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  • #16
    I’m 13 and I want to run away but I don’t know to. My family treats me horribly. My mom always yells at me for no reason and always tells me to be quiet and tells me that I’m annoying. She also lets my sister over talk me but if I do on accident she starts yelling at me and sometimes she acts like I’m not talking and ignores me. My dad tells me that I have no friends almost everyday and my sister always tells me that I look skinny but I’m actually fat, I have no friends, I’m ugly and that I’m stupid. My family makes me feel like crap all the time and I cry almost every day because of them. I don’t want to live with them but I have no family or friends to stay with.

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    • ccsmod11
      ccsmod11 commented
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      Hello! Thanks for reaching out to us today! It takes a lot of strength to ask for help and we appreciate your courage!

      We’re sorry to hear that your family treats you horribly. It must be really tough to live in a home where you don’t feel a lot of support and it must be even more difficult because you don’t have friends that could offer you support. No one has a right to make you feel bad about yourself, so it’s understandable that you would feel so bad.

      In terms of working on your family relationship, you might consider seeking family or individual therapy. This way you and your family could learn better means of communication or you could work on processing some of their negative influences. You can contact SAMHSA (Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-877-726-4727 or NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) at 1-800-950-NAMI to find some of these resources in your area.

      An alternative living arrangement that does not include family or friends can be a little difficult for someone so young. But there might potentially be some youth shelters in your area that would be willing to take you in. To find out if this is an option, you can call us at 1-800-786-2929 so we can look up the resources in your area. Before pursuing a youth shelter option, you might consider how your parents would react if you ran away. Sometimes, shelters have to inform your parents that you are there and offer your parents the option to come and get you. That might be good to keep in mind while you think about your future plan.
      If you have any other questions or want to talk more about your situation/options, please call us at 1-800-786-2929. We are 24/7, toll free and completely confidential.

      Thanks again for exhibiting your strength by reaching out!

  • #17
    My parents yell at me almost everyday it’s not that they do it a lot but the fact that they are verbally aggressive and I just don’t like it I try to stay out their way but they always come in my way and yell at me as if I went and interfered with them but they came at me what do I do

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    • ccsmod3
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      Hi there,
      thank you for reaching out. That sounds like a really tough situation to be in. If you’re trying to find a way to get along better with them, you could consider some sort of mediated discussion, where you all get to talk through what’s going on. There are a lot of ways to go about that if that was something you’re interested in. You could try to find a friend or relative that you all get along well with, and have them come over for a conversation about the issues you’re having, in which the friend or relative mediates to try and make sure no one starts getting too aggressive. You could also consider some sort of counseling services. If you call us with more specific information, we can also try and help you find some counseling services in your area. One other way to try mediation would be to call in to our hotline, and we could do a mediated call, with us ensuring everyone’s needs are heard.

      If it ever gets to a point where you’re considering leaving home, you could also consider filing an abuse report, and we could talk you through what that would look like, as well as helping you through that process. If you did this, then the police should open an investigation and help find you the safest space for you to be living. If you ever need to talk through these options, or just need some support with what you’re going through, we’re here to listen, and we’re available 24/7. Please feel free to call us any time at 1-800-Runaway.
      -NRS

  • #18
    My dad is the "perfect" dad. Takes us on vacations, buys us presents, all this stuff. But all I've ever wanted is a dad that I feel loves me more than anything. In public, he's an angel and I have to deal with people telling me he's a great role model, an inspiration, asking me why I don't like to be around him. I wish I could tattoo "lie" on me. Because it's a lie. It's all a lie. Those prizes for a soccer team, I was yelled and screamed at for doing them "wrong" and not doing them fast enough while he sits across from me reading the newspaper. When I ask for help he says that he deserves the help because he works and cooks dinner for us. That's not even the worst. My little brother, who is 7, is constantly yelled at because he doesn't like sports and isn't the best student. Because he isn't like my dad. Me? I'm screamed at because I'm doing my homework in my room. He constantly looks for someone to date online and then asks me for advice. He's already had two failed relationships with my mom and my brothers mom. I just want to leave. Live with my mom full time. But I can't because my brother isn't like me. I built a shell around my heart at an early age. I am no longer hurt by him. But my brother is still so young. If I leave, what will happen to him? I don't know what to do.

