Tired of dealing with irresponsible parents

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Hi im a teenager whos parents hate each other. This is because my dad committed adultery with a women and my mom found out. She wont divorce him, because my mom says shes dependent on him and threatens me that I wont be able to become successful person like I dreamt of( i really want to be a doctor). After this incident I honestly lost respect for BOTH my parents since my dad disrespects my mo and m, dosent work a lot-- so no money in house, and my mom CONSTANTLY compares me to my dad-- which she knows I hate. Yesterday she compares me to him by saying I have a big mouth and am very rude, thats why I don't have any friends and will always be lonely. The truth is that I hate them both now BUT will and always TRY to respect them but it hurts now--- so sometimes my mom threatens me that I will not go to college because they cant afford it and that it is because of my horrid mouth--- this causes me to overload and I say few rude things. I talked to my mom about this but she keeps comparing me to dad and I even cried in front of her once, but she keeps going on. I am actually shy at school because I have a low self esteem and my teachers once told my parents this. In response my dad said he didn't have to worry about educating me since im a looser. and my mom uses this excuse to insult me. I have also been bullied at school because I am not rude or bold like kids are-- and they call me moron. I am feel very hopeless, the only thing that keeps me going is that I will be a successful doctor one day-- but my parents even crush that hopes when they threaten me that I will not go to college. -- my dad laughs after saying this.. thanks for at least reading my story and advice.

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RE: Tired of dealing with irresponsible parents

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to us during this difficult time. We are sorry to hear your parents are fighting. Nobody deserves to be called names or made to feel unwanted in their own home. It sounds like you have some great goals for the future. It is important to have those types of dreams to get you through the difficult times. Do you have anyone in your life who is supportive of you?

You mentioned being concerned that they threaten to keep you from going to college. Have you already applied to any? It sounds like there has been a lot of tension in the house. How do you handle the stress in a healthy way? Here at the National Runaway Safeline, we cannot tell you what you should or shouldn't do. We can however, look up any resources that may be of use, and help you come up with a solid plan for what to do next. We can be reached at any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) or by live chat at www.1800runaway.org from 4:30pm-11:30pm Central Standard Time.

- NRS

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No i do not have any one else at home, and have not applied for college, still have time yet im fed up with all the discouragement. Please tell me, how I should respect my parents after all this and that I thinka parents job is to take care and encourage a child-- then why is this happening to me.

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Hello again,

We are sorry to hear nobody else is supportive of you. Do you feel like family counseling would be of use? It can be difficult to not feel discouraged when your family is so unsupportive. Sometimes schools will have resources you can utilize. One option would be to contact a trusted teacher at school or counselor about your situation. If you would like to further discuss your situation, we would encourage you to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) or by live chat at www.1800runaway.org from 4:30pm-11:30pm Central Standard Time. We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck.

- NRS

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questions...

i i talk to my counselor about this will this have a negative impact, since she will be writing my college referrals. Also what do they do in family counseling?

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RE: questions...

Thank you for reaching out again. At this time we have provided you with ideas to talk with your counselor, teacher, or to look into family counseling. For further support, we strongly encourage you to contact us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), and look forward to your call. Lastly, please note that we offer a live chat via our website at www.1800runaway.org every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST.