My stepdad hates me and I can't stay here any longer.

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Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out. There is absolutely NO reason that parents or stepparents should bully their children. It's not right. And it takes courage to try and talk more seriously to your parents about how their behavior makes you feel.

A couple of suggestions: the first is to see about talking to your school counselor about this. often they can be supportive and may be a good sounding board regarding ways to address this. Another suggestion is to try and talk to any other adults that you trust that you may be able to confide in for support. Finally, you can reach out to a couple of hotlines that can offer support and advice, such as:
www.kidsincrisis.org - (203) 622-6556 or www.childhelp.org/ - (800) 422-4453.

Again, you do not deserve to be bullied. It is not right. Thank you for reaching out. National Runaway Safeline is open 24/7 and you can call, text at anytime.

NRS

my stepdad is also like this and im 13

Hi I don’t what to do I get bullied by my stepdad he calls me ugly and it hurts my feelings I try to say to my mum it but he think it is joking. My real dad thinks he isn’t nice person by bulling a 13 year old he does this since I was 7 he does this always can I have some advice pls

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

Hi, I'm only 12 and my step dad really hates me. he always tells me to do chores and whenever I do anything he tells me not to disrespect him like whatttt.

[ccsmod15]

Thanks so much for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. That sounds like a really tough situation. Your dad has no right to hit you and treat you like that. It can be so difficult right now with all the stress of Covid.
If you haven't, would it make sense to try and talk to him about how his behavior is making you feel? If that is too difficult, maybe your school counselor is someone you can reach out to - to talk about how your Dad is treating you and maybe talk about having a call with him or ways to handle the situation.

Again, parents should not use physical violence with their children. Parents using violence against their children can be considered child abuse and can be reported by you to Child Protection Services, if that happens and persists.
It's good that you reached out today and it can take courage. If this escalates, please reach out again to NRS, as we're here 24/7 and you can always text us or call anytime. And finally, in most states you are free to leave as an adult at 18, but being 17 is close. Good luck

My step- dad he hates me
while was in school he was going to hit me in front of the camra and the teacher was going to see and I want him to treat me better it is not fair that he doesn't get hit I want to move out and I am turning 10 next moth and I am moving out when I am 17
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[ccsmod7]

Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.

Thank you,

NRS

its ok just try to tell him how you feel and that its not fair how he is treating you then the rest of the family

[ccsmod15]

Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline,
It seems like you are going through a lot right now with the recent passing of your dad, and the pressure of being at home and under such close scrutiny all the time. It sounds really frustrating that you’ve been so consistent about caring for the dogs and going over and above when it seems like an already unreasonable expectation to brush them for 3 hours. It is understandable to focus on passing a test when you need a bit extra time for it instead of brushing the dogs when necessary.
It is good to see that you are looking for healthy options to cope with the situation and to try and help yourself get to the point you can get through this stressful time and make life better for yourself. Without knowing more specifics about your situation we can suggest a few general coping mechanisms that might help with the stress levels, but it might also help to call or chat in to brainstorm in person. Some ideas are to go on a walk (could use dogs as an excuse) to get out of the house for longer periods, start a journal or visual journal, find volunteer opportunities in your local area, or join some kind of club activity to stay out of the house in a productive way.
It also might be worth connecting with a family member you trust more to see if they might help take some of the dog care responsibilities. It isn’t OK that you are the only one shouldered with that responsibility for brushing the dogs. Your other family may not understand the full pressure you are feeling from this situation and it’s OK to ask for their help.
If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

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someone please tell me how to deal with all the ********ing stress i have from my step dad, i feel like he targets me and only me for anything, like for example every 3 hours every day im supposed to brush my dogs so they wont get hair on the couches, so i do that every day so i wont get into trouble. well this morning i didnt brush the dogs because i had a spanish test i had to do this morning and i didnt wanna fail and get a bad grade, so i thought in my head which matters more brushing the dogs or doing my spanish test, obviously i chose to do my test because that matters more than brushing damn dogs, not to mention we have 8 cameras at our house, 4 inside and 4 outside. so my stepdad checked one of the cameras outside to see if i brushed the dogs THE ONE TIME I DONT BRUSH THE DOGS HE CHECKED THE CAMERA and he calls me upstairs and asked me if i took the dogs outside to go pee i said yes and he asked did you brush them i said no, right after i said no he didnt even let me ********ing explain myself and he just grounded me, not to mention im 16 and im a gay guy so i feel like he favors my other brothers but me because hes ********ing homophobic and doesnt love me and my mom always finds out what happens and i just feel like she doesnt care so i litterly have no say so in my family, and yes i have thought about running away MANY times and i cant go to my real dads house because he passed away last march so thats not a choice and the other choice i have is my really close freinds house ive known him for 8 years and he said im welcome there anytime and his mom and dad love me but i know if i try and go to his house i wont be able to leave my house because of the dumbass cameras, so please tell me what i can do to relieve stress and try and live a better life, thank you guys and i hope yall can help.

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Be safe,
NRS

I’m 14 years old and I leave in Cyprus with my mum my sister and my step father. He always makes me feel awful and sad. I just can’t support him anymore I’m always sad and I don’t feel happy at all when I’m with my family. He treats my mother bad too, sometimes hes very kind and takes us out but sometimes we don’t do anything to him and he just stops talking to us and my mother. And when his mad for no reason he doesn’t wants to bring us anywhere(because he is the only one that drives a car) I have to beg him to bring me to a friends house. My mother is tired of him but we cant go anywhere because we dont have any close family and my mother doesn’t has enough money for me and my sister and to pay bills too. That’s why we are still staying with me . He loves my sisters (his biological daughter) he always says to her how much he loves her and he does everything for her. I want to go and see my friends and spend time with them but i have to beg him to bring me to their house. I just sit and cry in my room.
with my biological father we are close but he lives in England. He sends me money so i can buy things and pay for my school because my step dad doesn’t give me any money. I just dont know what to do anymore i have health problems because of stress. Im always crying and I’ve changed so much i was so happy before and now im sad all the time but i try my best not to show it . My friends don’t know nothing about my situation at home. They always say that i never meet with them but they just don’t know my situation i just lie to them because I don’t want then to know.
also my house isn’t the best all my friends have big houses but my house is so small and ugly, old i just hate it i can’t bring any of my friends over im so ashamed. Should i tell them ? I just want to move out at 17-18 years old and get a job and leave this toxic family. My mother is the only one that support me and my biological father. She works so many hours so me and my sister have everything we need.

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time, and we want you to know you are not alone.
We are sorry to hear that causes you a lot of stress, you do not deserve that. We know you mentioned talking with your mother but maybe you could try asking her to talk with a counselor. Sometimes talking to an unbiased person may help. Also a professional can help you explore your options and help with resources.
You could also consider letting your step dad know how you feel. He may not even realize that he is causing you stress and possibly by knowing he may be able to change.
We would love to talk more about this situation with you. We can be reached on our online chat or by calling us at 1800-786-2929. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide Best of luck, stay strong!
NRS

My stepdad hates me and I don’t know why. He makes fun of me, screams and yells at me, shows no emotion toward me, and it feels like I’m only good for cleaning.
I feel like I’m worth nothing and amount to nothing In my family, after all I am one of the screw ups. I dont want to live here, I’m not doing any good for them. I want to leave I need to escape. Please help me. I don’t know what to do or where to go. Please help me.

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