I want to runaway but im scared...

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Reply: I've always wanted to run away.

Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking at running away as an option to help cope with everything. Running away is a big step and there are things to consider as far as your safety and ability to survive. You don’t deserve to be abused in any way. It’s not your fault that this is going on.
We understand how difficult it must have be for you. Your feelings are important to us.
You are very brave for expressing them. Good for you.
NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.

Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).

NRS is here to listen and here to help.
Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Scared to actually run away

I'm a 16-year-old girl who lives with my mother, her boyfriend, my grandmother, uncle, auntie, and all their kids. You see my all the adults in my family are addicted to meth and my uncle and mother are mentally and emotionally abusive. They are narcissistic, selfish and impossible to talk to. I have tried everything. Even attempted suicide. And when we weren't with my family, my mom's boyfriend would hit us and do all this horrible ********. I moved to my grandmas to get away but my mother and her boyfriend followed. And I have already got my bags at my boyfriend and after a few days, I'm leaving with my best friend who lives an hour away from where I am at now. I just need to know if this is the right decision. I just plan on leaving for the summer and coming back to do all my junior and senior year classes online. After that I'm leaving for good. Is this the right thing to do? Because I can't deal with the drugs and abuse anymore.

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Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot of trauma in your life between the abuse and the addictions and your own mental health. You are making a decision to remove yourself from that and you want some support for this decision and that’s understandable.

You mentioned you had attempted suicide. We just want to assure you that your life has value and whatever you are going through, it is not worth your life. If you feel you might attempt suicide again, please don’t hesitate to call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They can help you.

You also mentioned your family and your mom’s boyfriend being abusive towards you. Abuse is never okay and you deserve to live your life in a place where you are safe. One thing you can consider is filing an abuse report with Child Help. You can reach them at 1-800-422-4453. Filing an abuse report would make a record of what happened.

You’re the only person who can answer if it’s the right thing for you to do, but it really sounds like you have a solid plan to complete your education while also keeping yourself safe. We are non-directive, which means we won’t tell you what to do.

However, we can mention some things to think about as you bring your plan to life. You may want to consider having a conversation with the person you are staying with to find out what they expect from you. Maybe they want you to chip in on rent or chores. Maybe they have rules they want you to be aware of.

You may want to consider getting a job if you are able to work in your state. A little money can help if you need to get home quick. There may be other things you’ll want to think about and you can call us anytime 24/7 if you want help going over your plan. We can be reached by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or for chat online at 1800runaway.org.

[Guest]

They say hit my sisters but i dont today my sister got push by my other sis and she is hurt so bad she cant move imma get beat even though it wasnt me what do i do p.s. no one likes me in the family

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I want to run away and never come back but im hesitant that my parents will make it worse.i just want to live life on my own.I dont want parents.I want to walk the streets and explore.and see places where i have never been.i dont want parents.I dont even want family.I just want want to leave and never come back.help me

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Hello,

It sounds like you really want to be independent and free. That's so understandable. Youth is a time where we test boundaries and try to figure out our place in the world. It also sounds like you might be having some difficulties at home with your parents and family. We're sorry to hear that!

Running away is a big decision. Some questions to consider: How will I be safe? Where will I stay? How will I provide for my needs? How will my family react? What impact will this have on my future goals?

We'd like to help you sort these questions out for yourself. We never tell anyone what to do, including whether or not you decide to run away. Sometimes talking things over with someone is a good idea. That's what we are here for. Additionally, we have a large database of resources, things like shelters, counselors, and so on.

The best way we can help is if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24/7. We also have a chatroom that you can use to chat with us via www.1800runaway.org.

Good luck, stay safe, and we hope to hear from you soon!

NRS

[Guest]

I want to run away I'm 10 and my name is braylen me and my little sister briley have been planning to run away for a while know but I'm scared I have already planned to go to loasina as soon as possible my girlfriend is there and she may help us but I'm scared to be alone but I know people want help me but what if I don't want help maybe its cause I'm just spoiled and selfish I don't know I came here to get advice so here I go pressed send

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HI, Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. Being scared to run away, and wondering if people can or will help, and reaching out for advice – these were all smart things. Running away is a really big risk to take, especially for someone who is 10. It sounds like you are trying to protect yourself and your sister from something happening at home. That is a very brave thing to do, and we want that for you too. You were smart enough to find us, so you don’t have to go through this alone. We are here to help you.
If you are in danger and are afraid to be at home, you can take your sister to your local Fire Station and you can tell the Firemen that you are not safe at home. They will help you to talk to the people who can help with that.
We are here for you to talk about all of this, either through out phone hotline at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or via live chat at 1800runaway.org What you are going through and what you are planning deserves our time and attention to talk through your options. We are here to listen and to help, and also to help keep you safe and off the streets.
We truly hope to hear from you soon.
NRS

[Guest]

i want to runaway cuz me and my friends has been dealing with a lot of stuff with our parents and that they keep getting drunk and im just sick and tired of my life. i need encouragment to run away and now im in school and my mom just grounded me for no reason so i need help escaping.

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It seems like you and your friend are going through a really difficult situation.
It can be frustrating to watch your parents be drunk and not fully there for you. One option would be to contact SAMHSA (substance abuse and mental health services association). They can be contacted by calling 1800-662-HELP. They may be able to provide resources for you and also talk about options. Another option to consider would be talking with your school counselor about what has been going on at home. Talking to a professional can help with providing you with support and they may be able to disucss options.
We are not legal experts but we do have some information on the laws. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian can file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. If running away is your only option give us a call and we can try and explore options.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I want to run away badly, but I can’t, first I don’t have the courage to do so and second, I have nowhere to go, no where to get food and water. I want to so badly, but I can’t. I don’t know what to do. Everyone in my family looks at me like a disgrace. Especially my mom, she yells at me for no reason, in the morning, she screams her lungs out to me. I’m would definitely run away if I had food and water and a place to stay.

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, and sharing a little bit of your feelings with us we appreciate it.
It sounds like you have a lot of emotions going on right now, and we want you to know we are here for you. Running away is a big decision and it seems like you have thought about logical things, which is very smart on your part.
We are not legal experts but we do have some information on if you were to run away. Your legal guardian could file a runaway report and if the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. You could consider seeing if you could stay with a friend or a family member even for a break.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore your options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

Hello in 10 years old and I want to runaway from home cuz my mom and step dad are mean and thay love to scream I hate my life and that’s why I want to runaway

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. That can't be easy to be around screaming, and it makes sense that you are needing a change. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon. We can explore your options and provide support.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org.

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

I want to run away but I'm to scared to leave
I love my mother but sometimes I just want to run away so badly because of my father he called me stupid yesterday wont let me ever do anything but I'm scared to run away because I have no one to go with I'm only 11 and there are bad people out there and there Is cov id 19 and I'm to scared to leave my mother brother and sister wondering If i will see them again.

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Hello there -

Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on.

It sounds like you might some specific questions that you want to ask us or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us.

Some things that you can think about doing is, setting small goals and celebrating them when they are achieved, maybe make a list of positive traits that you like about yourself (personal or public traits), trying your very best to refrain from comparing yourself to others or negative thoughts on your life, maybe establishing a hobby that makes you feel good about yourself, even try challenging your negative thoughts by asking their validity or by rethinking them in a positive manner. Starting a journal could also help you with these task. Having it all written down in front of you can put things in prospective on how many great things you do from day to day and not have your parent’s voice on your head telling you otherwise.

We hope that this helps and is a small step to making things better or you during this hard time. We certainly want to help you.

[Guest]

Hi I'm 11 and I want to run away I don't know what to do I have an amazing family it's my mom and dad they always tell at me for no reason and I don't know what to do I had no idea until I found you guys I mean I have bad depression and anxiety so this is really hard on me please help

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time and we want you to know you are not alone in this.
Running away is a big decision, we are not legal experts but we do have some information on the laws. If you were to run away your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. One option may be to take a break and see if you can go to a friends or family members for a few days.
Having depression and anxiety can be hard to deal with alone, and you do not have to be alone in this. One option to consider would be to speak with a counselor, you can try and talk with your parents about setting up and appointment. Also although schools are closed some school counselors are still meeting with youth virtually. Another good resource is called NAMI (national alliance for mental illnesses. They can be reached at 1800-950-NAMI.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I want to run away. I am lucky to not have been physically abused but my dad is never there for me. He is always working and hates doing anything for me. He hasn't taken me to the dentist in over a year and a half at the least. When he isn't there at his house (almost all the time) he has his brother at the house for me and to take care of my dads pug. He hates me with every fiber of his being for reasons beyond me and gets me in trouble every chance he gets. Just earlier I closed my door which I'm not allowed to do because I my dad won't let me have any privacy. He only allows me a minute to change which is the only time a can close my door and I'm not allowed to lock it either. Anyway after i closed my door he called me into the corner of the dining room and made me stay there for 25 minutes and added five after i got up to blow my nose and when he asked me why i didn't get his permission to blow my nose he threatened to make me sit there for the rest of the day. He also told me he would personally make sure that i was grounded of anything fun for as long as he could get it and that i would never be able to shoot a gun (a dream of mine for the past while because I want to join the military because I'm inspired by some of the heroic acts soldiers did for their fellow soldiers and because I have nothing else to do with my meaningless life.) This post is just a colossal cluster f with no point besides the fact that I hate my life. I hate my dad. I hate his brother more than is even possible. I hate being alive. I just want it to stop. I want to be happy for once. But I wont. There is no happy ending for me and I know it. I would kill myself but I dont know what method would be quickest and I still have my moms mother and her husband who I love more than anything. I truly wish i could tell them how much they mean to me and that they are the only things keeping me alive.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
It is good that you have other family that cares for you and you feel more supported by than your father. You don’t deserve to be treated that way and threatened to be denied any fun because of a power trip. It is good to have goals like joining the military to work towards and it can help you to keep things in perspective. It might help to have daily goals or tasks to do that can help you to keep motivated and look forward to at least one thing each day.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

I want to run away but I’m 14 and I’m scared that if I do I don’t know what my father would do. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do please help me.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
Generally if you were to leave at this point without parent permission your dad would be able to make a runaway/missing person report with police and have them look for you and try to bring you back home. If you need a safe place to stay you might be able to stay at we do have shelter resources in every state and would be happy to look them up if you can reach out again.
We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

I've been wanting to run away for a few months now. My parents are strict, mean, abusive verbally and physically, my sister is the same. Everyone at school hates me, and bullies me, I only have one friend, no one understands me, and thinks I have the best life ever. When ever I try and talk to my parents they say stuff that makes me feel like a idiot. I never get to go outside much with my friends because they are so overprotective. I've always had a dream to explore the world and see amazing sights of nature. But I can't because we never go to places like that. But I want go so bad, and I have a plan and suplies, but I also don't think I can pull it off though. And I feel I will miss my house and pets and family and regret leaving, but I also think I won't be able to survive. I don't have anywhere to stay, so I'm going to go to a big forest with animals to hunt, and water to drink and bathe in. I'm not ur average 11 year old girl, u see, I act like a boy, I know how to survive, I have sharp long nails in the shape of cat nails, fangs, and I always eat meat, and I can go trough on killing an animal. I can protect myself, I know how to make fires, how to cook, how to make a tent, and build stuff. I don't care if I get dirty or hurt. I do not have Covid, I was tested and I would have known by now anyways.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I want to run away from home so badly. I’d rather stay with my aunt. My mother is bipolar and so is the rest of my family. Isn’t it true that your environment affects you? My mom always is angry about something. I don’t feel like I can even talk to anyone in my family if I’m ever depressed or feeling suicidal. If I talked to my mom about, she would get mad. I know this because my brother felt suicidal and she didn’t care. She said a few times to us all, “I feel like living on my own and leaving you guys behind!” Well why don’t I leave for her? This household will be fine without me. I’ve stayed somewhere else before. But what I need right now is the courage to leave. I’m concerned about how I’m going to leave and when. Being around here at home isn’t the best for my mental health. And I’m 15.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - other peoples' struggles with mental illness can definitely impact your own! Your mom's words and actions sound really hurtful and you deserve to live somewhere where you are loved and supported. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You mentioned that you don't have an outlet at home to talk about depression or past suicidal thoughts, and it can be really hard to have to hold those feelings in! ental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

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[Guest]

hi i want to run away im 10 years old and iv been planing this for a year now iv tried to run away before my grandpa think that its not okay to lie to him and his right but his yelled at me for not reading his mind iv tried suicide but i was to scared iv never found such a better website to express my felling before im actually crying right know BC he gave my the talk and i know everything he said is fake i know it i wish i could run away but i have know food supplies and everything here is a heat up i want to travel night i hope that i find a time to run away

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Hello There,
Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are so glad that you have found us and it takes courage to reach out.
It sounds like you are going through a really stressful situation and we want you to know we are here for you and you are not alone.
We are glad that you have survived and are here today to tell your story. Suicide is a scary thing and you do not have to deal with these feelings alone, there is help out there for you. If you are feeling suicidal or just need to talk you can reach out to us or The National Suicide Prevention Hotline. They can be reached at 1800-273-8255. We want you to know that you are valuable and you are worth living. You can also consider talking to your school counselor about what has been going on at home. They would be able to offer support and provide resources.
We are not legal experts but we do have some information on the laws. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are available 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS