I cannot live here anymore

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Re: I cannot live here anymore

Hi thanks for reaching out! From what you have shared, it seems like you are in a really difficult situation. It must be really difficult to feel unsafe with your brother in your home. We are really sorry you feel threatened and that your mom has not done anything. If anything does escalate where you are in danger, you do have the right to contact emergency police at 911. If you do feel unsafe and decide to leave home with your older brother, some things to think about would be where you would stay, how to stay safe at that place, and how to fulfill your basic needs like food and water. If you are comfortable, a few options you could look into would be speaking with a school counselor or reaching out to your mom and see if family therapy could be an option. We can definitely provide resources for counselling in your area if you are interested. We are here to listen to what has been going on and help you plan to stay safe and provide resources for you as we want you feel safe. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or at our online chat lines. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.
Best, NRS

[Guest]

Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl and I don't know what to do about my abusive father. He emotionally and physically abuses my little siblings and I every day. My mother isn't as abusive but she doesn't really seem to care that we are treated this way. Although my mother and father hate each others guts, they continue to live together. I've never once in my life seen them kiss or show affection, they usually don't even stand in the same room together. My father emotionally abuses my mother as well, and once tried to smash her head in with a lamp. And even so, my mother refuses to leave my abusive father because she claims that he will "discipline us". It sometimes feels like the stay together to torture us more because my life would be so much easier if they decided to just separate. My father always taunts and encourages me to call CPS on them because he thinks I "don't have the guts" to do it, and he says that even if i did call he'd shoot them before they could take us away from him. My father once threw a heavy chair at me until i stumbled and almost fell out the window, and continued to strangled me until i couldn't breath anymore. I thought that I would die that day. He also beats me and my siblings with brooms and purposely tries to break our bones. He's told us several times that he isn't afraid to murder us and that he''ll break every bone in our body. Me and my cousins once found a pack of cigarettes on the floor, and thought it would be cool to take pictures with it, I put it in my backpack and forgot about them. I never once thought to smoke them, but my father found them and gave me the option that he'd either beat me with a broom until one of my bones broke, or I'd have to eat the whole pack of cigarettes. Of course I chose eating the whole pack, and threw up all night and the whole next day. Never had I thrown up as much as i did that week. This is only a couple of examples, but I've been experiencing this since I was a child. My earliest memories as an infant consist of me being beaten by my father. I don't know if I should run away, or call CPS, or tell my counselor. I really don't know. I feel like if I call CPS they wont believe me, and they'll send me back to my father who might kill me for calling CPS. Please tell me what I should do. My friends fear for me and i sometimes have to convince them NOT to call the police on my family. Thank you so much in advance

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have been dealing with a great deal of abuse in your home and your friends have been worried about your safety.

It is understandable that you might be feeling scared to call Child Protective Services or the police in fear of how your father may react to you. You may want to consider sharing your situation with a trusted adult that can help map out a plan with you so that if in the event, you remain in your father’s custody—there is a back-up plan in place. Other family members, neighbors, teachers, counselors, or principals may be able to serve in this role. It is important that they are people you have direct, in person contact with so that you have someone to call when you need help.

You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. You have the right to report any abuse or harm happening at home. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering through calling us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

If you are in immediate danger, we do encourage you to consider calling 911—especially because it seems like your father has both threatened and attempted to kill you. You do not deserve this treatment and we are worried about your safety as well.

We are here as support to help through this challenging time. Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

http://www.1800runaway.org/

Take Care,
NRS

[Guest]

i am 13 years old I'm living with my aunt and uncle because my aunt has guardianship of me. my mother died when I was10. then my dad died last November so its only been 6 months. but they're so different then my dad. my dad loved me more then anything in the world and didn't care what I did or what grades I got because he loved me for me. he would always tell me that he would love me no matter what and that he would always be there for me. but now I'm punished for having low grades considering my life. iv raised my grades to all a. but I feel like an elephant in the room. I always feel unwanted unwelcomed or unloved while I'm ere. I never feel good about myself because of them. they always compare me to there perfect children and stuff. I'm sick of it. I don't feel like I deserve this right now. the only people i feel loved around is my sister and I'm afraid that they will not give up custody of me. i really feel like my sister and her hubby are the only people who truly love me. they make me feel so happy. also note that my aunt is almost60 and my uncle is 64.they are old and very strict. if they see this they will probably freak out. I don't know how to ask them to give up guardianship. help me

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We're sorry to hear about the loss of your mother and father, it sounds like it has been hard living with your aunt and uncle and you would prefer to live with your older sister. We're not legal experts here but we can speak generally. The easiest way to leave home legally is with your legal guardians' permission. You may be able to figure something out with your aunt and uncle if they agree to transfer custody to your sister. We offer a conference call option where we can mediate a call between you and legal guardians. In the call, we will work to make sure both sides are heard, but especially yours. We're a confidential resource so anything you share with us before the conference call would not be shared either.

We hope this was helpful to you. We look forward to hearing from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Im 15 I have lived with my mom and siblings most my life, before my mom and step dad divorced he was extremely abusive towards me and my mom and I was bullied, went through depression and etc. All these years my mom knew but didn't say anything, latley I've been upset so me and my boyfriend got a puppy my mom didnt know about. My mom found out about the dog and because the dog (koda) is a mix of pit and retriever she told me I either have to get rid of the dog or leave. I have had the puppy 5 days and she's already made me extremely Happy I refuse to get rid of her so my mom is kicking me out, I have no family that would take me and the dog, my boyfriend can't take her his house is crowded enough and I'm out of options. I'm looking for a job but where is somewhere that would provide shelter for me and the puppy for a few days until I figure things out?

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First of all, thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have been going through a really tough time but it’s great that you are reaching out to find more options. It sounds like you were kicked out and your mother has not been supportive of you having a dog. You mention that you are looking for a place to stay. If you decided to call us and give us a little more information like your location we could be able to look for nearby shelters and transitional living programs that may be available. Getting somewhere to stay is very important to your safety and wellbeing. This may not be equally guaranteed for your dog but we can look into it more depending on what’s available. Feel free to call us at anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY because we are always available to talk and listen. We wish you good luck with everything!

[Guest]

I'm young and too young to runaway. I want to runaway but if I get caught I'll be in a lot of trouble. You see I've got a story that's hard to explain because it might sound like I'm over exaggerating but I'm just saying how I feel. So my mum and dad split up when I was only a few months old, because my dad was physically abusive. A few years later my mum had a new boyfriend. He has been nice and he's not physical in anyway but these past 2 years or so have been hard.

Me and my sister argue a lot because we have different personalities and we have to share a room and everything. We just don't get along, we are just too different, but lately my mum and step dad have been arguing but whenever I ask my mum about it, it's always mine and my sisters fault. It's our fault because we argue but in their arguments they mention each other's exes.

i don't like being in the house because of the arguing with my and my sister, my mum and step dad or anytime just argueing. I like being out with my friends because I trust them and I tell them everything. They help me and talk to me and reassure me that not everything argument or fight is my fault.

Whenever I have arguments with my mum she says quite a lot of hurtful things towards me. Like she says she regrets the day she ever had me, I was a mistake, I've wrecked her relationship, she calls me chubby and she knows that that makes me upset because I'm very insecure.

She caught me lying about something not that big but , fair enough, she grounded me for 4 weeks took my phone off me and said I'm not aloud to sleep out again. It's not even all this that effects me the things that make me want to runaway or just scream are our arguments and the hurtful comments

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Hi,

Thank you so much for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you're going through a lot at home, and we're so sorry to hear about the arguments that are going on in your home. It's not okay for your mom to lash out and say hurtful things to you, even if she is frustrated and stressed out about her own life.

It's great that you have friends you can trust who are there for you and can support you when you're going through rough times. In addition to your friends, have you talked to anyone else about what's going on at home? Your school counselor is a possible resource who might be able to help you if you need a professional to talk to. They are confidential, so they wouldn't reveal anything to your parents you wouldn't want them to, unless they hear about abuse in the household. It seems like there is a lot of arguing going on in your house between all members of your family. At NRS, we also have resources for individual and family counseling, which could help if you and/or your family wanted help smoothing things out in the household. If this is an option you would like to discuss further, or would like resources in your area, feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us, and we can help you find nearby resources.

Have you also been able to sit down with your mom and tell her how you feel about her hurtful comments? Sometimes, parents might not be completely aware of the hurtful things they may be saying to their children. We do offer a conference call service here at NRS, if you wanted for us to facilitate a conversation between you and your mom, and help mediate anything you wanted to communicate with each other. Feel free to call us if this is also something you are considering.

You shouldn't feel insecure because of what your parents are telling you, and it's very brave of you for reaching out for support. If you want more resources or further help, you can call our 24/7 confidential and anonymous hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY, or use our chat option available through our website at 1800runaway.org. We are here to listen and here to help. i down need anything, and most things in my room.I just need help on what i should do...

[Guest]

Hello, I'm 15 I live with my grandmother (she is my guardian over me) and my 21-year-old uncle....I can't stand it here at home with the abuse and ********....i say what I say because: She never helps me, She let my own mother abuse me and watched it, she didn't give a crap when I was sexually molested TWICE, I mean I have therapy but that was only because I consented and DHS told her to put me in it...but it doesn't always help because the person can't always be there and I seem to always want somebody but I don't at the same time....with the abuse and the inconsiderate grandma (oh btw my uncle doesn't care what's been going on) and I just can't stand it....my grandma and my mom both make me just wanna sleep forever and ever.....I hate them both so much so what should I do?

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Hi, thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It really sounds like you are in a tough situation as you described what has been going on. It sounds like you have been through some serious situations that have centered around your grandma and mom. We are really sorry to hear about the abuse and molestation you went through. You do not deserve to be treated like that at all, and the situations that followed with the therapy that has not helped as much as you had hoped. We can definitely go through some options and see what you are comfortable with and if what we bring up does not seem to fit with you, you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY to talk about some other options.
To start, it seems that you have involved Child Protective Services, as you said DHS, and what they have offered does not seem to have help your situation. An option you have is to reach out to them again or file again with them/ a child abuse report. If you feel that you have been abused and want to report it, you have the right to. There is no limit to the amount of times you make a report or contact DHS. They may be able to reassess the situation and provide additional, more appropriate help beyond the therapy offered. Mentioning that there is still ongoing abuse could also alter the situation and get more initiative into the case. If this is something you want to look into, we can provide child abuse hotline numbers for your area if you want to give us a call. We also can make report on your behalf if you want as well. If you are comfortable, you can give us a call and talk further about what has been going on, with us asking some specific questions to gather info. We would then ask for identifying factors, like your name, your mom’s name, the address you live at, etc. We would then call out to a reporting number and pass that info along. Again, this is if you are comfortable and if you do not want to report, you are welcome to call us and we can talk about the situation without telling us any identifying factors.
We can always talk about other options if these do not look to fit your situation, maybe counseling or a conference call if you are interested. We are always here to talk as we are 24/7 and really do care about you. We hope to hear from you soon!
Best, NRS

[Guest]

I can't live in my house anymore, I live with my mom, step dad, and sister. I am 12 years old, my father left me before I was born but he started visits again when I was 10 going on to 13. I have had some on going problems with my mom though, I suffer from anxiety and depression so I cry a lot when it happens. My mom goes up to people and tells them the negative things about me and I already get bullied in school. If I do one little thing wrong I get judged for it. I had to speak with a lawyer and my mom keeps saying what I said to the lawyer was a lie and I don't listen so I wouldn't know. I try to tell my mom how I feel but all she does is say she doesn't do those things to me I suffer to much anxiety in this house, at this point I can't even call it a home I don't want to live here anymore.

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Hi!
Thank you so much for reaching out to us. We are here to help you and support you as best we can. It looks like you might be in a very frustrating situation, but it’s very courageous of you to reach out and ask for help.
It’s understandable to feel like you can’t live there anymore. It seems like what you described might be considered emotional abuse.
It’s not ok to be treated the way you are being treated, but you do have many options.
We will offer some of them, and provide some resources for you, but the best way we can help you is by offering resources based on details you provide while talking over the phone or by chatting online.
One option you have is talking to school personnel. Have you spoken to your counselor or social worker at school? You can also talk to your favorite teacher about what is going on at school with the bullying, and about what is going on at home with your mom.
Another option is talking to other relatives. Maybe they can help your situation by talking to your parents. Have you considered spending some time living with relatives?
Here at NRS, we offer 2 mediation services.
The first is a messaging service. We can relay a message to your parents on your behalf. For us to do this, however, you must call us and give us the message over the phone.
We also offer a conference call option. If you call us, we can mediate a conference call between you and your parents.
If you’re feeling sad or depressed, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a great resource. You can reach them at 1-800-273-8255.
Again, it’s not ok to be treated the way you are being treated, it might be considered child abuse. Because of this, another option available to you is filing a child abuse report.
We have many other resources for you, but would need for you to call us or chat with us online through our website.
Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options which is really good to see. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us.
You can reach us online at www.1800runaway.org or by phone at 1-800-786-2929
We’re here to listen, here to help.

[Guest]

Hello my life is a complete hell my family does not love me what can I do my mom just said that she does not want me and she was happy with my her three sons I just want to get out of this house just tell me what to do please I don't want to be here I forgot to say my name I'm Lesley can I just help me please

[ccsmod10]

Thank you for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear that you are feeling unwanted at home. No one should have to be put through that type of treatment.

There are a few things you can do to try to help how you feel at home. You can try talking about you home situation with friends to get their ideas and views. If you have other relatives you feel comfortable talking to you can go to them for advice.

We are really glad you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options. If you would like to talk further about your situation please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We're here to listen, here to help.

Be well,NRS

[Guest]

What do u do I want to go to a safe and caring foster group for teens but I don't know where and I don't want to live with my family anymore

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Hi,

Thanks so much for reaching out to us today. It sounds like you're in a really tough position right now and you're going through some things that's making you not want to live with your parents. That can be really complicated and tricky! If you're feeling unsafe at home or if there is any abuse at home please know you have the right to contact the National Child Abuse Hotline, which is 1-800-422-4453.

We do not know all of the ins and outs of foster care programs, so it might be best to ask the National Child Abuse Hotline as they may know more information about that topic than we do. If you want to talk more in detail about what exactly you are going through please don't hesitate to reach out to us again. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY, and we are 24/7 so someone will always be here to answer and help you in the best way that we can.

We wish you the best of luck with everything!

[Guest]

Getting introuble for the smallest things they always taking my brothers side and im the one getting grounded or hit i hate my family

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Hello there -

Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. Sounds like your parents are treating you unfairly and it's starting to take it's toll on you. No one deserves to feel like the black sheep of the family. Because we do get a large number of forum post, we do have to limit email replies to three individual responses to answer any questions that you have or to provide you with a number of means of support. So it’s certainly not a means to communicate to get the full support that you can get if you called in.

It sounds like you might some specific questions that you want to ask us or maybe just vent a little about your situation. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us. We don’t ask for any identifying information, unless you want to report any abuse. We certainly want to help you. If you give us a call on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could help you find resources in your area and could potentially help you brainstorm a possible solution to the issues you are having. We would love to talk to you.

[Guest]

I can't be here .

Hi I'm hailey ... I was adopted when I was 3 or 4 . Both my bio parents were crazy and irresponsible at the time because of their issues . My dad had a new girlfriend at the time which now today is my guardian . We don't get along at all , my whole life she wants me to be somebody I'm not and I always held in my thoughts and emotions . Now that I got older (16 ) I decided to let everything out with most anger . She calls me disrespectful like crazy but she doesn't listen when I try and sit down to talk . She hears me but doesn't understand ... it's like I'm the parent around here . But she has a boyfriend that treats her like crap , he has a daughter an She spoils her like CRAZY . While my step brother which is her birth son that she treats like the best thing that ever happens to her so perfect . My whole life i been left out because my brother is out first ... and now I feel like he's on my side but in reality he's not . and I are left home with no food nor attention . We feel like we are abonded and yet we try to talk but she doesn't listen . I ran away a few times and yes the police were called every single time . My mom has a best friend that has been there for me since forever and me and he talked and we both agreed we should make a choice if her being my guardian . She treats my like a queen and she gives me what I need . I want her to be my guardian but I don't know what to do to change my moms mind of letting her best friend be my guardian... I need help ☹️

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Hey there, Hailey!

Thank you so much for contacting us! We are so sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time with your home environment. You are so correct in feeling outraged about your guardian’s behavior towards you. If someone decides to adopt a child they should treat that child as well as their own. It’s not fair that she is treating your step-brother and especially her boyfriend’s daughter better than you. Nor is it fair that you are made to feel like the adult in your relationship with her.

Being neglected is very serious. If this continues to happen, feel free to contact Child Protective Services. You should not have to deal with the constant situation of wondering if you will have food. It might be a good idea to document how frequent this happens. Also, if your guardian starts to verbally or physically you, please document this as well. Send the photos to your bio mom’s friend or a trusted friend just in case your guardian gets ahold of your computer and/or cell phone. This documentation will be helpful if CPS becomes further involved in your case if you decide to call them. If you need help in calling CPS to file a report, you can call us and we can conference in with them together.

Another thing to be aware of is runaway laws. You sound like you are familiar with the first one, but we’ll go over it just to be safe. We are not legal experts at NRS, so it would be a good idea to call your local police station (you can block your number if you call) to verify these laws in your particular area as they differ from state-to-state, county-to-county. The first pertains to you. If you runaway, your guardian may go to the police to file a runaway report and if they do, the police will come looking for you. If they find you they will take you back home. Running away is not illegal. It is considered a status offense. The Juvenile Court System may become involved—especially in chronic cases. The second pertains to anyone who is 18+ (like an older friend or even a younger friend’s parents) and decides to house you. That offense is called “harboring a runaway.” This is a serious offense. If you are found in this person’s home, you will definitely be taken back to your guardian’s home, and they may be charged with this offense. If you are nervous about calling the police on your own, we can call them together and find out the specific runaway information to your area.

Another area in your life that we could offer to conference call with you is with talking to your guardian. We would be acting as a mediator while you both discuss the behaviors and perspectives that misalign with each other and maybe offer ways to resolve or help with them. It already sounds like you are doing everything in terms of conference resolution on your own and unfortunately, your guardian is not responding in a mature and respectful way. Sometimes when there is a neutral person mediating a conversation the different parties might hear each other’s voices and points of view better or differently. We would love to help you out with this.

A resource that might be helpful to sort things out in your life could be your school counselor. They maybe a sympathetic ear for you to talk to that could give your particular resources to your area to help with your situation. They also could be able to give you some more methods to approach your situation—both in approaching your guardian and fortifying yourself against her neglect. If you do decide to pursue calling CPS, they could be instrumental in advocating for your case.

And, lastly, your desire to live with your awesome bio mom’s best friend. There are a couple things that could happen. You can check with your guardian if she would be willing to let you live with mom’s best friend. We would suggest you getting some sort of written consent—it could be documented via text or email—just in case your guardian decides to rescind her permission and charge mom’s best friend with harboring a runaway. Another way could be to pursue a case with CPS and potentially have the custody transferred. This is an important option to have documentation for so that you are able to substantiate the custody transfer. One other way is for your mom’s best friend to fight for your custody. She would need to get a lawyer. The documentation would also be integral to the custody battle.

When someone adopts a child, they should intend to be an outstanding parent and provide a stable, nurturing home. We are so sorry that your guardian is failing you in both. But, we are happy that you realize you deserve both of those things and more. You have been incredibly strong and resilient and we applaud your actions to find an environment that both loves and respects you. You can always call us if you want to do any of those conference calls or just need someone to talk to. We are here 24/7, 365 days a year and would love, love, love to hear from you.

Best wishes!

NRS

[Guest]

hello I am 15 years old and I've always not felt 100% wanted in my household but I thinka solution would be family concealing the only issue is everywhere I go for advice is based in America and I live in England is there any advice you could give? thanks in advance.

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Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/
We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

[Guest]

I can't be here anymore. My father constantly yells at me for no apparent reason, whenever I respond to defend myself they start yelling at me. I'm a skinny person so my mom says I might have some sort of disease because I don't eat. How am I supposed to eat if every time I go there's either nothing to eat, something I don't like, or my parents start telling me stuff. They constantly throw my problems in my face. It's gotten to where there's times when I don't want to be home whenever it's my father's day off. I don't even care about school anymore, even though it's my senior year. I actually had depression a few years back, my parents think I don't have it anymore but I've actually just been suppressing my emotions. I tried to get them to let me learn boxing as a way to let my emotions out but they said no. This is actually the third time I've considered running away from this hell hole. All that stopped me before was fear that they might find me, and I also didn't know where I would go. Now, I'm staying here because if I leave my girlfriend will be left to deal with her own problems by herself. I just don't know what to do, I can't ask them for advice without them yelling at me eventually.

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Reply: I can't be here any more.

Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

We are sorry to hear about your situation at home. It took a lot of courage for you to contact NRS and tell your story.
It sounds like you have gone through quite a difficult emotional time at home with your parents, we can understand how being constantly yelled at can be frustrating. It also sounds like you provide a support base for your girlfriend and want to be there for her. Good for you.

NRS is here to listen and here to help.
If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore some options of coping please contact us. Our contact number is 1-800-Runaway (786-2929). We also have live chat in the evenings at www.1800Runaway.org

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I am 11 years old and I don't want to be with my mom. When I was 4 my parents divorced and I lived with my mom. She got together with a guy and for 7 years of my life I would deal with drama, fighting, and stress. I would always watch YouTube because it is my happy place and since of all the stress I would watch it nonstop. I wasn't doing homework, sometimes I wouldn't pay attention in school and they would say I was obsessed. I’m not. Eventually they broke up but a few months later she went back. She would say "oh he changed" but I knew inside he wasn't. I would scream at her that I’m not getting out of the cat but then he came out and sweet talked me into coming in. Of course a fight happened, I had to convince my mom to call the police glass broken. Yeah... was I scared? No. I went through it so much I didn't care. I just cried. I hated life. I just want to be happy. I and my mom are safe now, but I'm not able to forgive her. I love her, but can’t stand her. I am a really nice person honestly and love helping people and I'll choose others before me, but with her it's none of that. I have a bad attitude towards her, when she tells me to do something I deny because I don't want to do it at the moment. I DO take care of myself it's just when I'm told to by her I won’t do it. My dad is a live in care giver so I can't live with him because he doesn't have a stable home really for me, plus he is always broke. I just don’t want to live with my mom. I want to live with someone who is funny, ironic, is chill, kind, like the internet and games like me, is active.......somewhere I can be myself and be happy. It's all I've ever wanted. What do I do?