I need to get away, my mom is distroying my life

[dog1lynn]

Since I was 5, my mom has made it her prority to bring me down.. I am now 29, and she still rules over my life. She makes it so I never get more then a few hundred saved.. I am so scared right now, as I have been locked in my room for 3 days.. My dogs are now in danger (They are in here with me) From an argument with my older brother (WHo just got out of jail) He had threatened me, after I told him if he stole from me again, I was gonna steal from him. He then tried to smash my computer, and as always my mom took his side.. She is now saying its time I live on the street, and agrees with my older brother who said. It is time my dogs died... I can only sneek out of my room when they are all asleep, to take my dogs out.. But if mom hears me, she comes out of her room with a stick, and swings it at me.. I have had no food in 24 hours, as I have not been able to grab myself anything, as I took my dogs out. (there food is in my room they are ok).. I can't even ask my dad for help, cause my mom told him never to come back into her house. He lives with his mom, who refuses to allow me to stay there. (they broke up when I was 5).. I have a lot of money in my bank right now. (just over $2000) I need to get out of here.. I have support up in WI, (my fiancé, and his family. I CAN NOT LIVE WITH THEM, BROTHER IS ALERGIC TO DOGS).. They can not help me, as they are in debt.. I am so scared, I had to barricade my door, cause my brother was kicking at it for fun.. He used to use me as a punching bag, before he was locked up the first time.. I am so scared.. I need to escape. I am willing to leave everything behind (except my dogs, and clothes).. Can someone plz help me, get a new life started near my fiancé.. Plz....

[ccsmod10]

Hello,

If you have contacted the National Runaway Safeline today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.

Thank you,

NRS

[Unregistered]

Re: I need to get away, my mom is distroying my life

It i me, the one who posted that over 2 years ago. Update, I escaped... I moved out, and into my own rented home with my dogs,
I am now married, and a new mother to my 3 week old son. I am happy and safe. My mom has changed her tone, and since I became
preggo has helped me with everything she can. We still have our fights (mostly about my husband not working) but I am well, and safe.

[ccsmod0]

Re: I need to get away, my mom is distroying my life

Thank you for posting.
We are so glad to hear that things have worked out for you. Congratulations on your marriage and your new born!
It is great to hear that you were able to move out of your mother’s house and way from your dangerous brother. It sounds like you have been able to repair your relationship with your mother and are happy and safe.
Thank you for updating us. We hope everything continues to go well and remember if you ever need anything else please give us a call 1-800-RUNAWAY

[Guest]

Things went down hill fast the last 2 weeks. Landlord selling how, job fired me because I had a alergic reaction to blood pressure pills and was throwing up in bathroom. FML..

[ccsmod15]

Hi,
Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like there are a lot of things going on at home right now. Home should be a place where you feel safe and loved. We are here to help you explore your options.

You mentioned that you recently had an allergic reaction to blood pressure pills. That must have been really scary. If you’re still feeling unwell from your medicine, one option would be to call your primary care doctor and schedule a check-up. Another option, we could help you look up clinics in your area. Your health and well-being are most important.

You also shared that as a result of your allergic reaction you were fired. It can be really stressful losing your job. When/if you’re ready to look for another job, there are some resources available to you. If you are currently in school, you can ask a school counselor if they have a job board that’s available to students. Another option would be to ask local stores if they’re hiring. You could also try looking online at indeed.com.

Lastly, you said that your landlord is selling. It sounds like that may mean you will have to move in the future. One option could be to see if a family member or friend would let you stay with them for a little bit while you look for a place to stay. Another option could be to look into youth shelters or alternative living arrangements (ALAs). If you contact us directly by phone or email, we can help you look up some near you. You have many options.

Sometimes it helps to take things one step at a time by focusing on what is the most important priority to your safety and well-being. You have many options to help move forward from what you are currently going through and we are here to support you.

If you would like further help exploring any of these options or others in more detail, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling us at 1-800- RUNAWAY or chatting with us live on our website at www.1800.runaway.org. We look forward to hearing from you.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Things went down hill fast the last 2 weeks. Landlord selling how, job fired me because I had a alergic reaction to blood pressure pills and was throwing up in bathroom..

