I'm 16 and want to leave my house

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My mom and I fight constantly. It started at the beginning of the summer when I started dating my boyfriend and she thought I was too young to date. I'm 16 and he's 17. He is my first boyfriend and she freaked out when she found out. I'm gonna be a junior in high school versus my many other friends who started dating in junior high. She is always putting him down over things she knows about him from his past. I always defend him by saying she doesn't understand everything he's been through but she sticks to her opinion on him. She doesn't let him come over to our house and I always have to lie to go to his cause she'll get mad cause she doesn't want us alone. She doesn't let us go on dates alone.. We have to be in a group. She doesn't let me use my car past 8 at night but she doesn't let him pick me up either. She signed me up for a job from 11-5 and I have to be home by 7 so never have time to hang out with my friends. She constantly puts me down about my college and career choice cause she doesn't think I'm smart enough to go upstate for college when I have gotten straight a's all my life. I'm the baby of the family and she treats me like I'm 5. I'm gonna be out of the house in 2 years and she has to let me grow up eventually but she doesn't. I don't know what to do anymore cause we fight everyday.. I wanna go stay at a friends house or my sisters for a while to get away from all of this. She is so controlling and doesn't trust me with anything. I hate living in this house.

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Re: I'm 16 and want to leave my house

Hey,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We are here to help out the best that we can.
It sounds like you have been going through a lot with your mom at home and that has got to be tough. It sounds like you have a lot of support from your boyfriend, which is a good thing to hear.

You said that you have been defending your boyfriend when your mom puts him down. Do you think her issues are with your boyfriend specifically, or just with you dating anyone in general? You said that you are the baby of the family. Did things go this way when your older siblings started dating? Have you tried to talk to them about this situation?

It sounds like you have really been trying to communicate with your mom about your feelings and it has not been working out. One service that we offer here at NRS is conference calling. If you were to call into our hotline at 1 800 RUNAWAY, we could make a call out to your guardian and act as a mediator and facilitate the conversation between the two of you, to make sure that everyone is equally heard. One option might be to try to come up with a compromise as far as seeing your boyfriend more often. We could help you with that further if you wanted to call in, and have plans laid out for what we would discuss in the conference call.

You mentioned that you want to stay at a friend's house, or your sister's house for awhile to get away from everything. Does your mom trust you to stay at your sister's house? It sounds like this might be a safe alternative place to stay for awhile, while you both have some time apart.

If you would like to talk further about your options or situation, we are here to listen and help the best that we can at our 24/7, confidential and anonymous hotline at 1 800 RUNAWAY (786 2929). We also have a chat option from the hours of 4:30pm to 11:30pm CST through our website at 1800runaway.org.

Good luck and stay safe,
NRS