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  • #46
    My step dad has called me a piece of **** multiple times and he called my dog worthless. I dontdolike that.

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      Hello, thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear about what is happening with your stepdad. We are here to help however we can.

      It seems like some of the things your step dad is saying about you and your dog are really triggering and hurting you. If you feel like what he is doing feels abusive or threatening and you would like to report this you have the option of contacting your local child protective services or reach out to Child Help, the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1800-422-4453 or at www.childhelp.org. Possibly notifying another trusted adult in your life about what is happening may give you someone to talk to about how this is making you feel. If you would like, you always have the option of calling in to us at 1800-RUNAWAY to talk about this as well. We want you to know that you do not deserve to be treated this way.

      Again, thank you for reaching out to the NRS. We are 24/7, are toll free and confidential. We hope you for the best for you.
      -NRS
      We hope this response was helpful! We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • #47
    I'm 16 years old and I live with a stepdad that constantly thinks he has to prove that he's so much stronger than me and so he hints at the fact he could beat me in fights and says things like "so don't try anything" and quite a few times "come on then" and asks me to take the first punch. Don't get me wrong I could probably beat him if I went all out purely on the feeling of rage he gives me when he constantly tells me to tidy his things up like I'm some sort of maid. The worst part of this is that he kinda rubbing of on my mum and she's usually the nicest kind of person going but since my stepdad started dishing out the punishments she just went silent and then she started doing the same as him. What I'm basically asking is how can I fix this without losing my mum and sisters. The only thing I want is for him to be gone and by gone I don't care if he moves half way around the world or dies. He's just so patronising and whenever my mum is telling me off for something small he always, without fail, joins in and makes it seem 10 times worse than it really is and takes all my things off me for weeks. Some of the thing so he takes is from my dads side aswell so it's not like he even has any right to be taking them. Recently he always goes on about how I'm 16 now and if I don't "buck up my ideas" he'll kick me out. I think that's what pisses me off the most cuz he's only been here for like two years and he's already acting like he owns me. I'm just so sick of living with someone so patronising and pathetic to constantly want to prove that he's 'sooo much better' than me when In fact he's a low life piece of ******** that needs to drive off a cliff.

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    • ccsmod7
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      Hi,

      Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of courage to seek out help. You deserve to be loved by your family and to feel safe at home.

      If you're considering other living options in order to remove yourself from a toxic home environment, you have several options available to you if you are located in the United States. First, depending on your state of residence you may already be close to becoming an adult in the eyes of your state's laws. You can look up the "age of majority" in your state, which is the age of legal adulthood. Second, you can apply to your local courthouse for emancipation, which if approved would enable you to be recognized as an adult. We should note that this option can be a bit extensive / time-consuming, and emancipation is not guaranteed. Third, you could reach out to Child Protective Services in your area (which is typically through your city or county government) and explain your situation to them in order to explore the possibility of entering the foster care system or another alternative care arrangement, such as receiving legal approval to live with a family member or other adult. Fourth, you could reach out to the police and report abuse, which may facilitate your case with Child Protective Services, as the case would likely ultimately be handled by them. If you decide to run away and stay with a family member, friend, or at a shelter or other living situation, you run the risk of being reported by your parents to the local police as a runaway, which means they may seek you out in order to return you home. It is not illegal to runaway, but if you were found by your parents or the police, you would have to return to them unless you had success in one of the steps we mentioned earlier.

      There are also other hotlines available out there that may have some additional helpful information. Child Help is available at childhelp.org or 1-800-422-4453. You should also feel free to reach out to us by phone anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you are in the U.S.

      Best of luck,

      NRS

  • #48
    I really can't stand it any longer. My step dad is very rude. I was around 5 or 6 years old when my mom started seeing my step dad. Initially I was told he is like an uncle to me. My brain had registered him as only an uncle. Someone I just have to see for a few days and weekends. It was a huge curve in my road to learn that my mother was marrying him. I was a kid back then. I didn't really know that they were really serious when they talked about marriage. Also my parents had just divorced. It was very difficult for me to not miss him. I never told my mom, but I missed him terribly. Even though I know they never worked out, I should at least be allowed to see him on the weekends but I don't even get that right.
    Soon after my mom married my step dad, I was sent away to boarding school. It was very difficult to change my uncle mindset to dad mindset. I even have to call him that instead of uncle and it feels like every time I do call him I remember that there was another person in this place. Boarding school just made me very bitter and rude. I tried to remain a kid at home and that worked because holidays were very little. Back at Boarding, I was again my old self. 6 years in boarding changed everything in my life. And then I heard that my mom was pregnant. I made a decision to leave boarding after my brother was born. It was a huge decision in my life. I had consider everything, my friends, my studies. But I wanted to be play a role in my brother's childhood.
    And now I'm here with my brother, and I hate my life. Almost every week, i have major fights with my step dad and all my mother does is stand and watch. She doesn't even acknowledge me. It's like slowly slowly I don't even know who my mom is. She is a very changed person. I feel like I'm no longer needed in this place. I just want this all to go away. I consider running away but I love my mom no matter who she is and I can't afford to see her in pain. There is nothing I can do, I'm only 12.

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    • ccsmod7
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      Hi,

      Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you are under a lot of stress. On the one hand, you want to run away to get away from the pain of your family life, but on the other hand, you don’t want to hurt your mom. It must be tough being in a conflict like this. We are so glad that you reached out!

      It certainly makes sense that your mom marrying someone who you thought of as an uncle was very upsetting. That must be hard to switch in your mind from uncle to step-dad. It also makes sense that you miss your biological dad.

      From reading your post, it’s apparent that you must really love your brother—you left boarding school, which you seemed to have really been enjoying. You must be a very good big sibling.

      Getting into fights is definitely not fun at all, especially when it is with someone you live with, like your step-dad. It also must be very frustrating and hurtful that your mom is not stepping in to defend you. I imagine it’s scary to see your mother changing.

      If you’d like to talk to someone about what’s going on with you, please feel free to call us on our 24/7, confidential hotline at 1-800-786-2929. You can also chat with us online at https://m2.icarol.com/ConsumerRegist...=64382&pid=254. We are here to listen and to help in any way that we can.

  • #49
    My stepdad who has adopted me (4 years ago) treats me like garbage. I try and try to show him love but he doesn't seem to care. He controls the family and its getting to the point to where it's crazy. He has threatened me about selling my car, so I wouldn't have a way to get around in college all because I wanted to drive myself to the gas station to get a drink because I was tired of drinking water. If he doesn't get what he wants he throws a huge fit and starts blaming the kids and cussing at us. If my mom says I can go out with friends my dad says no and that's the final answer, because what my mom says doesn't matter to him. I basically feel like a prisoner in this house. Us kids are always too scared to even talk to him or ask him something because he will snap at us for no reason. I don't know what to do anymore?

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    • ccsmod10
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runway Safeline. We appreciate you contacting us in your time of need, it was very brave of you.

      It sounds like your home life isn’t very happy for you because of your step-dad. You never deserve to be talked down to or brought down. Your feelings are valid. You should never feel fearful in your own home.

      We offer a conference calling service, between youth and their parents. If you ever wanted our help talking to your mom about how you feel at home because of your step-dad, we're always here to make that call with you. Maybe there’s another family member you’d rather live with that your mom can be okay with? We also have legal aid resources in our database. While we’re not law experts, we can try to find one in your area, there may be legal ways for you to be able to move out of your house. We’re here to try to brainstorm options with you. Unfortunately, we’re non-directive at NRS, so we aren’t able to give you advice or tell you what the right decision is.

      We hope our response is helpful. Also, talking to school counselors and teachers about what’s going on at home could provide you with great support. You are not alone in this. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center if you'd like to talk more about your situation.

