I don't want to be near my family anymore

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Ever since about 4th grade my parents have been emotionally abusive towards me, they put down my dreams and goals and replace them with there own. My Brothers are rude and Plain mean without a concern for me and I don't want to live with them any longer. But I don't have anywhere else to go cause I'm only 13. And when I try to talk to them they either completely ignore me or act like what I say and my opinion isn't worth listening to. I have thought about running away But It's not like I could get a job at 13 nor Have a safe place to go. The "Friends" I have wouldn't do a thing for me either. And if I run away from my family I can't go to school. So It's like This And I Don't Know What to Do Anymore

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RE: I don't want be near my family anymore

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like things at home are getting tough and you are looking for places to go. You are correct that it would be difficult to get into a shelter or find a job at 13. You do have the right to feel safe in your own home. It sounds like you have tried talking to them and it does not help. Would you consider telling a trusted teacher or counselor what has been going on?

Here at the National Runaway Safeline, we cannot tell you what you should do. We can however help you come up with a safe plan for what to do next. We can be reached at any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) or by live chat at www.1800runaway.org from 4:30pm-11:30pm Central Standard Time. We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck.

- NRS

[Guest]

I don’t want to be near my family anymore either andi’m 15. They always make me feel really bad about myself or the mistakes that i’ve made and I don’t even want to be around them because they always have something to say to me that makes me feel bad and i don’t know what i’m doing wrong. I don’t feel any connection with my family and I feel like ever since my dad left it’s because of that. I want to move out but I know i can’t. My sister and mom want to send me to “boot camp” or a “juvinelle center” and I haven’t even done anything bad, If they are horrible to me i’ll say something but they think I’m such a bad kid when i’m really just stressed and everything and everyone is so hard on me. I cant even talk to my family because they judge me. Please help me

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Hey, there,
Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like your family is not giving you the love and support that you deserve, which must be very hurtful and frustrating. One option is to ask another adult to help you talk to your mom about how you’ve been feeling, like a teacher you trust or a school counselor. Another option might be going to family therapy. If you would be interested, we also mediate conversations between parents and youth here at NRS.
Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:

https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

Stay safe!

[Guest]

I have a dream that I want to pursue but my parents never allow me to do anything related with my dream and they always try to replace my dream with a future that they want me to have. I’m 15 so I can’t really do much and every little mistake I make or every little thing I don’t do perfectly I get yelled at for and they make me feel bad about myself even though everyday I study hard at school study and I have good grades and I do all my chores even make dinner most of the times for them but all they ever do is make me feel bad about myself and yell mean things towards me, it feels like they really don’t care about me and all I am here for is to do the work that they don’t want to do. they’ve given me so much stress before I couldn’t focus during state testing and almost failed the test they put so much stress on me and with school putting stress on me I’ve just become so lonely because I can never do anything with my friends with how much I have to do and most of the people at my school hates me and I’ve become depressed for a while since 7th grade to the start of my freshman year but I can’t go anywhere.

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Reply: I have a dream that I want to pursue


Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like things at home have you stressed out and you are unsure about what to do. Sometimes things may feel a bit overwhelming but perhaps there may be some options as to how you might get your parent’s to listen and understand the stress you are feeling.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If you would like to talk more about your situation and go over some options that might help build a way to make change, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
You did a wonderful job reaching out and expressing yourself. Good for you.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS


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[Guest]

What happens when you know all grown up and you really have no desires to have any family is there something wrong with me . I don't under stand this new world . If its not on social media no one care's about you anymore

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

It sounds like you've got a lot of questions about some pretty deep things. You don't need to face these questions alone, however. It may seem like all of "life" happens on social media, but this isn't really true. We are here to listen and help if you want to give us a call to talk about what's going on. We can also see if there are free or low-cost counseling options for you in your area. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY and we are here 24/7. You can also chat with us by visiting our website: www.1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon!

NRS

[Guest]

I can't stand my family anymore this afternoon I was playing water fights and my sister was being mean and my dad said she can hit me as hard as she can and my dad always hits me asweel I want to forget about them

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Hello there -

Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on.

It sounds like you want to find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us. We don’t ask for any identifying information, unless you want to report any abuse. You can chat with us by going to our website (www.1800runaway.org) and clicking on "chat".

We certainly want to help you.

[Guest]

please help i want to leave my family i cant be near them anymore i feel unsafe and i want to be adopted i cant live with them im 9 years old on my school computer righting this the person i want to be aopted by her name is **** and her daughter is **** shes my best friend i call her Elly for short we have been friends for a Year and i trust her and her family. i dont know what you have to do to get adopted but i cannot stay with my family. thank you for reading this. oh and my parents names are **** and ****

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We know it can be hard to share your story and you are so brave to do so. It sounds like your home and family situation is upsetting and harmful. You deserve to be treated kindly by others and to feel safe with your family and at home.

You mentioned that you would like to live with your friend. It is great that you have a friend who you can trust. In order for you to stay with them, you would need to get permission for your parents.

You also mentioned that you feel unsafe near your family. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not legal experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will typically decide where it is safe for you to stay. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. If you feel comfortable, you can talk to someone at school about what is going on and they could help you make a report. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi, I'm a 12 year old girl who has been struggling with family problems since I was 7. My brother has always threatened to kill more or hit me several times, I've told my dad and he didnt do anything about it. I don't feel safe at all around my dad or brother. I want to runaway but I know I cant because then I might just head back home. please help me

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and share a little bit about your situation with us. It sounds like you have been faced with a lot at home for a few years and it has been getting overwhelming. You mentioned that your brother has threatened you several times and your dad did not intervene in the way that you are hoping. Home is supposed to be somewhere you feel safe and supported and you definitely do not deserve to be made to feel unsafe. It is understandable you would want to get space from this very stressful situation.

It seems you are not sure what to do to make this situation improve for you. One option to consider would be to talk to someone outside of your household about what is going on. Maybe another family member that you trust, a teacher at school, or a counselor could be a listening ear to how you are feeling and even help you talk to your dad about how you have been feeling. Often having a safe space to talk about how you are feeling can bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of.

Our email and bulletin services are different in that we can only respond twice, so we are best able to help by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or through live chat at 1800runaway.org. We can talk more in depth about what you are experiencing, explore all of your possible options, and come up with a plan that you feel comfortable with.

Stay strong,
NRS