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    i need help. my dad is hitting on me very badly and i want to runaway from him. i have even concidered suicide cause it has gotten so bad. can anyone give me advice

  • #2
    from NRS-Re: want to runaway

    Thanks for contacting us here at NRS. We are sorry to hear of the difficult time that you are having at home with your father. No youth deserves to be put in a situation such as yours. Have you told anyone about the abuse that is going on, maybe a close friend or family member? How about speaking to a school counselor? You mentioned that you want to runaway from him and that is understable for a person in your situation. Do you have a plan in place if you were to do so? (For example, do you know where you would go and for how long?) If you are in need of talking to someone about it, you can definitely call us here at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are available 24 hours a day and are confidential, but in cases dealing with abuse if we get any identifying information from you we are mandated reporters and would have to file an abuse report on your behalf. You can also contact the National Suicide Hotline for help in discussing your feelings of suicided due to the situation. Their number is 1-800-273-TALK. If things get to be a bit too much and unbearable, please do call us if you are able. We woluld love to speak to you about all the options that are available to you in a case such as this one such as maybe contacting the police and/or contacting CPS (Child Protective Services) to file an abuse report.
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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    • #3
      I need Help

      This all starts about 1yr ago.. when my brother came home from jail.. Its always been him puttin me down and saying things that i do..(i relly dnt tho) and im gettin in trouble.. I have this riding carrer.. I ride horses. Today i had this problem where my bf (name edited) is 18 n im 16 and my bro dnt like this n he got on my name and found somethings me and (name edited) did..and hes gnna show my mom. i cut. and i cut today about it.. im soo upset that i want to run away from this whole mess! I think that if i run away that i can have a better with w my bf.. (name edited) is the mose amazing guy in the hole world! he cars about me ! I want to run.. I need help.. My mom was gnna commit me in to a metal hospital.. wat should i do.. PLZ HELP!...

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      • #4
        Re: want to runaway

        Thanks for telling us more of your story. It definitely sounds like you’ve been through a lot. It doesn’t seem fair that your brother treats you the way he does. You mentioned that you cut. How long have you been cutting? How often do you cut? Is this something that the people around you know? People cut for a lot of different reasons, why do you cut? How do you feel after you cut? You also mentioned that you’re thinking about running away. Do you know where you’d go? Would you be safe?

        You wrote that you need help. How exactly would you like us to help you? Our hotline is available 24/7 and we can talk to you about what’s been going on, your options and help you come up with a safe plan of action. The number is 1-800-RUNAWAY. Sometimes it helps to just have someone to talk to. Call anytime.
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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        • #5
          Re: want to runaway

          My boyfriend and I want to run away together, bc his dad always yells at him and tells him what to do. I want to run away because i hate it here at my house. I want to go somewhere he can be there with me. I love him alot. and we wanna be together. we ben together for 2 1\2 years we are 16... I dont know what to do. he said that we could to his freind which is 18 and got his own place. I hate being home. Im like a lil kid here. I wanna get away. Im always in my room . or always told to not go outside.. I never see my freinds. Im a jr in high school. What should I do??

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          • #6
            Re: want to runaway

            Thanks for finding our website and posting on our bulletin boards. It sounds like you and your boyfriend are both going through some things right now that make you want to leave home. How in depth have you considered running? Do you have a plan? Do you know how you would survive? Running away is a really big decision, so it’s important to think through before making the decision to do it. Here are 10 questions (from our website) that a good to consider before running away:
            • What else can I do to improve my home situation before I leave?
            • What would make me stay at home?
            • How will I survive?
            • Is running away safe?
            • Who can I count on to help me?
            • Am I being realistic?
            • Have I given this enough thought?
            • What are my other options?
            • If I end up in trouble, who will I call?
            • When I return home, what will happen?

            Do you think if you were to runaway, your parents would file a runaway report? Do you think they will look for you and want you to come home? Just so you know there are some obstacles that you could run into when running away. One would be that your parents do have the right to file you as a runaway. If you’re caught, then the police would likely bring you back home. One of the hardest parts of being a teenager is that you don’t have the choice of where you live, until you turn 18. One of the only exceptions to this would be if home wasn’t safe, then you could go to Child Protective Services for help.

            You also mentioned that your boyfriend has a friend that is 18 and you might be able to stay with him. One other obstacle to consider is that your boyfriend’s friend could potentially get into trouble for harboring a runaway. This is when an adult (over 1 knowingly lets runaway minors (under 1 stay without contacting either the youth’s parents or the police.

