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  • all of my life my mom had been ridiculing me. making me insecure about my body and forces these high standards on me. I don't think I can do it anymore and was am really trying to move in with my grandma but I know she won't let me. I feel like I'm drawing ad I don't know how much longer I can go through this. and I'm only 13.

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS. We appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation at home. It is incredibly unfair of your mom to place such unrealistic and high standards on you and it is not okay for her to talk down to you or to ridicule you. Your body should not be a topic of criticism with your mom. She should be encouraging you to do things that make you fee healthy and to feel good about yourself rather than tear you down. You deserve to feel loved and supported. It is understandable you would want to live with your grandmother instead.

      It sounds like you have gotten quite overwhelmed at home and we want you to know you are not in this alone. It is very important to have a support system during challenging times. We want to encourage you to reach out people that you trust to talk to about how you are feeling. This could include friends, family members, a counselor or another trusted adult. Sometimes having an adult on your side to advocate for your needs can make it easier to communicate with parents. If you do reach out to a trusted adult perhaps this person can be a mediator to help you talk to your mom. If you are not quite ready to reach out to anyone in person yet you can speak with a counselor at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or by texting "connect" to 741741.

      We truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time. If you would like to talk more in detail about what has been going on or brainstorm your options together, please do not hesitate to contact us directly. We are available 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

      Stay strong,
      NRS

  • so i came and live with my grandparents because there was a school near here for me to go and now i wanna live with them but my mother don't want to because she says its her decision of which school im going to and i don't like the way she treats me differently from my siblings and when i was with my grandparents they knew everything that was going om in my life and my mother bearly knew things about me and she wouldn't call me or text me how was i doing and my grandparents would always be aware of everything like if i stayed after school or things like that and my mother wouldn't even know where was i and that's why i want my grandparents to get full custody of me

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

      It may be beneficial to speak with your grandparents directly about your desire to live with them. Sometimes custody transfers will need to go through the family court system and it may be beneficial to speak with a legal advocate. If you need help locating a legal aid group near you you can check out https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS
      Last edited by ccsmod3; 07-05-2020, 08:36 AM.

  • Me and my mom is in a really bad realationship I reallly wanna live with some one else I am 13 boy

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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear things at home have been so tough, and we hope that we can help you today.

      Sometimes things at home can get really hard for various reasons. It sounds like in your case, your relationship with your Mom is causing you stress or hurt, and now you are considering leaving home and living with someone else. It’s good that you know what you want. It is always important when thinking about running away to also think about where you will go, how you will get there, and what you will do to survive once there. In your case, because you are 13, you may also consider what you might do if your parent(s) reports you as a runaway. Running away is not illegal, but if your parent(s) reports you to the police, the police can become involved in trying to bring you back home. At your age, you technically cannot go live with someone else without parental consent, yet young people do all the time. It is up to you to decide what is best, and to consider what might happen if the police become involved.

      If any of this information is confusing to you, or if you have further thoughts, we encourage you to reach out to us at any time of day at 1-800-RUNAWAY or via instant message at 1800runaway.org. This is not an easy situation, and there is not an easy solution, but we trust that you have the ability to make a decision that is right for you.

      Please stay safe and stay strong.

      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • I want to live with my grandparents. Im 17 and the only thing bad about my home life is my dad is very mentally and verbally just straight up emotionally abusive towards me and sometimes my younger sister but ive been dealing with this since i was very young and he was a lot worse when i was younger. its not physical abuse strictly mental, verbal , emotional. im a senior in highschool right now doing my classes online i wasnt planning on going to college. my parents took my phone away from me because i didnt want to take a colllege class while still in highschool so i could get a scholarship but THEY KNOW that i dont want to go to college and this is just annoying at this point. they talked about me possilby paying rent if im 17 and still live at their house which is understandable but then they talked about kicking me out eventually so idk when that will happen. all i know is i cant drive yet and im working on getting my liscense then a stable job to save up money for an apartment and thats all i wanted to do. they havent taught me how to drive physically and im a physical learner so i would definitly need that but they keep yelling at me to read the book first and i have ive been highlighting things in it and everything but they work all the time so its hard for them to manage helping me. i also have to watch my younger sister on days they both are working so there are so many loop holes to me living with my grandparents but like ill be out of the house soon anyways so theyre gonna have to get used to that fact that my younger sister (now 13 btw) can handle herself at home. the only problem with that is she doesnt and probably wont have a phone till shes 16 bc my parents got my phone on my 17th birthday when they said id get one on my 16th. i feel like my dad escpecially is the one who wanted to take my phone for no reason just to snoop but im literally a good "Kid" i havent done a single thing bad but that doesnt mean i dont want my privacy. its just getting annoying living here and the thing is i feel like this situtation isnt as bad as most kids sistuations are like i could be alot happier with my life if my dad wasnt the way he was towards me. ive never talked back to them or anything before i literally am quiet and kept to myself but i have a feeling this is the year that i NEED to break and go off on my parents. i just dont know what to do and talking with them is something that idk how well its gonna go.

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. No one deserves to be abused in any kind of way. It makes sense that you would want a private phone and a driver's license so you can have a little more independence from your family. It must be really frustrating to be so strictly supervised.

      Just so you know, you are considered a minor until you turn 18 and if your parents throw you out prior to then it can be considered child neglect. If this happens you do have the right to file a neglect report with Child Protective Services. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. If you find yourself in need of emergency housing you can also reach out to us and we can help you locate shelters or transitional living programs nearest to you.

      It may be beneficial to speak with your grandparents directly about your desire to live with them. Sometimes custody transfers will need to go through the family court system and it may be beneficial to speak with a legal advocate. If you need help locating a legal aid group near you you can check out https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • I need to live with my grandparents.

    I’m sick of how my family treats me, like i’m nothing. My grandparents will always make sure i’m happy. My mom and dad could care less. I have a lot of problems and my mom won’t take me to the doctor or physiatrist. I need to live with my grandparents, but i’m young and don’t know how to execute it.

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are in a frustrating situation, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
      One option to consider would be talking to your grandparents about what you are feeling and dealing with. They may be able to advocate for you and have a conversation with your parents. We are not legal experts but if you were to leave without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home.
      We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. Please reach out to us if you would like to explore options or have any more questions. We wish you the best of luck!
      NRS

  • so im 15 and i live with my parents but im very stessed down here and i want to live with my grandparents where im not stressed. any advice

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your parents. It may be helpfu to have your grandparents help you talk with your parents about allowing you to stay with them for awhile. Sometimes parents listen to adults better than they would if it was just their child speaking to them. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. We also offer a conference call service where we can talk on the phone with you and your parents. We can help support you and faciitate the conversation so that they listen to how you are feeling. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • I don't want to live with my mother anymore. I feel like anything I do I make her mad. if fricking drop a spoon I can never do anything right or I'm annoying. I just wish I would live with my grandmother or my godmom. they treat me with more love than my mom ever does. I try my best to live with her but she doesn't care about me or how I feel. every time I try to ask her for help with my school work she's like "don't you see me at work" or "stop talking to me I'm on the phone". she has more time to talk to her friends that me. but whiles she's at work she can giggle and laugh while she's on the phone but cant help me. then she wonders while I'm failing and tries to make it seem like its my fault. then she threatens to kick me out the house. she told me one time if I could I would put you up for adoption she didn't even apologize that's how I know she meant it. then she called me a whore and didn't say sorry. its like she doesn't have any feelings. it like I'm not even part of this family. sometimes I wonder why she even had me. I think its because she wanted to use me as a slave. at this point i rather that she aborted me because I'm tired of this. I'm tired of life. I want to live a normal life and feel loved. I want to get as far away from here as I can. and I never want to talk to her again unless she's about to die because other than that I don't want her negativity in my life. I just cant wait until I turn 18 so I can move out take my dog and never come back.

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      ccsmod4 commented
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      Hi,
      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

      It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything that has been going on. Sometimes People and situations can become difficult to adjust to. It sounds like the relationship with your mother has been strained due to past and current issues. You don’t deserve to be ignored or called names. It's not your fault that she does this.
      The situation sounds very frustrating for you. We’re glad you reached out. It’s good that you exercised some self- care by reaching out to NRS.
      It is times like these that it might be nice comfort to have a listening ear.

      NRS is here to listen and here to help.
      We would be glad to speak with you about strategies or options that might help you to cope better with your situation.
      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Sometimes having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.

      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more about your situation and let us know how we might help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).



      Take care,
      NRS
      Last edited by ccsmod4; 10-22-2020, 01:41 AM.

  • i used to live in a northern part of California and me and my mom and lil brother moved to LA a southern part of california (so its not that far) but ever since i been out here ive been in nothing but Trouble in school and out of school iv been stressed and depressed since ive been here too an me n my mom do not get along AT ALL and she always cusses me out n gets me introuble for every little thing and ive been offered to live with my grandparent and i have talked to my mom about it a lot actually and she only says "over my dead body" and i just want to graduate school n get my ass out of trouble is there any way i could give my grandma rights for me to permanently live with her or something my grandma wants to get an eterny and go to court but i dont fully know if that would work i need help

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to share your situation with us here at NRS. Moving to a different area can be a big change and it can even bring on feelings of added stress. It sounds like your relationship with your mom has also has been very tense and it has been affecting your school work as well. It's understandable you would want to move to a different environment where you feel more at ease or more supported. You deserve to be treated with respect no matter where you are living.

      While we are not legal experts, we can speak generally on your question about living with your grandparents. From what we know, you need permission from your parent to live somewhere else until you turn 18. We understand this can be a very challenging conversation to have with a parent, and from what you have shared it sounds like you have already tried. Maybe your grandparents or another adult you trust can help you talk with your mom again and advocate for your needs.

      Because we are not legal experts, there could be other options that we don't know about. Perhaps you can speak to your grandmother about consulting with a lawyer about possible legal options. We are happy to refer you to legal aid resources if needed.

      Our email and Bulletin services are different in that we can only respond twice. If you would like to talk more in detail about your situation and receive immediate help, we encourage you to reach out to us through our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org (click on the CHAT button on our website homepage).

      We look forward to hearing from you soon so that we can help,
      NRS

  • So I've been stayint with my grandparents for about a month now. Me and my mom have a lot of problems and My grandma wants to take custody. If my mom agrees with it would It be legal for them to go to court and sign papers without the court taking me away from her?

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      Thanks so much for reaching out to NRS. We appreciate you sharing your story with us and a little about what is going on. From what you are describing it seems as though mom has been letting you live with your grandparents and you want to make it permanent. So we are not legal advisers so we do not know 100% but from what we know in general, is that if your mom agrees to let you live with your grandma she can sign off either in court or with a notary present that she is giving you permission for you to live with your grandparents. Now this does not mean she is giving up her rights to you. If you want your grandparents to be sole guardians and have sole custody of you, you would have to go to family court and have a judge okay that. Technically the court would not take you away from anyone as long as mom has okayed you to go to them. It is important to note that you might need to speak with a family lawyer about your case and see what they recommend. We are happy to find you a lawyer in your area. You can feel free to reach out to us via our Hotline (800-786-2929) or through out chat option at (www.1800runaway.org).

      Again if you have more questions or need to contact us please do not hesitate to do so. We would be happy to assist you in whatever way possible.

      All the best , NRS

  • Ok so honestly anything I do around my mom is bad I am a 15 year old boy and for years when i was with my grandmas house since i was 3 cause she went to jail for a few years. I have gotten beaten badly for having a 72 in a class or her misunderstanding a report and thinking shes right all the time and EVERYONE in the family knows she wouldnt give consent to live from my grandma because recently over one bad progress report she took me away and said i cant go back unless spmeone makes her and i REALLY HATE being around her because she gives me horrible names like a bum and says i will never be anything in life and im now emotionally different cause i will cry sometimes or wonder why shes like that and i need to go back to my grandmas house cause i cant live with my mom i need someone to help me get out and never go back

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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now and we want you to know that you are not alone.
      If you feel that you are being emotionally or physically abused, you do have a right to make a report. You can make a report by calling Child Help at 1800-422-4453. You can also make a report by talking with a teacher or school counselor. You can also chat or call us and we can help you with making a report.
      One option to consider would be to talk to your grandma about what is going on at home and how you are feeling. She may be able to find options for you or help you with a plan. You can also consider getting emancipated, to find out more information about emancipation you can call your local court house.
      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
      NRS

  • i'm really struggling in school, and my mom said i could go to new york and get an in person education. i live in washington state. the only problem is we don't know how to go about me moving in with them. i don't know my biological dad, and my mom cant find him. i would be going to stay with my step-dads parents, who i live very dearly. how would i go about moving in with them?

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • i want to move with my grandma but my mom wont let me because apparently my grandma hasnt done anything for me and all my mom does is yell and cuss me out for no reason and im failing my classes and i dont wanna live with her anymore

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    • Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are not legal experts, but we will do our best to help you out. The laws may vary depending on what state you are in, how old you are, and if your parents are okay with you staying with your grandmother. We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

      In order to provide you with assistance more specific to your situation, please reach out to us via phone (1-800-RUNAWAY) or messenger (www.1800runaway.org).

      We are here 24 hours/day and 7 days/week and are here to help you!

      -NRS
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      • I want to live with my grandma because living here is not the best place. i am only 11 she treats me like a maid doing all the Mother hood stuff i am just so tired of it
        Last edited by ccsmod1; 11-28-2020, 12:22 PM.

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          Hey there,

          Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension.

          It sounds like your mom doesn't realize how all the responsibilities she's putting on you is affecting you. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member (like your grandma) to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your family so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

          If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

          Stay safe,
          NRS

          We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

      • I want to live with my grandparents on my moms side but I don’t know what would be the best way that I am able to get there now. My dad and his girlfriend did not give permission and I am having a really hard time living here. I just want to know how I will be able to live there now. I am tired of crying my eyes out so much. What can I do?

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          ccsmod1 commented
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          Hey there,

          Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your family so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself and your feelings about what's been happening at home.

          It may also be beneficial to speak with your grandparents directly about your desire to live with them. Sometimes custody transfers will need to go through the family court system and it may be beneficial to speak with a legal advocate. If you need help locating a legal aid group near you you can check out https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/.

          If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

          Stay safe,
          NRS

          We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
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