I want to run away but have no where to go

[FabulousKilljoy]

I'm 13 and I really want to run away. My mom emotionally abuses me and sometimes physical, she said that she would 'beat' me like she did with my sister if I wasn't so fragile. I have only one friend offline because i'm home schooled, but I'm afraid to tell him that I want to runaway. I am aware that the real world is harsh, and I will probably not survive for long by myself, and that's why I want to take a friend, but like I said, I only have one. I kind-of have a plan in my head if I do runaway, but it will probably backfire like most things I try and do. I don't think I can take this much longer, I have become careless, angry at everybody, and bulimic. I also cry myself to sleep sometimes, and self harm. Earlier today, my mom hit me for having an angry tone, but I can't help it. She also chases me around the house trying to hit me with a wooden spoon, but luckily my Grandmother's bathroom has a drawer that blocks the door, but it is on the other side of the house. I'm afraid to tell anybody because I think they will say that I shouldn't 'because she still loves me' but I honestly doubt that, and don't care. I'm starting to fail school and have no appetite most of the time, but when I do, I try to vomit my meal if I can. Please help.

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re: I want to run away but have no where to go

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out tonight. It sounds like you are going through so much right now with your mom. It sounds like an exhausting and scary place to live. Your mom is totally wrong to treat you that way. You don’t deserve to ever be treated that way. It’s understandable that you’re thinking about leaving. It was brave of you to reach out tonight and get some information, so let’s see how we can help you out.

You mentioned that you’re feeling really frustrated and what’s going on at home is really impacting your well-being. It certainly sounds like an overwhelming situation. It’s good that you’re thinking about your safety. It sounds like it’s important for you to be somewhere safe, so thinking about your safety is a good thing when you’re thinking about leaving.

There are some places where you might want to look into going, if you decide to leave. One place to look for shelters is www.nationalsafeplace.org. If you click on your state in the upper right corner, you can take a look and see if there is a safe place where you can stay for a few nights and get some support for what you are looking for.

We also have a database here full of resources and shelters where you might be able to stay to be safe. There are more options for you in terms of getting services if you decide to stay at home too. Please feel free to call us 24 hours a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). If you aren’t able to call, please feel free to chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm-11.30pm Central Time.

We look forward to your call or chat.

Best of luck to you,

NRS

[FabulousKilljoy]

Update

I decided to run away on the 23-24th, and have a map to where I will go. I have a knife and some money packed, along with some clothes. My sister might come with me (most likely not) and I was wondering if there was any places to stay when I run away just in case. I live in odessa

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re: update

Hello,

Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like home is not where you want to be and you have been thinking about this for a while. We think that it is awesome that you are thinking ahead, because sometimes running away can be a big change. Packing clothes and money is a great step to take for if/when you leave.

We are not legal experts, but we can speak in general terms what could happen if you were to leave without a legal guardians consent. To start off running away is not a criminal offense, it is a status offense. This means that you cannot leave without your legal guardian’s consent. If you were to leave without their consent then they would have an option of filing a runaway report with the police. This lets the police know that they cannot be legally responsible for you because you left without their permission. If you are found then the police would most likely bring you back to your legal guardian. If you are found at a family member or friend’s house, then your legal guardian may have the option of charging that person with harboring a runaway which is a misdemeanor offense.

You asked about where you could go for when you decided to leave. Because you are 13, it can be difficult to find a place to go where your parents would not get notified or need to give their consent. If you have someone that will allow you to stay with them, and is willing to take the risk of harboring a run away, they may be an option for you.

If/when you were to leave these are some things to think about:
Is where you’re going safe?
What will you do if your situation ever becomes unsafe?
What will you do when you no longer have money? How will you survive?
Do you have anyone that will take the risk of allowing you to stay with them?
Who can you turn to if you were in trouble/danger?
How do you think things will be if you were brought back home?

We hoped this helped and we encourage you to call our 24/7 hotline at 1800.786.2929 or you can chat with us every day from 4:30pm-11:30pm CST. We hoped this helped and we look forward to hearing from you. We wish you the best of luck.

NRS

[Lolly12]