      Be safe, NRS

  • #50
    I know how you feel exept it's for the most part the opposite. My step dad doesn't like me but doesn't hate me. However I absolutely hate him and actually came across this forum by searching up how to get my step dad kicked out of the family. I've tried running away but it never works unless you have a reason that keeps you from coming back like physical or sexual abuse. If it's just that you don't get along just wait until you can move out

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hello, Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that things did not work out for you when you left home. It sounds like you and your stepdad have a strained relationship and you would prefer him to not be a part of your life anymore. Leaving your home can be difficult epically if you do not have the right kind of support. If you would like to talk more about ways that you can make living at home more bearable or ways to make sure you are supported, Please give us a call 1-800-786-2929
      Best wishes,
      NRS

  • #51
    I'm 39 now and back at home with my mom and step dad. In the beginning of their relationship 27 years ago, I knew the nice in him wasn't going to last long. And my institution about him was dead on. After 2 months of being with my mom, he became an a-hole and my siblings and I started hating him. He'd whoop the s#it out of us for back talking (in our young minds, verbal self defense), and our mom just allowed it. He would ********** to our mom if he had issues he didn't see fit when we were teens, and she would have to be the a-hole and it always boiled down to us telling her that we hated her and telling her she didn't love us like she used to. Living away from home my bond with my mom was better, but I could tell that my step dad still hated me. At first I excused his s#it step parenting as "tough love", but after 16 years of being away from home and now living at home again, it definitely wasn't " tough love". To this day, even as an adult who has been through a lot worse beyond my childhood, he has no shame in being a d!ck to me, no shame in going back to old habits (putting a wicked wedge between my mom and I), and his mouth and thoughts are unfiltered. He enjoys being a mean a-hole to especially me. I have to walk on eggshells around him, I hide in my room to avoid him and tbh my mom too. I day dream about me going off on him and putting his a$$ in check, but I know I'd be homeless if my day dream became a reality. Anyway. Good luck sweetie. Maybe one day you'll whoop your step dad and put him in his place.

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hello,
      Thank you for contacting us today. We are sorry to hear about your relationship with your step dad. We understand that these kinds of relationships can be extremely frustrating, difficult to deal with, and essentially toxic for your wellbeing. However, as you may know, because you are over 18 years old, you do have the option of moving out and living on your own. You may want to consider the steps you would need to take to do this, or brainstorm a way for you to be able to move out sometime in the near future. You mentioned that you would be homeless if you were to currently leave home. If this is the case, programs like 2-1-1 or Homeless Shelter Directory can easily help you find shelters in your area. The websites for these are 211.org and homelesshelterdirectory.org.
      You also might want to consider counseling, as this is a good way to talk about your feelings and come up with ways to cope with the stress you are experiencing living with your step dad. You can give us a call any time at 1-800-786-2929 if you need help finding any other resources.
      Best of luck to you!

  • #52
    I’m a fifteen year old female , and my stepdad hates me so so much. He’s been my stepdad for eleven years and he has always treated me completely and utterly like trash. I feel extremely uncomfortable around him. When I was a child he was accused of molesting me and the charges were dropped and he was found not guilty. But my boyfriend of about six months just asked me tonight if I’ve ever been molested or anything of that concept and I told him about the thing when I was a child and he told me he thinks my stepdad does something to me. Every night my boyfriend and I FaceTime , he told me every night at 4 a.m my door opens. What can I do? I don’t feel comfortable or safe anymore I feel in danger.

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    • #53
      Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We're sorry to hear about all that has been going on and want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and happy in your home. Do you have anyone in your life, like another family member, school counselor or other adult you trust, that you feel you can talk about all of this to? It can help to have someone on your side to advocate for you and help you go through options. We are also here at 1-800-786-2929 if you want someone to talk to.

      We understand that it takes a great deal of courage to seek help. You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse and possible past sexual abuse that could still be reportable against your step dad. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at (1-800-422-4453) or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made. They could also help you sift through what you can or cannot report, and see if they can help with past abuse.

      You also have other organizations that are there to listen. Don't hesitate to reach out to the Rape Abuse Incest National Network (RAINN) at 1-800-656-4673 if you want to talk to someone about how you are feeling. They are there to support and listen.

      Stay safe,

      NRS
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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      • #54
        Hello everyone. I am 16 years old and well I have gone through the same as you guys. My stepdad when I was in 1st grade started to hit me a whole lot until he stopped hitting me when I was in the 7th grade. I could say there has been plenty of times where our arguments got so bad that it almost ended up in a fight and honestly he has broke me emotionally. You see he is a Marine veteran and now a Correctional officer in rikers island. I've been in mma training for many years now but I yet to have the guts to actually put up a fight with him and honestly he doesn't let me live the life I want to live. In his eyes he does nothing wrong and that I never do anything in life besides play video games and all he does is talk bad about me and always threatens either if it's not the playstation he doesn't take away he is going to punch me in my face. I guess I have been so traumatized by him hitting me when I was young that now everytime that he comes up to me I start having this really strong burst of an adrenaline rush inside of me and like makes me ready to fight him but I won't do it cause i feel too scared even if I have the fighting experience in my life and honestly I have thought hard about running away or killing him honestly that's how bad he has me right now like he doesn't let me live my life and let me enjoy my teenage hood. He gets mad when I'm even on my video games and even if I help my mom clean the house he doesn't like me touching my games he basically treats me like his dad used to treat him but yet he likes my younger brother. I think I've had enough and plus we all recently just moved and i liked the house for a while and well he ruined that for me.

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        • #55
          Hi there,

          Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We're sorry to hear about what has happened in the past and also currently with you and your stepdad and want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and happy in your home. We are not legal experts, but we can tell you that because you are a minor, if you leave and your parents file a runaway report, you could be returned home. There could also be legal consequences for whomever you stay with for what is called harboring a runaway. If you want a liner to help you walk through other options like us mediating a conference call between you and your parents, thinking through possible adults that you could turn to or could advocate for you, or things like emancipation and legal aid numbers, don't hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

          Do you feel like you can talk to your mom or another adult that you trust about the past or that can support you to get through these difficult times now? If not, we are always here, or you could reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline to talk to someone or get a referral to someone that could help you cope with past trauma. You also deserve to get help and be listened to, even if it happened a long time ago. Don't hesitate to reach out to us at any time.

          Stay safe,

          NRS
          Last edited by ccsmod1; 09-04-2018, 01:39 AM.
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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          [email protected] (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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          • #56
            i dont know why my stepdad hates me he doest care win my bother does some but i he yells and screams at me i dont know

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              Hi there,

              Thanks for reaching out to NRS!

              We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. It’s brave of you to reach out during your time of need.

              It sounds like you’re going through a lot right now. It’s understandable that you’re scared at home. You never deserve to be yelled at in any situation. How you're being treated by step-dad is wrong. You’re always able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with someone you trust, as far as transferring custody. NRS is able to conference call with you if you need help making the abuse report, or we can make one for you. After an abuse report is made, CPS will investigate it.

              We also have legal aid resources in our database, they are experts of the law that may be able to help you and your sister.

              We hope our response is helpful. We’re here to try to brainstorm options with you. Also, talking to school counselors and teachers about what’s going on at home could provide you with great support. You are not alone in this. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center if you'd like to talk more about your situation.

              Be safe, NRS

          • #57
            My stepdad is horrible simply horrible He will never admit when he’s wrong and will argue with anyone he’s loud in public and is not afraid to scream at a woman or an aware baby I honestly think he hates me and my brother just yesterday I was just arguing with him over a computer for school and when he realized he was wrong he wasn’t going to get me one my whole family is suffering all he does is watch movies all day while we work our asses off all day because we arue women according to him I really can’t stand him anymore I wish my mom just got a divorce and went back to my dad

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              Hi there,

              Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re in a tough situation with your stepdad and he is not treating you or your family well.
              If you’re able to, I would encourage you to reach out to a trusted adult, teacher, relative or friend that you can talk to and potentially help you mediate a conversation with your parents about your current situation.

              At NRS, we do offer conference calling, where you can call into our hotline and then we would reach out to your parents. Some people find this as a helpful opportunity to tell someone how they are feeling and what they are struggling with, with someone else on the phone to be an advocate. If you were interested in trying this, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

              We can also connect you with individual or family counseling resources in your area that are affordable. It may help to talk with a professional therapist about what is going on either just to vent, or to get some advice. Feel free to give us a call and we can look into this option – we are available 24/7/
              We wish you the best of luck

          • #58
            My stepdad hates me because im not his kid and he tells me all the time. He does nothing around the house except complain or yell at me i've never liked my stepdad and i never will. He yells at me calling me a b****, piece of s***, and sometimes a lazy slob. He told me that if i dont get my chores done before he gets home that i might as well start packing. Im 17 almost 18 in feb and i want to just get out of here i can't take it anymore and im tired of crying and my mom never stands up for me the only person i tell everything to is my grandma and everyone on my moms side of the family hates him. Ive thought about taking my life but dont have the courage to do it but those thoughts always cross my mind. My stepdad said that if i dont get a job that im probably not going to college cause he's not helping me out and i still dont have a car, and ive told him multiple times if i dont have a car how will i get to this job cause he's not taking me and he tells me to figure it out im already stressed with school, basketball, and going home. I shouldnt be scared to come home. what should i do?

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              We want to thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that life can be difficult and often times hard. We want you to know that we are here to listen and help. You do not deserve to be put down and constantly told you are worthless. You matter. You deserve to be loved and treated right no matter what.
              Unfortunately our aim is not to tell you what to do rather inform you on your options. From there it is your decision as to what you would like to do next. What you should know however is that if you feel you are in danger you have the right to inform the police or school official about that. Some other options are that you can call us here at NRS (1-800-786-2929) where we can talk more about options such as the potential for you to find a transitional housing program, shelter, or any program to help you get ahead if you feel that home will not be able to help you in that goal. It also seems like you might have more people who might want to help on your mom’s side. I might be a good idea to seek help from one of them. They might be able to help get you on your feet. You mentioned suicide earlier we realize that suicide is a serious issue and would also recommend that if you have thoughts or are contemplating suicide you can reach out to us at NRS or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255). You matter and you deserve to be heard and cared for.
              Again thanks so much for reaching out to us. We know it takes a lot to seek out help and advice. We hope that the options mentioned above are helpful and can help pave a way positive solution to the situation you find yourself in. If you do happen to have more questions or concerns please do not hesitate to call us at (1-800-786-2929) or online on our chat option at www.1800runaway.org.
              Best Wishes – NRS

          • #59
            I have lived with me grandparents since 2 years old and at 14 and a half i got kicked out for doing stuff with a guy, that i should not have dont and had to move in with my mom, which my mom seemed excited at first, but then my stepdad and my mom always seem to fight and every time they get in a aureement my mom takes it out on me, and acts as if i did something wrong, its like i never do anything right, and i have a older brother im very close to were 7 months apart but i dont get to see him anymore bc he still lives with my grandparents and i have a 2 yr old brother and a MEAN 6 yr old step sister. my step sister hits my lil brother, tries to get him in trouble all the time calls him names and tells my mom i say i dont like her, when i have never said that, so i try to keep my distance but that doesnt work my mom yells at me saying i make a difference between her and my lil brother, when im not trying to i just always get in trouble for stuff i dont do bc of her,. ive had my phone taken for over a year now im 15 and still havent got it back, but im suposed to at tax time, and im not allowed to go to publice school bc ,y step sisters moms sister in a junior at the high school i was going to and tried starting drama with me. BUt everytime my step sis get in trouble like big trouble like hitting someone in the face lying to the teacher saying we dont have money so shell buy her stuff she has to sit on the couch for like 5 moins bc my mom says she feels bad , she gets away with everything, i cant even get away with making a b in school, and my mom treats me different when my step dad and step sis is a around like shes kinda hateful shes not the mom i used to know, and im afriad to talk to her and bout bc she wont think she is hatefull and shell make me go to my rooom and stay, oh and i have NO contact with anyone else my age, im not allowed to , like if i see my bestfriend since 3rd grade up until 9th when i had to movin with my mom , if i see her in public and give her a hug and say hey my mom acts like she gets mad. and we cant go outsude unless my stepdads home, and i feel as if im always judged, idk i just feel as my mom says she wants me to live my teenage life as long as i can bc when its over its over, but i feel like i cant , i have no way to. honestly it be nice just to get a weekend awy from her and calm down and me not always have to watch my gaurd or something. oh also my mom says she "feels bad" bc my stepp sis rarely gets to do after school activties for her school so she signed us all up for to go for some thing for her school that cost us mone, but my online school has free stuff i can do i just need her to take me and pick me up, but she wont, how come she doent feel bad that i dont get to do stuff for my school?

