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    my friends parents treat her like a disgrace her mom hits and even her sister trys to attack her they wont let her leave but shes thinking of suicide what do i tell her? pls reply soon cause i told her she should ask to live with her grandparents but they would just get mad at her and punish her

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi,
    Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like a difficult situation at home and you are thinking about leaving to live with your grandparents. It’s good you are thinking through your options.
    We’re not legal experts here but can give you some information. In most states the age of majority, where you legally become an adult and can make your own decisions, is 18. Until you reach that age, your parents or guardians are responsible for you and you would need their permission to leave. There might be several options to approach the discussion to get permission, for a long or shorter time, and several other factors to consider. If you call us here at the NRS on our 24/7 safeline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us during chat hours, we can listen to you and understand more about you situation. We can also discuss options, work out a plan, and recommend resources.
    We want you to be safe, and will look forward to hearing from you soon. Best of luck,
    NRS

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    I moved from my mom's to my dad's a little over 3 years ago. I have been having on and off trouble since I moved. Most of it comes from the lack of help around the house. Five people live in this house and none of them help do anything but only 3 of us work. I have played for anything I needed for school since I moved here and since I recently turned sixteen I have been paying my phone bill, car payment, and insurance. Which is I guess understandable and I don't mind it. What I am getting at is my grandparents, that my step mother doesn't like, have asked me to live with them for a while. I really want to be able to consider it but I wanted to know my chances of an Alabama jugde actually allowing me to live with my grandparents.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi,

    Thanks so much for taking the time to reach out to us tonight. We're so sorry that you don't think you're being treated right at your parents. We understand how that must be frustrating and make you feel misunderstood. We are glad you feel supported enough by your grandparents to want to move in with them.

    Moving to another relative's house can be kind of tricky. It may be a good idea to first off talk to your parents about how you're feeling. Talking to your grandparents about wanting to move in with them could be a great step, too, just so they're aware of your situation and can give you permission before you get to their place. If you're set on the idea of living with your grandparents one thing you can do is talk to your grandparents about filing for custody of you. They would have to go to court and it can be a lengthy process, but in the end if i t worked out they would be your official guardians.

    If you left without permission your parents could file a runaway report for you with your local police department. Running away is not illegal, but it is considered a status offense. This means that you would be put into a national database and the police would be looking for you, but they would not arrest you if they found you. Usually what they will do is just bring you back to your parents' house.

    If you want to talk more about what you are going through please feel free to reach out to us again. We are 24/7, so you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY and someone will always be here to answer and help in the best way that we can.

    We wish you the best of luck with everything!

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    i can't stand how my parents treat me. i want to move to my grandparents house in tennessee. how do i do that???

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello,
    Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your family is planning on moving to another country but you would prefer to stay with your grandmother instead. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents’ permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents.
    Another alternative could be using our conference calling service. This is a service where you would call us and we would hold a conference call between you and your parents to talk about how both sides are feeling. We would serve as mediators, we are not here to necessarily choose sides but rather help come up with a solution that would make the situation at home better. This might be helpful to you if you have concerns about your mother not listening or not being open to hear what you have to say. If you feel like this is a service that you would find useful you can give us a call and one of our trained liner will be happy to assist you.
    Again thank you for reaching out to us and we hope this information helps. If you feel comfortable yo can give us a call anytime 1-800- 786-2929
    Best,
    NRS

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    My mam stepdad and sister are moving to another country and my dad died nearly 3 years ago so if I don't want to move with them could I live with my grandmother as my two grandfathers are dead and other grandmother can't take care of herself let alone me

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  • ccsmod14
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. Your safety and well-being is important, you do not have to face this alone, and there are different forms of help out there for you.

    It can be beneficial to think about who your support system is in a time like this, whether it be friends or other family members. It might be helpful to have someone that you really trust to know what is going on with your and your feelings, they can always provide you with direct support in person if you needed it, (i.e close friends, family members, school counselor, etc).

    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat to offer local resources as well.

    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

    http://www.1800runaway.org/


    Take care,

    NRS

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    I am 15year old.. from Last 6 years i was living with my grandma.. But know from1 year i m.. With my parents.. I really dont wanna here... Theyare just opposite frombmy nature... And they dont understands my feeling...they also dont want that i live with my.. Grandma.... Know i really cant handle this problem.... They are so unfair

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there!

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like life has gotten pretty tough after your mother passed away. You definitely deserve to be loved and supported in your home. While were not legal experts, we might have resources for legal advocates in your area that can talk you through changing of custody, if you'd like to call in our safe line we can go through the options and resources. Talking to your grandmother about moving in with her and maybe asking her to help you ask your dad if you could stay with her could be a good non-legal option. Again, if you'd like to call in or try out messenger; we are more than happy to talk over your options and give you resources in your area. Our number is 1800-RUNAWAY

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    I am 16. My mother passed away in 2011 and after that my father has never been the same. I lived with my aunt and uncle for a little while but then moved back in with my father. I've been living with my father for I think around three years now after I left my uncles. And I just can't live here with him his fiancé and her 2 kids. I'm going insane doing it. I need to get out. I want to move in with my grandma I'm just wondering the legal issues I would have to go through to make this happen. Thank you.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hi,

    18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

    NRS

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    I want to live with my grandparents

    I am 17 and I want to live with paternal grandparents . My parents never have been together . I currently live with my mom and step dad and 2 younger brother's . All we do is argue nonstop and you can always feel tension in the house. We got in an argument and she kicked me out and then called me in as a runaway so I am now on probation till march 2017 . We have had many incidents in the last year . My mother and I are taking family therapy but doesn't really seem to be working . I am also taking individual therapy . My dad and paternal grandparents live in the same town as me . I was just wondering if I am able to move out without court being involved??

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  • ccsmod15
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    Re: I want to live with my grandparents.

    Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline, it seems like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help you in the best way we can.
    In most states, because you are 15, you are still considered a minor, which means that you would need your parents’ consent in order to leave home. Every state is different with regards to these laws.
    Without this permission you may also be putting your aunt at legal risk for harboring a runaway. A good option maybe if your aunt and you could speak to your mum and/or dad and see if they are ok with you staying with your aunt. Something to think about is if your parents would be open to you spending some time with your aunt and some time with them. Would school be an issue if you stayed with your aunt?

    If you ever find you want to talk with us further about how your feeling, you can always give us a call.
    Thank you again for reaching out to us. We are always available by phone or via chat if you want to explore any of the above options further.
    Take care,
    NRS

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    please help

    Ok well it's been really hard and both of my parents have found new happiness yes I have tried talking to both of them about it but both say either go stay with your mom or move back with your dad because they say that they are happy and us kids can't take that away from thim and I can't take it.. ok so my dad's girlfriend is now having problems and now wants me to go back with my mom but the thing is that is not something I want to do. I want to move in with my aunt but I'm only 15 and I don't know if I can do that I have convinced myself that is probably the best thing I can do at this point and so has my aunt but the thing is I don't know if I can convince them I am just looking for help. I hope I can get it

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