I wat to run away but I have know here to go

Ok so I am 12 and my reason to run away is not like the others and it may sound a bit pathetic. It is mostly my mum. I have never really got along with her and I am always having arguments with her. She hates me, I sit in bed a lot of the time crying because I wish she wasn't my mum and that she isn't so mean and nasty to me. Sometimes she will come up to me while we are arguing and open her mouth while pointing her finger at me and say" you are rubbish to me", " I don't want you in my life" before she strangles me and puts me on the floor and starts hitting me or punching me. when i ell my dad he doesn't believe me. I'm scared of her. And then there's my brother who my mum adores and sucks up to because she loves him soooo much and she has favouritism. Everything is always about him and he has to be the main centre of attraction. My dad used to be nice, but now he is grumpy and is kinda showing some favouritism too. He always tells me that I am not good enough and says things like"who do you think you are" , "you stupid girl". He also says my exam marks are not good enough and that I am at the bottom of the class. Numerous times he has threatend to take me out of my school and send me to boarding school because my parents don't want me in their lives. They would probably tell a different story and say that they love me and that they are on my side, but they are not an they don't love me as much as my brother. For example, tonight my dad expects me to do 20 minutes of piano and expects me to be able to read pieces of music within an instant even though I don't have lessons and I am not even on grade one. My dad always agrees with my mum (she doesn't act like one) and sticks up for my brother. I have been thinking about running away for a long time, but I won't go up to friends and ask to be with them because that is just embarrassing. Do you know of any places that I can run away to?

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I wat to run away but I have know here to go

Thanks for contacting us and we’re really sorry to hear that you’ve been going through this. It sounds like your mom has possibly been physically abusive to you as well as not treating you fairly and you don’t deserve that at all. It’s great that you are reaching out for help and hopefully we can try to help you as best as we can.

You mentioned that your parents have tried to take you out of school as well as shown favoritism to your brother. It must be difficult to have to feel like they don’t have faith in you and to feel like you aren’t being treated how you should be. One option may be to try to have a conversation with them about this? It may be hard to talk to them in case they yell or get into an argument but there might be alternative ways to discuss how you’re feeling such as writing a letter, talking to someone else about it, or having someone like a friend or family member there to support you while you talk. If you don’t have a trusted adult that you can talk to you can always call us on out hotline. We offer a conference call where you, your parents, and we can have a conversation about the issues you are having. This might be one option that you are comfortable with.

You also mentioned some physical abuse. If you want to do this, you can file an abuse report to let someone know that this is going on. Usually you can do that through a child abuse hotline number. Because we are not sure where you are located, you may have to call or chat us. You don’t deserve to be treated like this and we are sorry you’re having to deal with it.

You also mentioned that you are thinking of leaving home and have been for a while now. We are not legal experts, but we can speak in general terms what would happen if you decided to leave. Running away, leaving home, is not a criminal offense- it is a status offense. This means that you cannot leave due to you being a minor. If you were to leave then your parents would have the option of filing a runaway report. We understand that you do not want to go to a friend’s house, but we do want you to be aware that anyone you stay with (friends, family, shelter) could be charged with harboring a runaway if you are found there.

Our only concern is that you are in a safe place and you are the only one that make that decision. Some things to think about if you were to leave would be:
Is where you are going safe?
What would you do if things ever became unsafe?
Who would you turn to for help?
Do you have a trusted adult that you can talk to about everything that is going on?
Do you have someone that is willing to accept the charge of harboring a runaway?
How will you survive? Food? Where will you sleep?
If you were found and forced to go back home, what would that be like for you?

If you want to get that number or talk more about what’s been going on you can contact us through chat or through our 24/7 hotline. We are here for you

[unloved]

Running away with no where to go

my whole family hates me . My mom and dad abuse me physically and emotionally . My older sister does everything in her power to make me feel like s*** , she tells me in psycho I'm a drunk I'm a pothead . Even though I do neither of those things . My mother has hated me for the longest time she told me when I was 11 she wishes she had an abortion instead of having me . My dad says I'm annoying piece of ******** and he just wants to wrap his hands around my neck and not let go when I talk . My mom spits on me and puts me down every chance she gets . My little sister tells me how I'm fat trash an ugly everytime she speaks to me . And when I talk to her she tells me shut up you don't have permission to talk to me , zip it . My 5 year old brother tells me how he hates me and no one likes you we hate you. I want to run away I want to kill myself I just want to feel loved and being in heaven and away from all this , maybe just maybe I'll feel loved . I don't know where to runaway to , I don't want my family to find me .. EVER .

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Re: Running away with no where to go

Hello there,

We’re glad you found our bulletin boards and felt comfortable enough to share your situation. You shared some pretty intense and hurtful comments your family has told you and we’re sorry. We can only imagine how much it hurt when your mother told you she wishes she had an abortion instead of having you. Emotional and verbal abuse can often hurt as much as physical abuse and you do have the right to try and file an abuse report with your local Child Protective Services if that’s your choice. More information can be found here: https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/.

You don’t deserve to be treated this way and we’re sorry things have gotten to the point where you want to run away or kill yourself. There is support out there if you are feeling suicidal. We’re here to listen and provide support to the best of our ability and there is also the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline and they even have a separate session for young people. http://www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ As far as running away, while we don’t help young people run away we do care about safety. One place to begin in finding a safe place to go might be http://nationalsafeplace.org/. Many times it can be hard for young people, particularly minors to stay away forever, but many cities/states participate in the safe place program which connects runaway/youth in crisis to their nearest safe place shelter. We hope this gives you a start and encourage you to try out our Live Chat if you’d like to continue going over your situation and possible options.

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Asthma

Am I in the right place? Anyway my reasons are a bit different then the other in this chain of comments. My father and brother have always been messy which means the house is always messy. Doesn't matter how many times I clean it. Recently my brother did something at school and a social worker came to my house. He gave us a few days to clean up, but I know it won't happen, and we have almost no relatives. On top of that my brother abuses me and I just don't feel very loved. I have looked up everything and gotten the route down to take if worst comes to worse. However I have asthma, and it's not going to be easy since it's almost fall. What should I do? ( 14 in 5 days)

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Asthma

Hi there,

We are glad that you reached out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like things aren’t going well at home. It is not okay that your brother abuses you. You do not deserve to be abused. Home is a place where you should feel comfortable and safe. Hopefully the social worker you mentioned can provide your family with some support.

There is a lot to consider when running away like who you are going to stay with, how you’ll get there, how you’ll pay for things, or if your family would file a runaway report. These are just some things to consider and we would be happy to talk to you about your specific situation if you called or chatted with us.

It takes a lot of courage to talk about these issues. Know that we are here for you if you need us. Our hotline is open 24/7 if you want to talk about running away, ways you can stay safe, abuse, or anything else you might be going through.

Best,
NRS

[Unregistered]

Re: I want to run away but have no where to go

Hi I'm 15 and I REALLY WANT TO run away from home because everyone bully me emotional making me want to kill myself my mum and dad says I'm really ugly and sometimes they hit me so hard that I collapse I just want to feel safe so I need somewhere to stay Please help

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Re: I want to run away but have no where to go

We are sorry to hear your family treats you so badly, nobody deserves to be called names or physically abused. Here is a website if you are feeling like hurting yourself www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org. We want you to know that you are not alone and deserve to be treated with respect.
You do not deserve to be attacked or made to feel like crap by anybody. You deserve to feel safe and comfortable in your own home. It sounds like you are feeling pretty unsafe at home. You have the right to call the police or 911 any time you feel like you are in immediate danger. If you are feeling like you cannot be at home, there is something called National Safe Place that you can explore more here: http://nationalsafeplace.org/ where you can find out where the nearest safe place to you is and a crisis worker can come out to you.
We’re here to help keep you safe, and help you determine a safe plan that works for you.

Do not hesitate to call or chat with us to talk further. We’re here to help.

[Guest]

same my mom calls me words and sometimes beats me and older brother abuses me like rn im bleed through my head

[ccsmod8]

Hello there -

Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We do want to say that it must be very hard for you to have to go through all of this. It sounds like a very stressful situation for you at home. No one deserves to be treated like that at all. Just know that you always have the right to report any abuse (physical, mental, sexual, or neglect/abandonment) to your local police department or child protective service in your state. You have rights too. If calling out to child protective services is something that you don’t really feel comfortable with doing, you can always give us a call to help answer any questions about the process or to walk you through what steps there are. We can also help you file if you’re worried about doing it alone. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. Bleeding through the head sounds like a serious injury that might need to be taken a look at by a medical professional.

If you give us a call on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could help you find resources in your area and could potentially help you brainstorm a possible solution to the issues you are having. We would love to talk to you about what has been going on recently. We also have an online chat service available every day.

[Guest]

Hi, I'm 24 years old girl and I live with my family in Israel, I hate my family, hate my mother and my father, and my brothers, they treat me like a piece of ********, They never respect me, they always insulting me, they gave me nothing but pain and a lot of tears every night, I feel I'm going crazy because of them, I tried to commit suiside once.. but I wanna live, away from home, but I have no money and nowhere to go, my dream is to leave and live in America, and work hard to be a famous person, but I need someone to support me, I know nothing about traveling, I'm serious, if I stayed at home longer I will kill my self, I can't afford it anymore, I will do anything to leave and live alone but I need someone to help

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Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/

Another helpful resource to find help and support in your country is Befrienders Worldwide, a network of suicide prevention organizations around the globe: www.befrienders.org

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country. Wishing you the best of luck!

[Guest]

I'm a 5th grader


Life has been a hard for me when i was 4 and still is i am going through depression and no one is understanding me i wanna die but i am afraid of the pain my dad is abusive to me and my mom too i wanna run away but i don't know where to go i'm scared of living i just want a normal life but i can't have it. I have a lot of scars and bruises and school isn't easy for me i had been sexually harassed by a lot of people
i get made fun of in school and every time i look in the mirror i look like an ugly rat, i don't know where to go if i'd run away my parents don't give a crap if i die or run away i wanna cut but i can't take the pain that's how weak i am all i can hear is the family war everyday.