I need a place to go but I have nowhere. Please give me a place near me. I can't wait any longer and I don't want to hear the "Let's talk about it." ********. I just need a place to go where there are people I can trust.

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at NRS. It can certainly be stressful at home when the adults in the household are not supportive. Emotional abuse does get overwhelming and it can be tough to cope with on your own. Abuse of any kind is never okay and not your fault.

If you feel like leaving is the right decision for you, we can connect you with youth shelters in your area if you call our hotline or use our live chat services. You can also contact the National Safe Place for somewhere safe to go. All you have to do is text "safe" and your current location to 44357 or go to nationalsafeplace.org for the nearest safe place. From there you can be brought to a youth shelter which generally have caseworkers that can help you come up with a short term and long term plan.

Having a support system is really important during difficult situations. We are a non-directive and confidential space for you. Meaning we do not tell young people what to do or what not to do, but we are a safe place for you to receive a listening ear and support. You can also contact the The Trevor Project which is crisis line specifically for LGBTQ youth. You can talk with someone who may also share some of your experiences as someone who is a part of the LGBTQ community and connect with your peers.

We are available 24/7 to support you and connect you with resources. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail so that we can help you discover your options, please reach out soon at 1-800-786-2929 or via our live chat at 1800runaway.org.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 14 female and I'm bi, no one supports me and I need someone. My mum doesn't like me at all. She slams her door in my face every time and my dad never pays attention. I want to run away tonight but I don't have anywhere to go. My life is only getting worse. If you care at all, you won't give me the "don't do this' crap. you will give me a destination where I am safe to go now.

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at NRS. It can certainly be stressful at home when the adults in the household are not supportive. Emotional abuse does get overwhelming and it can be tough to cope with on your own. Abuse of any kind is never okay and not your fault.

If you feel like leaving is the right decision for you, we can connect you with youth shelters in your area if you call our hotline or use our live chat services. You can also contact the National Safe Place for somewhere safe to go. All you have to do is text "safe" and your current location to 44357 or go to nationalsafeplace.org for the nearest safe place. From there you can be brought to a youth shelter which generally have caseworkers that can help you come up with a short term and long term plan.

Having a support system is really important during difficult situations. We are a non-directive and confidential space for you. Meaning we do not tell young people what to do or what not to do, but we are a safe place for you to receive a listening ear and support. You can also contact the The Trevor Project 1-866-488-7386 which is crisis line specifically for LGBTQ youth. You can talk with someone who may also share some of your experiences as someone who is a part of the LGBTQ community and connect with your peers.

We are available 24/7 to support you and connect you with resources. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail so that we can help you discover your options, please reach out soon at 1-800-786-2929 or via our live chat at 1800runaway.org.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

my parents just yell at me all the time and i know they love me but i just need some where to go you know

[ccsmod15]

Thanks for reaching out to us. We're very sorry to hear that your parents yell at you so much. That must be very distressing. It sounds like you'd like to escape the situation for a bit. We'd like to help out further but need a little more information from you to see how to assist. The best way to do that would be if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via the portal at www.1800runaway.org. Please be safe. We hope to hear from you soon!

[Guest]

hi, I'm 12 years old and I feel like running away because I feel that I cause my parents a lot of pain and I want to give them space. They don't abuse me and I don't hit them, I feel like I've done a lot of things the make the disappointed. I feel bad and I don't know what to want to do.

[ccsmod2]

Hello there,
Thank you so much for reaching out to NRS today and expressing to us how you feel. It sounds like you would want to escape your situation for a bit which is understandable. Running away is a big decision and because you are a minor it is possible that you would be brought back home.
We would like to discuss your situation further so we can help you better. We are here for yiou 24/7 please feel free to call or chat with us at any time. We wish you the best of luck and stay safe!
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 12 and I want to run away, but there is nowhere me to go so my mom won't find me. I'm gender-fluid and bi, but my mom doesn't except me and just says it's a phase. I also have suicidal thoughts, anxiety, and uncontrollable actions of self harm, but my mother won't let me get any help. She acts like it's just an annoyance instead of any issue. I looked in to buses but the only ones near me need a parent present a the buying of the ticket along with other ID. I don't have any where to go but i can't stay here.

[ccsmod15]

Thanks for reaching out to NRS,
It seems like you are in a complicated situation and its hard to not get the support from your mom that you would hope for. It can be hard to find ways to cope with the situation for sure so it makes sense to feel like you need to get out to get the support you need.
You mentioned suicidal thoughts, if those get to the point you feel like you are going to take your own life please call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They are there to help you and keep you safe even if it is from yourself. There is also the community based To Write Love On Her Arms at https://twloha.com/ . They focus on finding hope in tough situations and finding ways to cope without self-harming.
There are also resources for you specifically about your gender identity, the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386, and the LGBT Youth Talkline at 1-800-246-7743. Both work often with LGBT youth in similar situations and might have some ideas to help.
Otherwise if you were to just leave your house now at age 12 your mom can file a runaway report and have police bring you back home. It is known as a status offence, so you wouldn’t be arrested and put into jail or something like that, but police would look for you.
Hopefully these options help you out, if you need someone to talk to about your situation or have more questions please reach out to our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us online at 1800runaway.org.

[Guest]

I am turning 14 in a few months, so I can say that I'm old or at least old enough to act like this. I want to run away really bad, I just don't feel happy anymore. Yes, there are happy times but there are bad times. When something goes wrong my family members are always so stubborn and think that they are always right. They hurt me verbally and physically and honestly I'm really tired of it all. I already packed clothes, a few power banks, cash, chargers, and I'm leaving once my phone is done charging. Should I really go through with this...?

[Guest]

I want to run away no one loves me here they told me run away and go die and the would not care I just need some where to feel safe and be able to be myself but I feel like everything I do is wrong I don’t know where to go I do not have my phone because it got broke in a fight with my family I’m so depressed right now like I wanna die and no one would care so might as well end it all.

[ccsmod4]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.orgis also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I’m a 15 year old boy who knows that he is the reason his home stresses.See I know when I started to have seizures it put a cry on everyone and cause them to stress about my life after school.But lately anything I do (1 year 3 months after the seizures) cause them to get mad at me or call me stupid or (yOu GoNnA eNd uP LiKe yOuR fAtHeR)But the thing that’s gonna make me really run away is how today I lost my wallet with $107 dollars which idk how I saved it up but I did we ended up finding it but during the search my mom was talking ******** then my grandma started to join just a lil my older sister said to me”Why do they do this to you” I now know the answer so with the answer comes what I do with it I just need to get my wallet from my mom I’m either gonna run away tonight or tomorrow the wallet matters I don’t need clothes for heaven so I’m not packing nothing just wanted to say this to some people like I said about the wallet if I can’t get it I’m give u a hint watch 13 reasons why have a nice day and any person who wants to run away don’t u matter in life unlike me and I have proof that I don’t matter so don’t say I do.In god we have faith in parents we love.

[ccsmod16]

Hello there,
Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. We really appreciate you telling us a little about what’s been going on.
It sounds like you’ve really had it with the way your family is treating you. We’re sorry you’re feeling so down. It sounds to us like you’re having a hard time and might try to hurt yourself. If that is what you’re saying, we do want to make sure you’re heard. You have every right to feel how you’re feeling. It might be really helpful to reach out to https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, they have a live chat there for people that are feeling like they might try to kill themselves or even if you’re just thinking about it but don’t have a plan. We’re also here if you’d like to talk. We also have a live chat at www.1800runaway.org. We’re 24/7 as well, feel free to take a chat and talk to us.
That said, it also sounds like you think it’s your fault that you’ve been causing stress in your family due to seizures. It’s so hard to feel like you’re to blame. But you are not. You don’t have any control over something like that. It is NOT ok for them to call you names. No one deserves to be treated like that. You are worthy of love and respect. It sounds like your sister might have some insight to your situation. Do you feel comfortable talking to her about how you feel? Sometimes it’s helpful to talk to someone about your situation that knows you well, if you feel comfortable.
We want you to know that you’re not alone and we are here for you to talk to. Everyone needs someone to talk to sometimes. We’re here when you’re ready.
Best,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I Am Girl And I Am 12 Years Old But I Have Problem With My Younger Sister And Mom Life It's That I Talked About For Being Big My Sister Always Says She Don't Love Me My Mom She Is So Mean Sometimes She's An Handful My Best friend Hates Me Probably. I Just Want To Live I Better Life

[ccsmod0]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

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[ccsmod3]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm planning to runaway and go to a safe place, but I wanna know if there is anyone willing to do it with me. I am 13, is there anyone? It will be tough and difficult but at least two or three people is better and likely to survive than on your own.

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are planning to run away, which is a very bid decision. We are not legal experts but if you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian can file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. If you need help looking for a safe place or options please call or chat with us and we can try to help.
Unfortunately, our forums are not a place to look for people to run away with you and we prohibit that. WE hope you can understand. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

Someone Please Runaway with me asap. Im tired of living here. Im tired of everything, My family and issues.

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to our Bulletin here at NRS. We appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation and how you have been feeling at home. It sounds like you overwhelmed with everything going on and it is making you think about leaving. We want you to know we are here as a support for you as you take your next steps. You can contact us anytime to talk more about your situation so that we can explore all of your options. We can talk about ways for you to feel more supported if you decide to stay at home or safety plan with you if you decide to leave. Do not hesitate to reach out to us anytime for immediate help at 1800runaway.org through our live chat or call us at 1-800-786-2929.

We look forward to hearing from you soon,
NRS

[Guest]

Hello.. I'm 14, and I wanna runaway for home but im scared to go alone. Im aware of the outside world and it's risks. And that it's not easy. I don't have a device, only a school labtop, I don't know what to do. Please help me, thank you.

[ccsmod5]

Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out to us and posting on our forum. We’re here to help in any way we are able to. Don’t hesitate to give us a call or chat with us on our website.

It sounds like you’re in a lot of pain at home if you’re thinking about leaving it and running away. You’re not alone in this, we would love to talk to you more about what’s going home that has been stressing you out. If you do decide that running away is your best option, we want to make sure you stay safe. We can look to see if there’s any runaway shelters in your area if you give us a call or chat with us on our website www.1800runaway.org

Again, thanks for reaching out today. We are here to talk through what’s going on at home and give you resources or options. Our safeline is open 24/7, so we’re always available.

Best, NRS

[Guest]

I'm 16, and living with parents as guardians. Often I feel misunderstood and upset when im around them. I get so upset around them too. At times angry but I can't let it out, sometimes I explode. I wanna leave. I feel like i'm all on my own. I know, going out to the real world is dangerous, so is surviving. I rather go out there over staying here, it gives me a sense of relief. I don't have a phone. Kinda makes it hard. I know what I wanna take, I know I can go to a safe shelter or safe home, well not really but I'll look. It's worth trying at least right?

[ccsmod5]

Hey there,

Thank you so much for taking the time to explain a bit about your situation and post on our forum. We are here help you in any way we are able. If you’re comfortable, please don’t’ hesitate to give us a call or chat with us on our website so we can talk more about what you’re dealing with.

It sounds like you’re in a lot of pain at home, feeling misunderstood is a terrible way to feel. It’s understandable that you feel so angry and want to escape your home environment. You are right, it is dangerous being on the run. If you feel like running away is the best option for you, please give us a call and we will try our best to keep you safe. We can try to find runaway shelters in your area or other resources. You’re not alone in this and we are always here for you.

Please give us a call before you decide anything, so we can help you make the safest decision possible. We are open 24/7. Give us a call or chat with us on our website at www.1800runaway.org . We are here for you!

Best, NRS

[Guest]

Hi I'm 16, gay, and non binary. I want to run away start a new....
I've always been depressed and mentally abused since I was 7 going to 8 years old. My dad was always sick so his wife at the time took care of me and my sister. For background info she already had 4 kids, 5 ish, the 5th one was taken from her before we met her. I'm gonna call her Amy for know, Amy's kids got major jelly because Amy bought us stuff and treated me and my sister well. After a few months after there wedding Amy's kids started to make fun of me. They would call me a whole bunch of names, I just though that's what step fam did so I though very little at the time. Years passed and they did some really horrible stuff to me. They made me mentally not ok. I cant talk to people and I always feel fat.
thats not all of my story.
My dad dumbed her but before that they had a baby boy Jr. So while he was fighting for my half brother he took out all his rage at me. Anything I did was never good enough
know a few years later again he found a gf. He still mistreats me blames me, says he cares about me
I'm at my breaking point and I'm done.
with the lies, the mental abuse, everything
I need somewhere to go, anywhere will work
I have 130 dollars from when he forgot about my birthday

[ccsmod3]

Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The LGBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

Stay Strong,
NRS

[Guest]

so im trying to run away tonight but i have nowhere to go i packed a knife clothes and money and im prbly going to bring my little brother to i mean life is hard for me when i was 3 ever since my grandma died my whole life has changed what can i do to run away ?

[ccsmod16]

Hi ,
Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things have been very difficult and stressful for you for a long time when you were 3 and your grandma died. It is understandable to want to leave a situation to be safe and to want your little brother to be safe.

You have been very brave to reach out to us and ask for help; that takes a lot of courage. We hope that you will reach out to us either by phone or chat so that we can talk this over. We would like to help you figure out what your options are because we are dedicated to helping youth to be safe and off the streets.

The best way for us to help you is by listening to you and helping you to figure some options to help in your situation. We are here for you 24/7 either by calling 1-800-786-2929 or via live chat through www.1800runaway.org
We are confidential and are here 24/7 to listen and help.
Sincerely,
NRS