family issues-emotional abuse

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So my dad has been married 3 times...my birth mom does drugs and doesn't have a job currently....My dad is very religous and 8 months ago I was raped by a guy who also physically abused me and threatened to kill me....he ended up getting so mad at me that he married my best friend and moved to new york but he still visited me and told me if I didn't come with him he would kill my friend.....I refused and a few months later when he was both high and drunk he forced her into a car with him and crashed into a tree...they both passed away....I was having a hard time dealing with it and I got into another relationship and ended up throwing myself at this guy because I was so hurt....I finally came to my senses and broke up with him a month after we started going out....In jan. my dad started tracking my emails, my facebook, and my myspace, were I talked to my friends about what was happening with me through this whole thing....but of course I had lied to everyone and said I had taken drugs on my own and made the desision to have sex with the guy who raped me.....now my dad has started emotionally abusing me and tells me I'm a slut and a whore and that i'm fat....he won't let me out of the house except for school and church and when him or my step mom are with me....I'm not allowed on the phone or the computer and they lock both of them up and then leave me home to babysit a 1 year old and a 3 year old for hours at a time.....they keep me up at all hours of the night so they can cast demens out and I am always tired for school....how can i legally leave the house without him being able to bring me back home, I've heard North Carolina laws are strict, please keep in mind I am only 15

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Re: family issues-emotional abuse

Hi, thanks for contacting us. Sorry to hear that you were assaulted and that your father is being mean to you. No one deserves to be treated that way. However, we are a bit confused by some of the details of the story. You said your dad pass with your best friend, but then you said that later he is abusing you. You also said he moved to New York but then you made it seem like he stays near you in North Carolina. Could you clarify some of these confusing details, so that we can respond to you better?

Good luck,

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Idk what to do

So my step mom has been married to my dad go 10 years and I have continually received emmotonal abuse and physical abuse I wanted to know is it legal I when I go to my birth moms house to stay there. I am not the only one in my family .I have 2sisters we clean the house top to bottom about twice a week and are expected to get As on top of that I have a learning disorder. I stay up late with home work cook and clean and I watch my younger sister every day. Not to mention for a wile I was at my grandparents house and I was not allowed to eat their food we were brought food once or twice a month and offten times when we ran out I went without lunch or breakfast. During this time my parents were at our actual house then every time anything got mess up because of them they would bring us over to clean the house and then take us back to our grandparents house.
My question is ,is it possible for me to go to my birth moms house and refuse to leave due to the situation and will I be in trouble if I do.

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re: Idk what to do

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out and posting here. It sounds like you are going through so much right now at home. You never deserve to mistreated by your stepmom – or by anyone! You deserve to live in a place where you feel valued and celebrated. Your stepmom is wrong to yell at you and hurt you. It’s clear that you have a lot of responsibilities. It can be hard to manage school on its own – but you also have so many other things to do. That’s not easy at all. You sound like a survivor. Your family is lucky to have you – whether they know it or not. We’re glad that you reached out, so let’s see how we can help you out.

We aren’t legal experts here, but we are able to speak generally about this. If you decide to leave home without your guardian’s permission before you turn 18, then your guardians have the right to file a runaway report and make you go back home. The police might search for you and if they find you, then you would be brought back home. It’s not illegal for you to be filed as a runaway, but you could be brought back home.

Now, if the police show up, you can tell them that you don’t feel safe with your dad and stepmom. If you tell them that, they will probably get protective services involved. Protective services would probably provide you with services to make sure that you are safe with your stepmom, but they could still bring you back home. Once you turn 18, you gain the right to decide where you want to live without anyone getting in the way of that.

We hope that this is a helpful start for you. If you’d like to talk more about any of this, please call or chat with us. You can call us 24 hours a day at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org).

We look forward to your call or chat.

Best of luck to you,

NRS