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    I'm not happy at all with my home. My parents have been divorced for 8 years and just recently my older brother who is 16 and was the only person I felt close to went to live with my father who I do not get along with. They just moved to a different apartment building and now I don't know where they are. Since my brother left my mother has pretty much stopped being a mom at all. She is hardly home anymore and when she is she's either sick with a hangover or asleep. I feel invisible to her and I've been planning to leave. I was thinking of taking a friend who also has family problems to go to Berkeley because there's a place we can live there. I'm only 13 and my friend is 14 but I was wondering if I got caught by the police would they let me live with a foster family?

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    Re: What will happen if I leave?

    Thanks for contacting the NRS. We are sorry to hear about the problems you are having at home with your mom. No one deserves to be treated as if they are invisible to their parents. It seems like in order to deal with things, you have planned to run away. What is your plan? Who would you be stayin with? How long would you stay away? To answer your question, if you were picked up by the police since you are a minor, they would have to return you back to your legal guardian. Running away is not a crime, so no you will not be arrested or anything. They would simply contact your guardian and make arrangements then for you to safely return home. If you need to call us to talk more about the situation at anytime, please do so, our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are available 24 hrs and are confidential.
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    • #3
      Re: What will happen if I leave?

      I know where I would go and I'd be staying in an all-ages no drugs no alcohol rock club. The people there are all pacifists unless they need to defend themselves so I know they won't harm me. I would probably stay away until my anger subsided or I felt I could go back and be forgiven.Or maybe not at all. What I was really hoping to find out was since I'm on such bad terms with my parents and feel no love towards anyone what would happen? Like if I refused to talk to the police and I didn't want to go back home could I get put into an orphanage or something or a place where I could have a different family? I have heard where kids can choose where they want to go and I want to go away.

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      • #4
        Re: What will happen if I leave?

        Sorry to hear you are so upset at home. Getting into another placement, however, may be pretty complicated. If you are taken into custody by police and by Child Protective Services, you may not get much say in what happens. Foster homes and group home can have a lot of problems too, so you may want to think about if that something you really want.
        If you would ever like to talk, we are here 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
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        • #5
          Can i leave at 17

          So my uncle keeps telling me i'm awarded to the state so if i run i will be incarcerated. He verbally abuses me. And is a control freak. I can never go anywhere by myself. I'm always kept in the house, he wants all the money i get (money hungry) and always getting hastled for things that aren't my fault. But in this link http://www.lawrefs.com/17-year-old-r...ents-helpless/ it says i can leave at 17 without having to come back. They can still file a report. But will this protect my little cousins. Cause they don't get treated like that. And i don't want them getting taken or anyone going to jail i just want to leave. Does this law apply for my guardian.

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            RE: Can i leave at 17

            Thank you for contacting us. It’s very stressful to try to live through any type of abuse. You don’t deserve to be verbally abused by your uncle. It was smart for you to contact us to double check and ensure that you have a good plan.
            We want to let you know that we are not legal experts and therefore cannot verify whether that website is making legitimate claims. At the age of 17 in the state of Michigan, you are still considered a minor. So, if you run a report may be filed. Depending on where you stay when you run, those giving you a place to stay without your guardian’s consent may be charged with harboring a runaway (the website says otherwise, but this is a generalization to the US). So, that’s something that you want to keep in mind. As for your cousins, if they are not in harm’s way, then they may be fine. From what you’re saying, it does not seem like your uncle will be arrested for anything. If you are still not sure about the law, an option is to call your local police non-emergency number and ask if they would take a runaway report for a 17 year old and if they would make you return home or if you could get in trouble.
            If you are set on leaving home, we can talk about your options for staying safe. Whichever route you decide to take, know that we’re here for you. If ever you need to, please utilize this bulletin again, chat, or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929). We’re confidential, our lines are open 24/7, and our chat is open early afternoon to later into the night. Best of luck with everything and we hope that all goes well!
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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            Tell us what you think about your experience!
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