My stepdad hates me and I can't stay here any longer.

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Hi Vari,

Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of courage to reach out. It seems like you are going through a lot of difficult situations right now and don't deserve the treatment you are receiving from your mother. Regarding you situation at home, have you ever spoken with your parents about living with your grandma before? If you do not feel comfortable speaking with them about it, would you be able to contact your grandma or anyone else you feel safe around with one of your friends phones?

Additionally, our phone line operates 24/7 and you have the option to either call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or via live chat straight from your computer or smartphone at www.1800runaway.org. Thank you again for reaching out.

Be Safe,
NRS
1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)

https://www.1800runaway.org

First of all I’m Vari plus this is a serious family issue.. growing up I had a weird xx site addiction cause I didn’t know and plus I was a child and I didn’t really understand I was curious, but whenever my mom would caught me on the site she would call me retarted and the last time she drove me to a pool and told me to jump off a bridge and kill myself and all the way from 3rd grade ro 5th grade I was getting in trouble 24/7 all the time she didn’t really care.. but now that I’m 13 going to 14 in a few months I got in trouble yesterday at school for airdropping dark humor memes and one of them we’re a racist one ( I’m African American ) and then the girl that reported it to the principal got me in trouble but at first they didn’t know it was me but the staff lady wanted to check my phone and found out it was me.. and now my mom thinks I don’t like my own race because I airdropped a racist meme. Plus my parents took away my phone and my ps4 for almost the rest of the year I think and I got a one day school suspension for cursing at the principal and now this Friday I’m having a meeting with the principal weather if I should be able to go back to the school and my mom extremely hates me and my step dad won’t really say a word to me and before I got my phone token away I texted almost everyone about the situation. Plus yesterday my mom called me out and called me almost every cuss word and even slurs and made me sit outside in the cold for 4 hours while she went back to work I feel empty and depressed I won’t ever speak to my parents EVER epesically my mom she compared me to my dad and told me that I have a mental issue… but if I had a mental issue wouldn’t she do anything about it? Plus she won’t let me get a job.. I’m sick of this world and my parents I talked to a therapist when I was 11 but that didn’t help cause I knew that she would judge me and tell my mom everything. I just wanna go live with my grandma but I can’t cause I don’t have my phone to coop with anyone plus without my phone my anxiety gets very high cause that is what helps me survive middle school.. Yes I have friends but their in mostly in the 9th grade but yeah.. now my mom and step dad will treat me like ******** for a few weeks.

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Thank you for reaching out to NRS! We are saddened to hear about the abuse you have endured by your stepfather. You sound like a very strong person who has been through so much! It makes sense that you would feel very sad and afraid! You deserve to be safe, respected, cared for, and loved unconditionally. It is understandable that you would want to get away from the environment you are in and also that you feel sad about your brother and mom. You absolutely deserve to take care of yourself and do what is best for you to keep yourself safe and happy and we support your decision to take steps to do that. Here are some options of places you may want to reach out to if you need more support. For help with reporting abuse or other resources related to abuse, you can go to www.childhelp.org or call them at 1-800-422-4433. If you are feeling suicidal at any point you can reach out to The national Suicide Prevention Hotline at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or call them at 1-800-273-8255. www.Nami.org is another option for help with mental health resources you may want to check into. We hope that this response is helpful to you and are glad you reached out to us. Please reach back out at any time or call us at 1-800-runaway. We are here 24/7 to listen and help. Wishing you all the best, NRS!

it will get better


I'm about to be 18 in February of this year in 32 days. I'm moving out of my parent's home and moving in with my bf which I know isn't the best-sounding situation but I need to save my mental health. I don't want to leave at all but my stepfather is psychically and verbally abusive who is the meanest when he drinks (he's also an alcoholic). I don't want to leave my little half brother but he's my stepfather's kid so he doesn't get treated like crap and for my mom, I love her so damn much but when he would do things to me she would just watch which would anger me on how you let a man put his hands around your own daughter's throat like are you ********ing serious. He's called me a whore many times and that's what I am to him. I don't have any close friends to take me in but my bf who knows and understands the situation and has heard the way my stepfather talks to me over the phone which I wouldn't even have on the speaker and could hear him raising his voice at me and calling me a dumbass. I've always wanted to run away since my freshman year where I was already struggling with using drugs as a way to cope and sh, before my freshman year I tried to commit in eighth grade which didn't plan out and my stepfather was the reason for it. I've always been picked on by my stepfather, he is my bully who likes to antagonize me knowing I won't say anything back because I start to sob, he enjoys the power that he has over me. My actual father is an absent father who I don't remember since he left when I was 1 but sometimes when I cry at night I always tell myself “I want a dad”, “I want my dad”, or ill hug myself pretending it's my dad who I sadly don't remember but how I still yearn for him to come and protect me because I'm his “little girl”.
The reason why I typed this out is that if you don't have a place to run to or you're afraid to leave because you are in a similar situation as me please hang on for dear life. I always counted how many years till I'm 18 and now it's how many days left till I can leave this hell hole to keep fighting I know when those bad days come you are completely done with everything but you have to keep on battling, let you see yourself turn 18. If running away doesn't seem like something you are willing to do and hate being in a toxic household get a job or try to be in a lot of school events to get out of that house and maybe it'll make the time fly by. Whoever reads this and connects with me I'm so sorry you've been dealt with some ********ty cards to play but it will get better trust me you'll finally be free.

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Hello! Thank you for reaching out to the NRS!



We're sorry to hear about your struggles at home. We hear you, you should not be treated that way at home by your step dad and you deserve to be somewhere that makes you feel wanted and safe. You have been very brave to not just make it this far already but also for recognizing that you are not being treated fairly and sharing with us.



You mentioned that you are suicidal -- we take suicide very seriously here at the NRS. If you feel like you are suicidal and a danger to yourself, we highly advise you contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800)-273-8255 or call 911. Additionally, if you feel as though you're going through your mental health issues alone, a great resource is NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have great support groups there with people going through similar issues at https://www.nami.org/Support-Education/Support-Groups.



If you want to pursue filing a child abuse report or just want to learn more about the process, we can help you with that at the NRS if you call 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us at 1800runaway.org. In the mean time, it may also be a good idea to share your struggles with your teachers at school or other trusted adults such as family or your friend's parents. Teachers, especially, are mandated reporters and can connect with you necessary resources for reporting.



We wish you all the best and hope you will find these resources helpful. If you have more questions or just want to talk about your situation more with one of our representatives, once again, feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us at 1800runaway.org.

My step dad hurts me pokes me and keeps calling me a wimp and tells me to man up and shout at me allot and my sister is like the goody to shoe's but yet a devil on the inside I've tried committing suicide to many times to count it started when he started poking and prodding me witch was when I was 7 now I'm 14 and it still happens what should I do

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Hi there,

Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.

Thank you,
NRS

I just want to say to all of you I can truly relate to how you feel in my own way because I have my own problems not with my step dad more of my mother but I've thought of committing suicide before many times but, I haven' because.... well death scares me but besides the point. I just wanted you to know that when you feel like nobody can relate to your problems somebody is out there whether you know them or not. when you feel like your not loved maybe that's true on some occasions and trust me I know how bad that can hurt but, somebody out there loves you whether it's a friend or a sweet teacher or, and uncle, aunt, or sibling so, think about this stuff before killing yourself please. I know in the moment we don't care at least for me but just try to calm yourself down talk to a friend or a loved one and if you don't have anybody come on websites like these or Quora and know your not the only one struggling out there. I just wanted to write this from experience of breakdowns wanting to kill myself and runaway. That I know doesn't sound normal but everybody goes through it everybody has there own shi* because one minute ill be having a breakdown the next ill be feeling glad I get to live because some people chase after having a life and some people (including me) want to take ours away. Sometimes you just need to breath and take a minute to think about your future think about how good it could be think about how successful you can be and how you can drop your parents and show them who the bad bi*ch is now and who they were really picking on and who they missed out on.

Just wanted to write this from some experiences I've had and continue to have to just let you know you're not alone and you've got this even if you don't fee like you do.

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Hey there,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your story! It seems like you have been through a lot and we are happy that you are still with us through everything. We thank you for sharing your story and your words of support, and also understand the frustration it can cause to have things you shared in confidence be shared outside of counseling because of certain laws that are set up to protect but can just make it harder to get the support you are looking for. Comparing of trauma and one-upping each other’s suffering can be a negative spiral making it harder for each person involved to heal, so it makes sense to want to cut that out of your life. There are people out there willing to be that safe supportive person, it can just take a lot of trial and effort to find them, we hope you can keep up hope to find that chosen family.
Suicide can already be hard to talk about and we think it’s awesome that you feel comfortable sharing your story with us and others. Everyone deserves someone or a place they feel safe to vent to and be listened to. If you or others are considering suicide the Suicide Hotline is a great resource; https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or 1-800-273-8255. They are there to listen even if others in your life aren’t. Another awesome resource if you are struggling with mental health in general is https://www.nami.org/Home, they have a lot of information about different mental illnesses and might help shed some light on the feelings you are experiencing. They also offer counseling if you don’t have access to a regular counselor or don’t feel safe sharing suicidal ideation with anyone close to you.
Thank you again for sharing your story, stay strong and know that we are here to listen if you ever need someone, either by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through online chat at www.1800runaway.org
NRS.

I just want to say to all the people who are going through all this stuff with their supposed “family” that we all know that counselling when your younger doesn’t help too much because if something is honestly wrong or you say something that they don’t thinks appropriate for a child to be feeling like killing themselves or someone else then they have to report it to your parents when it’s meant to be confidential.
I wish we all had the rights to privacy !
for those of us who came on here thinking about killing themselves I get your position. Things have happened with my family too that makes me want to just give up and I don’t want this site replying back with how did that make you feel because it made me feel like absolute trash . It’s annoying how people try to compete with your situation cause every single flipping one is different
when you try talking to friends that aren’t the most supportive or aren’t good with advice for these situations it’s annoying like you could say my stepdad hit me today and they could reply with oh that’s too bad but it could be worse you could go hungry today or not have any more food in your lunch box left for today just like me .
It’s like just shut up and stop. All we want to do is have someone we can constantly be around that makes us feel good about ourselves and doesn’t put us down.
Again when it comes to suicide please before you do anything just let everything out , give it a good ********ing cry !!! But don’t kill yourself because there’s always something better out there it’s what I believe! Just think about the future. Remember that nothing can always come easy. But if your ever thinking to kill yourself don’t because if you think about it this way that maybe in the future you could have a child that will cure cancer or hell even COVID or maybe you could discover another planet or a way that helps human kind then don’t take that away from the earth
you have these people that you have in your life for a reason , just think about that . Think about the day when the bad people will be gone and your still alive. Don’t darken your life try to make it brighter.

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Hi there,

Thank you for contacting us here at NRS and we appreciate you being so honest about what you are going through. It takes a lot of strength to be vulnerable and express the hurt you are feeling. It sounds like your step dad often talks down to you and calls you really hurtful names. This type of treatment, especially from an adult who is supposed to make you feel safe and supported, is not okay. We want you to know that you are not alone in this and we are here 24/7 to listen and support you.

Sometimes when someone feels a lot of hard emotions that are getting overwhelming, self-harm is used as a release for all of those painful emotions. It is completely normal to need ways to process and cope with those difficult feelings and we want to help keep you safe. If you are interested in talking to someone about how you are feeling and brainstorming ways to cope, you can text with a counselor by texting "connect" to 741741 or you can chat with someone at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ . For some individuals, getting creative can be a great way to process feelings and to take your mind away from thoughts about self harm. Maybe you enjoy writing, poetry, creating art, or listening to music, or something else creative.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. Perhaps there is a family member, friend, counselor, or teacher you could reach out to for support and a safe space to talk. If you are not ready to talk to someone in person yet, the resources we provided are 24/7 and confidential. Additionally, you can reach out to the NRS hotline or live chat to talk.

If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

I have had to deal with a lot of bad stuff from my stepdad and I am 12 years old but I still flinch when I am in the same room as him, he calls me lazy, brat, useless, dumb, worthless, weak, and lots of other names. I want to run away every single day I feel worthless and have had severe anxiety and depression since I was 5 years old. I started cutting my wrists when I was 10, the pain of his disapproval stings worse than the knives.

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Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone 800-RUNAWAY or chat at www.1800runaway.org for immediate services.
Thank you,
NRS

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Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out. There is absolutely NO reason that parents or stepparents should bully their children. It's not right. And it takes courage to try and talk more seriously to your parents about how their behavior makes you feel.

A couple of suggestions: the first is to see about talking to your school counselor about this. often they can be supportive and may be a good sounding board regarding ways to address this. Another suggestion is to try and talk to any other adults that you trust that you may be able to confide in for support. Finally, you can reach out to a couple of hotlines that can offer support and advice, such as:
www.kidsincrisis.org - (203) 622-6556 or www.childhelp.org/ - (800) 422-4453.

Again, you do not deserve to be bullied. It is not right. Thank you for reaching out. National Runaway Safeline is open 24/7 and you can call, text at anytime.

NRS

my stepdad is also like this and im 13