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  • ccsmod16
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    Re:In a tight spot

    Hi,

    Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. From what you’ve shared you’re going through a tough time right now, and that’s why we’re here, to listen and to help. Although the move to your Dad’s was intended for your physical safety, it sounds like there are other aspects of it that make you feel like it’s not the right living situation for you.

    It’s good that you have support from your grandparents; it’s important to have a place where you feel comfortable and safe. Has your relationship and communication with your Dad always been challenging or has it recently changed? It sounds like you feel that you’re being compared to your sister, which definitely add to the frustration.

    From what you’ve said, you’ve let him know that you’d like to live more permanently with your grandparents but he is not supportive of that move. Have you talked to him about his reasoning? Do you feel like you could have that conversation with him if you had a trusted adult there with you – maybe with one or both of your grandparents there or another third party (we offer a conference call service between parents and youths) to help act as a mediator for the discussion? If that doesn’t sound like the right option for you, have you considered exploring family counseling with your Dad to better open communication? Do you feel like there’s any room for compromise that would make your current home situation more acceptable to you?

    You did not mention your age in your post – are you close to the legal age in your state? There may be other options that will be open to you depending on your individual situation, such as emancipation. If that’s an option you’d like to learn more about, or if you have additional questions or want to explore other options in greater detail, please know that we are available 24 hours, 7 days a week by phone and online to help you explore your options so that you can determine which one best suits you.

    Best of luck, and we hope to hear from you soon.

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    In a tight spot

    My mom commited domestic violence against me about a year ago and I had to go live with my dad, well now my dad is treating me like major ******** and in sick of it, nothing is ever good enough for him, but everything my dumbass sister does is perfect, the only place I could get away from him is to stay at my grandparents, well he's saying I can't go there anymore, I really just want to live with them permanently but I don't know how to go about that

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  • ccsmod10
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    RE: i want to live with my grandparents

    Hello there,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It was very brave of you to share your story and seek for the help that you may need. It sounds like you are being treated unfairly by your step dad. No one deserves that type of treatment. You are strong for having gone through so much already. We are here to listen and help in the best way that we can. There are a few things that you could consider. Reporting the mistreatment that receive from your step-parent can be something to think about. If that is something that interests you, we can help navigate that option if you call us at 1800-RUNAWAY. Another aspect to consider is As far as you moving to your grandparents’ house, we are not legal experts, but generally if you are considered a minor in your area, then typically you would need permission from your parent to leave home. Without the permission gives your parents the opportunity to file a runaway report that would require the police to return you back home.

    You mentioned that you have the support of your grandparents, which is great. Have you talked to them about what you are experiencing? Are there any other friends, family, teachers, or school counselors that you confide in? It may not be able to get you the outcome you are exactly hoping for, but it could provide some support through this difficult situation.

    It sounds like you have thought about how things will be if you do not get out of the house. It is sometimes very easy to feel like you are in a hopeless situation and it can be very overwhelming. If you want to talk about those feelings you can always call us at 1800-RUNAWAY or the National Suicide Hotline at 1800-273-TALK.

    Stay Strong,
    NRS

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    i want to live with my grandparents

    I really want to live with my grandparents!! I hate staying with my mom and step dad,I mean if my mom was living by herself agian I will love my life.my step dad is such a female cow, he treats me different from his real kids. He beat one time by dragging me against the floor and hitting me on my private area. I had bruses on my leg and everything.my mom know what's going on but she want get me out this environment. My grandparents treat me like there own I just feel so at home when I'm there.but if I live here any long im going to kill myself

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  • ccsmod7
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    Re: I feel more safe at my grandparents house

    Hello there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us through our online forum You are very brave for contacting us and looking for some help. It sounds like you have some concerns about living at home. It’s important to feel safe and comfortable at home. It’s good to hear that you feel supported by your grandparents. We’re glad that you have such a good relationship with them.

    Is there any chance your parents would give you permission to stay with your grandparents? That would probably be the easiest way to stay with them. Have you ever talked to anyone about feeling unsafe at home? Could your grandparents step in or help by talking to your parents about you staying with them? Do you feel comfortable talking to anyone else, like a teacher or counselor at school?

    Another resource that may be useful is an organization called Child Help USA (they also serve Canada). They might be able to talk with you about some of the things you might be going through at home and talk to you about steps you can take to make things better. They can be reached at 1-800-422-4453 and their website is https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/.

    You can also give us a call anytime. We thank you for contacting us and we hope this information has been helpful. Please feel free to reach out to us through our 24/7 hotline or through our online chat if you want to discuss your situation in more detail.

