Tired of being yelled at!

[Unregistered]

My parents think they know whats best for me, but i think their wrong. I want to be able to go and do what ever I want to do, I want to go places, but mainly I just want escape my family and school. My little brother has ADD and has tantrums almost everyday ( that alone makes me want to storm out of my own house). I'm the middle child and have type one diabetes and I don't know if there is anywhere I could go where people will help me control my blood sugars. My older brother just transfered high schools and now my parents think that the school he attends should be the school I attend because of the personality change they've seen from my brother, but I'm not like my brother. I want my parents to know that, while I do hate school, I don't want to leave where I am now. I feel like I cant talk to my mom with out us arguing. My dad just likes to yell and scare you if you do something wrong. I just don't know what I should do!




PLEASE HELP!!

[ccsmod9]

RE: Tired of being yelled at!

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out and posting on the National Runaway Safeline bulletin board. It sounds like you have a lot going on in your family and are having a tough time with everything. It's understandable that you want to stay in your same school even if you don't like it. It can be really tough to deal with siblings and family rules too.

You mentioned that you want to escape your family. Are you considering running away? If so, there are a lot of things for you to consider. We're not legal experts at NRS, but we can tell you that running away is something called a status offense. This means that the police could return you home if you run away. However, if you feel you need to get out of your house, we at NRS can discuss some options with you. These options might include youth shelters. We can also help you come up with resources to help you deal with your difficult family situation without you having to leave home. One option is something called a conference call, in which we would help mediate a conversation between you and your mom or dad.

It seems like you're having a really hard time with your situation right now. We are here to listen and to support you in any way we can. If you’d like to talk more about your options or about anything else, please call us 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). If you don't want to call, you can also chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org ) from 4.30pm-11.30pm Central Standard Time. We look forward to your call or chat.

We wish you the best of luck!

NRS

[Unregistered]

parentes having problem with my sister

My parents had problems with my sister .. and the do not solve the problem with her they just yelling at me because they are angry and they dont want to shout at her because she is so hard to deal with .. now im 17 years old and im having problem to deal with them ... i cant negotiate with my mom because she get angry so fast my dad always travelling and there is alot of responsibilities on me sometimes i want to hit something so bad just to feel better and less anger sometimes i want to cry just to feel better and when they talk to me about my sister they shout on me like it is my problem not her and they tell me dont tell them that i talked to you (FX:today my dad talked to me in the car and he shouts at me and then he told me don't tell your mom and sister that i talked to you and the same thing when my mom and sister talked to me ) ... I am having alot of pressure and when i tell them why you are talking to me they say because you can listen us and your sister cant .. she lie on them very much ... and they shout on me because of her ............ I'm so tired from this life i am talking to you because i have no one i cant talk to i have only 1 friend who i can trust and he isn't available all the time ...
please help me I'm crying right now like a little baby from the pressure

[ccsmod10]

RE: problems with parents with my sister

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear you are having problems with your family. It sounds like your relationship with your mom isn’t going so great right now and your dad is not home to help. It also sounds like they dump a lot of their problems on you regarding your sister. It seems very unfair to make you the therapist for the family and feel responsible for what happens with your sibling.

Do you think that family counseling would be an option? If not, what else do you think would work? It sounds like you are really going through a lot right now and are looking for someone to talk to. If you have a school counselor or trusted teacher to reach out to, that may be an option. You also mentioned that you are tired of this life. If you are thinking of hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-TALK may be a good resource to reach out to.

We can be reached at any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY or by live chat at www.1800runaway.org from 4:30pm-11:30pm Central Standard Time if you would like to discuss what other options you have available. We wish you the best of luck and hope to hear from you soon.

- NRS

[Unregistered]

problems with family and sister

I'm not thinking of hurting myself because I know that there is a lot of beautiful things in the world ... I just wanted someone to listen to me , someone when i talk to him i feel better and feel that there is still go people in the world , thank you for your time .... you mention that if there is a trusted teacher i can talk to him actually this so hard because I'm not in america or from it I'm from the Arab world which is they thing its a shame to talk about the family problems to others and if they knew that i talked to the teacher they will say how you tell a stranger about our problems .
If you have any solutions or tips that i can follow to deal with my parents please be my guest tell me

[ccsmod7]

Re: problems with family and sister

Thanks for contacting us again with your concerns. It’s good to hear that you are not thinking of hurting yourself but it still sounds like you are going through a lot and just want someone to listen to it. It’s understandable that it is frustrating feeling like you don’t have anyone you can open up to about this. You mentioned that you are from the Arab world so you feel like there is more shame associated with talking about family problems. Sometimes it’s difficult to open up about these things but it sounds like it would be really helpful for you to have some support. We were able to look up a resource through the Child Helpline International that may be a good resource to reach out to if you need some further support and need someone to talk to.

Arab Human Rights Foundation
Call: 443699
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.ahrf-ye.org

We hope that this resource will be helpful and provide some further assistance for you. They are there to listen and help. Take care.

[haley.renea11]

Mom always yelling at me and i cant take it anymore

For almost about 2-3 months now i have been getting yelled at constantly. When i am sick and dont feel good. My mom screams and yells and says your butt is going to school. You are such a faker. I try to ignore her but she doesnt stop and eventually i yell back and break down into tears. I have 4 brothers and a sister but i am the only one she screams at when sick. She makes me not wanna exist. Today i was messing with my sister phone just to lock it up on her but i accidentally reseted her phone. My mom screamed at me more then she told my sister to punch me in the face if she wants. Why would my mom say that? I swear she hates me...I yelled at my mom and said what kind of mother says that. I was so frustrated and upset. That i grabbed my stuff and ran away for a few hours. I came home because i was so cold. I got home and ignored her for a few hours. I needed to get my hw but my mom yelled at me and told me i aint doing nothing. So i starting crying again and said fine if i fail my class it is your fault!. She then started talking crap about me and someone else like i was just a piece of tras. She causes me so much depression. Im not sure how much more i can take..

[ccsmod10]

RE: Mom always yelling at me and i cant take it anymore

Hello,

Thanks for reaching out to us at National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation and it great that you are searching for the help that you may need. It seems like you have a lot to deal with and you are strong for having come so far. What were you hoping that you could do to make your situation better? We are here to listen and help you in the best way that we can.

It sounds like you’re very unhappy about your home life and how you are being treated. Have you talked to someone about those feelings like a family member, friend, teacher, school counselor? This could possibly help you gain emotional support and an opportunity to express your feelings. You can also call The Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration at 1877 726-4727 to possibly find counseling services that you or your family can utilize.

You also mentioned you attempted to run away for a few hours. Is there something that you enjoy doing that helps you feel better or release stress? This could be like an extracurricular activity, a sport, reading, listening to music etc. here may or may not be a lot that you can do to change the situation, but there can be ways that help you handle them better or just plain feel good about yourself.

Remember you are not alone. You can always call us at 1800-RUNAWAY 24/7 and we can help explore the options that you may have.

Best Wishes,
NRS

[Unregistered]

Re: Tired of being yelled at!

I am being yelled at by my dad, brother and family because I got in to trouble. The thing is my sister disrespects me and my older brother I feel like he hates me, my outside family speak behind my back and I feel like I get neglected and I get upset they cheer me up but then do the same thing later on, my dad is saying that I should not speak to any of my friends and just stay home but I feel like going away and not returning I feel so sick of living in this household.

[ccsmod15]

Re: Tired of being yelled at!

Hi,
Thank you for reaching out to us at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like things are really tough at home right now and you deserve to feel loved in your home. We know it takes a lot of courage to reach out for help and we are here to support you.

It sounds like you are unhappy at home because there is a lot of family conflict going on and you are considering leaving your home. If you did want to leave home, some options you could explore are: staying with other family members or adult friends, staying in a youth shelter or an alternative living arrangement (ALA). We could help you look up specific shelters or ALAs in your area if you contact us by calling or chatting.

While we are not legal experts here at NRS, something to be aware of is if you are a minor and leave your home without your parent’s permission, your parents have the right to file a runaway report. While it’s not illegal to runaway, it is a status offense, which means if they did file a runaway report the police have the right to make you go back home.

If you are considering staying with friends or family, you could explore the option further with your dad to see if he will give you permission to live elsewhere. If you want help speaking with your dad, NRS offers a conference call service, where you can call us, then with your permission we call your dad and we stay on the line to help you two have a respectful conversation about what’s been going on.

It’s unfair that you feel neglected and are around a lot of fighting in your home. Home should be somewhere where you feel safe and comfortable. Some additional options you could consider would be to share with a friend or adult you trust what is going on at home or even look into family counseling services in your area.

We hope this information helps you explore some of the options you have available to you. If you would like specific resources please feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or live chat with us on our website www.1800runaway.org. We look forward to hearing from you.

Stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

problems with grandma



i don't know what i do to make her to mad and sometimes she yells and calls me stupid and an idiot just for not doing one little thing and sometimes it makes me sad and i go sit in my room and cry my eyes out and when she calls me to go upstairs i get scared afraid she is going to yell and me even more for something she didn't even tell me to do.and my only escape from her is school and she constantly gets on my case if a grade drops from 90 to 87 and she expects me to be perfect and act just like she does but I am not her
What can I do

[ccsmod3]

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out on our online forum. It sounds like you are having some problems with the way your grandma treats you. We’re sorry to hear she yells at you and calls you names. It sounds like she has very high expectations of you and you’re feeling like you can’t meet these expectations. You do not deserve to feel afraid at home and we’re sorry she’s making you so sad. It sounds like you aren’t sure what to do which is okay. We are not here to judge you or tell you what to do. We are here to listen and provide support to the best of our ability. We invite you to our Live Chat which opens today at 1pm CST. All you have to do is click the “Chat” button on our homepage here: https://www.1800runaway.org/. We hope this helps and wish you the best of luck!

[Guest]

Everyday I get yelled at for something or I my parents complain about something about me they make me feel worthless they are always telling whether it’s at me or my brother or my dogs always it gives me a headache I don’t remeber a day I didn’t hear yelling other then the few hours when they are at work or out on date nights but even then they call me or text me getting mad at something. I’ve told them they have made me feel worthless I’ve also told them that I’m tired of all the yelling I just want it to stop I’m tired of it I just want it peaceful but that happens? They make up excuses about me and about maybe you should think of what you do. But being honest I really don’t do much and if I do they are small mistakes that I hardly make at a time things like forgetting to clean something up or rolling my eyes or fighting with my brother(not to mention my brother doesn’t even get yelled at it’s always me) he never gets in trouble and he does the same things I do sometimes worst I’m tired I just want to escape there was a time where they locked me out of the house for about an hour because they were tired of me I once told them I wanted to commit suicide they took as a joke and didn’t even care even said they didn’t they have threaten one of my dogs because they chewed up a pilllow to kill them all there was incentive where my mom came in maybe room and almost choked me(I don’t think it wasn’t on purpose purpose but I couldn’t breathe) and I had to kick her off BECAUSE I COULDNT BREATH she told my dad that I kicked her he came in hit me so hard my nose started bleeding and my lip as well it’s all so hard I can’t handle anything no more not to mention that my hearts broken by a guy I never even dated but I swear I was in love with I was dealing with the pain for 9 months and still am I don’t know what to do.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

It can be difficult to reach out for help, and we are so glad you messaged us. You do not deserve to feel worthless and treated this way. If you are ever in immediate danger, from yourself or others, you can always call the police at 911. In addition, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-8255 or suicidepreventionlifeline.org, and Child Help, National Child Abuse Hotline, 1-800-422-4453, can be helpful resources.

We are so sorry you are being yelled at and mistreated. Dealing with a broken heart is also really difficult, and we are sorry you have not had support in going through that situation. You are not alone and are so brave for reaching out and speaking up. In addition to being available online, we have a 24/7 hotline and are always here to provide additional support and resources, 1-800-78-2929. We are here to help you think through your options and how you can take care of yourself through this difficult time.

You are not alone and we are always here for you. We encourage you to call us to discuss your options, including filing an abuse report and or finding counseling resources.

Good luck,
NRS

[Guest]

My dad always yells at me. My dad yell at me for complaining and when I act weirdly. He won’t let me calm down. My physiologist said I can’t be yelled at because I have a disability and when I get yelled at I feel hated and I feel that I will be better off dead, I feel it’s the end of the world, I start crying then. I just wish that my parents would stop yelling at me. And start understanding me. My dad got upset with me yesterday about me acting like a baby, I simply told him I was playing a game, he didn’t understand so he told me “if you can’t stop acting weird then you can stay in your room, I cried. My dad has anger issues which is a issue with my feelings. When I get yelled at I feel like I should not listen to him and rebel. I feel scared around him when he yells at him and my mom she says drama, drama drama it’s always drama with you. She just calls me manic when I cry after being yelled at. Cause I’m bipolar. At this point I don’t know what to do and I just want this to end.

[ccsmod10]

Hi there,

It sounds like you’re dealing with a very difficult situation that is distressing your mental health issues. It is good that you reached out because that is a good first step to dealing with your situation.

You said that you sometimes feel you would be better off dead, we would first like to mention that suicidal thoughts are very serious. If you are considering suicide, please contact your mental health professional or you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. We're also open 24/7 if you'd like to talk to us instead. Your life is important and you matter.

It also sounds like what you’re describing may be emotional abuse. Abuse of any kind is not okay. You deserve to feel safe in your own home. If you feel your situation is abusive, you may consider contacting Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 to file an abuse report. Your mental health issues it is important that you are getting the support you need. It sounds like you currently are seeing someone for therapy but if not, SAMHSA can help put you in touch with someone who can help. You can call them at 1-877-726-4727.

Again, you are in a tough situation and we are so glad that you took the first step and reached out to us. If you need any more information or just want someone to talk to, please don’t hesitate to call us anytime, day or night.

[Guest]

my dad is at work from 5am till 6pm. i’m the second oldest and the only girl. i have 3 brothers. my mom is soooooo overreactive and she yells at litterally everything turning everything into a HUGE
deal. one of my brothers have run away due to the stress she puts on us while screaming. we had to call the cops at midnight to help us find him. i know that my mom loves me and my siblings but she doesn’t know how to deal with us when she is angry

[ccsmod7]

Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like your mom's yelling is really taking a toll on you and your brothers. That cannot be easy to deal with. Here at NRS, we truly want to help.

If you haven't already, you might try to talk to your mom about how her yelling is affecting you. It seems like she is hard to talk to so if possible, you might try to include a supportive adult in on the conversation like a grandparent or family friend. You also might try to focus on what your needs are rather than what she is doing wrong, so she might be less defensive about it. Here at NRS, we have a conference call service if you would like us to mediate that difficult discussion. Please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY for that service.

You might also have some other options depending on your situation. If you would like to talk more about your situation and help with brainstorming your options and looking for local resources please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat us. We are here to listen, here to help.

Best,

NRS

[Guest]

I want to leave my family but at the same time I don't. I am always getting yelled at but when my parents yell at my little brother gets yelled at, they tell him it's okay. There are some more reasons as to why I want to run away but they are not relevant to this subject.

[ccsmod11]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out. It definitely sounds like you're going through a rough time with being yelled at and wanting to run away. Feel free to search through our forums to see what sorts of things we have told other youth in similar situations, and feel free to discuss your situation with us at 1-800-786-2929

-NRS