Verbal Abuse?

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Well I've been thinking about running away for some time, but I don't know if I really have the nerve, lately my mom's impatience has been increasing, for about close to a year she's been threatening to hit us and mocking us,my younger sister and me, using a lot of sarcasm when we do something wrong or if we are forgetful. I'm getting extremely sick of it because, parents just aren't supposed to treat their kids that way. My dad doesn't have custody of us, and he already screwed up with my brother, but he never yelled or threatened to hit us, can my mom get in trouble for this kind of stuff, cuz if she doesn't go away then I will.

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Re: Verbal Abuse?

Thanks for contacting us. It sounds like your dealing with an awful situation and that you've been going through this for quite some time. No one deserves to be verbally threatened or made fun of, especially by a parent. It's understandable that you've thought about running away because it sounds like an extremely frustrating situation. How long has your mom been behaving this way towards you and your sister? Has the situation been getting worse recently? How does your sister feel about the situation? Have you spoken with anyone about what has been going on? A friend, teacher, counselor? Do you think it would help to speak with someone?

You mentioned being so frustrated that you are thinking of running away. Have you thought about where you would go if you left? Do you have any friends or family in the area you could stay with and be safe? What do you think your mom would do if you left the house? Do you think she would get the police involved? You mentioned something about your father; would you be able to talk with him about the situation?

This definitely sounds like a very difficult situation. Just so you know if you ever need to talk more in depth about your situation you can always give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Also if you ever feel like it has gotten to the point where you want to make a report to child protective services (CPS), we can help with that as well. If you wanted to we would be able to facilitate a conference call between you and CPS and help to advocate for you. Of course we are a completely confidential hotline, so the call would be purely based on what you would want to do. Also if you have already runaway and need a safe place to stay, we would be able to look up local shelters in your area. Even if you just need to vent about the situation and want to discuss options we are here for that to. Best of luck with everything and give us a call anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY, there is someone here 24 hours a day to help.

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Re: Verbal Abuse?

Thanks for contacting us. It sounds like your dealing with an awful situation and that you've been going through this for quite some time. No one deserves to be verbally threatened or made fun of, especially by a parent. It's understandable that you've thought about running away because it sounds like an extremely frustrating situation. How long has your mom been behaving this way towards you and your sister? Has the situation been getting worse recently? How does your sister feel about the situation? Have you spoken with anyone about what has been going on? A friend, teacher, counselor? Do you think it would help to speak with someone?

You mentioned being so frustrated that you are thinking of running away. Have you thought about where you would go if you left? Do you have any friends or family in the area you could stay with and be safe? What do you think your mom would do if you left the house? Do you think she would get the police involved? You mentioned something about your father; would you be able to talk with him about the situation?

This definitely sounds like a very difficult situation. Just so you know if you ever need to talk more in depth about your situation you can always give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Also if you ever feel like it has gotten to the point where you want to make a report to child protective services (CPS), we can help with that as well. If you wanted to we would be able to facilitate a conference call between you and CPS and help to advocate for you. Of course we are a completely confidential hotline, so the call would be purely based on what you would want to do. Also if you have already runaway and need a safe place to stay, we would be able to look up local shelters in your area. Even if you just need to vent about the situation and want to discuss options we are here for that to. Best of luck with everything and give us a call anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY, there is someone here 24 hours a day to help.

She's been doing the mocking thing for quite a while now, a few years at least, but I've been noticing a lot more, and she started saying if we *fill in the blank* one more time, she would slap our hands or our mouths like when I kept cracking my knuckles or my sister was trying to explain why she left her stuff out, that started maybe less than a year ago, I know the situation has been getting worse in the past few months or so, my sister is only 8 and doesn't know how to react to my mother, what mother says is the law to her, my mother has little patience for my sister or me and I don't really trust my teachers or guidance counselor, I don't know how to bring something like this up.

I don't have very many friends, and I don't think any that would let me stay with them without acknowledging my mother, the only family I have is my father, and he works strange hours, and I KNOW my mother would alert the police, my father, I don't know what he would do, I haven't spoken to him for a while.

What does facilitate a conference call mean? And getting to a phone without my mother being suspicious is kind of difficult.

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Re: Verbal Abuse?

Thank you for contacting NRS again. It sounds like you have been deal with your mom verbally abuse for quite some time. And you had mentioned that it has become worse. Do you feel that you have someone that you can trust and comfortable talking to? Perhaps you could let the person know that would like to discuss a difficult situation that has been going on for awhile and that you are looking for their support or help. How do you feel about calling Child Protective Services? Their main focus is to keep safe from harm. When a call is made to them, they will take the information and determine what the next step will be. They may hold the information and create a file about this, so if they get other reports about the same thing; more investigation might be done. Other times they may visit your house to find out more information. They do not tell the person that the report was made on (in your case it would be your mom) who made the call to them.

Facilitating a conference call is where you can call us at anytime and we can help you made calls over the phone to another service. We usually have 3 people on the phone, which would be you, one of us that are on the phone with you and another person/service. Facilitate would be how we can help make the call easier for you by support you and helping to explain what you want to do.

We are a confidential crisis line that is available 24/7. You are welcome to call whenever the best time for you. We could also “role play” how to bring up difficult situations to the person that you choose to talk to about the verbal abuse that you and your sister have been going through. We look forward to hear from you. Good luck!