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My mom is very controlling and abusive and she thinks that i was put on this earth to serve her and i have to watch my sisters 2 kids and even when she is home she pays no attention to them I want to go live with my boyfriend but his parents can't afford it and he is moving out this year is there some way that i can move in with him to get out of this h*** hole ?

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Re: Help

Thanks for writing in. It sounds like you are dealing with an extremely difficult situation right now. How long have things not been going well at home? It sounds like the biggest problem stems from your mom and how controlling she is. It can’t be easy to feel like you are being abused and treated unfairly at home. Are there specific things that your mom does that make you feel this way? How long has she been treating you like this? Do you live with anyone else, and if so do they know how you are feeling? You mentioned your sister and constantly having to watch her children. Have you spoken with anyone about how you have been feeling? A friend, other family member, or counselor?

You mentioned wanting to go stay with your boyfriend. Have you spoken with your mom about wanting to leave? What do you think would happen if you did leave the house? Now you didn’t mention how old you were, but in most states the age of majority is 18, although each state is different and may have different laws about when youth can leave without there parents permission. If you are still considered a minor, and you decided to leave, your mom would have the right to make a runaway report. Now running away isn’t necessarily a crime, there can be consequences, but generally if police find you they are just going to bring you back home. You spoke about your boyfriend getting his own place, have you spoken to him about wanting to stay there? If you decided not to leave what would have to change at home in order to for you to be content there? It’s great that you have been able to open up and share about your situation, it sounds like a very difficult one. If you want to talk more about what is going on and discuss possible options you can always give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are a completely confidential hotline and there is someone here 24 hours a day to help. Best of luck with everything.