    Stay strong,
    NRS

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    I feel more safe at my grandparents house

    I am 10 I live in Canada my grandparents live in washago Ontario I just feel more safe at my grand parents house I have two sisters and a mom and dad they are all great but I just feel more safe living with my grandparents 😢😢😢😢😢

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  • ccsmod4
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    Visitation rights with my grandparents

    Hello,
    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

    You certainly have gone through some tough and difficult times.
    You don’t deserve to be abused in any way by any one. It sounds like your grandparents are supportive and caring. It’s good that CPS is looking into your situation and because of this things have gotten a little better. Have you talked to your grandmother about legally getting custody of you?

    In some child abuse cases where it has been declared unsafe for the child or children to remain in the home a relative might be considered as a temporary foster parent or guardian.
    If you have a case manager you might consider speaking with them about staying with your grandmother.

    To get more information you might consider contacting us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org
    How does that sound?

    You did a good job reaching out to NRS and we hope that you will be safe.

    Take Care,
    NRS

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    visitation rights with grandma

    I honestly do not know where to start well my dad beat my mom when i was 3 and ever since i only saw my dad every other weekend when i turned 7 my mom passed away from a heart condition and my sister and i were forced to move in with my dad stepmom and half brother they didnt let me see my grandparents so my grandparents went to court for visatation rights we now see them every other weekend the last years living with my dad my sister and i have been physically emotionally and mentally abused ever since cps cane twice things have gottan a little better but there are several things that just arent right my sister is 15 and im 14 if my grandma goes to court to fight for us is there a way we can live with her or what are the options?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Re: I don't know what to do

    Hello and thanks for reaching out on our forum. It sounds like moving from Kentucky all the way to Maine has been pretty rough on you and your grades and that things in your household are pretty tense right now. It sounds like your grandparents are a great source of support for you and willing to let you move back to Kentucky. We aren’t legal experts; however, that might be an option if your parents agree or your grandparents look into speaking to a lawyer to see their chances of obtaining custody of you. We also have the ability to look up legal aid resources if cost is of concern for your grandparents. Hopefully that helps and best of luck!

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    I don't know what to do

    So, I used to live in a very small town in Kentucky with my grandparents close and we moved two two or three times and I kept up my grades. Then we moved to Maine and my grades have dropped a lot and my parents are arguing and they don't let me and my brothers even talk most if the time. We get in serious trouble for the simplest things like putting a sponge on the counter. My parents haven't always been the best and my grandparents have always been there for m . I already talked to my grandparents and they said they'd love to take me in. My parents are super strict and they don't know I have two f's yet. I'm too scared to tell them too. I was doing better with my grandparents so I think I'd do better if I moved back with them. Plus, I'd have more freedom. Please help.

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  • ccsmod2
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    re: my parents

    Hey there,

    It sounds like you are pretty serious about going to live with your grandparents. You seem to have your mind made up, even though your parents aren't taking you seriously. We do want to let you know that we aren't legal experts, so we can't say for sure what would happen. In most states if you want to live with them and have them take legal custody of you, you would need your parents consent. If they won't give you that permission, that may not be easy to do. We do try to stay non-directive so anything that you decide is up to you. If you need to speak with us further, you can always contact us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or via chat on our website from 4:30pm-11:30pm CST.

    Take care and good luck,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    my parents

    My parents think that i'm joking but i'm not i really want to stay with my grandparents but my parents won't give me that kind of permission what do i do.

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  • ccsmod13
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    re: Please help me

    If you have contacted NRS today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.

    Best,
    NRS

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    Please help me

    I'm 13 years old. I live with my mom and grandparents. I live with my mom on every weekday expected Thursdays because I stay with my grandparents(legally:court order) and every other weekend i switch off with my grandparents and mom. My mom verbal abuses me calling me names like a little b****, etc. and she slaps me and spanks me. I am an all a student I've been in honor choir for 2 years now and been in choir since the 3rd grade and I play sports and I honestly think I'm not a bad kid and I really need your help. I want to live with my grandparents. It gets so bad at my mom's I have almost ranaway and I almost killed my self... Several times and also I cannot leave with my dad because he does drugs and does illegal things and has warrensts out for his arrest and he is also emtionaly and physically abusive. Please help me

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  • ccsmod11
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    Re: Please Help

    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear about your situation, it sounds really difficult and frustrating. While we don’t give advice, we do explore options and provide support for youth in crisis. If you would feel comfortable contacting us, we can talk about ways to cope with your situation. It sounds like your grandparents are pretty supportive. We are glad to know that you have someone to support you. Something to consider would be to reach out to them and try to discuss a way to start a conversation with your parents. We also have a conference calling service at our 24 hour hotline, where we can moderate a call between you and your parents to make sure that you are being heard and understood. If you would feel comfortable doing that, you can contact us via our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or our online chat service. You can access our chat service via our website 1800runaway.org between 4:30 PM and 11:30 PM CST.

    Best,

    NRS

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