            We’re really not here to tell you whether or not to runaway, but we want to make sure that you’ve thought thoroughly about what you want to do and have all the information about running away that make affect you. Sometimes it helps to talk to someone about what’s going on, what you’d like to see happen and possible options. We’re completely confidential and anonymous, so if you called we wouldn’t need to know who you are or anything like that. Someone is always available, 24/7. The number, 1-800-RUNAWAY, is toll-free from any payphone too. Again, we wouldn’t tell you what to do, but would try to help you formulate a plan that keeps you safe. Call anytime, day or night.
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

            National Runaway Safeline
            [email protected] (Crisis Email)
            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

            Tell us what you think about your experience!
            https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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            • #7
              want to runaway

              i hate my life it seems like no1 understands me i feel like no1 knows what its like to be in a room full of people but feel completly alone, and that no1 gets what its like to know exactly where you are and be completly lost and no1 knows what its like to be hurt and the woman youre supposed to run to when youre hurt (mom) is the 1 thats hurting you i feel like im in an emotionally abusive relaionship with my own mother but today she grabbed my arm so hard it left bruses idk what to dobut if i dont do somethng fast i ithink i might give up n run away im hurt so badly and nobody understandsyou cant see the bruises because its all done mentallyi have no idea what to do because i know if i run away and i die its only dying slightly later than i planned on because im starting to contemplate suicide please help me

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              • #8
                Re: want to runaway

                Thanks for writing in. We are sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time right now. Nobody should have to feel alone and be hurt by the people who are supposed to be supportive in your life. It sounds like right now you feel like nobody cares and nobody should have to feel that way. It sounds like the person that is really making you feel this way is your mom. You mentioned that she is emotionally/mentally abusive towards you. How long has this been going on? Has your relationship with your mom always been like this? Do you live with just your mom or are there other people in the house? Have you spoken with anyone about this situation with your mother? A friend, another family member, teacher, or counselor? Have you tried to speak to your mom before? If not, what do you think would happen if you told her how bad you are feeling? It sounds like it has gotten so bad that you have been thinking not only about running away, but contemplating suicide as well. No one should ever make you feel less about yourself or put you down. It is not fair that your mom is making you feel this way, especially, like you said, she should be the one supporting you.

                How long have you been thinking about suicide? Have you ever attempted suicide before? Have you expressed your feelings to anyone on this topic? How long have you been feeling this way? These are not easy topics to talk about and you should be incredibly proud for opening up and sharing your story. It’s not easy being in a house where you are surrounded by negativity, especially if it’s mostly directed at you. But the fact that you have found this forum and are opening up shows how strong you can be. You sound like an amazing person that’s been dealing with an extremely difficult and unfair situation. You also mentioned thinking of running away from home. Have you thought about what you would do if you left? Do you have a safe place that you could go? A friend or family member? What do you think your mom would do if she found out you left? In the end it is your decision on if you decide to runaway or not, but it is important that you think about how you can be safe. Do you have any supports in your life that have helped you through this time? Anyone you can talk with about this? Anyone that you’re close with or you feel listens to you? Are there things that you like to do or things that make you happy when things at home get rough? If it ever gets to the point where you are feeling suicidal and you need to talk to someone you can always give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are a completely confidential hotline and there is someone here 24hours a day. You could also call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) they are also available 24 hours a day. If you are feeling like you may runaway or already have runaway, you can give us a call as well. We are not here to tell you what to do, but rather to listen and talk about options that work for you. If you just need to vent, we are here for that too. We also have a lot of different resources like shelters, counseling, and family services. We are here anytime you need someone to talk to. Best of luck with everything and take care.
                Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                National Runaway Safeline
                [email protected] (Crisis Email)
                1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                Tell us what you think about your experience!
                https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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                • #9
                  I want to run away

                  Hi.. I'm 11 I want to run away badly everytime my little sis hits me I get in trouble I'm scared to to my mom and dad anything and they believe everythin my little sis says today I tried to do my homework when he sent me in the room he said don't do it and one time he beat me with the belt I had bruises everywhere so I wanted to run away my friends gave me advice and was like talk to the officer at school and also said I cab come live with them do that sound like a good idea? Will they get in trouble

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                  • #10
                    re: I want to run away

                    Hey there,

                    Thank you for being able to reach out to us at the National Runaway Safeline, so it seems like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life, we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help.

                    From what you shared, it seems like your sister is the one who is abusing you. Technically, that is domestic violence because it is in your home. At this point, there are two things that we can provide you with. The first one is the National Domestic Violnece Hotline their number is: 1-800-799-7233, there you would be able to talk to someone about what is happening at home and they would be able to help you with what you are going through. The second number I would be able to help you with is Child Help USA and there you would be able to talk to someone about potentially filing a child abuse report. Their number is 1-800-422-4453.

                    If you are ever feeling like you just want to leave and don’t have somewhere to go, please feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We will be more than happy to listen and to help. We wish you the best of luck in whatever it is you decide to do.

                    Stay strong,

                    NRS
                    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                    National Runaway Safeline
                    [email protected] (Crisis Email)
                    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                    Tell us what you think about your experience!
                    https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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