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  • #31
    i want to run away because my parents are mean to but I'm scared

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    • ccsmod1
      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      We're glad you reached out to us. We'll try to help. It sounds like your parents are not supportive and you feel abused. It's understandable that you wouldn't want to stay with them. We are not legal experts but we know that running away is not a crime; it's a status offense. However, if your parents file a runaway report, the police might look for you and if they find you, they will most likely return you home.

      If any abuse or harm is happening at home you have the right to report it. You might want to contact the Child Help Hotline at childhelp.org or call 1800-422-4453. They also have text services. You can also contact us on our safeline at 1800RUNAWAY to talk about the situation and see what options you might have. We are here 24/7 and are confidential.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • #32
    I feel like i am a burden to my parents. They think i should be dead and i should not be in there life. It makes me want to run away too

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

      It seems like your parents are not aware of how their attitude is coming off and how hurtful it is. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your family so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • #33
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    I want to run away from home so badly. I’d rather stay with my aunt. My mother is bipolar and so is the rest of my family. Isn’t it true that your environment affects you? My mom always is angry about something. I don’t feel like I can even talk to anyone in my family if I’m ever depressed or feeling suicidal. If I talked to my mom about, she would get mad. I know this because my brother felt suicidal and she didn’t care. She said a few times to us all, “I feel like living on my own and leaving you guys behind!” Well why don’t I leave for her? This household will be fine without me. I’ve stayed somewhere else before employee monitoring software . But what I need right now is the courage to leave. I’m concerned about how I’m going to leave and when. Being around here at home isn’t the best for my mental health. And I’m 15.
    I understand you, this is very difficult ... my loved one also has bipolar disorder and she also says all sorts of unpleasant things, but I understand that this is all because of the illness, in fact, she thinks completely differently or simply cannot correctly formulate her own thoughts ... I try to accept it and rethink but it's hard for me too ...

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      Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services. Our number is 800-RUNAWAY or you can chat with us at www.1800RUNAWAY.org.
      Thank you,
      NRS

  • #34
    I want to runaway but I’m 12 and I don’t have anywhere to go my parents put my grades before me and idk what to do I don’t want to make my parents sad but I also don’t want to keep getting stressed out so idk what to do cause I packed my stuff I I can commit to it

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    • ccsmod0
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your parents and grades. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #35
    I wanna runaway but I'm scared...I'm 12 (like 11 for the government or something) years old and transgender (ftm), this might sound stupid and fake coming out of a literal child but I just really need help because my parents are muslim and I've read several articles about lgbt in islam, it might lead to death...most likely not with my family right now because obviously it's illegal now, but I'm still sure they wouldn't accept me..I dont know where yo go if I run away and what do to I'm in so much pressure it really just makes me want to die, plus that I know running away can cause some really serious trouble so that's one of the things that are giving me anxiety.

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    • ccsmod8
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      Hello there –

      Thanks for reaching out today and sharing some of your story with us. It sounds like you’re dealing with so much at home. It sounds like you feel that your family is being very insensitive towards you, but not taking responsibility for how it hurts your feelings. You don’t deserve to be treated that way at all. You deserve to be celebrated and valued for who you are. It must be so frustrating that isn’t working out right now. You’re brave to reach out and think through what options are available to you. So let’s see how we can help you out.

      Only you know yourself when it’s time to leave home due to it being an unsafe situation and it sounds like you might some specific questions that you want to ask us or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us. We can see if there are any resources in the area that you can reach out to for some more help. Another hotline you might also consider reaching out to is "LGBT National Youth Talkline" (800-246-7743 / https://www.glbthotline.org/talkline.html). They also provide a safe space that is anonymous and confidential to talk about whatever you need to talk about.

      Best of luck and if you need us, please reach out via phone or online chat.

  • #36
    I want to run away but I am scared that my dad would find me and then ground me and I need to find the courage to do it I am only 8 but I know my dad would call me a disappointment

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    • ccsmod3
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      Hey there, and thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step.

      Things must be pretty at tough at home for you to be thinking about running away, and we're sorry to hear that. Still, it's important for you to know that running away is a pretty big decision, and it's generally a good idea to have a plan in place before committing to it. Consider where you'll go, how you'll get there, and what you'll do to survive once you're there. It's also helpful to spend some time thinking about your safety and what steps you can take to try and safeguard that. It's important that you approach this time from a realistic standpoint and that you have some tough conversations with yourself about what you want, what makes the most sense to get you to that point, and if there are any other worthy options you might be able to consider along the way.

      In your case, it might be helpful to try and really focus on your safety as you continue to think about leaving. You mentioned that you're worried about your dad finding you and grounding you, which is valid and can definitely be scary. On the other hand, running away and potentially living on the streets can be scary as well. If that's not something you've researched or given much thought to yet, we'd encourage you to do so. It can be easy to think that things might be better somewhere else, so it's a good idea to make an informed decision.

      If you'd like to talk more about what's going on and continue to explore your options, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

      Take care.

      NRS

  • #37
    i'm a twelve year old boy, my parents are always mad and scream at me, i want to run away i al most did this morning but i do not have the courage, i have a plan

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    • ccsmod16
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      Hi thank you for reaching out to NRS! Sorry that things have been rough at home. It sounds like you are going through a tough time. Being in an environment with lots of anger and yelling can weigh on someone’s mental health. Reaching out to NRS is a very brave thing to do! Running away can be dangerous, and we are happy to talk through your plan with you. Please reach out to us through our online chat service or calling our hotline so we can be of further help. Stay safe and stay strong!

      NRS
      www.1800runaway.org
      1-800-runaway

  • #38
    I want to run away, I'm just waiting for the right time. I cant keep living the life I'm living anymore.

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      It sounds like you're going through a tough time and it's understandable to feel like running away. It's always good to seek help and we're glad that you've found NRS! If you want to go into more detail so that we can provide direct help, please visit our live chat service on our website (https://www.1800runaway.org/) or call 1-800-RUNAWAY. We hope to hear from you soon!

      NRS

  • #39
    I want to runaway but I'm scared that once I run away that I can't come back because no one will like me and because my parents and grandparents would disown me I just don't wanna be living in either of my parents homes I wanna live in a place where I can be a kid and explore my options of growing up not be getting yelled at 247

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hello There,

      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.

      Running away is a big decision, that should take time to think about. We are not legal experts but if you were to run away your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you it is possible you could be brought back home.

      If you would like to explore your options further or talk we are available 24/7. We wish you the best of luck!
      NRS

  • #40
    I want to run away because my Fitbit is always messing up and saying that I went into deep sleep instead of light sleep first and my mom thinks that I am the one who makes it mess up when I don't. I am 14 almost and I get spanked over it which is not fair. its not her fault because she loves me but she says that technology doesn't lie like humans do. What do I do I have tried telling her that I don't mess with it but she doesn't believe me and I cant keep living like this. I have thought about suicide but I don't have the balls to do it.

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hello! Thank you for reaching out to NRS!



      We're sorry to hear about your struggles at home. We hear you, it can be really hard when it seems like people you love aren't taking you at your word -- also, you should not be treated that way at home, you deserve to be somewhere that makes you feel safe.



      You mentioned that you have thought about suicide -- we take suicide very seriously here at the NRS. If you feel like you are suicidal and a danger to yourself, we highly advise you contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800)-273-8255 or call 911. Additionally, if you feel as though you're going through your mental health issues alone, a great resource is NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have great support groups there with people going through similar issues at https://www.nami.org/Support-Education/Support-Groups.



      That said, one avenue for trying to explain the situation to your mom is perhaps to ask her to wear your FitBit at night. If it's a technology malfunction, there is a high chance that it will happen when she uses it too and you could prove your point. Something you could say to be helpful in making your case is," If I'm making this up, then what do you have to lose, you can prove I'm lying by the morning." Additionally, while we aren't sleep experts at the NRS, the light stage of sleep (N1) is the shortest stage of sleep, sometimes only being 5-10 minutes. It is very possible that in the very first cycle, the FitBit just doesn't register that phase and directly tracks the deep stage. Then, the light stage that follows the deep stage would just be the beginning of the next cycle.



      We wish you all the best and hope you will find these resources helpful. If you have more questions or just want to talk about your situation more with one of our representatives, feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us at 1800runaway.org.

      NRS

  • #41
    hello im 12

    i really wanna run away as i feel i am just used by my parents to do chores. my dad is abusive and my mom doesnt say anything . i talk back to my dad whenever he is in a mood because i am not afraid of him. my sister is 14 we dont get along at all . i have suffered from deppression , ed , self harm and have tried suicidal attempts i have a bag of tablets that i just swallow all in one go when nobodys around. i used to be really talkative to my family but now even they have noticed that i barely say a sentence. im scared that if i do run away i wont get a job because nobody would hire a 12 year old. i really want to run away far from here

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    • ccsmod7
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      Hello,

      Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry to hear that you’re having such a hard time at home. You don’t deserve to be abused, in any way, ever. It really sounds like you have a lot going on, we’re really glad you reached out to us.

      If you are in immediate danger at home and need immediate help, we encourage you to call 911 immediately. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. This may be a helpful resource for reporting any abuse occurring at home to the proper authorities.

      We also want to let you know that in addition to our live chat (1800runaway.org) and our hotline (1-800-RUNAWAY) being available 24/7 365, that if you’re ever feeling suicidal you can always reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK or at SuicidePreventionLifeline.org.

      In response to your concern about running away, it is valid and realistic to be concerned about not being able to earn money in a safe way at 12 years old. Things can quickly become dangerous for a runaway preteen particularly for this reason. It’s very responsible of you to be considering things like this before making such a big decision, like running away.

      We have a large data base of national and regional resources (mental health counseling, abuse reporting, etc.) that may be helpful to you. In order to share those resources, as well as talk about what’s going on at home, we encourage you to contact our live chat or hotline.

      We wish you luck with everything and hope you’ll contact us via live chat or hotline.

      Thank you.

  • #42
    I lied to my mom and she is disappointed in me and i feel like i'd be better off running away from my home. My mom doesn't deserve the bad things i have done. I feel bad and feel like it would make me feel better to just runaway.

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hello thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. I see that you are having a hard time at home and that you have chatted with us before about this topic. It seems like more has happened since then and you are considering running away to escape these negative feelings associated with being around your mom. Before leaving there are things to consider; like how you will feed yourself, where you will sleep, and how you plan to attend school. On top of that your mom may actually be more upset or worried and result in less freedom if you get found and returned home.
      She would be able to make a runaway report, and police would look for you to try and return you back home. If you wanted we can talk about other ways to cope with these negative feelings. Its OK to feel bad for lying, but there are healthy ways to use those feelings to change the situation for the better for yourself. To help best serve you having a phone call with one of our team members may help you more. They are available 24/7 at 800-786-2929.

  • #43
    I want to run away, and i have the things to do so, i just have no money and it’s very cold and snowy outside.
    i have been emotionally abused by my step dad and used by my mom. i don’t know what to do.

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #44
    i want to run away

    i want to run away because all i do is get in my dads way and stress him out but if i ran away it would most likely make my younger sister want to do it.

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    • ccsmod10
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      Hi there, it sounds like you've been feeling stressed at home because of your relationship with your dad recently, and are considering running away to solve that problem. It also sounds like you're worried this encourage your sister to do so as well, which might be unsafe.

      We're here to help you as best we can. Running away from home often seems like it will solve a lot of our problems (and it can be a solution to some of them), but it also brings on a whole new load of problems as well. If you haven't already, it can be helpful to talk through how you're feeling / what you're thinking of doing with someone you trust. We can be that person if you'd like: you can live chat us at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

      Before running away from home it's helpful to think through a thorough plan, including where you will stay, how you will get food, water, shelter, how long you will stay there, and who you will contact in case of an emergency.
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