My stepdad hates me and I can't stay here any longer.

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Re: My stepdad hates me and I can't stay here any longer.

Thank you for using our bulletin service.
We are sorry to hear that you are not getting the kind of love and at attention that you would like from your stepdad. People do express love in different ways but no deserves to be called names or made to feel as if they are not loved. We are glad that you felt comfortable enough to open up to us about your situation. Hopefully we can help you out in your decision of if you are going to run away or not.
One service that we provide here is conference calls. This might be helpful for you if you have concerns about your stepdad not listening to you. During our conference calls one of our trained liners would be on the line with you and your stepdad and act as a mediator. We would make sure that both sides have a chance to voice their opinions and feelings in the situation. This time could be used to express to your stepdad how you are feeling without having to worry about him not listening or talking over you.
We cannot tell you what to do but we can help support you in your time of need. If you would like to give us a call and explore all options or conference with your dad feel free to give us a call at 1-800RUNAWAY.

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Re: My stepdad hates me and I can't stay here any longer.

Hi

My stepdad Hates me sometimes

One time i was look at videos and ask me to turn it off and and my room was like a pig room
Then my stepdad comes in and saying that to turn it off now! he hide the nbn box so i can't do anything and later that
day i find it and hide it

Then after i have eating i know he was looking for it so i hide and locked in the toilet
then i was saying i am not telling you he was trying to get the door down hit me so bad
mum does nothing and now i have a sis i don't what i am going to do anymore i just to move out

When he hits me so bad i have a Panic Attack and as you know it not healthy for your life or anything makes me so sad
he does all the time and i am only 13 i and i am in australia i don't have any friends only online
Help me!!!!!!
i and living in hell!!! D:

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Re: My stepdad hates me and I can't stay here any longer.

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us. It must be difficult adjusting to being around your stepdad and new sister. It sounds like a really stressful living situation. Have you ever told anyone about what has been happening at home (i.e family friend, school friend, relative, any one at school, etc)? Perhaps having someone to talk to about what you have been dealing with can help reduce some of that stress you've been feeling.

You do not deserve to have to go through abuse at home. No one has the right to hurt you. You desrve to feel safe and comfortable at home. It must have been awful to go through that and feel like your mom wasn’t on your side either. You might find useful this website: http://kidshelpline.com.au/. They have a hotline 1-800-55-1800 where you can call and just talk to someone about what you are going through and your situation at home. They also have a webchat that you can access here: http://kidshelpline.com.au/teens/get...t-counselling/.

We hope this is helpful. Please reach out to us if we can be of more help.

Stay strong,
NRS

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Re: My stepdad hates me and I can't stay here any longer.

My stepdad is so hard on me it makes me miserable and depressed that my therapist says im lacking motivation.Im scared to tell people how I feel.He does it because to him its hardlove.I have thoughts of running away but I have no idea where to go except go into the woods.He calls me fat and ***** and also wimp etc. Is this hardlove or hate?

I feel the same, my father calls me all those names but in NYC the laws on this are so strict. They can force me to go back home if I dont even come home on time and the cops will come looking for me.

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Re: My stepdad hates me and I can't stay here any longer.

Hello there,

We’re glad you found a place on our forum where you could relate, although we’re sorry you’re also being called names by your father. It sounds like you’re familiar with your local NYC laws even if they are stricter than you’d like. We imagine it’s frustrating to be forced back home if you aren’t in by curfew and having the cops look for you. Please know we’re here to listen and provide support to you too if you’d like to continue discussing your situation. Our Live Chat (instant messaging) opens today at 4:30pm CST/5:30pm EST if you’d like to give that a try. Good luck!

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Someone help me

When I was 7 years old, my grandpa died, and my mom and dad divorced in the same year, we used to live in Maine when they were together, but we moved back to lewisville, When I was 7 years old, my grandpa died, and my mom and dad divorced in the same year, we used to live in Maine when they were together, but we moved back to lewisville, Arkansas after the divorce, me and my brother would always play baseball or we were always doing something, my mom had 3 boyfriends in the matter of 4 years, the she broke up with her last one, then got together with this mixed guy named doland smith, I was very curious about the guy considering how I've never seen him around town before, anyways, a year went by and that's when he first went to jail, after that he changed A LOT, he hit my mom, at this time I am 12, then he just kept hitting her and hitting her until eventually he went to jail again, when he got out this time he swore he was a different person, I knew he wasn't, I tried to tell her but she just wouldn't listen, 2 years went by and he broke a couple of my moms ribs, then I started getting depressed because he was selling drugs, and that's just another life full of lies, My current age is 14, I am turning 15 in September, on Mother's Day, yes basically a week ago, I asked my mom if I could go to my bestfriends house, and she said yes just as long as you come back as soon as you wake up, so I went over there, the next day (mothers day) I woke up to a text from doland that said "it says a lot about a person when they aren't even here for Mother's Day, I wish I could be with my mom ( his mom died about a year in a half ago), so originally, I said something back that he didn't like, and ya know, I got called things, (I am a very good kid, never really does anything wrong, straight a's in school, GT student, secretary of FCCLA, all the teachers like me, you get the point), so I told my mom that doland gave my brother drugs (really did happen, my brother is 13) I told her everything he said, and she was on my side for a While, (p.s. I tried to kill myself a couple of months back) so last night she found me crying in my room, I was crying because they was talking bad about me which is something I'm not used to because mostly everyone likes me, so she asked me what was wrong, and I told her, then she went in there after I begged her not to and started screaming at him, ( p.s. I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 2 years 5 months and 14 days) I started to text him and tell him what was going on, (he is 16 now) and I just kept on crying and crying, then my mom comes in my room and says "do you have any proof that he gave your brother drugs?" I said "really mom, really, I'm your kid, and you believe him over me" (we have issues all the time) then she asked if I wanted to move to my dads, but if I move to my dads me and Juan will break up ( we both hate long distance ) and we are in a very committed relationship, so of course I'm not going to want to break up with him, he's helped me through everything, so she said I could move in with one of my friends, but all of my friends houses have more people in them than they are supposed to, so I don't know what to do anymore, it's gotten to a point where I can't even eat without someone talking about me, so naturally, I am starving, please give me your input on this situation

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Re: Someone help me

Hi,
Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline, for more immediate support please feel free to call us at 1 (800) RUNAWAY. We’re available 24/7 and every day of the year. There is always someone here that is willing to help.
It sounds like you’re in a tough situation; no one deserves to have people saying mean things about them behind their back. It sounds like you have a very supportive boyfriend. You mentioned that you’ve attempted suicide, so we hope that you are doing okay. If you want to discuss feelings of self- harm please reach out to the National Suicide Hotline where someone will be willing to talk to you and help out. Their number is 1-800- 273- TALK.
Here at the National Runaway Safeline, we’re non-directive so we cannot say exactly would you should do or should not do, we rather just help you work through your options. One possibility may be to discuss not wanting to move away with your mother. One service we offer here is conference calling with youth and legal guardians, so that is potentially something we could help facilitate. Another option may be to talk to other family members, or maybe a counselor at school that could also provide resources.

If you gave us a call or chatted with us, we could talk in more detail about your situation. We’re always available and always willing to help!

Best wishes,
The National Runaway Safeline

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college: same story

I'm 18 and away most of the year for college. When I am away, my stepfather is docile, happy and easygoing. When I come home for weekends I work and return to school almost immediately. However, summer arrives and I am no longer in school. I have to deal with him for the entire summer. Constantly being berated and told I am displeasing to be around weighs on me after a while. Although it is legal for me to move out, my financial situation denies me that possibility. I have run away before and it led to no improvements. Only more disapproval and disappointment. I feel as though I am the source of his problems. Almost as though I'd be better off gone.

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Re: college: same story

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like your relationship with your stepdad is tense, and you seem to be feeling fed up with the way he treats you. You don’t deserve to be put down in any way. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Often having a space to talk through how you’re feeling may be helpful in identifying ways to cope with what’s going on as well as identify a solution to the issues you’re experiencing. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,
NRS

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My stepdad hates me and IDK why

I am only 11 but my stepdad still hates me. I live in a family of 6 and I am the only one still considered a child. The other three are 13,13,16. I am happy for the weekend because I have the best real dad ever. He has called me very bad words and fused at me at least every week. He also makes me do all these chores, but not anyone else. I just can't wait to move out.

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Re: My stepdad hates me and I can't stay here any longer.

Thanks for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are having a difficult time with the way your stepdad treats you. It must be confusing and hurtful to have to go through that at home. You feel like you are treated unfairly and just want to get away from the situation. We’re glad you reached out to us for help.

We offer several services at NRS that could possibly help your situation. One service that we offer is facilitating conference calls between youth and parents. If you wanted to speak to your stepdad about how you have been feeling, we can mediate a call between you and your stepdad. Also, we can provide mental health resources for you in your area if you are feeling mental and emotional distress or would want family counseling.

Other things that may be helpful for you is to possibly note when your stepdad treats you this way (like after your dad comes home from work or after dinner and/or right when you get home). To avoid stressful interactions with your stepdad, you may want to try to find things that can keep yourself away from home during those times (after school programs, sports programs, study group at a friend’s house, etc.). You may also want to think of any family members or friends you can go to or speak to when you are feeling distressed at those times.

Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options which is really good to see. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us www.1800 runaway.org. We’re here to listen, here to help.

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I am only 16 years old and I have a step-dad that calls me names in Spanish like P******** S******** and keeps calling me that because I get on his nerves????? I don't want him to live here anymore at the house!

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Hi, thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS! From what you told us. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult situation with your stepdad. We want to say you do not deserve to be called anything negative or any of those names. It is unfair to you, and you do not deserve to be treated like that.
Something you can think about is reaching out to your stepdad and letting him know these how these names are affecting you. You can explain how they make you feel and how it is inappropriate. You also do not have to do this alone. You can always reach out to someone to help advocate for you and make sure your stepdad understands how you are affected. Some people you could reach out to would be a friend, a relative, or an adult you trust. Here at NRS, we also want to advocate for you as well. We have a service here called conference calling. You can reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can talk about the situation, and if you would like we can initiate a 3 way call with your stepdad. We can stand in to help mediate and make sure your stepdad understands how you feel and establish a compromise between you two. We are 24/7 so you can reach out whenever is convents for you and we can talk and maybe bring up the conference call.
If you ever do feel unsafe or threatened in your home, you do have the right to call 911 or report what you feel is abuse. We are not here to define abuse, but if you feel you are being abused you can disclose to an abuse hotline or a mandated reporter (like a teacher, school counselor, or even us over the phone lines). One helpful number is Child Help (1-800-422-4453). They can answer any questions you have about abuse or what verbal/emotional abuse is and if you feel you are experiencing it. This is always something you have the right to look into.
Again, you are really brave for reaching out and sharing the situation you are in. It is understandably frustrating and we really do care about you. You can reach out to us at any time through 1-800-RUNAWAY or at our online chat lines through our website. We really do wish you the best!
Best, NRS

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Cat: my step dad hits me Kosmik that explain of me and if somebody did something wrong he blames it on me and hits me even more and leaves bruises marks in pain on me sometimes I want to run away but I can't because I have a sister and two brothers that I really care about but he just loves one of us really really loves one of us more and it's my little sister because that's his daughter and my mom starter and he also cares for my three-year-old brother because it is so nice mom son he doesn't care about my other brother and me were not his I hurt myself for the stuff I suffer from pain I've ran away before seven and if I run away now I have no place to go I thought life supposed to be hard but fun not painful I just want to die

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Hello,
Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry to hear that you are currently going through such a rough situation, and you do not deserve to be physically or verbally abused, and we’re glad that you’re taking action to get help and be safe. It’s understandable that you would want to leave that environment.
Your step dad hitting you and your brother is completely unacceptable and no one deserves that. Have you ever considered filing an abuse report? That’s an option we can discuss with you in more detail if you decide to call or chat with us. You can also contact Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or visit their website at childhelp.org if you would like some more information.
We’re very sorry to hear that you feel like you want to die. When someone is going through a rough time like yours, it can sometimes help to talk to a friend or a family member who understands you. Or somebody a school like a counselor or teacher you trust. You may want to think of friends or family members who you can talk to if you start to feel like that again. You can also contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 for more help. They are there to hear about your situation and help you get through it and to keep you safe.
Finally, we know how difficult it can be to reach out and we want you to know how brave you are for doing so and we encourage you to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) to further discuss your situation. Our phone lines are open 24/7, our services are free, and we can see if there are any other resources that can help you as you go through this tough time. We appreciate you reaching out to find help, and we wish you the best of luck.

Regards,
NRS

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My Step dad gene always likes my brother Reese more than me and he always buys him stuff brings him places and dose nothing with me, he's a Dutch and he's so mean to mom and she still likes him! Like come on! She said once she wants to break up with him but can't do to certain resons not including him and I agreed. One day he entered the room and said "hey buddy!

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Hello,

Thanks for reaching out to us. It sounds like you’ve been having some trouble getting along with your stepdad. We’re sorry that the way he’s been behaving has made you feel that he likes you more than you. We understand that things can get really tough when you’re not feeling acknowledged at home. Please know that we are here to support you and listen if you’d like someone to talk to. We’re available 24/7 via phone at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929), as well as every day via chat from 4:30pm – 11:30pm CST. We won’t tell you what to do, but we’ll do our best to help you stay safe. We’re here to listen, here to help and look forward to hearing from you. Stay safe!

-NRS

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My step dad yells at me and calls me a slut anf that he hates me. When i try t be by myself he yells at me.........I feel so sad and alone. What can i do.

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Hi,

Thanks so much for taking the time to reach out to us today. We are so sorry about the way that your step dad treats you. It is definitely not okay for him to be calling you names like that. We understand how that must make you feel sad and alone. It must be very difficult to deal with someone who is supposed to care for you saying those things to you.

One thing you can think about doing is talking to someone about what is going on. Whether it be your parent, a trusted friend, a trusted teacher, or even an adult that you are close with. Sometimes it can help just getting that validation from the people around you since it seems like you're not getting that from your step-dad. If things ever get particularly difficult for you you can always file a child abuse report too. That number is 1-800-422-4453. You can also go to a friend's house whenever things get hard to deal with at home if your parents allow it.

If you want to talk more about what you're going through please don't hesitate to reach out to us again. You can always call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we are 24/7 so someone will always be here to answer and help in the best way that we can.