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  • all of my life my mom had been ridiculing me. making me insecure about my body and forces these high standards on me. I don't think I can do it anymore and was am really trying to move in with my grandma but I know she won't let me. I feel like I'm drawing ad I don't know how much longer I can go through this. and I'm only 13.

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    • ccsmod13
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS. We appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation at home. It is incredibly unfair of your mom to place such unrealistic and high standards on you and it is not okay for her to talk down to you or to ridicule you. Your body should not be a topic of criticism with your mom. She should be encouraging you to do things that make you fee healthy and to feel good about yourself rather than tear you down. You deserve to feel loved and supported. It is understandable you would want to live with your grandmother instead.

      It sounds like you have gotten quite overwhelmed at home and we want you to know you are not in this alone. It is very important to have a support system during challenging times. We want to encourage you to reach out people that you trust to talk to about how you are feeling. This could include friends, family members, a counselor or another trusted adult. Sometimes having an adult on your side to advocate for your needs can make it easier to communicate with parents. If you do reach out to a trusted adult perhaps this person can be a mediator to help you talk to your mom. If you are not quite ready to reach out to anyone in person yet you can speak with a counselor at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or by texting "connect" to 741741.

      We truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time. If you would like to talk more in detail about what has been going on or brainstorm your options together, please do not hesitate to contact us directly. We are available 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

      Stay strong,
      NRS

  • so i came and live with my grandparents because there was a school near here for me to go and now i wanna live with them but my mother don't want to because she says its her decision of which school im going to and i don't like the way she treats me differently from my siblings and when i was with my grandparents they knew everything that was going om in my life and my mother bearly knew things about me and she wouldn't call me or text me how was i doing and my grandparents would always be aware of everything like if i stayed after school or things like that and my mother wouldn't even know where was i and that's why i want my grandparents to get full custody of me

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    • ccsmod3
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

      It may be beneficial to speak with your grandparents directly about your desire to live with them. Sometimes custody transfers will need to go through the family court system and it may be beneficial to speak with a legal advocate. If you need help locating a legal aid group near you you can check out https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS
      Last edited by ccsmod3; 07-05-2020, 07:36 AM.

  • Me and my mom is in a really bad realationship I reallly wanna live with some one else I am 13 boy

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear things at home have been so tough, and we hope that we can help you today.

      Sometimes things at home can get really hard for various reasons. It sounds like in your case, your relationship with your Mom is causing you stress or hurt, and now you are considering leaving home and living with someone else. It’s good that you know what you want. It is always important when thinking about running away to also think about where you will go, how you will get there, and what you will do to survive once there. In your case, because you are 13, you may also consider what you might do if your parent(s) reports you as a runaway. Running away is not illegal, but if your parent(s) reports you to the police, the police can become involved in trying to bring you back home. At your age, you technically cannot go live with someone else without parental consent, yet young people do all the time. It is up to you to decide what is best, and to consider what might happen if the police become involved.

      If any of this information is confusing to you, or if you have further thoughts, we encourage you to reach out to us at any time of day at 1-800-RUNAWAY or via instant message at 1800runaway.org. This is not an easy situation, and there is not an easy solution, but we trust that you have the ability to make a decision that is right for you.

      Please stay safe and stay strong.

      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • I want to live with my grandparents. Im 17 and the only thing bad about my home life is my dad is very mentally and verbally just straight up emotionally abusive towards me and sometimes my younger sister but ive been dealing with this since i was very young and he was a lot worse when i was younger. its not physical abuse strictly mental, verbal , emotional. im a senior in highschool right now doing my classes online i wasnt planning on going to college. my parents took my phone away from me because i didnt want to take a colllege class while still in highschool so i could get a scholarship but THEY KNOW that i dont want to go to college and this is just annoying at this point. they talked about me possilby paying rent if im 17 and still live at their house which is understandable but then they talked about kicking me out eventually so idk when that will happen. all i know is i cant drive yet and im working on getting my liscense then a stable job to save up money for an apartment and thats all i wanted to do. they havent taught me how to drive physically and im a physical learner so i would definitly need that but they keep yelling at me to read the book first and i have ive been highlighting things in it and everything but they work all the time so its hard for them to manage helping me. i also have to watch my younger sister on days they both are working so there are so many loop holes to me living with my grandparents but like ill be out of the house soon anyways so theyre gonna have to get used to that fact that my younger sister (now 13 btw) can handle herself at home. the only problem with that is she doesnt and probably wont have a phone till shes 16 bc my parents got my phone on my 17th birthday when they said id get one on my 16th. i feel like my dad escpecially is the one who wanted to take my phone for no reason just to snoop but im literally a good "Kid" i havent done a single thing bad but that doesnt mean i dont want my privacy. its just getting annoying living here and the thing is i feel like this situtation isnt as bad as most kids sistuations are like i could be alot happier with my life if my dad wasnt the way he was towards me. ive never talked back to them or anything before i literally am quiet and kept to myself but i have a feeling this is the year that i NEED to break and go off on my parents. i just dont know what to do and talking with them is something that idk how well its gonna go.

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. No one deserves to be abused in any kind of way. It makes sense that you would want a private phone and a driver's license so you can have a little more independence from your family. It must be really frustrating to be so strictly supervised.

      Just so you know, you are considered a minor until you turn 18 and if your parents throw you out prior to then it can be considered child neglect. If this happens you do have the right to file a neglect report with Child Protective Services. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. If you find yourself in need of emergency housing you can also reach out to us and we can help you locate shelters or transitional living programs nearest to you.

      It may be beneficial to speak with your grandparents directly about your desire to live with them. Sometimes custody transfers will need to go through the family court system and it may be beneficial to speak with a legal advocate. If you need help locating a legal aid group near you you can check out https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • I need to live with my grandparents.

    I’m sick of how my family treats me, like i’m nothing. My grandparents will always make sure i’m happy. My mom and dad could care less. I have a lot of problems and my mom won’t take me to the doctor or physiatrist. I need to live with my grandparents, but i’m young and don’t know how to execute it.

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    • ccsmod2
      ccsmod2 commented
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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are in a frustrating situation, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
      One option to consider would be talking to your grandparents about what you are feeling and dealing with. They may be able to advocate for you and have a conversation with your parents. We are not legal experts but if you were to leave without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home.
      We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. Please reach out to us if you would like to explore options or have any more questions. We wish you the best of luck!
      NRS

  • so im 15 and i live with my parents but im very stessed down here and i want to live with my grandparents where im not stressed. any advice

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your parents. It may be helpfu to have your grandparents help you talk with your parents about allowing you to stay with them for awhile. Sometimes parents listen to adults better than they would if it was just their child speaking to them. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. We also offer a conference call service where we can talk on the phone with you and your parents. We can help support you and faciitate the conversation so that they listen to how you are feeling. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • I don't want to live with my mother anymore. I feel like anything I do I make her mad. if fricking drop a spoon I can never do anything right or I'm annoying. I just wish I would live with my grandmother or my godmom. they treat me with more love than my mom ever does. I try my best to live with her but she doesn't care about me or how I feel. every time I try to ask her for help with my school work she's like "don't you see me at work" or "stop talking to me I'm on the phone". she has more time to talk to her friends that me. but whiles she's at work she can giggle and laugh while she's on the phone but cant help me. then she wonders while I'm failing and tries to make it seem like its my fault. then she threatens to kick me out the house. she told me one time if I could I would put you up for adoption she didn't even apologize that's how I know she meant it. then she called me a whore and didn't say sorry. its like she doesn't have any feelings. it like I'm not even part of this family. sometimes I wonder why she even had me. I think its because she wanted to use me as a slave. at this point i rather that she aborted me because I'm tired of this. I'm tired of life. I want to live a normal life and feel loved. I want to get as far away from here as I can. and I never want to talk to her again unless she's about to die because other than that I don't want her negativity in my life. I just cant wait until I turn 18 so I can move out take my dog and never come back.

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    • ccsmod4
      ccsmod4 commented
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      Hi,
      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

      It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything that has been going on. Sometimes People and situations can become difficult to adjust to. It sounds like the relationship with your mother has been strained due to past and current issues. You don’t deserve to be ignored or called names. It's not your fault that she does this.
      The situation sounds very frustrating for you. We’re glad you reached out. It’s good that you exercised some self- care by reaching out to NRS.
      It is times like these that it might be nice comfort to have a listening ear.

      NRS is here to listen and here to help.
      We would be glad to speak with you about strategies or options that might help you to cope better with your situation.
      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Sometimes having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.

      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more about your situation and let us know how we might help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).



      Take care,
      NRS
      Last edited by ccsmod4; 10-22-2020, 12:41 AM.
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