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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation.

    It sounds like your parents don't treat you very well. You never deserve to be hit or yelled at in any situation. How you're being treated is wrong. You’re always able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with someone you trust, as far as transferring custody. NRS is able to conference call with you if you need help making the abuse report, or we can make one for you. After an abuse report is made, CPS will investigate it.

    If you feel like getting out of the house is the best option and you decide to run away, we can explain what usually happens. We’re not legal experts, but from our general knowledge, running away is not illegal. If you runaway, your parents can make a runaway report. The police don't always actively look for you, if they come across you, then they usually bring you home. If you explain to them that home isn't a safe place to be, they don't always return you right away. They're supposed to investigate it first. We offer to call out to youths local police, with youth, to find out their protocols and what happens if runaways refuse to go home. We can also help find runaway/youth shelters in your area, so you can stay safe.

    We also have legal aid resources in our database. While we’re not law experts, we can try to find one in your area, there may be legal ways for you to be able to move out of your house. We’re here to try to brainstorm options with you.

    We hope our response is helpful. Also, talking to school counselors and teachers about what’s going on at home could provide you with great support. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center.

    Be safe, NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am 15 years old. My parents hit me and are mentally abusive towards me, they have a quick temper and we always argue. I am never allowed out of the house to see friends and I feel depressed and lonely. I put on a brace face in school but I can't do this any more. I love my parents but I can't deal with their anger and neglect. I have no relationship with them as from the age of 4 I have been in daycare/school from 9-7 I'm out of cars now so after school I stay at home alone till my parents come home from work 7ish on a day to day basis we say about three words to eachother. What are my rights? Am i legally allowed to leave? How would I financially support myself? Can I get a job? I can't stay in this situation anymore I need help!

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    You mentioned feeling depressed, a health problem that can be caused by factors such as life events and chemical changes to our brain. The types (and frequency) of depression symptoms varies, yet commonly includes feeling down for an extended period of time.

    A first step could be to talk with your doctor, as there are different types of depression. Your doctor or another medical professional may recommend a therapist and medicine and lifestyle changes. Regarding lifestyle, if you cannot to live there anymore, where else could you go? Are there steps you can take to make new friends?

    NRS would like to listen about what is going on, explore feelings, and help ensure you have a plan to stay safe. If you are comfortable about reaching NRS, call 800-RUNAWAY (786-0394) anytime.

    Please tell us what you think about our response: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi im 17 years old im feeling depressed and im alone i have no friends
    I liveing with my 2 elder brothers 1st brother go to job full day and im at home with my 2nd brother he is also depressed he has some disease thats why he is very very depressed he shouts and throw things fights with my 1nd brother my 1st brother is very good he cares both of us we are doing his treatment but there is no difference in his health he is going mad day by day im feeling afraid and depressed because of him i have to spend every whole day with and im not feeling good please help

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi, thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of bravery to explain such a personal situation such as this. You deserve to be in a space that does not provoke anxiety and anger. If you feel that your anxiety and anger from this are causing you to hurt yourself, it might help to contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline as they would be able to discuss a little more about how you are feeling with all this happening. You can reach them at 1-800-273-8255. You are clearly a very resilient and smart individual for taking the steps necessary to take care of your well- being. One option to think about might be to see if your mother would allow you to stay with friends or a close family member. This might allow you to be able to rid yourself of any unnecessary stress, anxiety, or anger. It might also be beneficial to talk to a professor or school counselor to be able to discuss more options and how to cope with this anxiety and anger that your home environment is causing you. If you do feel that running away is the best option, you can always call us and go through options. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Because you are 14 years going on 15, you will only be given the status offense as a runaway. You would not be in trouble legally. However, if you were to leave without your parent’s permission and stay with a friend or family member without your parent’s permission, the family member or friend that you stay with could run into legal issues for technically harboring a runaway. It might also be important to think about where you are going to stay and how you will take care of yourself. If you would like to discuss your options, talk more about your situation, or find shelters and resources, please do not hesitate to call. We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
    - NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    It’s been really bad at home my moms a single mom and my dad recently got out of prison and sometimes shows up to our house but is usually wacked out on drugs, me and my mom and my family always get in fights I’m 14 gonna be 15 and I just can’t stand it here anymore my anxiety and anger are so bad I hurt myself and others here and I can’t stay here but I don’t know where to go.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello, thank you for posting today. It looks like you have a similar question to another user. We have attached a copy of our reply to that user that we think might be of some use to you.
    Originally posted by Guest View Post
    I want to go live with my grandma and older brother but my parents won't let me cause "they manipulate" which I don't really see but I'm so done and just want to go live with them and I don't really know what to do...

    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We are sorry to hear about all that you have been facing and want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and cared for in your home. It takes a lot to reach out for help so we are glad that you did. It sounds like you are in a really difficult situation and are unsure of where to turn because of the police turning you away. One thing you can do is reach out to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. They are a child abuse and neglect reporting resource that could walk you through the process of doing that while also just talking to you about your rights a minor. If you have another family member, school counselor or adult that you trust, you can call in with one of them if you are nervous. We are also here 24/7 to talk you through this option and call out as well. We can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and don't hesitate to give us a call.

    It can also be hard to deal with a family member's alcohol problem even after leaving a neglectful situation like the one you are in. If you need support you can reach out to al-anon.org and go to the alateen section for support and resources on how to cope. They can also be reached at 757-563-1600.

    Good luck, and give us a call so we can best help,

    NRS

    We hope that this information is helpful to you! We’d love to hear what you think about your experience with the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). If you have a moment, please click the link below our signature line to fill out a quick survey. Best of luck!

  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello, thank you for posting today. It looks like you have a similar question to another user. We have attached a copy of our reply to that user that we think might be of some use to you.
    Originally posted by Guest View Post
    I want to go live with my grandma and older brother but my parents won't let me cause "they manipulate" which I don't really see but I'm so done and just want to go live with them and I don't really know what to do...

    Hi there, thanks for posting to our forum today. It sounds like you are unhappy with your mom and want to move with your grandma and brother but your mom has said no. That must be really frustrating!
    While you are a minor (under 18 in most states) leaving home is most easily done through parent’s permission, which it seems like you have tried and your mom isn’t receptive to. Perhaps asking your grandma or another adult you trust to help you talk with your mom about that option may be helpful. You may also consider whether or not your mom would allow you to stay with a different family member or friend. We also offer conference calling with legal guardians so you wanted help in having that conversation, feel free to give us a call and we can help talk to your mom. We are here 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).
    It sounds like home is a hard place for you to be and you are looking for options. That is really smart of you and we are glad you reached out! If you would like to talk more about other options you have or need any resources in your area, feel free to call us anytime or live chat through our website every day 4:30-11:30pm central time so we can best help you directly. Good luck and contact us anytime! We are here to help!

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I cant live here

    i am 13 and living with a alcoholic abusive mother i try to go through school but she always puts me down its not like she is even my mother anymore. I have to walk in the door and only have the hope that she will stop but i get disappointed all over each and every day. I have to sit and listen to her say what a disappointment i am and i am useless when it comes to get stuff done she yells at me out of the blue. she has friends over at night when i am trying to sleep just to do smoke weed. she is mentally and physically abusive. I have tried to ask for help when the police came when my mom had started to beat me until my friends had to pull her off of me they only said that alcohol is not illegal after age 21 even after i tell them what happen and they just gave me right back to her. so till this day i have to deal with her threats to kick me out even though i would happily leave she puts me down at every chance she gets. I need help on what are the steps I can take on how to get away from her and if i talk to a concealer she would just make my life even worsen.

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 14 and I’m letting my mum down a lot and when she gets angry I just want to runaway i tried my dads but it was the worst decision ever help I really don’t know what I’m supposed to do

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  • ccsmod1
    replied
    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We are sorry to hear about all that you have been facing and want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and cared for in your home. It takes a lot to reach out for help so we are glad that you did. It sounds like you are in a really difficult situation and are unsure of where to turn because of the police turning you away. One thing you can do is reach out to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. They are a child abuse and neglect reporting resource that could walk you through the process of doing that while also just talking to you about your rights a minor. If you have another family member, school counselor or adult that you trust, you can call in with one of them if you are nervous. We are also here 24/7 to talk you through this option and call out as well. We can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and don't hesitate to give us a call.

    It can also be hard to deal with a family member's alcohol problem even after leaving a neglectful situation like the one you are in. If you need support you can reach out to al-anon.org and go to the alateen section for support and resources on how to cope. They can also be reached at 757-563-1600.

    Good luck, and give us a call so we can best help,

    NRS

    We hope that this information is helpful to you! We’d love to hear what you think about your experience with the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). If you have a moment, please click the link below our signature line to fill out a quick survey. Best of luck!
    Last edited by ccsmod1; 02-27-2018, 02:56 AM.

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I cant be here anymore

    My mom is a mentally abusive alcoholic. she blows off all her money on alcohol that just makes her by-polo worsen till she gets violent. I am only 13 and trying to get through school. I feel like she is not my mom anymore i walk in the house and have to think is this the day she will stop even i know better. I have gone to the police after she had beaten me until my friends had to pull her off me and I told them about her alcohol problems and they only told me that alcohol is not illegal after 21 so they to didn't help. my mom also has friends over all the time and they are not the good kind of friends you want around they repeatedly use her over and over again. I don´t want to live here anymore I fiscally cant. I really need advise on how to handle this and how to get away.

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  • ccsmod6
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi, thanks for reaching out to us at NRS.
    It sounds like living with your aunt has not been the most ideal situation, and it has been negatively impacting your social life and mental health. Although it is unclear if you are receiving any income right now, since you are an adult, you have the right to live wherever you choose. Is there anyone else you might be able to live with? If you are receiving income and do have the choice to live on your own/with a roommate, websites like www.HUD.gov or www.craigslist.org can be helpful for individuals looking for housing. If you are not receiving income, don’t have the option to stay with anyone else, and are wanting to explore staying at a shelter, you can go to homelessshelterdirectory.org to look up shelters in your area.
    You are always welcome to give us a call at (800) 786-2929 if you want to further sort out what’s been going on and resources that might be helpful to you. There are places called transitional living centers that offer housing, case management, and vocational services to help you achieve the independence it sounds like you are looking for. We also are able to facilitate a conference call with your aunt, or any other family member, to talk about what has been going on and try to negotiate a better way of living together. We are available 24/7 and completely confidential.
    Best of luck!
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hey i´m 20 years old turning 21 this year. i live with my aunt in the same house and my dad in other house and my mom in another country. My aunt and I don´t get along. We used to live with her daughter and 3 other cousins but her daughter got married and moved out and my other 3 cousins could also not handle her. And now i just live with her and she does not leave me alone, if i go out its a problem, whatever i do is a problem. i don´t have friends because of her, they used to come to my house but she always treated them bad and so they decided not to come to my house no more and i cant go there either so i ended up without friends. i cant go to parties, cant go and watch a movie with friends, cant do anything no more all she wants me to do is to stay at home and if i do so, she treats me bad, don´t talk to me right, and so forth. i feel lonely and useless. And my dad gets influenced by her. i used to go to a psychologist but he told me to stop. And my life is just horrible, i´m always crying and sad. Cant take it no more

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there, thanks for posting to our forum today. It sounds like you are unhappy with your mom and want to move with your grandma and brother but your mom has said no. That must be really frustrating!
    While you are a minor (under 18 in most states) leaving home is most easily done through parent’s permission, which it seems like you have tried and your mom isn’t receptive to. Perhaps asking your grandma or another adult you trust to help you talk with your mom about that option may be helpful. You may also consider whether or not your mom would allow you to stay with a different family member or friend. We also offer conference calling with legal guardians so you wanted help in having that conversation, feel free to give us a call and we can help talk to your mom. We are here 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).
    It sounds like home is a hard place for you to be and you are looking for options. That is really smart of you and we are glad you reached out! If you would like to talk more about other options you have or need any resources in your area, feel free to call us anytime or live chat through our website every day 4:30-11:30pm central time so we can best help you directly. Good luck and contact us anytime! We are here to help!
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