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  • Hey everyone! I am 16 years old, live in Florida and I cannot stand my father anymore. He is both physically and mentally abusive. He has been that way for as long as I can remember but in the past two or three years it has been just the worst. He has put me through so much in life that I can confidently say I hate him with all my heart. I resent him and feel disguisted because of all the stuff he has done to me. In fact, I hate all of my family. It is just so toxic and dysfunctinal. I have a job and do well in school (I am in 11thh grade) and plan to move out and go away for college after high school. But that means I would still have to live with my family for another year and a half, which honestky sucks so much. But then if I run away, it is likely they will find me and I do not know where I would go and what highschool I would attend if I ran away. I am ambitious and feel like if I run away I would kill the future plans, like going away to a good college and stuff. But the thought of having to live with my family for another year and a half is legitimatelly scary because I just hate them so so much and am so unhappy in this home.

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      Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your family life has become unbearable for you. It shows strength and resilience to have gotten as far as you have and it is important that you recognize that. Your ambition is clear in your work ethic and efforts in school and you deserve an opportunity to succeed and grow in a supportive environment. Any type of abuse or violence in the home is not okay and if you are interested in reporting or exploring what the reporting process might look like, please contact the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org.

      It is wise to consider what you have to lose in running away alongside the potential benefits. While it is difficult for us to tell you what you should do because we do not have all of the information about your situation, we could definitely talk about what options you have and how you could approach them. If you are interested in doing so, please reach out to us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-422-4453 or on chat at 1800runaway.org.

  • I'm 16 and I want run away
    i have a girlfriend that might be pregnant and my family tries to help but I'll if they do they would deal with even more kids and emotional standers I don't want to keep them in one place so me and my girlfriend wants to run away but we don't know we're.

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      Hi,

      Thank you for your post. It can be very overwhelming when your significant other may be pregnant. From the way you describe the possibility of there being “even more kids” and “emotional standers,” it sounds like you feel like your situation might be a burden to your family. We want to let you know that you are not a burden! Everyone deserves love and support, especially when they find themselves in challenging situations like your own. You are worthy of support from your family if they are willing to help. That being said, if you and your girlfriend to choose to leave home, there are a few things to consider:

      -Interacting with police: While we are not legal experts, we can say that if you leave home without permission from your family, your parents could file a runaway report and if the police are able to locate you they may return you home.

      -Safety: Running away is a big decision. You asked where to run away; often, young people choose to go to friends, family members, emergency shelters, or transitional living programs. For more info on shelters or TLPs, feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929. Having a place to stay can be huge in terms of your safety as staying outside can put you both in danger of physical or sexual violence.

      -Healthcare: If your girlfriend is indeed pregnant, she may have to make a decision about what to do next—that is, planning for an abortion or planning for the birth of a child. In any case, your girlfriend may want to go to a medical professional. A great resource for prenatal care and other options, you can call Planned Parenthood at 1-800-230-7526.

      Thank you again for your message. Feel free to give us a call if you need additional resources or just need help thinking through your options. We are here 24/7 to listen and help in any way we can.

      Sincerely,

      NRS

  • Hi I think my family is abusive but I don't know if they are. I've been thinking about running away for a few months now but I'm always to scared of what I would loose. I am 12 going on 13 by the way. I also am on the autism spectrum and I get really upset when anyone yells or says something to upset me but my family just get mad and says to get over it. I have a dad and a stepmom that also live in the same town but my mom makes me too nervous to ask to live over there. So now I am terrified and don't know what to do.

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live into a home with so much tension. Everyone deserves to have their boundaries and feelings acknowledged and accepted. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      You mentioned that you think you might be living in an abusive household. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

      It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. This can all influence your decision to leave.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      All the best,
      NRS

  • im 14 and in 9th grade



    I really want to run away, I've been wanting to run away for almost a year. almost everybody in my house emotionally abuses me I don't want to be in my house anymore I feel like a mistake I feel like I don't belong anywhere and I have nowhere to go if I run away

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      Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you have been thinking about running or awhile now, and you are feeling emotionally abused at home. That sounds so hurtful, no one deserves to be abused, and folks should be treated with respect. Here at NRS, we want you to know that you are not a mistake. You are not lesser than anyone else - not your family, not your peers or teachers, no one. You have a right to your own space and your feelings are valid.

      Sounds like you are feeling like you do not belong anywhere and you will have nowhere to go if you leave. Here at NRS, we are primarily concerned about your safety and if you do decide to leave we encourage you to make a concrete plan on where/how you will go places safely and still get your basic needs met. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If you call or chat us, we can look for runaway youth shelters near you or talk through your situation with you and help brainstorm your options.

      We look forward to hearing from you. You are not alone,

      NRS

  • hi i'm 13 i want to run away because my mother abuses me and i am 100% certan that i want to leave i have a bag ready to go with clothes shoes i've been thinking about running away for three year's now i tould my friend and she wants to adopt me but she cant my mother make's ,e feel useless and that i'm a big mistake i want to go somewhere where i wont be found i've been scared to contact you guys ive read on this website before but i finally feel safe to but i'm also scared like that governmet or someone's gonna be watching me now im scared of my mother

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • Sometimes, I really want to escape my parents and my life. I sort of think that everyone I know expects me to be perfect because I have straight A's and I am two years ahead in math, along with the fact that I am a "gifted" learner. I think that I am ugly and dumb and I'll never be the daughter my parents are proud of. They used to hurt me, but now I know how to stay in the clear. My parents are Hindu and want me to be arranged to a nice guy, but I am a lesbian and I don't believe in anything. I don't have many friends, and they don't really understand why I feel this way. Sometimes, I think that suicide is a better idea. I don't know what to do, and if I live long I want to be successful, and I need school to acimpish my dream.

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      HI there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out. We’re really sorry to hear about all of that. It sounds like a lot of people have expectations for you that you that are causing you a lot of stress. You’re going through a lot, and it shows a lot of strength to try to push through things like you are.

      It sounds like you’re achieving a lot in school, but you still feel pretty lost. That’s something we hear from a lot of people, especially people who have problems with their family not accepting who they are. You’re definitely not alone, even if it feels like your friends don’t understand why you feel that way. If you feel like you can’t talk with your friends about things, sometimes it can also help to talk to an adult – maybe a teacher you trust, a school counselor, or a relative you’re close with.

      Being lesbian in a family that doesn’t understand that can be really hard for anybody. Luckily, there are a lot of great organizations that specialize in talking LGBTQ people through problems just like that. A great one is the LGBT National Youth Talkline at 1-800-246-7743 (or [email protected]). I also see that you’re thinking about suicide. We’re truly sorry to hear that – nobody deserves to feel that way. The Trevor Project is an LGBTQ youth suicide lifeline that offers support specifically for LGBTQ people. You can call them at 1-866-488-7386, chat them online at thetrevorproject.org, or text them by texting START to 678678.

      Nobody deserves to be hurt by anybody, including their parents. We want you to know that if you ever feel unsafe in your home, you can always call 9-1-1. You can also get in touch with your local child protective services agency if you want someone to intervene at home but you don’t want to call the police.

      We’re also always available if you want to talk more! You’re being really strong in the face of real challenges, and we’d love the chance to talk to you about it. You can post again here, chat us on our website 1800runaway.org, or call us at 1-800-786-2929. We wish you the best of luck.

      -NRS

  • I want to run away ...I feel unloved and useless I feel so, so useless right now because well I feel unloved because unlike most siblings we make up right away and I was dealing with a lot of stuff when I was at school and was on the brink of crying while washing the dishes and my brother brings in a ton when I'm almost done , and then I get upset and start crying because I couldn't hold it in anymore and my brother thinks that they were crocodile tears ,and and said he doesn't care if I'm upset and that's when my mom called us in the room and well we got into an argument and then he hasn't talked to me sense and then fast forward to today (he still isn't talking to me)my mom hates me and I'm a brat someone said I feel like no one would even are if I died I'm pretty sure the only reason my mom would care is if my blood was spilled on the carpet she paid for and every night I cry myself to sleep because on top of that a friend of mine just stopped talking to me and she was my best friend and I just can't take it anymore frankly I just wish I was never born
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    • Reply: I want to run away ...

      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You did well by reaching out today. We would be glad to talk with you about your situation and maybe explore some options towards a resolution. It sounds like you are very concerned about the relationship with mom and brother. We understand how upsetting things have been for you.
      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Take care,
      NRS

      We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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      • Hi I am in 5th grade and I REALLLY REALLY WANT TO run away because my mom does not love me my sister all she cares about is my dogs she is like did you feed you dogs did you check their water did you clean their water did you give them attention and my parents all they do is ignore the only time they dont ignore me is when I am in trouble they want me to be in trouble and when they want to know something from me my mom is a teacher and I am her homeroom student and there is this girl named Faith and my mom promised me that I could do the good and bad list but noooooooo Faith got to do it and I am her least favorite student and Faith her her favorite student and I hate it I feel like I want to kill myself and I am invisible and no one loves me!!!!!!!!
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          Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like things at home and feeling ignored and unloved have really taken a toll on you. Here at NRS, we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time. Your life has infinite value and you so deserve to make it through this.

          You mentioned that you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

          If you haven't already, you might try to talk to your mom about how you are feeling unheard and ignored. You might try to include a trusted adult in on the conversation if you are feeling like your mom won't listen. Here at NRS, we do have a conference call service if you would like help with mediating that conversation. Please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY for the conference call service.

          Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

          If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); [url]www.1800runaway.org.

          We hope to hear from you soon.

          Be safe and stay strong,

          NRS

      • I'm 13 and I get abused verbally and physically idk what should I do...I wanna run away and I told my mom she said she doesn't care if I run away but if I go I can't take anything with me cuz I don't own anything she said I'll have to go naked

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          Hello There,
          Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a very difficult time. You do not deserve to be treated that way, nobody deserves to be abused. You can make a report by calling your local non-emergency police department or by calling The Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. We know that making an abuse report can be scary if you would like our help you can call us and we would be more than happy to help you with the abuse report. If you do runaway because you are a minor if the police found you they would most likely bring you back home. In some cases that may change if abuse is going on. If you ever feel in danger you could call 911 and someone would help you ASAP. If you do decide to runaway you may want to consider where you would stay, what you would do for money, and how you would stay safe.
          We hope this information will help you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to talk more please give us a call, we are here 24/7. We wish you the best of luck, and remember to stay strong!
          NRS

      • I hate my mom so much all she do is be man to me and I hate it

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          Hello there, thanks for reaching out today.

          Sounds like you are having troubles with your mom at home, and it is taking a toll on you. Here at NRS, we want to be a support for you during this difficult time. We have a conference call service if you ever would like to have a mediated conversation with your mom about how you are feeling. That could be a safe place to express your feelings without being interrupted or disrespected. We also have individual and family counseling resources if you think those could be helpful for your situation. We are also always here for you if you need to vent to someone or if you would like to talk through your situation and help with brainstorming your options.

          Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk: www.1800runaway.org; 1-800-RUNAWAY.

          Best,

          NRS

      • Hi. My life for the past few months have been the worse few months of my life. I am 12 years old and I just feel like running away. My little sister who is 9 lies to my mom to get me in trouble. My dad is at work for 48 hours a week and I just can't stop this. I had to yell at my sister and pull her off her bed because she kept on coming into my room and telling my mom that I was swearing to her (my little sister). I feel like a waste of time, money, effort, and just a plain waste of human life. I feel uncomfortable talking about this and I feel like this is pointless that I am writing this. Sometimes I wish i could have my sister go get hit by a bus and then my life would be normal again. I want to just run away and never come back. I just have no were to go. Also, my best friend wont talk to me, we have been friends ever since the 2nd grade. please help!

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          Hi,
          Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. You are clearly going through a lot at home, and it sounds like it is affecting your self-esteem and your mental health. Without the support you deserve at home, you must feel lonely. It is important to reach out for help in situations like yours. You did so even when you felt like it might be pointless, so we commend you for your commitment and bravery.
          It sounds like you are really hurting. Feeling like you are a waste of human life is a big, scary feeling, and it is important that you know that there are people that will be there for you if you reach out. We have volunteers that are always here to listen and support you through hard feelings. Our number is 1-800-RUN-AWAY. You can also always reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 to speak to someone about the tougher moments. Sometimes, school counselors can be good resources as well. They are there to listen and help without judgement. Reaching out to friends and other family members can be an important step, too. Your wish to run away make sense in light of all the stuff going on with your Mom and sister. There are places you can go when you run away, including shelters and other safe places. If you call us, we can help you find one near you. You might also consider reaching out to extended family and friends to see if you might be able to stay with them, at least for enough time for you to recover and figure out your next steps. Perhaps these people can provide the support you need in this lonely time. It is not easy to lose a friend like you have, but there are others out there that want to make sure you are cared for.
          Again, thank you so much for reaching out to us. This was a big, mature step to take. We hope that some of this information will be useful to you. If you ever would like, you can reach out to us 27/7. We are here to listen, here to help.

          Sincerely,
          National Runaway Safeline

      • I’m a 6th grader and my mom and dad emotionally and physically abuse me ever since I was 5 they have been doing it: choking me, hitting in me , whipping me I want to run but I’m afraid they will find me bring me back to one of their houses ( because they don’t live together) and beat me. Or I will get to a friends house and their parents will tell my parents where I am. And my best friend is abused too I want to bring him with me what should we do

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          Hi there,

          Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation at home. We are sorry you are experiencing abuse, no one ever deserves to go through that. You do have the right to report the abuse to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You can either do it yourself or call into us directly and we can support you through it. It is hard to say the result of reporting, but if you call in you can ask what the process might look like.

          Also another way you can seek help is reaching out to a friend, teacher, or counselor at school that can help you look for resources. Your mental health is important. You and your friend both deserve to be safe. We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.
          -NRS

      • I'm Harmony I'm 14 turning 15 in a couple of weeks.
        For the past 2 years, my life has been turned upside down. My parents have gotten into physical fights and tried to kill each other. My favorite grandma is dead, my house flooded in Harvey, I've been cheated on, abused by my sister, and more that I can't remember(when you go through so much, you forget what all has happened).
        I've wanted to kill myself since I was 9. every night , I think about dying and what it would be like. I wanted to just slit my throat and watch all my blood just rush down. My mom or dad never notice. There was this one night I when i was 12, I didn't know who to talk to so I just straight up told my sister that I was gonna kill myself. That's when she ********ing runs off to go tell my mom. My mom sits there, face pale. "is this true?"she asked. I didn't answer. I wouldn't look her in the eye. She called the suicide hotline and i hated every. second.
        I started t.o cut not long after that. I broke a mirror and slit my left wrist as hard as i could. I remember just watching the blood spill and listening to every little drop on the floor. my mom seemed to see my cuts. she probably pretended that i wasn't the disappointment i really am or she just didn't give two s. later on i found a sharp pair of scissors and started to cut. my school noticed and called home. i told everyone i'd slipped and scraped my arm on a brick wall.
        about a year later i started cutting the sides of my neck with razor blades and knives no one would notice... right? that's when my friend sees it one day and finds out i'm suicidal. it sucked. she was so sad. i will never forget the look in her eyes.
        It all comes down to now. i haven't mentioned how close my dad and i were. My step-dad, Matt as i call him, was so kind. he was amazing and he actually listened to me. i mean, the only time i couldn't talk to him was when i wanted to commit suicide. he told me he'd been wanting to do it too. we both went through an important talk as to why we should still stay alive and not kill ourselves already. all in all, he listened and i loved him very much.
        my mom, on the other hand, is almost the opposite. sure, she listens... sometimes. but she always gets mad about what i have to say. now i'm not saying she's a bad mom, in fact, she's amazing. but she doesn't listen.
        she also complains about the bills when she doesn't show up to work.
        Okay officially to the present. My mom kicked out my dad because the divorced. she now has a new boyfriend who's really nice but he isn't like Matt at all. I hate it here because i have to do all the chores since my sister is in a mental hospital now so that means i never get any free time. and i'm always forced to take care of my little sister while my mom sleeps. I hate it here so much because she never even has time to listen to me anymore and i'm just so sick of it.
        I want to run away to my dad. The only problem is i have no idea where he is right now. I need to leave now in order to keep me from killing myself or losing all sanity.
        I know my mom will be fine if i left because she has her boyfriend and my little sister.
        Every night i cry dreaming about leaving this place and i feel it's now or never

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        • Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services. You also mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your mom’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
          Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
          If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          We hope to hear from you soon.
          Be safe and stay strong,
          NRS
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
          [email protected] (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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