[Guest]

im 12 now and my mom yells at me for nothng like im disorded with doing things slow and since my dad left to jail she has yelled at me and felt like to kill my self and and ru away or go to social services and go find a diffrent family or go live with my bf

[ccsmod9]

Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We appreciate the fact that you have chosen to reach out to us and ask for help. We can understand that you are going through a stressful and difficult situation. Our hope is to provide you with tips and resources to help you make the right decision for you alone.
From what we can tell about your story it seems as though you have been going through some really hard times with your mom. She has been emotionally abusive and clearly has had you in a state of constant anxiety. Please know that if you are having suicidal thoughts you can always contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255). They would be able to help you walk through some options. You also mentioned that you are considering perhaps leaving. Please know that because you are 12 you are still considered a minor and that gives your mom the right to make a report and if she or the police know where you are they can have you brought back home. Another thing to consider is that perhaps if you are found in the care of others they can be charged with harboring a minor this is something to think about if you do happen to runaway.
Again we want to commend you on reaching out and seeing help. If for any reason you have questions or concerns please do not hesitate to call us at (1-800-786-2929) or online through our chat option at (www.1800runaway.org).
Best Wishes-NRS

[Guest]

im 13 and my mom makes me want to kms ive thought ab it several times but can never really do it. I dont have a dad he died when i was 2, since then my mom has had several husbands and boyfriends come and go and I havnt really cared that much. only now has my moms boyfriend and her had a big argument. as I asked my mom if me and her bf were going fishing the next day she said no u will never see him again.... I am now closer to killing myself than i have ever been bc its no longer bc of my selfish needs it is bc of someone i love that loves me back just the same.

[ccsmod11]

Hi, and thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon. Be safe and stay strong, NRS

[Guest]

is there something or somewhere I can go to get away from home but still be able to see my family?

[ccsmod11]

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out. If you’re feeling unsafe and need a safe place to go and talk to someone, you may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you listed. So that is always an option if you feel like talking to someone in person about what has been going on or if you just need of a safe place to stay.

You also may use your phone to text the word “safe” and your current location (city/state/zip) to 69866. If there are safe places and shelters nearby, a list of those will be sent to your phone and you may have the option to text back and forth with a trained counselor as well.

Best, NRS

[Guest]

I want to get away from my family my mom is always in my business and yell's at me when i didn't do anything I always get In trouble for noting my dad is in jail I really really miss him he's the only one that doesn't blame me for every little thing I have a boyfriend but my mom doesn't want me to talk to him but I miss talking to him other than my dad he's the only one that hear's me out some one help I'm really close to killing myself but I don't want to at the same time just help me please

[ccsmod2]

We are glad that you reached out to NRS. Asking for help takes a lot of strength. It sounds like you have been under a lot of stress lately, but it is really good you are able acknowledge that you need support. If you are ever having thoughts about killing yourself you can reach out the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-8255 to talk to someone about how you have been feeling and receive more resources. You can also text “CONNECT” to 741741 if you feel like talking to someone might help you cope with how you have been feeling. It sounds like your boyfriend has been a good support system for you so you could try talking to your mom about compromising so that you could talk to him more. You could also try reaching out to other family members, friends, or a counselor at school for support and if you feel like you need help talking to your mom about how you feel. Your situation might seem overwhelming, but there are people who care about you and who want to help. If you want to talk more about what has been going on or want to explore other resources please call or chat us at 1-800-786-2929 or 1800runaway.org!

[Guest]

Im 14 and i feel like i can live my own life and my mom is so strict i can evan pick what school i want to go to or to my friends house and she said its to keep me safe but i feel like i cant tell her nothing. So that why i tell my bsf everything and my mom just pushes every one away and i dont want to live with her no more she evan turned my phone off just because i was talking to a boy i realy liked and i just need help. She threatens me hits me and everything i cant evan spend my birth day with my friend alone (shes a girl) she has alway been like tbis and i think its time she realised that im growing up can yall help

[ccsmod7]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. Unfortunately, as your guardian, your mom does have the right to pick what school you are going to and whether or not you have your phone. That seems hurtful that she threatens to hurt you, and it's understandable that would make you uneasy.

It sounds like your mom might have rules against you spending alone time with a girl. If you haven't already, you might try to make a compromise with your mom such as hanging out with this friend along with other friends, or in a place where your mom can keep an eye on you all, or just for an hour or 2 at a time. Your mom is allowed to make those kinds of rules. If you need help with a mediated conversation with you and your guardians, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You should have your feelings heard.

