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  • So I'm currently living with my mom and her bf my mom calls me names constantly she calls me biscuit instead of ********** now because of my brother shes kind of judgmental too..but her bf constantly gets mad at me over the littlest things and stares me down and I dont really feel safe around him hes really bipolar and is either ok or irritated me and him argue every day and I end up getting in trouble I tell him to stop and I still get in trouble he will make these mean jokes and says stuff about me on my period and he said someone about my boobs getting bigger my mom tells him like everything abt my personal buisness and I cant live with my dad because hes a alcoholic and hes addicted to cigarettes and other drugs i desperately want to leave and live with my grandparents but my mom wont let me I'm getting tired of it here everytime he comes home i go to my room because i cant deal with it anymore I'm only 13 please help

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      Hello There,

      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time and we want you to know you are not alone.

      You do not deserve to be called names, just know that people who call others names usually have their own insecurities and are self-conscious. If you feel like you are being emotionally abused, you do have a right to file a report. There are a few ways you can make a report; one option would be to talk with a school counselor or teacher about what is going on. Another option to consider would be to call Child help at 1800-422-4453 and they would be able to take a report. You can also call or chat with us and we would be able to help with making a report.

      We know you mentioned wanting to live with your grandparents but your mother will not allow you to do so. One option to consider would be talking to your mom about possibly staying with your grandparents for a week or weekend. She may allow you to stay short term and you would still be getting a break. During all of this self-care is important, it may be helpful to do things for yourself to keep your mind off of everything going on.

      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation, please reach out if you have more questions or would like to talk more. We are here 24/7 by phone or by chat to provide you support. Best of luck,
      NRS

  • My mom isn’t abusive physically but she is mentally if my grandparents wanted me to go live with them and I’m only 13 if I say where I want to live in court will I be able to live with them if they hire a lawyer because I don’t want to deal with this anymore and I know I would have a better life with them. It all depends on if it will work because I don’t want my grand parents to go through that if they don’t have to.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 12-04-2020, 02:22 AM.

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      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are not legal experts and would not presume to predict what might happen in court. Speaking with your grandparents and then seeking legal representation sounds like a good place you might consider starting.
      You don’t deserve to be abused in any way. It is not your fault that this is happening.
      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).


      Take care,
      NRS

  • Living with my grandparents

    I'm 15 and I live with my military grandparents. They hate everything I do and every step I take seems like they think I'm lying or not listening and I don't know how to fix that. Cause I had gotten a reputation for lying and they believe nothing I say so anything I do they think I'm being "purposely deceitful" I already got away from my mom and I have no place to turn so maybe should I just go toward the system?

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      Hello,

      Thank you for contacting us. It takes a lot of courage to reaching out for support, whether it is from someone you know intimately or do not know at all. It sounds like your home environment is very difficult to navigate. We all make mistakes that can have a negative impact on an important relationship, but you deserve to given a chance to show growth and improve that relationship. We will try to respond to your concerns, but it can be difficult to give more personal and specific resources through a forum. If you want to dig deeper into the issues you are having, please do not hesitate to reach out to us via online chat (www.1800runaway.org) or thru our 24/7, confidential hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

      It can difficult to rebuild trust once it is lost, but that does not mean you do not deserve a chance to make amends. Talking to your grandparents and asking them how you may be able to establish a better, more genuine relationship could help start the mending. We know that may sound daunting and can be difficult to make sure that conversation keeps everyone on level ground. If you have someone you trust and would be willing to sit on your side while you have that conversation with your grandparents, it could help keep things mature and civil. If you do not have someone you’d trust, we do offer a conference call service. We will talk to you about what your goals are and then work to maintain a productive conversation with your grandparents.

      You mentioned going towards the system. I am not entirely sure what you mean by this statement, but if you would like to reach out to us, we can discuss what exactly you are thinking. We are not legal experts, however, and if you have legal questions contacting a local legal office, may be able to offer insight. If you choose to utilize governmental systems, be sure you know what your goals are and you have someone willing to help you as they can be very complex systems.

      We encourage all those that contact us to take some time and consider their options, depending on their situation. That sounds like a tall task, but there are resources and organization out there to help inform your decision, making sure it is the best one for you. Again, do not hesitate to reach out to us either by chat or by phone, if you would like resources local or national to help you. We are here to listen. Here to help.

      Take care and stay safe,
      National Runaway Safeline

  • I want to live in DC with my sister and grandparents because my dad only wants me for the money that I get because my mom die

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      Hi,

      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We’re very sorry for your loss and to hear about your dad. When thinking about living somewhere else it can be important to consider how your life might change if you move, how you are going to get to your sister and grandparents, and what you are going to bring with you. It is can also be important to ensure your sister and grandparents are on board with your plan. We'd be happy to talk through a plan with you if you’d like to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at our website. The whole process could also potentially go smoother if your dad is on board as well, so talking to him about where you want to live could be helpful too. To do this you could talk with a friend, family member, or trusted adult, like a friend’s parent or school counselor. We do also offer a conference call service in which we could mediate a call between you and your dad if you would prefer to talk to him that way. Thanks again for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. Feel free to give us a call or chat with us anytime. We are available 24/7 and are completely confidential.
      Best of luck!

  • hi there i live in pa but my grandma lives in ohio my mother has been screaming at me for every thing i have done no matter what it is and i just cant take it any more she has taken me to a point where i feel worthless and my grandma has seen it is there any way someone could reach out to me asap be i cant take it any more in the last month i have tryed to end it all about 5 times i cant take it any more every time i turn around she yells at me the things she tells me hurt alot i am 17 ill be 18 oct 1st but i cant take any more of it she takes all her anger out on me i have been putting up with it since i was little and i just cant do it any more it is messing my mental and physical health just someone please help me

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.


      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

      If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe and stay strong,

      NRS

  • I wanna live with my grandma my mom died and now it’s me and my dad but I don’t like living with him

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    • ccsmod0
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are soo sorry for your loss. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • I am only 13 but I want to move in with my grandparents. I hate the environment and I know they would not sign the papers for me to move out. What do I do?

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe,
      NRS
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