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  • #76
    I hate my step dad he hit me in my face for no reason

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    • ccsmod6
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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry to hear that your step dad is treating you in such an inappropriate and hurtful manner. It is never okay for someone to hit you and he should know that. If you feel unsafe in the home or would like someone to investigate what is going on at your home, it might be in your interest to consider reporting. If you want to look into that option more, please reach out to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org. If you want to talk more about your situation or about what other options you might have, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us at our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • #77
    My step dad hates me so much,im the only one in the house with a different last name he always treats me like crap,he pushes me up against the wall and yells at me constantly and it sucks and im just so tired of it like i cant stand him anymore,he aims his fist at me a lot and trys to wrestle me whenever i tell him how i feel about the way he treats me,he always is nice to his kids he tells them he loves them and how much he cares about them ,he always tells me how worthless i am and how im so stupid, like when i go work for a neighbor like house sitting when i come back he yells at me as soon as i go in the door all because i got to go relax and sit on the couch while he does all the work here like i shouldn't get yelled at for working, when i get money and try to hide it in my room he always finds it and takes it and says why would i want your money its as worthless as you are,i just want to leave and not do this anymore thank you for listening

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    • ccsmod10
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

      You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

      If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #78
    i heard my step dad that he hates me..is it my fault?

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    • ccsmod6
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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your step dad is saying those kinds of hurtful and unnecessary things behind your back. It is not your fault if someone doesn't like you. That is something that they themselves have to deal with. Especially as he is an adult, he should be expected to handle how he feels in a productive and understanding manner. If he has a problem with you, it is his responsibility to communicate with you and figure out how to work through things. If you want to talk more specifically about what is going on or how you are feeling, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • #79
    Tired of it all

    I love my mom to bits and my dad too but my dad doesn't act the same he used to beat me and hit me and he yells a me for no good reason, he acts like im plotting against him or something i dont get it he is always on my back anytime i have fun whether it be on a game or with my friends as long as im not playing basket ball thats all he wants me to do. He acts like im a item for him and my mom does nothing about it. He is obsessed it basket ball and i cant even tell him he made me loose interest in my favorite thing in the world and i no longer wanna do it. I just want to leave with my mom we have thaught about it before but she never goes through with it, he emotionally abuses both of us and pishically abuses me. i am homeshooled this year im with him alot more, he acts like just because he is rich he can do what ever he wants and if i say anything back he never lets go of it. my life is a liveing hell between him makeing me play basketball till i vomit, him hiting and yelling at me constantly, and my mom not standing up to him, i cant deal with it and am confused please give me some advice.

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    • ccsmod16
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      Hello,

      We're glad you reached out to us. We'll try to help. It's unfortunate that your dad beats you and yells at you as well as your mother. You both deserve to live in a safe and caring home. It must be difficult for your mother to deal with the abuse and also worry about you. You might want to report the abuse to the children protective services or the police. You might want to call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1800-422-4453. They might be able to offer you advice. It's understandable that you and your mom want to leave that violent environment.

      You might want to call us at 1800-RUNAWAY to talk about the situation and think about options. We are here 24/7 and are confidential.

      Good luck.

  • #80
    I need help my stepdad who calls himself my "dad" hates me. First of all, when I was little my mom never wanted my stepdad to touch me because she thought he was going to do something to me. Now that I'm 14 everything has changed my life is a living hell. I hate my stepdad, If I talk about boys or something he will say something. He treats me terrible and I hate it. He is so rude and I hate him so much. I can't explain what he does to me. I hate him so much. I wanted to be a cheerleader and I can't anymore because when my stepdad saw the cheerleaders with that uniform he didn't like it. Why cant my parents seem to understand that they shouldn't see everything in a negative way. My stepdad puts always conditions and he is trying to control my life. He is not a dad he is a **********. He literally touches me like something else. My mom doesn't have any idea and my stepdad told me to keep t a secret but I can't anymore. I didn't want this but it is all about my mom's happiness and I care about her even if she doesn't realize it. She is so blind and I hope she finds it soon. I understand everything but my parents see everything from another perspective, My mom calls me dumb and she doesn't have any idea of what she is doing. I don't care about what my stepdad thinks because he is faking. What kind of dad is he if he's not respecting me like he is supposed to treat me. I don't respect him because he doesn't respect me that's the reason why I always talk back to him because he doesn't deserve it and also that's why I hate wearing tank tops and shorts because he is a perv. I can't say anymore because it hurts me a lot. I NEED HELP is my mom's happiness vs mine. My stepdad is a ********ing asshole and I don't know how to control this because if I say something I will ruin my family and I have to think about my little siblings. They seem so happy and I just don't want to be the one to blame. I just had to say something. Now I don't matter to my family I'm now the least favorite child.

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hi there,

      Thank you so much for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you care a lot about your family, but your situation is making it hard for you to take care of yourself. Know that you deserve to always feel safe and happy at home. Your well-being is a priority.

      You mentioned how your stepfather touches you inappropriately and makes you feel uncomfortable. You also mentioned that he pressured you to keep it a secret. One form of sexual assault, as defined by RAINN (the Rape Abuse Incest National Network, 1-800-656-4673 or rainn.org), is “unwanted sexual touching.” Know that abuse of any kind is never ok and that it is not the fault of the victim. RAINN is an organization that would have specific resources for victims of sexual abuse and sexual harassment.

      Again, you do not deserve to be called demeaning names by your parents. Severe and repeated name calling can also fall under the category of verbal and emotional abuse. Resources like ours (1-800-RUNAWAY), Child Help (1-800-422-4453), and RAINN (1-800-656-4673) are organizations that can help you navigate potentially filing abuse reports with the police or figure out coping mechanisms if you do not feel safe reaching out to authorities. Also know that like us, many organizations will have mandated reporting policies: if you give information such as your full name, your abuser’s full name, and your location, the person with whom you are speaking may be responsible for reaching out to the police with this information.

      Another option you have is to talk to your mother or another trusted adult or family member about your situation. At the NRS we offer conference calls where we would moderate a call between you and your mom to provide you with support and make sure that the call is productive and safe. These calls are often found to be helpful in having difficult discussions like these. Also, because we are confidential, details that you share with us on the line alone will not be repeated.

      We are here for you 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY and our line is toll-free and confidential. On a call, we would be able to explore these options and more in further depth.

      Stay Strong,
      NRS

  • #81
    hi, my name is Brayden and I've been feeling depressed and sad for a long time im stressed about school and my grades keep dropping because Iv'e just lost interest in even trying to do things anymore. My stepdad acts like a bully sometimes i still kinda love him but he calls me and my family mean names and just takes away everything i have. I come home every day and just sleep and cry, but today me and my sister were just playing and he overreacts and he grounded me because she fell down the stairs and i punched the wall and my fist hurts. but i screamed **** you and he took everything else i have and i have the urge of starting to smoke or vape, im only 12 1/2. and i just got done crying and searching for help online. he is always mean to me and my siblings and i have the thought of suicide or running away. and since im turning 13 soon i can decide who i want to live with but i love my mom and i love my dad, this is stressing me out and i need advice on what to do. i just keep feeling sad all the time and i just want a new family(nice ones). my grades are dropping in school as i just don't even try or care anymore.

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    • ccsmod13
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      Hey Brayden, thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. It sounds like you are going through a lot of stress at home and are trying to weigh your options moving forwards with your situation at home with your stepdad and others. Reaching out to us is a great first step and we are here to listen and help you as best we can. We are going to talk about a few things here and if you want to talk further just know we are here 24/7 if you are comfortable calling us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chatting with us at 1800runaway.org.

      If you feel like you are in danger at home or kill yourself, you always have the right to call 911 for police and other emergency services. We want you to know we care about your wellbeing, and your safety. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is also a great option to talk to someone if you feel you may hurt or kill yourself, or even just to talk. They can be reached at 800-273-8255 and have an online chat at suicidepreventionlifeline.org. They are 24/7, free, and confidential and offer support for people and you do not have to be actively suicidal to call. We are also always here for you to support you in any way we can.

      It sounds like your stepdad has been involved in a lot of frustration at home as you said he calls you means names and grounds you after overreacting about situations, but you do still love him and your mom. It may be something you have tried, but we want to mention that an option could be to try to talk to your stepdad and mom about how they are treating you and how that makes you feel. This could be a way to explore talking about their actions like calling you names and seeing if a discussion can bring a compromise to this topic. You do not have to do this alone, you can always think about bringing in a third party like a friend, trusted adult, teacher, etc. to bring in a different perspective. Sometimes having help from someone outside of the family can bring attention to the issue and offer safe ways to bring about change in the home. If you do not feel that is the safest option, we can always brainstorm other ideas that you feel may work and talk about them if you can reach out to us again.

      Also, school could be a resource as you talked about your grades dropping in school. If you have a trusted teacher or guidance counselor, they may be an option to talk to about your grades and also what has been going on at home if you are comfortable. They may be a supportive service for you if you want to talk about your grades dropping and maybe getting help with grades and other aspects of what has been going on.

      If you can reach out to us again, we would love to hear more about what is going on if you are comfortable. It takes a lot of bravery to reach out to us and talk about what has been going on. We do truly care about you. We can also create a safety plan with what you decide to do and we can brainstorm with what you want to do in the safest way. If you want to talk further, we are always here 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we also have a chat system at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon!

  • #82
    My stepdad hates me and I don’t know why. He makes fun of me, screams and yells at me, shows no emotion toward me, and it feels like I’m only good for cleaning.
    I feel like I’m worth nothing and amount to nothing In my family, after all I am one of the screw ups. I dont want to live here, I’m not doing any good for them. I want to leave I need to escape. Please help me. I don’t know what to do or where to go. Please help me.

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now, if you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being abused. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are worth something and don’t let how your stepdad treats you influence that if you can help it. Everyone makes mistakes but that doesn’t make you a screw up, your family should be there to support you and help you learn from your mistakes instead of put you down for them.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #83
    I hate my step-dad. He yells at my mom for my actions when they're not that bad. I stay inside all day because of my loss of self-confidence. My step-father is a belligerent, overconfident, manipulative man who I can't stand to be around. My biological father won't be able to help me since he barely has enough for him self. I have no friends. I have no other family that could help. I don't even want be around my mom or my real dad since my dad can't keep a job, and my mom won't stand up for me. I feel like a burden. I don't want to be anyone's problem, I just want to disappear. I live in Pennsylvania, and will be turning 16 in two months if that has any relevance to my situation.

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    • #84
      Hi there,
      You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your stepfather. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or
      www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.

      We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.
      Be safe,
      NRS
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

      National Runaway Safeline
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