We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

my mom is such a bad part of my life now. So I have this boyfriend who loves me very much and we have been together for almost a year and a half, and 8 months ago my mom started talkin with his dad and now every other night she goes out to see him (obviously to have sex) and it’s digusting. Her doctor told her that if she has sex and happens to get pregnant, then she will die. But she is too careless with what she is doing. I feel so disgusting all the time and she has no respect for my relationship, since she thinks it’s all right to be with his dad. His dad is abusive and also an alcoholic and hits my boyfriend. There will be times I will be upstairs in his room and him and his dad will start fighting and his dad will call him and ********ing loser, and he’ll threaten him by saying he’ll knock him out of phone the police, my boyfriend does have anger issues too which starts them up when his dad gets in his face and threatens him. And I’ve told my mom about the 5 other woman that his dad is seeing not including her, my mom has started complaining about itchiness and burning down there, she says she’s not having sex but she obviously is. And I think that he might’ve given her something considering how many woman he is with. My mom is one of the woman that he is cheating on his girlfriend with and my mom doesn’t respect that either. My boyfriends dads alcoholism has spread to my mother and now she drinks every night, and whenever I try to talk to her about it she will yell at me. She will stop driving on the side of he highway so she can answer his text if he texts her. He’s the only person she talks to, even when we are having family time my mom will be on her phone, saying that she is on Facebook when she’s obviously sexting him because she has her phone turned away from everyone. I have to share a room with her too because we don’t have enough money for a big enough house. I’m almost sure that she is buying him his cigarettes and alcohol addictions as well as his other 5 girls. My mom always gives me the excuse that the reason why she is with him and why she doesn’t want anything serious with him is because “omg I’ve been alone for 17 years give me a break!” She shouts whenever she’s drunk at me. And I always respond with how she could be with literally anyone but him and I wouldn’t give a ********. She clearly knows that what she’s doing to me hurts me yet she does it anyways and lies right to my face even when I know she’s lying on the spot. I told her that what she’s doing is very immature and disgusting to me considering I’m with my boyfriend and she is with my boyfriends dad... ********ing gross. She spends money on cabs and alcohol and probably cigarettes for him since he can’t drive because he’s always drinking, and that causes us to struggle financially. She says that she’s treated like a dog in our house, meanwhile she’s out most of the day at “work” and later in the night she sneaks out to be with him, she sneaks out through the back door too. I don’t know what happened to her she used to be such a nice mom, and now she just wastes all her time and money on a drunk loser and couldn’t give two ********s about me. My sister is never home either which also makes me struggle, and I live with my grandmother, who is alright but her and my mom fight too. I can never get any peace and whenever I can get away I go to my boyfriends house, where his disgusting poor excuse of a father is who just starts at us the whole time we’re there. His dad is racist against us too and my mom doesn’t care. He called us “stupid ********in Indians” to my mom over text and she forgave him. I don’t know what to do anymore.

[ccsmod15]

Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we’d be happy to help you to the best of our ability. You mentioned that your boyfriend’s dad has been abusive, you should have a conversation with your boyfriend about abuse reporting. If he would like to file a report we would be more than willing to assist him with that process if he could give us a call at 1800RUNAWAY.
Secondly, we’re very sorry to hear what has been going on, it definitely sounds like you’re in a stressful and frustrating situation and you don’t deserve to be treated like this by your mom. Though, her actions are immature and provoking, we cannot control how other people behave, therefore, no one can control how your mother acts or who she wants to be with besides herself. But, you could influence her decision if you keep having these conversations with her about it and expressing how you feel. I know you’ve mentioned that you’ve had tried to converse with her before and she wouldn’t cooperate, an option that we could help you with; if you’re willing, we could set up a conference call between yourself and your mom and discuss the situation with one of our trained staff mediating the call.
If you would like to explore this option further we are here 24/7 and you’re more than welcome to contact us, (1-800-RUNAWAY) anytime. Once again, we’re really sorry that this is happening and you don’t deserve to be treated like this. Please be safe and know that we are here for you.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

My mom is always calling me fat you need exercise and she says i do nothing im disgusting I dont act like a lady im done with this crap with her someone help me ive try standing up for myself but all she does is yell at me and Im done with it someone help me or i just might run away from her please someone help me she treats me like trash
-abigail handshy please help :-(

[ccsmod13]

Hello and thank you for reaching out to NRS.

It sounds like you are going through a difficult time. No one deserves to be disrespected and treated poorly, especially from someone that should be there to support us and love us. It is good that you stand-up for yourself and sometimes getting help from other resources is a good idea. These resources can be school personnel, professional guidance or other family. Making other people aware of the verbal and emotional abuse you experience may create opportunities for you to have more productive conversations with you mother, where she is able to listen to you and how you feel. We can help with that by facilitating a conference call with you and your mom to make sure you feel heard. You can always reach out to us here at 1-800-RUNAWAY or 1800runaway.org if you want to talk more about your options.

Good Luck,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi,

Im 14 years old and I want to live with my dad. My whole life i lived with my mother my whole life and last year I lived with my dad and I loved it. I was less stressed out, I only had to focus on my chores, earing, responsiblity, and school. I moved back with my momma the day after 4th of July. Since then I've been stressed out, and nothing is the same. My momma acts different and im always doing something wrong. Even though sometimes I know it might be my fault cause I am still a teenager and im not an angel and I except my wrongs and im fixing them. But mostly i get yelled at or threatend for somebody else wrong doing. Like when my momma get into an argument or break up with her boyfriend anything and everything I do is wrong. And not just with him ots any ody she gets mad at. And hime doesbt feel like home. I cant express my feelings cause welhen i do my momma tells me im wrong and tells what I think or feel. And o cant express my self. And the house is crowded though thats not my issue its getting over whelming. Amd i have mental break downs and U have talked to my dad and he said he was gping to do something and ive tried to be patient but everyday ots getting worse. My grandmother start tripping,my uncle trippin. Then, I get fustrated and I dont want be here they is doing to much when my momma is gon and its making me mad and I am trying not to get disrespectful cause all ive been doing us tryna do right by everybody in this house but my right and ever right and then im tryna keep up with everything and its getting overwhelmong im whatching kids that anit mines , im going to school, im tryna keep up with work, im trying not to fall asleep i class cause i cant get enough sleep cause thay let these kids cry all night and outmr rooms os connected and im tired of going thru this. And my momma isn't letting me leave. Please help me what should I do ?

[ccsmod13]

Hi, thank you for reaching out to us today for help. It sounds like you are dealing with a really difficult situation. You do not deserve to be mistreated by your mother, and it sounds like you are doing your best to handle your problems at home and still keep up with school. It can be really tough not to feel supported by the people who we live with.

It sounds like your Dad does not have custody, but you would prefer to live with him instead. It took a lot of bravery to talk with your dad about your situation with your mom. If he is trying to have you live with him again, it can take a while to have custody transferred. Perhaps you could reach out to your dad again to let him know that things at your mom’s have not been getting any better. That conversation might be a good place to start. Maybe you could also ask your father to reach out to your mom on your behalf, and discuss a living arrangement that you all are happy with. We understand that these conversations with parents can be difficult and we can help you talk with your parents. If you can call our hotline 800-786-2929, we can mediate a conference call between you and your dad to make sure that your needs are being heard.

Thank again for reaching out to us, we are a 24/7 line and want to make sure you get the support you need. We can best be of help phone or chat if you would like to talk more in detail about your situation and brainstorm some options together. We are here to listen and help.

We look forward to hearing from you soon,
NRS

[Guest]

I need to go away from my mom Ik she cares for me a lot but every time she buys beer I always know that she’s somehow in some way she’s gonna get mad at me and this time my sister got a card for school supplies that had $100 on it and my mom told her to buy some beer and she bought 2 of them and when she got drunk just now she wanted me to leave she threw my clothes and shoes outside and locked me out and when I finally went in she grabbed a heavy candle holder and she kept trying to hit me with it and I grabbed it and and took her beer and she kept trying to make my sister but her another one and my mom told me to get out of her life but I love her so so so much and she loves me more but I can’t be with her Bc I’m tired of her making me feel unwanted and unimportant it makes me wanna hang myself with a barbwire fence but I can’t so I just need to get away from my whole family I’m pretty sure they’ll be happier without me

[ccsmod3]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS