I want to run away but have no where to go

[Guest]

Hi, my name is **** and I am 14 almost about to be 15. I have run into a ******** ton of drama lately and honestly, i have never felt so worthless in my entire life. My boyfriend has raped me, inpregnated me and then blamed me when the baby died. I feel so worthless.

I beg of you, anyone.... please help.

[ccsmod9]

Hi!

Thank you very much for writing us! We are here to listen, and here to help! Sorry to hear that you have been through such a difficult time. You did not deserve to get raped. Condolences for your loss of the baby as well.

It is understandable that you are having a difficult time. It is brave of you to reach out for help, instead of isolating yourself. We invite you to continue to reach out for help. You can call or chat with us, see our information in the email signature. Aside from our agency, see the resources below for more support that is a little more tailored to what you’ve experienced:

rainn.org (has live chat option) or 1-800-656-4673

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, if it feels so bad that you want to commit suicide or feel really depressed: 1-800-273-8255

We hope to hear from you soon!

NRS

[Guest]

Hey! I need advice, I'm 17 years old and I wanna run away, I was abused my my mother verbally and mentally and when I got sent to Foster care they put me with my sister. The problem now is I have PTSD from yelling and then I'm constantly getting treated like a nobody, my opinion don't matter. I'm not allowed to do anything and they are always leaving me with their kids. I feel like their tool. We just moved into a big city and they expect me to do all the unpacking while they go out fishing and I have all four kids with me at those times. And when they get back they yell at me and make me cower while they say that I never do anything for them and that they feed me and put a roof over my head just for me to be lazy. I wanna run away but I have a fear of being alone and I don't feel like I could make it honestly but if I call the Case Workers I will be digging myself a deeper hole. I need advice please?

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension and you shouldn't have to bear so many responsibilities. From what you've said you've gone through a few rough experiences and it shows how strong and resilient you are. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You mentioned that you unfortunately have some issues with PTSD because of the past abuse and mistreatment. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

You said that you are weary to bring this to the attention of your case manager, but they may be able to intervene and place you elsewhere or work with your foster parents to make home a peaceful place. It could also be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your foster parents so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

No on listens

I've tried to runaway before and got caught...
My step mom constantly puts me down and takes every little thing i do and makes the most sould crushing speech out of it. She and my dad have fought over the way she goes about speaking to me, infact now she's not allowed to talk to me of choose my punishments. But she and dad fight constantly and dad wont leave her or let me move out. And she wont change, i love my family but i cant stay here with them like this. I'm tryinv to wait and petition for emancipation when i turn 16 in November, but im not sure i can last. I have many places that i can go if i run away but im really scared of what my parents will do if they gog me back, im not sure if i should go ahead and run, what should i do?

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We're sorry to hear you are going through such a tough time at home right now. You deserve to be heard and have your feelings validated by your parents. We hope things get better, but we understand why you would want a quick resolution to the situation. Just so you know, we never tell anyone what to do but we can work with you to help you figure out what your best options are. One idea would be to see if you could get permission to leave and live somewhere else. That way you would avoid being considered a runaway. If you do decide to run, your parents could file a report and you could be brought back home by the police. Anyone you stay with could be considered as harboring a runaway, which is a crime. So running away definitely is a big decision.

Perhaps there are other options you have. We'd like to help you figure out what some of these might be. The best way for us to do that is if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us online via www.1800runaway.org. We are confidential and open 24/7. We also have a large database of resources to share with you, things like legal aid, counseling, and the like. Or we can just talk and see how things could get sorted out.

Please stay safe. We hope to hear from you soon!

NRS

[Guest]

Hey so I really need some good advice and support about what to do in life right now. I’ve been staying with my boyfriend, I’m 15 years old and I left from home because my family household is just a pest. It’s overwhelming and sometimes when things go bad my mom starts freaking out yelling, inpatient and sometimes it gets to verbally or physically abuse normally when she hits me it’s just open and close hitting. It’s not just blunt abuse, it happens after we might have argued but things are just so stressful and depressing when I’m there and i wanted to be emancipated but that’s going to take a lot of work

[ccsmod10]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I want to run away but don't know where to go.

[ccsmod0]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

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[Guest]

I have nowhere to go. I could live with a friend but they would probably tell my parents. What do I do?

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,

Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a lot right now.
If you would like to give us a call or chat with us we can see if we can help you find a safe place to go. Or if you just need to talk and support we are here for you. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

Can I get arrested or in trouble for running away

[ccsmod13]

Thanks for taking the time to write us here at NRS. Generally speaking, your parents are your legal guardians until you turn 18, so they can decide where you live. If you do choose to leave without permission, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that if your parents know where you are staying then they can have the police return you home.

The easiest way to leave home as a minor is with your parents’ permission. In this case, they would be allowing you to live somewhere else where you are safe and being cared for. A helpful step is to start reaching out to friends and family members you might be able to stay with. Sometimes having an adult advocate on your side can make communicating your needs more effective to your parents. Perhaps an adult family member, a friend's parent or a counselor at school can talk to your parents with you about your experience at home and the possibility of you leaving.

We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

i wanna run away but im scared
im a soon to be 17 year old and lately life has been hell for me here. i live in Tanzania, East Africa but im originally arab. my dad has left us due to financial purposes leaving my mom raising us on her own and she wont stop complaining about it. my dad is unaware of how she trears me like a bag of unwanted stuff laying in the corner of a room. i know she's done with me but her sense of humanity is stopping her from throwing me out or is it because im sick and dying and indirectly a psychopath. i ant to live alone but the process of doing that is hard and i dont have the health of doing that but i wanna do it. at least when im on my own i'll be able to take care of myself.

[ccsmod2]

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

[Guest]

I want to run away. There have been lots of problems with my sister ever since she got with her boyfriend. Today I was so mad because my whole family started turning against me and i said i hope she gets the corona virus and i dont regret it at all. All she cares about is her boyfriend, she doesnt even care about how i feel or how i am doing. If her boyfriend is mad at me, shes mad at me, i bet if her boyfriend wanted her to kill me she would do that to with enough convincing. Im really getting tired of her and her boyfriend. I try to stay away from her but she lives with me in a apartment and we share a room. Her boyfriends favorite song is me and my guitar and at first i didnt like it but when i heard it again i started liking the song and when i played it on my ps4 and started vibing to it her boyfriend was like, He really just stole my song. Then he started insulting me and my sister just laughed about it but when i said something back she got annoyed like he didnt say anything to me. Im 13 and man or boy enough to admit i did insult his forehead but its not my fault its huge. All he said was im a fake a boogie fan and we just roasted each other as a joke like we usually do. After that day thinking it was over everytime i played that song in the house she said, "oh that's jd's favorite song" or he has such a good playlist or some type of bs about her boyfriend. She always says something about him not even caring about what i think about it. All she ever does is complement her boyfriend over and over. One day when playing the song she brought up her boyfriend and stated bragging about him again. I was so tired of her and him and everything and everyone so i said can you not talk about him everytime i play this song. I continued staying on that topic but not trying to insult her. After i said what i had to say i told her can you also stop showing my bare butt to him when they are on facetime because when i come out the shower i usually just change in front of her and she doesnt care. I dont show the front part she only sees my butt and im pretty sure half of the universe has seen my butt but back to the point, i asked her to stop only to find out she was mad at me again because earlier that day we got into another argument because we went to the laundry and I only put one of her shoes in the washing machine. She got mad and just started insulting me. So when i found out she was mad i got extra mad because she was only caring for herself and no one else. The only thing she cared about was herself and if i were a normal person i would read her or show this to her but with her according to her she has no respect for me so when i talk to her it goes in one ear and out of the other. Honestly she is the reason why half of the times im mad and when i said i hope she gets the corona virus i was really mad because i was fed up with all the bs. Another thing to add she is 16 so she is 3 years older than me. Also another thins our school has closed down because of the corona virus so you would think that this would be a time to hang out with family and talk to them and play games with them but with her this was just a times to talk about her boyfriend and facetime him. Also my mom blames me for everything. When we went to school i would usually talk to my bestfriend anny about this but texting her about this wouldnt be the same. Honestly i have a secret crush on her and i really think i have liked and dated all these other girls trying to hide that i do. Me and her just met this year and honestly she is the type of girl i like. Shes funny, smart, cute, and she always finds a way to make me smile. There is another girl named jenna im having mixed feelings about also. She also is funny smart and not just cute, not in a weird way but she like hot. I would rather be with anny but jenna is idk just there but anny is the one who checked up one me during this break and i checked up on jenna. I dont want to tell anny because i know she doesnt feel the same way and i already told jenna and she said she would like and date me but she is going through a lot right now and i understand because she cried everyday either in school or at home and i think she still does but i havent texted her in a while but i havent and i dont want to tell anny i liek her. Hoenstly my life is messed up but i have a album coming out on may 1st 2020. I use music as a way to express my self and i would have wrote this whole book i wrote her into a song if i hadnt found this website. I like no love music and i do want to get recognized by a record label so if you have any friends and you know someone tell them to check out the album. It called heartbreak and my artist name is AXELL so check that out. I might not be depressed like some people on this sight and i might not be broken as much as some people on this sight but i just had to let it out and there is no one for me to do that to but thank you. Hopefully you can reach back out for some support.

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Hello There,
Thank you so much for reaching out to us at The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen.
Wow it sounds like you and your sister are going through a lot right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone. Siblings argue, and that is completely normal, even though at times it can be frustrating. Sometimes we also tend to say things when we are upset that we do not mean. You could consider apologizing to your sister, if that is something you would want to do.
One option to consider is to talk with your legal guardian about this situation, and maybe you guys can have a family meeting. Sometimes it may help for all of you to sit down and have your parent mediate the conversation so that way everyone gets heard. You can also try and tell your sister that you would want to spend time with her, and come up with an activity you both can do together.
It is great that you have music as an outlet, and we hope that you are successful as a music artist. It helps to have a way to cope with everything that is going on.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would just like to vent, we are here 24/7. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I want to runaway but I don’t know were to go.
I never really get along with my family and we fight all the time. My friends are sometimes not even real friends and it hurts emotionally. My mom would tell me that I’m bullying this family and running away will stop it. I want to tell my friend about wanting to runaway but I’m worried what they will think. I have thought really hard about it and I think that running away is better then the other choices I thought of. I have it planned out but scared when it comes to the actual choice.

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Hello there –

Thank you for reaching out to us here on our public forum. Hoping that by helping you through your crisis, there are others that are going through a similar situation can also get helped at the same time. It can be pretty rough to feel like you are unwanted by your family or even that you are “bullying” your family. Those are things that you shouldn’t have to hear from the people that are supposed to love and support you.

As you have probably read throughout out our threads here, that we aren’t legal experts and that the age of majority does vary from state to state. So we aren’t going to go through that with you as you can find it easily. We want to make sure that you are safe doing whatever you decided to do. Having a solid plan about what you are planning on doing it might be a good idea so that you can think about what is reasonably possible for you to do and want isn’t. Factoring in these kinds of thoughts into your overall plan, again can possibly help you in your choice (i.e, where are you going to be living [long term vs. short term], what's your role in the house, are you going to be working/going to school, will you be paying your share of the bills/rent, what happens if you realize down the road that you can't live together and they kick you out, etc). It's certainly a jump step to make and we want you to be as safe as possible when making your decision.

On the other side of things, you also want to think of if you were too say at home what that is going to look at. Thinking of what you can do to cope with the harsh words that your family casually throws your way. Unfortunately we can’t control the way that people act and behave, but we can control how those same actions are going to affect us and play a part in your life going forward. Thinking for different coping techniques that work for you and spending more time away from your abusers if possible.

If you want to talk more about your situation, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us here. Best of luck!

[Guest]

hey i'm suicidal I feel like no one cares. I have friends but I don't want them to worry about me. My dad emotionally abuses me. I'm in 6th grade, and I really want to leave my house. I always have to hide my emotions. I get bullied in school and my dad yells at me for nothing. I have a therapist but I feel like its not helping. I have cut myself at school, and sometimes I want to do it again. If I run away I have nowhere to go and no money. My parents always fight and yell and sometimes I feel like my dad will hurt my mom or me. I been separating, hiding, and lying to my family and friends a lot lately. I'm sacred to be myself and show people who I am. I always need to who I am even at home. My home does feel like home anymore. I always find myself crying. I really just want to die or run away.

[ccsmod15]

Hey there,
It seems like you are going through a lot right now and it’s understandable to feel like getting out of the situation is the best right now. It’s good that you have a therapist to talk to, someone who is objective and there purely for your sake can be helpful sorting out these feelings. It may take a lot of time and work but things can improve. Parents should be supporting you and helping you through crisis, not be the ones causing it through emotional abuse and fighting with each other to the point you are afraid it will become violent. If things do get to that point please don’t hesitate to call 9-1-1 for help.
It seems like you are cautious about opening up to your friends and family about your feelings, which is understandable. Sharing these deep feelings takes courage and can open you up to being hurt, but it’s also really hard for them to know you may need a shoulder to cry on if you don’t talk to them. Real friends will be willing to help as best they can with the situation. Even if for some of them it’s just listening to your story. Some may be going through similar things and you don’t even know it, or may have ideas as to how to cope you haven’t thought of.
It seems like you are going through a lot, and if you feel like you are considering taking your own life again please call 9-1-1 or the National Suicide Line at 1-800-273-8255.
If you have more questions or just need someone to talk to we are always here to chat at 1-800-RUNAWAY or online through our website.

[Guest]

I'm 13, and me and a few friend plan to runaway when we're 16, me and a couple of other friends are having a really tuff time at home, my parents r always yelling at me, and my grandma pulled on my hoodie and was choking me, so I got her off by throwing her down, she blames me and claims she didn't even touch me! She's turned everyone against me, and everyone except my sister (in my family) hates me. Me and my friends r going to live in another state, so when I'm old enough I'll go back, I just can't deal with them for much longer.

[ccsmod5]

Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out to us today! It was brave of you to tell us a bit about what’s going on and we appreciate your honestly. We are always available to help in any way we can.

You do not deserve to be yelled at by your parents, nor attacked like that by your grandmother. It sounds really scary and stressful at home. It’s understandable that you’re planning on running away in a couple of years. We do want to keep you safe and we are here give you resources and make sure that if you do run away, it’s in a safe way.

Please give us a call at (800) RUNAWAY or chat with us on our website www.1800runaway.org . We are open 24/7 so we are always available for you! Stay safe and thanks again for reaching out.

Best, NRS

[Guest]

i want to run away but have no where to go

hi i want to run away but am afraid i will get caught my mom treats me like trash she says im a mistake and she makes me want to kill myself i really need a place to run away to i cant stay here anymore i cant take it i live in mountain home so if anyone has a place for me to stay id like that thanks

[ccsmod9]

Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything. You do not deserve to be abused by your mother. It’s not your fault that she behaves this way towards you.
We understand how difficult it must be to deal with this situation and cope with the feelings that come from it.
You are very brave for doing so. Good for you.
NRS is here to listen and here to help.
Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.
NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.
We are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org (live chat).

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm sorry to hear that happening to you but just remember you shouldn't kill yourself because even if you haven't met them yet, You WILL make someone's life beautiful. I my self am 10 and a feel depressed like I want to runaway but whenever I feel like running away I think to myself if I die the person I'm supposed to make life beautiful, will have no one to love and help them -Morri

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are super supportive and we appreciate you trying to support others on this forum page.
We are sorry to hear that you have also been going through tough times. We want you to know that we are always here to support you in any way we can.
We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS