I cannot live here anymore

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Re: i cant be here at my house

Hello there,

We’re glad that you are reaching out for help from us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It seems like there are a lot of people in your home and it’s understandable how frustrating that must be. It also seems like all the noise and distractions are making it challenging for you to do your homework and study. Your mom and your sister especially, don’t sound very supportive of the things you want to do after school. We want to point out that it is not okay for your mom to hit you. You don’t deserve that.

We care about your safety. If you were to leave home, we are here to talk to you about how you can do so in the safest way. Home should be a place where you feel safe. It's also good to keep in mind that if you were to leave home without permission, your mom could potentially file a runaway report. Although we are not legal experts, in most states, if you were picked up by the police, they would be forced to return you home. You might want to think about how your mom will react if you were to leave and how she might react when you return home. Also, if you were to stay with a friend’s family for instance, they could potentially face charges for harboring a runaway. Just something to consider.

It’s great that you care a lot about school and doing well academically. It seems like you would like to stay after school to do your homework so that you have a quiet place to concentrate and to spend some time away from home. Unfortunately, it seems like your mom isn’t very receptive to the idea. I wonder if you could get some support from your school on this matter. Perhaps your LA teacher or a school counselor might be of help.

Is there any adult you feel comfortable talking to about the problems that are going on at home? Again, maybe someone at school, a relative, or a friend’s parent?

We hoped this is helpful and if you would like to discuss your situation in greater detail you can always call our hotline or contact us on our chat. We look forward to hearing from you and we wish you the best of luck.

NRS

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im 13 and dont want to live with my parents

I don't want to live with my mom because she never helps me . her boyfriend is a drunk and has angrey issues . he yells and I have to much drama going on . I don't want to live with my dad because there's drama there too . I want to stay with my best friend anas mother she said I'm allowed too . please help me go through this . but if I have a place to stay can I leave .

Please help .

[ccsmod1]

RE: im 13 and dont want to live with my parents

Hello,

Thanks for reaching out. We are sorry to hear about the tough situation you have going on at home. It sounds like you do not like your mom's boyfriend and he is always yelling and causing drama. That sounds incredibly stressful! It was smart for you to reach out to us for help. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can. It sounds like you want to move in with your friend. One thing to consider is whether your friend's mom will actually let you live there long term. If your mom doesn't give you permission to stay with your friend, she could call the police and have you brought home, and your friends could get criminal charges for harboring a runaway. Another thing to consider is how you will be enrolled in school and survive on your own if you decide to leave. If you have questions or you need to talk about a plan, we are here to help. We are looking forward to your call, and wish you the best of luck.

[Unregistered]

I don't know what to do

Hi I'm 14 this year and my mom doesn't allow me to hang out with my friends and she is always angry with me at all times.I wanna move out from the place we live and we share a room together so I need my own room and privacy.she doesn't want me to choose the place I want to live

[ccsmod6]

RE: I don't know what to do

Hi I'm 14 this year and my mom doesn't allow me to hang out with my friends and she is always angry with me at all times.I wanna move out from the place we live and we share a room together so I need my own room and privacy.she doesn't want me to choose the place I want to live

Hi there,

Thanks for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds frustrating for you to not be able to spend time with your friends or make decisions for yourself without permission from your mom. It seems that having your own space and privacy is important to you, but you don't have that right now. You mentioned wanting to live somewhere else, however, unfortunately, until you are older and have reached the age of 18, your mom legally has rights over you meaning she decides where you are expected to live. We, of course are not legal experts, but we have generally received this information across most states when we contact authorities for legal answers. We would love to help explore some options that may help your current situation with your mom. There can often be miscommunication or a barrier between parents and teens. Perhaps we can help identify some ways that you can communicate your concerns to your mom and come up with a compromise.

Please reach out by phone or chat so that we may better identify how we can help.

We look forward to your call or chat soon.

Take care and be safe,

NRS

[Kahlanjerome]

Hello

Hi my name is ****** I am at my mom's and I don't want to go back to my dad's will I be forced to go back to my dad's

[ccsmod6]

RE: Hello

Hello there,

Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We are unfamiliar with your situation regarding who has guardianship/custody over you. It is difficult to say if you will be forced to go back to your dad. It seems your parents would have to go to court regarding their rights over you and who you are expected to live with. If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore some options and resources that may be beneficial to you, please call our crisis line at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us through our website www.1800runaway.org.

We look forward to your call or chat soon.

Take care,

NRS

[Unregistered]

I feel unloved

The reason I feel unloved is because my mom thinks it's okay to leave in the middle of the night to go with her boyfriend instead of staying home and sleeping. She always complains about how she has dark circles under her eyes and I tell her it's because you don't sleep. I get worried about her and wake up in the middle of the night when I don't see her around the house I call her. If she doesn't answer I call her a lot of times until she answers. On her days off from work she rather go spend time with her boyfriend that her kids. She gives him any amount of money he wants and she never wants to give me money. I have to beg her to give me money. Right now it's 5 in the morning and she's not home and I called her a lot of times and she turned off her phone.

[ccsmod6]

RE: I feel unloved

Hi there,

Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like you wish your mom realized how her decisions are affecting you mentally and emotionally. We imagine it is scary and quite stressful for you to not know where your mom is throughout the night. You just want more love and attention from your mom, which is understandable. We are here to listen and help explore some ways that may resolve some of the issues happening at home with your mom. Sometimes just having a space to talk about how you feel and what's going on can bring some insight into your situation and help identify some options that may be beneficial. This can be through friends, other family, trusted adults such as teachers, neighbors, community members, or counselors. We are here to help in any way we can. It sounds like you may benefit from talking with someone to get some things off of your mind.

We hope to hear from you soon. You are not alone. We are here for you.

Take care,

NRS

[Unregistered]

My Family Is A War

Hi i'm only in elementary but my dad sounds like he wants to murder me because when ever i do something he dislikes or whatever he starts punching me in the eye.On the other side of my family, of course my mom yells at me ( max volume a computer could ever get). She yells at me just because my English is bad,and says read (500 pages a day, already finished). Then my sister works together well with my horrifying family (Mom yells to make me mad and sad, then my sister jumps in and manages an evil smile).That's just a messed up family, right? I'm now in 5th grade, to my calculations this will keep on going till i'm in high school ( manages to predict the future of games but not real life). My mom is always saying to wear popular kid's cloths, but what if i refuse? A. my mom could literally kill me in real life B. my mom would go psycho. Pls help me from this messed up family!

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RE:My family Is A war

Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that you are going through such a hard time at home. You don’t deserve to be treated like that.
It sound like your dad is physically abusing you. If you feel comfortable you could consider calling Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 and they could help you file an abuse report. It sounds like there is a lot of pressure on you at home. Have you talked to someone else about this? Many times talking to a school counselor can be of great help. You can consider sharing this with a close family member, or friend if you feel comfortable. If you like you can always reach out to us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or live chat with us from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST and we can listen to your story, explore options and provide resources.
We wish you luck and hope to hear from you soon.
Best
NRS

[Unregistered]

Tired of arguing

Hi I'm 13 years old about to be 14. My dad for the past 6 months everyday has been yelling at me because I am a "failure". He has mentally and physically abused me. I'm a little on the chubby side but trying to manage my weight. I was 210 but now I'm 145 and yet my dad says that I'm not doing anything except for stuffing my face and sitting on my butt. He is very heavy and yet yells at me for working out. I can't live here I can't take it he also punched me repeatedly until my mom finally pulled him off. Pls help

[ccsmod4]

REply: Tired of arguing

Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

We hope that you are safe at this time.
You do not deserve to be abused by anyone. We understand that this has been a very troubled time for you.
You are a victim and none of this is your fault. We are mandated child abuse reporters so if you would like assistance in filing a report as to get help we can provide this service to you.

You can also contact Child Help USA :1-800-422-4453 to file a report in your area.
How does that sound?
Your safety is important if there is anyone you can go to for help like a teacher or family member then you might consider this option. You are welcome to call us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or try our live chat service at www.1800Runaway.org

You are very brave to reach out to us here at NRS.

Take care and be safe,
NRS

[Unregistered]

I need to leave

I am a 16 year old Texas resident who lives with an emotionally abusive mother. I can't stand living with her anymore, and I feel unsafe in my house. She consistently tells me that I will never make it as anything in life, and I that I can't do anything useful at all. I'm so tired of feeling worthless all the time; I'm desperate to leave. I have many good friends who I'm certain would be willing to take me in, but their families already have so much on their plates, I doubt they would actually be able to give me much help. I wouldn't want to make things difficult for them like that. I do have a boyfriend, however, who's family is willing to take me in and can actually live up to that promise. I would love to move in with them so I can feel safe, but I'm not sure how to make that happen. Also, I'm certain that my mom will be against this, and will try to keep me from moving out. What can I do to get away? My father has been telling me to just be patient and wait until I'm 18 (my parents are divorced) but I can't stand living with my mom and having to listen to her talk about how terrible I am all the time. My dad would take me in if he could because he knows how bad it is at home, but due to his job as a truck driver, he doesn't have a permanent residence that I could live in. He's been trying to find a local job so that he can get a suitable home for us, but that's easier said than done. I want to contact authorities so that I can move in with my boyfriend's family, but I'm scared that I might just be put in some sort of foster home instead. What should I do?

[ccsmod14]

Re: I need to leave

Hi there,

Thank you so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like things have been pretty hard for you lately and we’re sorry to hear about this. We’re here to support you the best that we can.

It sounds like you have really been thinking seriously about leaving your mom’s house, and it’s understandable why you would want to leave. You do not deserve to be made to feel like you are worthless. You deserve to feel safe in your own home. You do have the right to make an abuse report any time you are feeling unsafe at home. We do want you to know that it can unfortunately be challenging to prove emotional abuse. If you would like assistance making a report, or just want to talk more about it you can certainly call us anytime at (800) RUNAWAY (786 2929) or you can contact Child Help USA at (800) 422 4453.

It sounds like your dad knows how things have been for you at home and he is trying to make things work for you both which is great to hear. It sounds like there is a lot that would go into making that plan work which is unfortunate. It is great to know that he is still trying to help you both out with this. You shared that your boyfriend’s family has offered to help as well which is great to hear, too. We’re not legal experts, but generally speaking if you leave without consent from your legal guardian before the age of 18 (in most states) they would have the right to make a runaway report. If a report is made, and the police find you they typically would just bring you back home. However, anyone that you stay with could potentially be charged for harboring a runaway.

We’re here to help work through possible options with you, and help work through the pros and cons of each. We won’t tell you what you should or should not do, because you know your situation better than we do. We’ll just try to help keep you safe in what you decide.

Please don’t hesitate to call or chat. We’re here 24/7.

Best,
NRS