running away from home

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I'm 13 thinking about running away tonight after my family goes to sleep because my siblings hate me my older sister is tired of me and tired of sharing a room with her i'm the devil in her eyes and my brother never wants to be around me and he calls me names.

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Re: running away from home

Hello,

Wow, I’m sorry things at home are feeling so horrible. Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We want to talk to you and care about how you feel and your situation at home. Thank you, again, for reaching out.

What is most touching about your situation is how lonely it must feel to be not appreciated, or wanted, by your siblings. Relationships with siblings is tough for a lot people, maybe everybody, actually. With family, sometimes we can say the meanest things to each other – things we would never say to even our best friends - because we assume they’ll always be around to take it. It’s like we forget our brothers or sisters are people, too, who can be easily hurt.

You need to know that the way your brother and sister hurt your feelings is NOT okay. Do you think if your mother and father knew you felt this bad they’d want to know about it? They might not only would want to set your siblings straight but, most importantly, to let you know how loved you are.

Believe it or not, your siblings might love you, a lot. They just might not know how much their words hurt you. Before you think of running away something that might be helpful to think about is talking to your parents about this. Thinking about talking to them about what your siblings told you and how it makes you feel.

However, if running away feels like the absolute only option for you, things to ask yourself that might be helpful are a couple key questions:
• Where will I go tonight? Is there a specific shelter or friend’s place I can stay?
• How will I get there? Who can pick me up or take me there?
• What will I eat and how will I get food?
• Will I be safe where I go? Can I be sure that I can trust the people I’m housed with if I runaway?
• What will I do tomorrow? Or the next day? Where will I live long-term?

Running away is more than just leaving a home or place, it’s fending for yourself with little-to-no resources. Are you ready to do that? It’s important to think about how you can provide for yourself if you chose to leave your home. If you ever do runaway and find yourself in a scary situation, please call us here at the National Runaway Safeline at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

Also, TeenLineOnline.org is another great resource to talk to people who can help you think things out and provide you resources if you feel like running away is the only option.

We hope your siblings start treating you better. Treating you like the way you deserve to be treated, with respect and love. And we hope your able to love them the same way and create healthy, two-way relationships that make everyone in your family feel loved and supported.

Lastly, remember we are always here for you at NRS.

Sincerely,
The National Runaway Safeline