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            • ccsmod5
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              Hi,
              Thank you for sharing some of what’s going on at home. It sounds really frustrating that your mom treats your sister differently than she treats you. You mention that you’re afraid to talk to your mom because she might think that you’re being hateful. That’s a really valid concern, especially if your mom has seemed “kinda hateful” and different from the mom you used to know. One option you might consider is talking to your mom one-on-one or writing her a letter to let her know how you’ve been feeling. We know it can be difficult to have honest conversations with your family, so it could be a good idea to have another adult around that you trust so the conversation stays calm and fair. That adult could be a teacher, guidance counselor, therapist or family counselor, or even a friend’s parent. Here at NRS, we also offer conflict mediation through conference calling if you need help talking to your mom.
              In the meantime, please know that you deserve to be treated fairly and you deserve to feel supported. We encourage you to take care of yourself in whatever way you’re able, perhaps by cooking, exercising, writing, drawing, journaling, or any other thing you enjoy doing to separate yourself from the stress.
              Take care,
              NRS

          • #60
            So I'm 15 and having a quincenera in two days and it's hard with my parents divorced. Today my kinda of step father of 6 years is drunk and is talking ******** about my real dad which make me very upset and even tho my real dad makes me cry almost every day since he's been back from Yuma I still love him. But my kind of step father says he loves me and my brother and sister because he doesn't have any kids and that makes me cry because he sounds sad but him and my siblings and I are always arguing and usually My mom takes his side like today, they invited friends for thanksgiving and he got drunk and he come into the room saying these nice things to us and then when his friends left me and my brother went to get some food from the kitchen and then he started saying these thing about my dad when my mom was showering and he kept Slaming the door and when she got she talked to him and then called me into the room saying ' what did you tell him' and I said 'nothing he just came into the kitchen while me and my brtother were eating saying to I was going/ is getting fat and that I wouldn't fit in my dress and that he kept saying my dad would fix my dress in Spanish and that I couldn't understand what he was saying cause he was too drunk' and I was like okay okay. I wanted to cry when he called me fat even tho my mom, dad, brother, and sister has called me fat so many times it still gets to me because I'm so insecure and he started talking about how he wasn't going to my quinceneara all mad and then he started saying that if I wanted him to go and I already told him yes because my moms friend made my feel like a terrible person after I said I didn't want to dance with him for the father daughter dance and then he made me cry, which I try never to do infront of people because my dad says that I'm stupid for crying over dumb things, infront of him and my mom and then after he goes back into his room all mad I stay there crying infront of my mom and she tells me and mean voice to leave and go to sleep and she goes into the room and comes back out and goes to the kitchen and sits there saying why we're always arguing with him when he helps us and 'cares' for us and that he's part of this family, he makes me uncomfortable, I've thought about milking my self so many times but I've never gone through with it. I have light scar on my wrist and deep cuts on my thighs because they've called me fat and it hurts every time they say it and it never gets easier.

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              Hi there,
              Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
              Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
              If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); (www.1800runaway.org) (click on the chat button).
              We hope to hear from you soon.
              Be safe and stay strong,
              NRS
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