I cannot live here anymore

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Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out! We appreciate you seeking help during this difficult.

To begin with, you mentioned that you’re about to turn 12 tomorrow, and that whatever is going on at home is driving you to run away, or kill yourself. We want you to know that we take suicide very seriously, and if for whatever reason you are feeling like you might hurt yourself, you can reach out to the national suicide prevention hotline at 1800) 273-8255. If you want to talk to someone else in about what’s going on at home, you may reach out to the NAMI organization to talk at 1800) 950-6264.

Running away is a big decision and it can be hard to figure out what to do. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. If you don’t feel safe and feel like you need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for you to meet a staff member who can take you to a designated place where you can discuss all options about how to stay safe. You can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

One service we can offer is to conference call with your parents. This way you could have a conversation with your parents but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to your mom why you feel like she hates you and how it is affecting you and making you think about running away. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

Im about to turn 12 tomorrow and i can't handle my parents i am so close to runnuing away or killing myself i need to go live with my friends can i

[ccsmod15]

Thanks so much for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like you’re feeling overwhelmed and frustrated, and it’s understandable that you’d be thinking about leaving a stressful environment.
No one deserves to be called names or put down. And being compared to others is hurtful. Emotional abuse is when a parent or caregiver, whether through action or failing to act, causes emotional harm or risk of serious harm to a child. If you think your parents’ behavior could be emotional abuse, you have the right to report the abuse to the authorities. You can tell a teacher or counselor at school, call police, or call Child Help, an anonymous 24/7 hotline like NRS, at 1-800-422-4453. They can answer your questions about the process and make a report over the phone.
Sometimes it can be a big relief just to put things into words and get things off your chest. It might be a good idea to think about finding someone you can talk to, like a counselor or another adult you trust, about how things have been at home for you. They might even be able to mediate a conversation with your parents about ways they can make things easier for you at home. We’re happy to help you find resources like counseling in your area at 1-800-786-2929. At NRS, we offer a conference call service where a volunteer mediates a call between a youth and their parents to make sure everyone is respectful and has a chance to be heard. If you want to learn more or give it a try, you can give us a call any time. Another idea is journaling, or writing your parents a letter about how you’ve been feeling. Sometimes people are more willing to hear what you have to say when it’s written down.
It shows how strong you are that even in such a stressful situation, you are researching all your options and reaching out for help. If you’d like to talk more about your situation or brainstorm other options, we are here for you 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929

I'm 15 years old and majority of the time I can't stand my parents. All they do is yell and argue and my dad calls me names while I'm never good enough for my mother. Its like she has to "win" every conversation. Like who does that? And everyday I wake up im not sure how my parents are going to act and its so frustrating because I cant live up to their standard or more like my mothers. Shes always telling me I need to work out more or try harder and she always ALWAYS compares me to my friends and then gets mad when i tell her i dont like that. Im at the point where i think that leaving would be the best but I dont want to ruin my volleyball stuff. I mean i am sick thinking about all of this stuff living with my parents stresses me out so much i wanna vomit.

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Thank you for reaching out to us and telling us your story. It sounds like you are going through a very difficult time right now and we hope to be able to help. We are sorry to hear that you do not feel loved or safe at home. You should not have to go through that. Running away is a big decision and it can be hard to figure out what to do. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police.

What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. A good way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

If you don’t feel safe and feel like you need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for you to meet a staff member who can take you to a designated place where you can discuss all options about how to stay safe. You can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

One service we can offer is to conference call with your parents. This way you could have a conversation with your parents but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to your mom why you feel like she hates you and how it is affecting you and making you think about running away. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

well im 10 and my mom hates me i sure she dosent love or want me anymore and im thinkg i should run away i already pack and i dont fell loved or safe around her what should i do

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. From what we gather about your story it might be a good idea to speak with an adult who you feel comfortable around and can speak with them about the situation. They can help advocate for your situation since your parents might listen to an adult instead of not hearing you out. We also offer conference calls to help you communicate what you want to say. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

My parents treat me really unfairly compared to my older brother and my younger sister. I'm 15(sophomore) They never appreciate anything that I do right. They only focus on the bad stuff. My two other siblings get all of the good attention while i'm over here getting yelled at. A week ago they got pissed at me because I'm dating this guy. We have been dating almost a year and half and they wanted to force a break up between us. They took away all of the stuff he gave me and they also took away my phone and they won't let me stay after school or go anywhere with anyone. They also said that they never wanted to see me with him again. I'm tired of being treated so poorly. What should I do?

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for your bulletin. It can be difficult to ask for help, but reaching out means that you’re already on your way to improving your situation. We want to help however we can.

It’s frustrating that your mom makes fun of you and doesn’t show you similar affection that your friends’ mothers seem to show them. It’s especially frustrating considering that you’re trying your best to keep her happy. It’s not fair for you to be punished and mistreated when you’re not doing anything wrong.

One option available to you would be for us to set up a conference call with you and your parents so that you can discuss your situation while we mediate the discussion. This way, we can ensure the conversation stays within respectful guidelines and moves towards a resolution. If that’s something you’re interested in, you can give us a call (1-800-786-2929) and we can work to initiate that.

Another option that may be available is to change the way you approach dealing with your mother. If trying to keep her happy isn’t working, maybe you can try being more direct with her about how you’re feeling and the way her behavior is hurting you.

Beyond dealing directly with your parents, a third option could be bringing up the issue with someone at school. There may be a counselor or teacher who you can confide in about your situation, who may be able to offer guidance or support. Talking to somebody about what you’re going through (or even journaling it privately) may not seem like much, but it can offer a lot of relief.

If you feel you can’t stand to be at home, you can also try confiding in a friend and seeing it they’d let you stay over for a day or two while things cool off.

We understand this situation feels overwhelming, but we want you to know that you have options available to you and people who support you. If you’d like to discuss your situation in more depth, you can call us toll free, anytime, at 1-800-786-2929. You can also IM with us through our website at www.1800runaway.org.

We wish you the best of luck with your situation, and we encourage you to reach out to us anytime.

Hey I’m 15 too my mom always calls me names makes fun of me doesn’t even care about me all my friends mom cares and loves them and I’m over here crying everyday I hate it I just wanna die tbh she’s even having my dad catch on too the way she treats me she assumes I’m doing stuff too smh I try my best to keep her happy it doesn’t work

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Be safe,
NRS

Good day
I have just turned 21 years and am living with my aunt and her in laws.
Am not happy because am not part of the family and they pretend they care but they dont .
Not to say i want to rule myself but living with my sister would make me happy because am more open to her than to my aunt and in laws
and my aunt is very strict because i have a child she doesn't trust me she thinks am going to have another child in which i will not and the inlaws pretend for me and others no longer come to visit anymore its like am tearing the family apart which is why i want to leave in peace and be with someone who truly understands me and would clearly advise me and would also listen to my feelings and thoughts.

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

I cant live her anymore i am 13 and my grandma hates i live with my mom too but she doesn't have money for a house i just want a place to stay until she gets one but i also want her to be able to see me and me Still be able to see my friends

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Reply: Hi I’m 12 years old and turning 13

Hello,

You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It is not your fault that this is happening at home and you have the right to feel safe. It took a lot of courage for you to reach out for help. Good job. NRS is here to listen and here to help. We want you to know that we are here to support you during this difficult time.

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org

Take care,
NRS