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    • ccsmod10
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      Hello,
      Thank you for reaching out and sharing your story with us at NRS. It sounds like your relationship with your dad is giving you a lot of stress at home- we’re here to listen and help. You mentioned your dad going to you for advice on potential partners which would very understandably put you in an uncomfortable position. Beyond that, the screaming going on just isn’t right. Nobody deserves to be treated that way at home, especially by a parent. If your Mom is open to having you live with her, it sounds like the change could provide you some respite from the stressful setting at your dad’s. Depending on their relationship, you may consider having your parents seriously consider your custody arrangement. You sound very selfless and thoughtful for thinking about your younger brother too. Sometimes parents don’t know how hurtful their actions can be, but a calm conversation about how you both feel at home could be really helpful. We can help you navigate that conversation by talking with you beforehand, conferencing the conversation together, or by talking about your options afterward too. If you’d like to explore other alternatives or just talk more about what’s going on, you can feel free to call us any time too. Again, we’re here for you and always will be – 24/7. Don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      NRS

  • #19
    My mom always yells at my grandma for "not cooking correctly" or "not behaving" when in fact my grandma literally washes all the dishes, cleans the floors, and makes the beds, while my parents go and work and "earn money for US to go to school". We didn't even want to go to this private school in the first place or learn piano or play soccer but apparently it’s our fault for not accepting this "privilege". I don't want my grandma to die unhappy just like my grandpa. Once my mom realizes she has no one to shout at, she'll probably shout at us more or shout at dad who also has severe anger issues. If they get a divorce I don't want to live with either of them. They are both emotionally abusive and so conceited. All they do is boss people around, and if we try and give suggestions, they'll just try and take it as another reason to shout. If I have to choose one of my parents to live with, I'd rather die.
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    • #20
      Reply:
      My mom always yells at my grandma


      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

      With everything that you have been going through at home with your parent’s it took a lot of courage for you to reach out. We appreciate you sharing your feelings about the situation. Well done. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned feeling emotionally abused. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. You seem very concerned about your grandmother’s happiness. That’s very nice of you. She must be pretty special to you.

      Sometimes situations become so upsetting and frustrating that it’s hard to know just what to do.

      NRS is here to listen and here to help.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We are limited as to how we can help in this type of forum.

      If you would like to speak more about your situation, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org

      We hope your situation improves for the better.

      Take care,
      NRS

      We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

      National Runaway Safeline
      [email protected] (Crisis Email)
      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

      Tell us what you think about your experience!
      https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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      • #21
        Hello my family is going through issues im in year 11 and i have been verbally abused and physically by my mother and am currently staying at my fathers after i left after an argument, now my mother is threating my father with police if he does not return me, i just don't know what to do

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        • ccsmod1
          ccsmod1 commented
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          Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused in any way. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community-based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis-related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

          We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

      • #22
        Greetings,

        My parents are always yelling at me everyday and I can't handle it anymore... My parents says they do everything for me and they think what they think is they think that they know what's best for me but it's actually not. Sometimes I even get yelled at for no reason, I think my mom thinks me as a stress ball and whenever she gets stressed she yells at me. I can't even tell my mom that mom's don't do that and they are nicer but im scared to tell because they can hit me or yell or grounded me. Before they got this mean we were a really good family, we would go to parks and explore new places, go to trips and more. I don't know what happened but they started to get mad at me and yell at me everyday. They wanted more success of me and they wanted me to get more better grades and do more work at home. Because of these I started to have depression. I don't even know who my parents now anymore... We were a lovely family but now it's not... I started put on a happy mask to hide my feeling and act happy so everyone can be happy. It worked but inside me was broken I started to feel im not good enough for my friends, even my parents don't know about my depression. I didn't told them because I am scared that they are going to be mad and yell at me or even get grounded. Who's parents gets angry when their kids gets sick? Well my parents does However they still think they know what's best for me and im SICK OF THIS. I need help... please...

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        • #23
          Reply: Greetings,

          Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

          We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
          You don’t deserve to be hit or mistreated at home by your mom and dad. It’s not your fault that they choose to behave towards you the way that they do.
          NRS is here to listen and here to help. We would like for you to know that we are here to support you during this tough time. If you would like to discuss your situation and explore some options, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org

          Take care,
          NRS

          We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
          [email protected] (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

          Tell us what you think about your experience!
          https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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          • #24
            I’m 13 and I’m still trying to figure out who I am. I’m a kid in the 21 century so I watch a lot of YouTube but my mom is always yelling at me for I and I don’t know what to do... Got any advice?

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            • ccsmod1
              ccsmod1 commented
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              Hey there,

              Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

              All the best,
              NRS

          • #25
            my mom yells at me for yelling idk what to do eather run away or stay

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            • ccsmod9
              ccsmod9 commented
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              Hi there,
              Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
              Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
              If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
              We hope to hear from you soon.
              Be safe, NRS

          • #26
            My sisters and I want to leave our screwed up life. Our dad only cares about grades and controls every aspect of our life. During the summer he makes us study all day and when we want to do something he complains because of how much it costs. And we are no way near poor- we are pretty well off so it is really annoying when he says that for everything. He is also physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive. Anytime we try to tell him to get help he hits us or tries to take our electronics, car, and wifi away. So we are stuck with nothing and all we can do is study. Despite all the bad things he has done to this family, my mom still refuses to leave him because she doesn't want to be alone when we all leave for college.She lets him abuse us and she doesnt help because if she does my dad will abuse her too. When I was a child, I got sexually assaulted by my cousin on my dad's side and he tries to cover that up. What kind of parent does that. Im too scared to tell him because I think he will kill me because he has choked me before and I KNOW HE WON'T HESITATE TO DO IT AGAIN. My sisters and I cant do anything about it because if we did try to tell the school they would probably put us in child services and then we will be stuck. My dad yelled at my sister for using too many paper towles to clean up someything she spillt. I wanna leave so bad but I have no way out until college which is thankfully in a year for me but then I feel bad that my younger sister will be left at my hell house all alone with my parents and she will be abused. We need help and a clean way out.

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            • ccsmod15
              ccsmod15 commented
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              Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are very sorry to hear about what you’re experiencing at home. It can be really painful to feel like you’re being controlled like you describe.

              One option you might try is mediation with someone close to your family, but outside of the house. Maybe that’s an aunt or uncle, grandparent, or close family friend. Sometimes having a third person in the room can help everyone stay calm during difficult conversations. And they might be able to help your dad understand how negatively his actions are affecting you.

              We are also very sorry to hear about your sexual assault from your cousin. It sounds like you maybe weren’t given the time or opportunity to really deal with healing from that experience, because your dad tries to cover it up. If you ever want to talk about the assault and want help processing your feelings, one resource you might try to RAINN (the Rape Abuse Incest National Network) at 1-800-656-4673 or through their website at rainn.org. They have an online chat option if that works better for you than a phone call.

              You also mention that your dad has choked you in the past. We want you to know that you have every right to protect yourself. If it starts to get physical, please don’t be scared to call the police or even to leave the house/situation. You are allowed to keep yourself safe.

              Also, please feel free to reach out to us to discuss this over the phone. You can give us more information and maybe we can help you think of some options that aren’t immediately obvious. Again, we’re sorry to hear about everything you have experienced and are currently experiencing. We wish you luck with everything.

          • #27
            My little brother has ADHD and Dyslexia and stuff. He cries and hits me all the time when I do nothing wrong and he's injured me. My older brother gets As and Bs and never works hard. I get straight As, I am the perfect student, I am very kind and not obsessed with people so social media isn't my thing. I'm a pretty great child to have. My mom tells at me about every little thing. My older brother got a C on a test which is very bad in my family and nothing happened. I was writing a paper in my room and my mom screamed in my face. She gets angry about everything but only when I do it. Then she tells all her friends how horrible I am for this. I can relate

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            • ccsmod13
              ccsmod13 commented
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              Hi there,

              Thanks for reaching out to NRS and posting in this forum. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. It sounds like home has been really stressful for you. You do not deserve to be hit by your brother or yelled at constantly. It can definitely be really frustrating to be treated differently than your siblings. You deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel supported and safe.

              Having a safe place to talk about what is going on can often help young people like feel like they have an outlet and think of options to change their situation they did not previously think of. We encourage you to reach out to people in your life that you trust and feel comfortable talking to like another family member, a school counselor, or friends.

              We are here to be a support for you while you go through this difficult time. We are available 24/7 to listen and help at 800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org. Do not hesitate to reach out to talk more about your situation and brainstorm some options.

              Take care,
              NRS

          • #28
            Please help. my mom is always yelling at me for thing and when i try to explain she yells more and it scares my sis . i have ADHD

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            • ccsmod10
              ccsmod10 commented
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              Hello, We want to thank you for reaching out to the NRS. We see that you said that your mom yells at you a lot. That sounds like a really hard situation, but we want to let you know that you are very brave for reaching out for help. None deserves to be yelled at, and its okay to be scared when someone yells at you.

              Again, we want to mention that you are very strong for reaching out to us for support. If you mom yells at you a lot you reaching out to someone close to you about what is happening may help. Someone close could be a family member, school personnel, or even us.

              You are very strong for reaching out to us for support. If you mom yells at you a lot you reaching out to someone close to you about what is happening may help. Someone close could be a family member, school personnel, or even us. We also offer the option of maybe conference calling with mom so that you can tell her how you feel.

              Conference calling is basically where we get you and mom on the phone, and we would mediate the conversation between you two while you share how you feel. This would be a safe space and we could set up the rules of the conversation to be things like no yelling or cursing, so you would feel comfortable to talk to your mom about how you feel. If you are interested Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

          • #29
            I'm a runaway but I'm on my way I op on my way home but I need HELP oi it's hard to have fun getting yelled at 24/7 boy you do my job or anything I also do a lot of things I cook Elkhart summit girl I have a c

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            • ccsmod4
              ccsmod4 commented
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              Hello,
              Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

              We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. You don’t deserve the mistreatment you have been getting. It’s not your fault that this is happening.

              We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

              Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
              If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.

              We hope to hear from you soon.

              Take care,
              NRS

          • #30
            I'm 11 years old and I used to live with my dad and my stepmom and then percent my stepmom game she's videos for years and ever since that I've been crying you know I am technically living with my grandma and today we came back from a bonfire roasting marshmallows and having fine and then for some odd reason whenever we were coming back she started yelling at me and slamming the doors I'm really scared and I'm crying everyday someone please help

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            • ccsmod16
              ccsmod16 commented
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              Hi,
              Thank you for reaching out; we are glad that you did. It sounds like you are really scared and sad living with your grandma and getting yelled at for no reason. That is not fair and you don't deserve to be treated this way. Autocorrect may have messed up your message because a big part is not clear to us. What is clear is that you need to be listened to and helped, and we are here for you.

              You have been very brave and intelligent for finding us and telling us that something is wrong. We believe you and want to help you. The best way for us to help you is to have a conversation with you either through our phone hotline or via live chat. You can reach us at 1800-RUNAWAY or chat at www.1800runaway.org We are here 24/7 and all of our services are confidential.

              We truly hope to hear from you soon.
              Sincerely,
              NRS
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