My stepdad hates me and I can't stay here any longer.

Tired of it all

I love my mom to bits and my dad too but my dad doesn't act the same he used to beat me and hit me and he yells a me for no good reason, he acts like im plotting against him or something i dont get it he is always on my back anytime i have fun whether it be on a game or with my friends as long as im not playing basket ball thats all he wants me to do. He acts like im a item for him and my mom does nothing about it. He is obsessed it basket ball and i cant even tell him he made me loose interest in my favorite thing in the world and i no longer wanna do it. I just want to leave with my mom we have thaught about it before but she never goes through with it, he emotionally abuses both of us and pishically abuses me. i am homeshooled this year im with him alot more, he acts like just because he is rich he can do what ever he wants and if i say anything back he never lets go of it. my life is a liveing hell between him makeing me play basketball till i vomit, him hiting and yelling at me constantly, and my mom not standing up to him, i cant deal with it and am confused please give me some advice.

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Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your step dad is saying those kinds of hurtful and unnecessary things behind your back. It is not your fault if someone doesn't like you. That is something that they themselves have to deal with. Especially as he is an adult, he should be expected to handle how he feels in a productive and understanding manner. If he has a problem with you, it is his responsibility to communicate with you and figure out how to work through things. If you want to talk more specifically about what is going on or how you are feeling, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

Take care,
NRS

i heard my step dad that he hates me..is it my fault?

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

Be safe,
NRS

My step dad hates me so much,im the only one in the house with a different last name he always treats me like crap,he pushes me up against the wall and yells at me constantly and it sucks and im just so tired of it like i cant stand him anymore,he aims his fist at me a lot and trys to wrestle me whenever i tell him how i feel about the way he treats me,he always is nice to his kids he tells them he loves them and how much he cares about them ,he always tells me how worthless i am and how im so stupid, like when i go work for a neighbor like house sitting when i come back he yells at me as soon as i go in the door all because i got to go relax and sit on the couch while he does all the work here like i shouldn't get yelled at for working, when i get money and try to hide it in my room he always finds it and takes it and says why would i want your money its as worthless as you are,i just want to leave and not do this anymore thank you for listening

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Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry to hear that your step dad is treating you in such an inappropriate and hurtful manner. It is never okay for someone to hit you and he should know that. If you feel unsafe in the home or would like someone to investigate what is going on at your home, it might be in your interest to consider reporting. If you want to look into that option more, please reach out to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org. If you want to talk more about your situation or about what other options you might have, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us at our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

Take care,
NRS

I hate my step dad he hit me in my face for no reason

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Hi there
,
You did the right thing by reaching out. You don’t deserve to be talked to or treated like that. Nobody does. We’re so sorry you’re going through this and we’re here to help.
It will be important to talk with someone soon. The thoughts you’re having surely feel awful. You’re not alone in having them. Many people who go through such abuse have suicidal thoughts; they can be an indicator that you’re not in a supportive situation and need help. The important things to remember right now are:
You’re not alone
There are people in the world who want to help you
You’re important and deserve to be in a supportive and loving household
And you have options. If you ever feel in danger of hurting yourself, please don’t hesitate to call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800.273.8255 or visit suicidepreventionlifeline.org.
What is happening at home could be considered abuse. If you’d like to talk to someone about what to do about it, you can contact Child Help at 800.422.4453 or visit childhelp.org.
Also, if you’re in a dangerous situation in your home, and feel at all threatened by a member of your family, you can call 911 for emergency help. Your safety is the most important thing.

Finally, if you want someone to talk to right away, you can always call us at 1800RUNAWAY or chat with us at 1800runaway.org. We’re here to listen and here to help 24/7. We’re completely confidential and can talk more about the situation and help you form a plan of what to do next.
Please don’t hesitate to reach out to any of the numbers and sites above. Remember, you’re not alone, you matter and there are people who want nothing more than to help you. We hope you reach out to us and/or any of the resources above soon.

And we wish you the best!
-NRS

I need help please

I am only 12 but my stepdad treets me like garbage he and my mom talk bad about me infront of he is always insulting and he is always I don’t give a **** if you aren’t my son you should have nothing and to make matters worse my mom joins in all of this and hits me and pulls my hair so does my uncle and I am tired of every thing I’ve had suicidal thoughts since I was 9 please help me

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. So from what we can gather there isn’t much out near where you are. However it might be best to give us a call and we can help see if we can help with finding long term programs for you and your baby. We recommend calling us or using our chat option because we would need more information from your end to find you something. We typically only respond to forums once or twice so it is recommended you use the chat or call options avaliable. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

MY mean step dad. ok my step dad is mean one time when i was sleeping at his house he came in and said lay your ass down so when me and my mom were talking about going to lost dog. He started screaming at me and my mom and said y'all are not going to lost dog he also calls me names like little ********, and mistake. When we first met he was so nice he got me a phone for my birthday. he also texted me and said he hated me and said my grandmom was a idiot so now i am depressed i hope the best for everyone with mean stepdads and moms i was talking to teachers at school he also said that i am ruining his and my moms relationship i have been telling my mom to break up with him but she then gets really mad at me my grandmom has been taking me to a phsyciatrist but its so hard for me i hope the best for all of y'all.

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Run away

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline .

It sounds like you have been going through a lot of stress with your parent’s and you are trying to find a way to make things better. We understand that you are feeling upset about the way they have been treating you. You did a good job by reaching out to NRS.
It sounds like because of everything you’ve been going through you sometimes resort to cutting. Your safety is important. Even though you are feeling the way that you do there may be alternatives to try that might be safe for you to try. Sometimes it might help to talk with someone. Perhaps the friend or her mom you mentioned might be someone you could talk to. Sometimes having someone take the time to listen can be helpful with bring some temporary relief to a stressful situation.

You also welcome to call or chat with someone on our 24hr crisis line 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or at www.1800runaway.org (Live chat). We are here to listen and here to help no matter the circumstances.

We can provide an open forum where you can communicate and express your feelings.
If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore options we would love to hear from you.

Take care,
NRS

Run away

I feel like my parents hate me. My stepdad and mom don’t trust me, they go through my phone, my computer, everything. I’ve been dating a guy for 3 months and I love him, he’s helped me through a lot. I know three months isn’t that long, but he’s literally stopped me from killing myself. They forced me to break up with him. my mom yells at me all the time, my stepdad is always screaming or telling me in doing something wrong, my real dad and my stepmom don’t accept me and can’t take care of me. I cry all the time and I’ve cut myself a lot. I don’t think my parents care. I just want to run away, but I don’t know where to go or what to pack. My friend might let me stay with her, but my parents would find me. I just want to leave and live somewhere else, and be with my boyfriend again. I want to ask my friends mom to adopt me, but my parents probably won’t let her. I really want to run away. What do I do?

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Hi there and thanks for reaching out!
Sounds like things are really stressful living with your stepdad and it is taking a toll on your mentally. It sounds like he gets angry easily and that can be really hard to deal with.

Perhaps there is another adult whom you feel comfortable talking with: friend's parents, aunt, uncle, cousin, grandparent, neighbor, family friend. We are also 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929 and online via our chat at the top of the page, so feel free to reach out anytime to talk more about all this! We also offer conference calling if you think having a third party help facilitate a conversation with your mom would be helpful. Again, reach us at 1-800-786-2929 to do that conference call.

There is also other supports for you regarding the depression and anxiety you are feeling. You can text a volunteer counselor anytime at 741-741 or find a local therapist, counselor or support group by calling NAMI at 1-800-950-NAMI or contacting SAMHSA at samhsa.gov. They have an online map of resources based on city and state where you can find local support.

We also have a large database of affordable/free, youth-specific services that we can provide you with if you call or chat us directly.

Thanks again for reaching out. We understand that takes a lot of courage and strength!

Best of luck and stay safe!

My step dad hates me

My step dad has never liked me and in the beginning I tried to be civil and get him to like me as I longed for a father figure, but with his bursts of anger and him blaming EVERYTHING on me (like one time he found a staple on the floor and got mad at me for it although it was a staple gun staple and he was hanging insulation up) its minor things like that all the time and I'm afraid my chances have run out for him. I have no money and can't get away from this house...I'm so stressed and have depression and anxiety bcuz of him. I just want to leave this house and never come back, but I have no where to go no money to go, I'm stuck in this stupid house that I don't feel safe in anymore. I just want a place to feel safe and loved again...