17 and moving out.

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my mom gave me the option of moving out and i left. when i am with my parents who adopted me 3 years ago, i have had many suicidal thoughts and i feel unloved at the house. the only time when i am emotionally ok is with my girlfreind. my mom dislikes my girlfreind and i try to keep my relationship hidden from my parents. im not giving her up. recently my mom discovered that im still with my girlfreind and has begun to treat me horribly as if she doesnt care about me. i refused to follow any order that she has given me and she and her husband told me that they were done. they told me, either follow what we say and break up with her, or move out. i didnt hesitate and i left and moved in with my girlfreind. 2 days later, my mom calls me and is concerned on where i am staying. i told her that im staying with my girlfreind and her mom, who can support me and are already helping me find a job. my mom doesnt want me to be with my girlfreind so she threatens to get the police involved if i dont relocate. my problem is, i have no where else to stay. can my mom make me come back home after she has given me permission to move out? i live in georgia.

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17 and moving out

Hi,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.
It sounds like you have quit a tough situation you are dealing with.
So your mom gave you permission to move out but upon finding out that you are now staying with your girlfriend she has threatened to get the police involved if you do not relocate. Is that right?
Since we are not legal experts at NRS this may be a matter to contact a legal aid resource to get clarification on just what the legal boundaries are here. The local police department may also be able to let you know if your parents can opt to enforce you to come home after giving you permission to move out. To do this you would contact the non emergency number of your local police department to speak to someone. NRS offers conference calling and would be glad to assist you with contacting the police to ask about the law in this situation if you do not want to call on your own.
Does that make sense?

You might consider asking is can your parent s enforce you to come home by law once they have given permission for you to move out of the home? How does that sound?
A question that could be posed might be did your mom and dad put anything in a written legal agreement stating that you had their permission to live outside the home?
We understand that you feel that being with your girlfriend and her family puts you in a more productive frame of mind. That's great that they are trying to help you look for work and provide you with a safe place to be. However should you have to leave their home perhaps NRS can help you find emergency shelter services in your area. This may still give you the option of living outside of your parents home while learning to be independent.

You are welcome to call our 24hr crisis line at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) and speak with one of our crisis liners about your situation. You can also join our live chat at www.1800Runaway.org to gain any information and referrals.
The NRS live chat is available from 4:30pm until 11:30pm 7 days a week.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Take care,
NRS

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My girlfreind is moving against her will, what should I do?

My name is E****(edited to preserve confidentiality), I live in Texas and I am 17 years of age, I am a Junior in my school, and we are about to get out for summer, my girlfreinds mom wants to move to Georgia in the summer and neither her or I can't do anything about it, I turn 18 in November but I dont have a job or money, and I havent graduated, but I want to run after her, I love her so much and I don't want to lose her, she means everything to me, she already told me she wants to spend her life with me and I feel the same, please help me because I dont know what to do

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Re: My girlfreind is moving against her will, what should I do?

Hello,

Thanks for reaching out and sharing your situation. It sounds like you care for your girlfriend very much and the thought of a long distance relationship is troubling you. We imagine it would be difficult for you both if she ends up having to move to Georgia with her mom this summer. You mentioned wanting to run after her, but recognizing you don’t have a job or money and haven’t yet graduated. It sounds like a fairly complicated situation with different factors and challenges should you decide to run after your girlfriend. Although we can’t make the decision for you, we are here to talk to you about pros and cons and hopefully help you come up with a plan to deal with the situation.

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Okay, i'm 17 years old, and i dont feel like my aunt and uncle really want me to live with them anymore, and in the state of south carolina you can legally move out if your 17 or older, but you can't be kicked out. so how would i tell them i'm ready to move out on my own!? or at least with a close friend ?