I cannot live here anymore

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Reply: Hi I am 11 years old

Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
Some situations can be disappointing and even upsetting thus making things uncertain about what to do or where to turn.
It sounds like you are still upset by the relationship of your mother’s marriage and how it affected you.

We understand and we want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. No one deserves to be abused by anyone. You are not to blame for what took place.
We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org.

NRS is here to listen and here to help.
Again tell us what it is you would like us to help you with and we will be happy to explore some options with you.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

This is Danny I am 41 years old I used to live in New York City in a group home but my sister took me out of February 6 2016 hey now was the worst mistake of my life by listening to her now I feel depressed want to kill myself and I don't want to be here I want to go back to the group home because I was more happier I had a job I have money in my pocket and I was doing good I am so depressed people now don't want to help me because I'm out of this system but I want to get back in for I do certain the I'm going to end up in jail please help me

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Hi, Danny. Thank you contacting National Runaway Safeline. We are very sorry to hear that things haven’t been going well between you and your sister. You mentioned that you feel depressed and want to kill yourself. Your life matters, and it is worth living. Talking to someone some one that you can trust about your thought of suicide could make a difference in how you feel. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) is a great resource that you could call and discuss how you’re feeling. You may want to contact your caseworker to see if you can return to the group home. If you have any other questions or concerns, please feel free to contact our 24 crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929).

[Guest]

I am 16 currently and no longer want to live at home. I feel like me and my parents can never talk to eachother anymore without getting into a fight. They want me to just have no social life anymore either. I walked out and took a walk today because I couldn’t deal with it any longer. When we fight I feel like our conversations don’t even move they seem to just go in circles. We fight about the same topics every time and
it’s been months of arguing the same thing. I am not the best kid I will admit but I want to keep my parents happy and never mean to upset them. I just want the fighting to end and to have a normal house for once. Please help me.

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Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline (NRS) . We are sorry to hear that you and your parents have been fighting constantly. It sounds like you really care about your parents and want to make them happy, but you all are having trouble communicating. Talking to your parents about how you feel may help to improve your relationship with them. Here at NRS (1-800-786-2929) , we offer conference calls between youth and their parents. This could be an opportunity for you to have a conversation with your parents facilitated by a NRS worker. Another option that you could look into is family counseling.
Best of luck!
- NRS

[Guest]

I am sick and tired of my younger sister. I want to move out, but I’m only 12, my dad left when my mom was pregnant and my stepdad is a jerk. My mom tries her best with us, but she favours my sister and always sides with her. Yesterday, my sister threw a rock at my head. A rock. At my head. And my mom? She said I should stick up for myself. Then my sister slaps me when our mom wasn’t looking so I slapped her back, as a way to ‘stick up for myself’ but what happens? My sister cried and tells our mom, and when I told her the full story my mom says ‘You shouldn’t hurt her, she’s 3 years younger than you!’ I can’t explain these things to my mom either, believe me, I’ve tried. This post makes me seem really angry, but I’m more upset. My mom signed me up for counseling and I have been diagnosed with depression, but she just says things like try cheer up, don’t listen to sad music etc.

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Hello, Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It must be really difficult to live in a house where your mother does not take your side on things. It sounds like it is really unfair the way that your sister is allowed to hit you but if you defend yourself you get in trouble. We know that you mentioned that you have tried talking to your mother about the way she treats you but she does not listen. Maybe we can help with that. We have a conference calling service where we would hold a three-way call with you and your mother. This service might be helpful if you have concerns about your mother not listening to you or not being overbearing in the conversation. We would serve as mediators, not taking sides but just making sure that all parties are heard. It is great that you are talking to a counselor sometimes having someone to talk to can help you come up with solutions not previously thought of. If you feel comfortable you can always give us a call and we can talk about all of your options. 1-800-786-2929
Best wishes,
NRS

[Guest]

I can’t live here anymore I’m alaways fighting with my 14 year old sister and 9 year old brother they actually hurt but don’t care. My parents treat me as I’m adopted or sum ******** and every time my other siblings fight they instantly think it’s me and they hurt my feelings with name callings like ********** ,liar dumb , retarted and I can’t do it I’m broken by it everyday I’m in trouble and constantly getting hit they get me what I want but they don’t do it for love it’s just to shut me up I get sum freedom like 5 times every 12 months I get to go over my friends and nothing in this family make me happy but my phone I have my own social media’s to enjoy and talk to my friends and I share a room with my 9 year old brother and I hate it so much I-i been doing this for 3 years and it’s getting worse by year I am a 13 year old girl I should have my own space and he does and say things to get me in trouble but when they say next time tell us instead of doing whatever back when I do , do it they always call me a snitch and don’t care at all they just say your losing leave him alone it really hurts me what can I do ? 10/29/17 m.w

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Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way, especially by your parents and siblings. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You do have the option to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA (1-800-422-4453) www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.
Good Luck and Be safe !

[Guest]

I just want someone to listen to me and actually help me.
I’m gonna be 19 in a couple weeks and my dad’s gf just makes being at home so uncomfortable because she’s always making me feel worthless, constantly telling me that I don’t do anything for anyone, that in a selfish stupid little kid, she won’t even let me hang out with my little sister which is her daughter. Whenever my dad’s not around she tends to make things even worse by just doing little irritating angry things, like slamming things and writing notes all over the walls for me to do things that "I don’t do". My dad just lets her do what she wants to me, she shows me no respect and it bothers me so much. I tried to move out recently and live with my boyfriend and his family, but my dad won’t let me leave. None of my family wants to take me in either because they don’t want to get involved with my dad or his gf. I basically have no control over my life, other than being able to go to college which they didn’t help me with, I got in on my own, and going to work, making my own money. My mom lives in Texas and when I was younger I’ve tried really hard to run away and live with her but my dad wouldn’t let me go. He won’t even let me visit, I haven’t seen any of my mom’s side of my family since I was in 5th grade. Even at my age now in barely allowed to go to many places without being interrogated by my dad. I can’t even be myself because it’s viewed as stupid to my dad and his gf. I have nowhere to go and I’m tired of the way I’m treated, in high school I had to go to school with black eyes a lot because of my attitude and just the things I would do bothered him that much. My dad’s gf is deliberately trying to drive me out of the house and its working, but MY DAD WONT LET ME GO. They always seem to argue about me too, whenever I do something my dad’s gf doesn’t like she'll tell my dad and he'll yell at me saying that I need to change and grow up. I've tried so hard to be what they want and keep myself happy at the same time, but I’m falling apart and I’m pretty over the situation at hand, if something good doesn’t happen for me soon I’m positive that I won’t be a problem to anyone much longer, I'm tired of being everyone’s burden and not being good enough. I don’t even want to be alive anymore because of these people, I’m so sick of it. I just want to be happy, no matter what I do it never works.

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Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
Some situations can be disappointing and even upsetting thus making things uncertain about what to do or where to turn. It sounds like you have been having some strong issues dealing in your relationships with your father and his girlfriend. It has made for some frustrating time for you.
We understand and we want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

You brought up that fact that you are going to college while holding a job.
Those things certainly are things to be proud of. You are building your way towards being independent. Good for you. You are going to be 19 years of age soon meaning legally you have the right to live on your own. Of course being financially stable would be quite helpful in order to make that happen. Perhaps having a plan to consider would be something to work on.
You know your situation best but maybe it’s something you might want to talk about with NRS.

We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. NRS is here to listen and here to help.
If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
We would be happy to listen and explore options with you.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org.

We hope reaching out and writing about your situation helped to relieve any tension you may have been feeling.
Good job.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi im 19 and I am two grades behind.So I had a issue once and ran away at 18. But I came back home and something happen to me again. So I ran away and I know my parents cant call the cops because im older then 18. But because im still in school do I have to go home or can I stay out. Do I need to sign papers or not.

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Hi there,

Thank you for posting today! It sounds like you are having a really hard time at home lately and are looking for some information.

We are glad you reached out for help! That is a hard thing to do. We are not legal experts, but as far as we understand it, you are correct that once you are considered a legal adult your parents cannot file a runaway report with the police in most cases. However, even if you are living somewhere else and are considered an adult in your state, you may still need parental consent and signatures for some things, like school.

Your best option may be to talk to your principal about the legality of you being 19 and living outside of your parents’ home and see if the school system still needs to have contact with your parents or if you can work with the school independently at this time. A guidance counselor or social worker at school may also be able to help with that conversation.

If you do need to talk with your parents for school or another matter, those same people at school may be able to help you have that conversation. We also offer conference calling here so you can call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we can help facilitate a conversation between you and your mom or dad. Sometimes having a neutral party can ease tension for those tough conversations.

You are really brave for asking for help! We are here 24/7 by phone: 1-800-786-2929 and from 4:30-11:30 pm daily on our website for live chat. Best of luck!

[Guest]

Okay this may sound stupid is what my mom says but il.teyi.g sp.hard to make her happy I don't have the best grades which there not good at all she says it's because I don't try but in all reality I do. We are always fighting I try to get out with friends to get it out of my mind. I try to keep a good attitude around my friends because I don't wanna be treated differently but they all know I'm having a hard time. When i get home from there I have always apparel toy done something I spend most nights crying myself. To sleep thinking if it's even worth waking up tomorrow when I was 10 I would just think to myself tomorrows a new day u can try harder but now I just can't do it anymore. Just cause she went down the wrong path with drugs and alcohol doesn't mean anything ik not her not stupid to do those things. I wanna be able to do what the other kids are doing I mean I'm a teenager now I would like some space. It's my life give me a break. And my "step" father which doesn't even have the right to tell me what to do is always complaining about how i never do anything right and I'm always getting yelled out for assumptions he makes I'm done he takes everything out on me. I mean they obviously choose my siblings over me. They say they are trying to help me when I'm all reality I don't need help I have my life in control they are just making it worse. I'm writing this in hope.soemone can help i am 14 years and I just don't know what to do i wanna figure out life but I don't know if I can anymore.

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Reply: Okay this may sound...

Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
Some situations can be disappointing and even upsetting thus making things uncertain about what to do or where to turn.
We understand and we want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance.

If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org.

Again tell us what it is you would like us to help you with and we will be happy to explore some options with you.
NRS is here to listen and here to help.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 15.
i don’t want to be hear any more, I’m in year 11 and have my GCSEs coming up and I can’t handle that stress let alone the stress my mum puts me through, she tells me she hates me on a daily basis and wishes she never had me. I’ve wanted to leave for quite a long while now but I just have no where to go. It’s getting to the point where I don’t even want to live any more because of how bad things have gotten, I really want to leave. What should I do? I live in England

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Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to NRS! It sounds like you are in a really tough situation right now at home with your mum. We are sorry you are feeling so hopeless and down. It must be really stressful with so much going on at school and at home, especially with your mum telling you she hates you. You do not deserve to be spoken to like that at all! We are so sorry you are going through that. You also mentioned feeling like you do not want to live. That is a really serious thought and we hope you can reach out and get help! Things can get better no matter how hard they seem right now!

The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA).So unfortunately, our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.
Best of luck with all these tough situations and take care of yourself!

[Guest]

I’m 14 and a while ago I made a mistake and it was bad, I’ve actually made a few mistakes this year , my mom has gotten to the point where she doesn’t want me to live with her or be around her

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. It takes a great deal of courage to seek help. We would like you to know that everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect. It seems like your mom doesn't want you around because of your mistakes. Talking to her about how her actions makes you feel could help. You could try family therapy to work on the issues in which you two may have. Here at NRS, we offer conference calls between youth and their parents. This could be an opportunity for you and your mom to discuss any issues that you have, the conversation would be mediated by an NRS worker. If you would like to leave home, you could ask your mom if she would allow you to stay with a family member or close friend. If you are interested in a conference call with your mom or you just need to talk, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

[Guest]

I want to go live with my friend because my mom dont like me

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Hey,
Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a difficult situation and we’re glad that you found us. We’re here to listen and help as much as we can. We’re not sure of the situation, but if you want to live with your friend and you are under 18 you would need permission from your parents. You might consider asking your mom for permission to stay with your friend or another family member for a bit. If you leave without permission, your mom could file a runaway report and if the police find you they may return you home. Any adult that houses you may be charged with harboring a runaway.
You mention that your mom doesn’t like you. It sounds like your relationship with your mom has become pretty tense and it sounds like a hurtful situation to be in. You definitely deserve to feel supported and loved. One option you might consider is having a conversation with your mom about how you’ve been feeling lately. It can be helpful to have another adult there to advocate for you and to make sure that the conversation stays fair. That adult could be a guidance counselor, therapist, or another adult you know and trust. Here at NRS, we can also help you have that conversation with your mom if you give us a call at 1-800-786-2929. We hope to hear from you and we wish you the best of luck.

[Guest]

I want to go live with my grandma and older brother but my parents won't let me cause "they manipulate" which I don't really see but I'm so done and just want to go live with them and I don't really know what to do...

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Hi there, thanks for posting to our forum today. It sounds like you are unhappy with your mom and want to move with your grandma and brother but your mom has said no. That must be really frustrating!
While you are a minor (under 18 in most states) leaving home is most easily done through parent’s permission, which it seems like you have tried and your mom isn’t receptive to. Perhaps asking your grandma or another adult you trust to help you talk with your mom about that option may be helpful. You may also consider whether or not your mom would allow you to stay with a different family member or friend. We also offer conference calling with legal guardians so you wanted help in having that conversation, feel free to give us a call and we can help talk to your mom. We are here 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).
It sounds like home is a hard place for you to be and you are looking for options. That is really smart of you and we are glad you reached out! If you would like to talk more about other options you have or need any resources in your area, feel free to call us anytime or live chat through our website every day 4:30-11:30pm central time so we can best help you directly. Good luck and contact us anytime! We are here to help!

[Guest]

Hey i´m 20 years old turning 21 this year. i live with my aunt in the same house and my dad in other house and my mom in another country. My aunt and I don´t get along. We used to live with her daughter and 3 other cousins but her daughter got married and moved out and my other 3 cousins could also not handle her. And now i just live with her and she does not leave me alone, if i go out its a problem, whatever i do is a problem. i don´t have friends because of her, they used to come to my house but she always treated them bad and so they decided not to come to my house no more and i cant go there either so i ended up without friends. i cant go to parties, cant go and watch a movie with friends, cant do anything no more all she wants me to do is to stay at home and if i do so, she treats me bad, don´t talk to me right, and so forth. i feel lonely and useless. And my dad gets influenced by her. i used to go to a psychologist but he told me to stop. And my life is just horrible, i´m always crying and sad. Cant take it no more

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Hi, thanks for reaching out to us at NRS.
It sounds like living with your aunt has not been the most ideal situation, and it has been negatively impacting your social life and mental health. Although it is unclear if you are receiving any income right now, since you are an adult, you have the right to live wherever you choose. Is there anyone else you might be able to live with? If you are receiving income and do have the choice to live on your own/with a roommate, websites like www.HUD.gov or www.craigslist.org can be helpful for individuals looking for housing. If you are not receiving income, don’t have the option to stay with anyone else, and are wanting to explore staying at a shelter, you can go to homelessshelterdirectory.org to look up shelters in your area.
You are always welcome to give us a call at (800) 786-2929 if you want to further sort out what’s been going on and resources that might be helpful to you. There are places called transitional living centers that offer housing, case management, and vocational services to help you achieve the independence it sounds like you are looking for. We also are able to facilitate a conference call with your aunt, or any other family member, to talk about what has been going on and try to negotiate a better way of living together. We are available 24/7 and completely confidential.
Best of luck!
NRS